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writes:I'm only 15 and still very young. I've recently met this guy and we've been dating for about 4 months. This guy is older then me, in fact 3 years older so he at the moment has more experience. He recently broke up with his ex and now that we're together I feel that he may want sex. I've always been the type that never imagined to have sex at this age and probably won't want to until I'm physically and emotionally ready. He hasn't pressured me or done anything like that but I feel that if I continue this relationship I'll feel awkward because he's older and experienced and he may expect more.Not sure what to do. Not sure if I should even feel pressured because he hasn't said anything. Should I ask him if he expects anything?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2006): u need 2 tlk 2 him n tell him that you aint ready n if he rejects u, do you really want to be in taht type of relationship. also you are at a difficult age becuase alot of people think its a sensible age 2 lose it so alot of people may be feelin the same as you so talk to someone that normally tells yoiu the truth!!!! hpe ive helped xxxx
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reader, chunky_monkey +, writes (27 June 2006):
Look any guy that actually cares about you will wait until you are ready. Im 18 and i started dating my boyfriend when i was 16. He is 2 year older but he never pushed me into anything. As he used to say, ill be ready when you are. No relationship is good when you are forced into anything.
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reader, Dr. Reality Check  +, writes (27 June 2006):
 Well, really there is only one thing to do to resolve this issue. Have a talk with him (face to face, not on the phone or thru text or IM) and let him know what you are ready for and what you are not. By his answer/reaction you will be able to assess the relationship better. If he says he will break up with you if you arent ready for sex, then he isnt a very good boyfriend anyway, is he?
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reader, willywombat +, writes (27 June 2006):
 I think you may just need to talk about this with your bf. You sound emotionally mature for your age...at least enough to know that you are not ready to do anything yet. So try talking to him about it. I think the very fact he has not pressured you in any way shows he is waiting for you to bring it up when YOU are ready.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2006): You sound very mature, a lot of girls your age would feel pressured but go along with it any way, pleasing the guy rather than respecting themselves.You should be able to talk about this with your boyfriend, if he hasn't pressured you now then I am assuming he respects you and will completely understand what you are saying. Tell him how great he is for not pressuring you and I'm sure the current apprehensive feelings you have at the moment will be put to rest. Good luck :)
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