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writes:When my husband and i have sex I can't orgasm. I get really close it keeps building and building to the point of pain and then I completely panic and make him stop touching me. We stimulate the clit and he's inside me that's what gets me there but it just doesn't seem to happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2010): I think the panic is because you are scared of loosing control, I know it's hard but to to relax and go with flow so to speak. A toy might help relax things a little.
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reader, EbonyBlossom  +, writes (10 April 2010):
 Why do you panic? Nothing bad can happen. Is it the sex that hurts? Maybe you should try using lube... is there anything particular that he does that's particularly pleasurable? If so do it more. If it's because he doesn't last long enough, then the more you do it (and the more he wanks) then the longer he'll last =]
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reader, Auntie E +, writes (10 April 2010):
 Try to relax...I know easy for me to say. Sometimes if you are "trying" too hard it just won't happen. Also for women there has to be a certain amount of tension and a certain amount of relaxation - I know sounds like oil and water - but if you have the proper mix you'll get there. I think he may be overstimulating your clitoris. Try to have him back off of doing that. Also try getting on top - this position is very helpful for indirect clitoral stimulation. Has he performed oral sex on you? You may find that helpful as well. Try not to make your orgasm the focus of your entire sexual experience - it will only make it worse. Relax.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2010): Have you tried using some kind of vibration toy on your clit while he's inside you? That might help stimulate you enough.
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