I have days where I like both guys and girls. Then I have days where I like just girls.
Q. Im only 17 and i dont know if im Straight, Bi or Gay. this can sound weird but i enjoy watching Gay porn, but i wouldnt want to do it in real life, i would only do it if something changes my mind, for years now I've loved this girl and i still li...
A. 31 January 2011: What are you? Easy... YOU'RE HUMAN!!! Take pride in the fact that you are not so homophobic that you admit to being aroused by men enjoying themselves. You may well be what is sometimes called 'bi-curious'. That can take many forms, but you can... (read in full...)
But I love him
Q. Dear Cupid, I was dating my boyfriend for 11 months and we got into an argument and he said he needed space, but would date me again in two months. A month has passed and this space has been agonizing me. He said he still loves me and wants to be ...
A. 27 January 2011: "the one" is a fairytale!!! There is no magic 'one' person on this whole planet of billions of people who has the secret key to open our hearts. If that preschool prattle were even remotely true, how the hell does anyone EVER find 'the one' amongst ... (read in full...)
Is this type of behavior normal for young men?
Q. The guy I have been dating for about 1 year now is extremely defiant, if you say go left, goes right, if you ask him to do something, he won't do it even if it is reasonable request. He is very, very lazy and he often starts task, but never finish ...
A. 27 January 2011: "Oppositional Defiant Disorder":(n); modern PC-rhetoric for 'spoiled little punk'. should have had his rear tanned a few times as an early teen. Been taught an adequate work ethic, respect for others, respect for self, and a healthy dose of self ... (read in full...)
What drives a man to perform oral sex?
Q. When a man performs oral sex on a woman, during intercourse for the first time, how does he feel? What drives him to do it (i.e; to give pleasure, expecting something in return, closeness, or just being horney)? ...
A. 27 January 2011: it is all of the above, and more. No one reason, really. Would we like you to return the favor? Sure! but it's not necessary for us to enjoy what we're doing to you. The way a woman moves and reacts, knowing that it is because of you, and what you ... (read in full...)
Should I continue waiting for my married lover, or am I being taken for a ride?
Q. Greetings All! I have worked with this person for two years and have always had a mutual great feeling. We began an active relationship last year. I was in process of a divorce, but the feelings for her were very real and true. She put forth the ...
A. 27 January 2011: She's in limbo. You can't force her to make a decision because she's really not trying to make a decision. She's already made a series of decisions that have lead her to this place, and as much as she hates this place she's stuck in, it is a place ... (read in full...)
Why do men in porn films last so long?
Q. What do the men in sex movies do for them to keep long during sex(about an hour) before they cum? Are they real people like us?...
A. 27 January 2011: creative editing, copious amounts of viagra, and an abundance of fluffers to get things going again after orgasm.
For those guys who think they might like to be in porn, think twice. It's not a picnic, and having your penis be sore, chaffed,... (read in full...)
Is it normal to have a quick look at other men's junk?
Q. Hello! I'm 20 and I'd like to know if it's normal to have a quick at the other dude's penis in the locker room...? I don't feel like I'm gay but I guess I'm just curious about the others size and shape......
A. 27 January 2011: Frankly, I'm surprised that this is a question you even need to ask at 20! Of course it's normal, and has been normal for about six to eight years!
You're curious. Some part of you, in the deep dark parts of your psyche, needs to know if you're '... (read in full...)
My lover is threatening to tell my wife everything and have me beaten up if I don't leave my wife for her!
Q. I have been having an on off affair for 3 years, and I just don't know what to do, I have a good wife I have been with since I was 17 and 3 beautiful daughters, the woman I am having an affair is loving and the sex is just fantastic.... but ...
A. 9 November 2010: ROFL
And now you get what you so richly deserve!
I cannot help but be pleased that a man as low as you, to carry on behind your wife's back like that is now getting exactly what he deserves. For the record, I don't wish you any bodily harm, and... (read in full...)
Maybe this is the end for me and my dad..
Q. Ok, so I have some anger problems and when I get mad I black out and say things I regret alot. Well me and my dad are close, but when me and him get in fights which is often we get into it. Well me and my dad got into a fight about my grades last ...
A. 25 September 2010: Truth of the matter is, your father is right on the money. Our actions have consequences, and it's high time you learned this lesson. You want to make it right - begin with a heartfealt apology. Something that goes like 'Dad, I wanted to tell you ... (read in full...)
Did I ruin his pride or is sex all he wanted?
Q. I been talking to this guy for a couple of months.he has really been nice he never made a move on me or anything. when im alone i can call him no matter what time it is.we eventually had sex a week ago and it was horrible he came within 3min and i ...
A. 25 September 2010: I would like to weigh in on one factor - I agree with the points made already, but I feel they left out an important truth that should not be left out.
You should NOT lie or exaggerate under any circumstances to sooth or placate the ego of a man... (read in full...)
Body proportion?
Q. Hey guys, what's crackin? Here's a ridiculous one for you all, and I'd hate to be a cliche but...: I feel like my boobs are too small sometimes. Some days I'm thinking, "oh, they're an alright size." And other days, I'm thinking, "oh... Where'd t...
A. 25 September 2010: surefire way to tell - flash a few guys and the ask them what they think. Seriously - if you have the freedom from inhibition to do such a thing, you'll be quite shocked at how honest most guys would be about it. Of course, this soloution isn't for ... (read in full...)
Do guys like hairy vaginas or not?
Q. I am 16 in a few months but ive never had sex before. Im not sure if my vagina is normal or really hairy, but i think its too hairy. Is it weird if i shaved it? What do guys prefer, hairy, a little bit hairy or no hair at all?...
A. 25 September 2010: This is entirely a personal taste thing. Some guys like a lot of bush, some like completely shaved.
Most guys will get along with whatever you decide - however, there's really nothing more versatile - sure to appeal to the highest number of guys ... (read in full...)
Suddenly having problems maintaining an erection with the women I am seeing
Q. I am a male, and I was in a long term relationship (7 years) that had a very bad ending a few years ago. The break-up, which I dont really want to get into left me emotionally drained, badly wounded and hating the world. Part of the blame of the ...
A. 22 September 2010: Having the same problem with my wife of 10 years after her affair has helped give me a great deal of perspective... When pain, loss, anger, and fear become the most powerful emotions you are experiencing, it matters very little how hot to trot she ... (read in full...)
Sharing my wife... playing with fire?
Q. I want to know if anyone has ever played around with this – I am a 41 year old man… recently married a beautiful 27 year old woman. We are very much in love…trying to have a child together. We have a great sex life…but we are both on the adven...
A. 20 September 2010: playing with fire? Yes!
Do-able without getting burned? also yes.
This is a very dangerous thing to experiment with, the road is quite full of potholes that you won't see coming. That being said, if you discuss it thoroughly, discuss the pros... (read in full...)
I have small breasts--should I get surgery?
Q. I have small breasts, and I feel very insecure. Should I get surgery? Men have teased me about it, even an ex said big breasts were better. Even hear on DC I've read guys post that guys do tend to prefer big breasts (even though they don't hate ...
A. 20 September 2010: As usual, CaringGuy hits it right on the head!
Listen to him, he's right!... (read in full...)
Suddenly having problems maintaining an erection with the women I am seeing
Q. I am a male, and I was in a long term relationship (7 years) that had a very bad ending a few years ago. The break-up, which I dont really want to get into left me emotionally drained, badly wounded and hating the world. Part of the blame of the ...
A. 20 September 2010: you are correct - there is very likely nothing wrong with you - physically.
Your mind is your most potent and powerful sex organ you possess. It has powers and potentials that most people are simply and utterly unaware of - and this is one of t... (read in full...)
What does this text mean?
Q. Im slightly confused by a text ive just recieved. Theres a group of 4 of us that usually go out. 3 of us said yeah lets go out this weekend so i text my guy mate who also comes out with us and said "we might be going out this saturday night, you ...
A. 14 June 2010: Could be either - no way to tell just from a text. Next time, invite him out just the two of you, and see what his response is. He may be a little hesitant to seem too forward in case you aren't attracted to him. I've been there - didn't want to r... (read in full...)
Should I get back together with my husband?
Q. So, my husband and I are separated, due to me finding out he cheated on me. I asked him to move out, and he rented an apartment, and let the OW move in with him (along with her 3 girls she will be getting custody of in a couple months). After a few ...
A. 14 June 2010: No Rehab, continued cheating, letting her move back in when you were trying to reconcile, fathering a child with another woman... Too many issues, too much drama. This guy is no good to you, no good for you, and no good for your kids. He may try... (read in full...)
Is it wrong trying to court someone else's wife?
Q. Through the searching and hunting i have finally found a good chemistry and connection with someone. One problem, she has a husband. I have also met him and he's such a cool guy! I met her through a friend that both her and i are close to, met her ...
A. 14 June 2010: Don't you dare! If you cared about her at all, respected her at all, then you will leave her marriage alone, and let her decide where THAT goes before you make move one. If you actually care for her, and she's having a rough time, there's nothing ... (read in full...)
My husband cheated, and lied. He swears he'll never do it again, but what do I do?
Q. I was 30 yrs old and had been previously married, My now Husband was 29 and had never been married before, We fell in love and spoke of marriage and decided to set the date to be married in Sept 1988, a couple weeks before our wedding I found out I ...
A. 23 March 2010: My dear, I feel so deply and thoroughly for you. The ghosts your story raises in me, and echoes of my own are haunting and painful... I, too, know the anguish of deep, long standing, and repeated betrayal by the person I have loved most deeply, and ... (read in full...)
How can I ever trust someone ever again after what she did to me?
Q. i was dating this girl for a while, but she hooked up with somone else, got pregnant,and basically started pretending i didnt exist. she ignored all my textes,and didnt answer her phone when i called. we were extremely close and my question is, feel...
A. 22 March 2010: Trusting another persoan is taking the choice to make yourself deliberately vulnerable.
If we are to grow, from dependance through independance, onward to real interdependance, we must, at some point take that risk.
However, the time to do s... (read in full...)
Should I come clean and take my punishment?
Q. I cheated on my husband in a moment of passion, I am such a bad person and regret it, what should I do? I work as a bartender and this older guy that stays after closing time as a friend (we recently have had a couple break-ins/robber...
A. 18 March 2010: The answer to what you should do depends on the kiond of relationship you want with your husband going forward.
Sexual liasons, even when they happen on the spur of the moment are NOT unimportant events in our lives. As much as we may, especial... (read in full...)
Guys, ... why do you watch porn?
Q. A question for all you guys out there... Why do you watch porn even if your sex life is brilliant? why do you feel the need to watch some random girl when you have your girlfriend? Do you know how it makes normal, non-plastic women feel when the...
A. 17 March 2010: 92% of men look at porn. 5% look at porn and lie about it, 2% of men are blind and "read" braille playboy (seriously, there is such a thing!) and the last 1% are those few poor invalids who cannot choose to watch anything in particular for ... (read in full...)
Am I just fooling myself trying to believe that he is not cheating?
Q. I have been married for 5 years. Husband is from a different counrty and speaks excellent english. We have had a great relationship I thought. I have been back and forth from the US to his country and last year when i returned to his country, I ...
A. 17 February 2010: M'lady. You are his wife. He, your husband. You share property, money, life, love, and portions of your identity.
Married people should have no secrets from one another. None.
When anyone who knows me asks me if I can keep a secret, they kno... (read in full...)
I'm being told too many different things about feeding my baby and I'm worried I'm doing it wrong! Help!
Q. hey, i need some advice, i had a baby 4weeks ago, my partner already has a child and i was worried about him saying "your doing this wrong" but instead its everyone else and im feeling mega depressed and a failure. i had to have a c-section and my ...
A. 17 February 2010: From a male perspective, I can tell you only what I have observed, but I think it may help.
Every new mother feels this way. Especially nowadays, with so much information and well meaning advice coming in from every angle.
It gets even more m... (read in full...)
The Office!
Q. I like this girl at my job. She's 20 and very hot. She's the receptionist and I work upstairs in the office where we rarely see each other. I know there's something between us. Every time I go by her desk we talk for a bit and she tells me about her ...
A. 12 February 2010: Coffee.
Ask her out for Coffee. This is as innocuous as you can get for a first date. IF she doesn't go for it, then the invitation to coffee could be passed off as nothing more than casually friendly, and there is no akwardness.... (read in full...)
She has threatened to file sexual harrasment charges against me because I don't want to become her boyfriend.
Q. i met a girl on a dateline and she wants a boyfriend but i dont want a girlfriend and she told me that she go to the law and file sexual harrasment against me because i dont want to be with her and she wont stop texting and call me...
A. 10 February 2010: Keep the logs of your conversations online. Keep the bills and records showing that she initiates contact, and that you don't.
When she threatens you again, laugh at her, and tell her to go right ahead, and that she should be prepared to go to ja... (read in full...)
Why should I put up with my man looking at porn?
Q. Ok, why do I just "have to accept" porn in my life? My boyfriend jacks off to porn. Sure, our sex life is great, and believe me I don't mind quickies or gettigng him off without anything in return. But why does he have to look at other naked women? ...
A. 9 February 2010: First reason you should put up with it: If you don't you're going to spend the rest of your life being lonely, insecure, and self rightous. 92% of men look at porn. 5% look at porn and lie about it, 2% of men are blind and "read" braille playboy ... (read in full...)
I don't think, I can forgive to my husband for his sexual let down.
Q. I don't think, I can forgive to my husband for his sexual let down. He totally cooled out a few years ago, and has problems with psychological erectile dysfunction. I mean he is healthy, but not able to hold an erection. But no diabetes or anything ...
A. 2 February 2010: I hate to be the one to ask, but you mention that he cooled off a few years ago, and since has been spending all his time at work...
Did his cool off happen all sudden like?
Did his very busy work schedule begin around the same time?
Does he... (read in full...)
Why do guys confuse women all the time! Come on guys, let me know your thoughts
Q. I am so very much confused. I am in a relationship that is not the greatest and hasnt been for such a long time now. Recently i have been talking to my partners brother a lot as i lean on him a lot for emotional support and he knows this, this has ...
A. 2 February 2010: This is a very dangerous game you are involved in. One with stakes far higher than you can begin to believe at your position now.
If your current relationship really needs that much work, then involving your man's brother in the mix is not goin... (read in full...)
I am very confused and not able to forget her past.
Q. I recently found that the girl i am going to marry had sexual relationship with 8-9 people. I asked her before we got engaged about her past relationships but at that time she told me that she was a virgin. But somehow i got the password of her ...
A. 2 February 2010: I think pople missed the point. It seemes to me that he's not so hung up on needing his partner to be a virgin, but instead is hung up on the fact that she told him she was when it wasn't so!
Personally, I agree with Evans. I would much rather g... (read in full...)
How do I reduce my "love handles"???
Q. heyy. this ones a bit random, but does anyone know how to loose the weight on your sides (the love handles) cause i dont know which exercises will help reduce them. help pleasee x...
A. 2 February 2010: This is a widely believed misconception.
It is, however, false, nonetheless.
You cannot do specific excercises that will "burn fat" off of a specific area.
You CAN do any / all of the following:
Tighten muscles in a given area, firming... (read in full...)
Advice on how to make sex any less painful?!
Q. hi guys, id really appreciate some help here! :) basssically my boyfriend and i tried having sex for the first time last night. it was so strong emotionally and so special that i dont regret it at all, and im glad it happened but it didnt manage to ...
A. 2 February 2010: The first couple of times can be painful, too, just because you've never done this before. If your hymen was still intact, that can cause pain as well as it either stretches or breaks to accomidate the large insertion. The second time will be a ... (read in full...)
I am very confused and not able to forget her past.
Q. I recently found that the girl i am going to marry had sexual relationship with 8-9 people. I asked her before we got engaged about her past relationships but at that time she told me that she was a virgin. But somehow i got the password of her ...
A. 2 February 2010: I agree that the lie is the real concern.
Her past is, in many ways, her past. However, I have always believed that a persons past is an integral part of who they are. It is the past that forms us, shapes us, and teaches us. It is through our expe... (read in full...)
Why am I still so shaken up over this?
Q. hii, im 16 and my new boyfriend, steve, is 19. we`ve been together for 2 months. i did not lose my virginity to him but we had sex for the first time together last night. he is the second guy i have had sex with. so let me give you a little info ...
A. 2 February 2010: I am so sorry for your painful experience, and for the difficulty you are still having.
I must ask a few questions though. Did you ever recieve victims support counseling for the rape? It is not a sign of weakness nor insufficiency to request ... (read in full...)
Was it rape or attempted rape?
Q. Is this rape or attempted rape? I'm 18 years old now and when this first started i was 17 almost 18. Well my mom wanted me to get a job. so she asks her friend who i didn't really care for about letting me work for him. she has known this guy s...
A. 2 February 2010: Get the police involved. Immediately. Tell them everything you wrote here. Have a do not tresspass order put on him immediately. That's what the police can do for you right away. In the meantime, you will have to apply through the court for a full ... (read in full...)
After a flirting/emotional relationship with someone else, am I finally able to relax in my marriage?
Q. I had a flirting/emotional relationship with a committee colleague and his wife found out several months ago. She snooped on his phone and found some incriminating texts he hadn't deleted and he told her it was just a game between us. She rang me ...
A. 2 February 2010: "I hate when people judge others for adultery--especially if they do not know the circumstances"
Hate it all you want. Fact is, she lied, and caused irrevocable harm to the marriage, mind, and heart of an innocent woman. If it gets back to her h... (read in full...)
I'm never fully satisfied when we have sex. How can I change this?
Q. I've been with my BF for about 6 months. He's more than I can ask for in a guy and I'm so glad we're together. While everything else is great I find that I don't get much out of sex. I get really turned on by him and I can't wait to get into bed ...
A. 1 February 2010: 1: Don't ever "pretend" for "his sake" again. You aren't doing him any favors, and if he finds out, he'll hate you for it. 2: you need to spend time exploring your own body, sexuality, likes, and dislikes. There are a number of very good guideb... (read in full...)
After a flirting/emotional relationship with someone else, am I finally able to relax in my marriage?
Q. I had a flirting/emotional relationship with a committee colleague and his wife found out several months ago. She snooped on his phone and found some incriminating texts he hadn't deleted and he told her it was just a game between us. She rang me ...
A. 1 February 2010: HELL NO!
You're a disloyal bitch, and if she contacts your husband don't you dare lie to him about it!
What you did was dangerous, wrong, and hurtful. You hurt this other woman in ways that you don't even begin to comprehend, and won't until ... (read in full...)
Please help me, I'm so confused...
Q. I met my ex on a dating site after a few months of chatting. We decided to meet our first date went very and end up dating. For nearly a year all was going well until I went out one night I was raped was a virgin. After that I went through ...
A. 1 February 2010: 1: You are NOT responsable for the happiness of another. He needs to find his own reasons to be happy and to go on living. Him telling you that if you won't be with him, his life isn't worth living is a low tactic to emotionally manipulate you into ... (read in full...)
His anger problems are tearing us apart...
Q. My bf and I have been together for 3 years collectively now. I've broken up with him before because of his uncontrolled anger problem. He gets angry at the smallest things and then I have to try and calm him down. Usually when he gets angry it ...
A. 31 January 2010: You need to draw this line in iron, and stand on it with a big stick. He needs to know that even coming close to this line hurts more than he is willing to experience.
Leave him. Immediately.
Tell him (in a note would be wise if you are in th... (read in full...)
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