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writes: Let me tell you my story. First of all, I'm a nice guy, fairly good looking, clean-cut, just turned 32, and I stand a shade under 5'6. My friends and co-workers tell me all the time that I'm handsome with a nice body. Secondly, I'm thinking about getting into the porn industry. Why? I am constantly horny and sex starved. My teens, twenties and early thirties were frought with constant rejection and denial. I've dated three women my entire life, lost my virginity at 23 and the sex was for the most part, forgettable. All three women said my penis was quite large, bigger than average, and it was more painful and uncomfortable for them. I recently measured myself at an honest 9.5 inches fully erect from the base to the tip and 6.5 inches around in thickness. I think the pain honestly comes from a total lack of sexual experience and days of frustration on my part. I only started masturbating in my college years while everyone else was dating and getting theirs, if you know what I mean. Can't understand why I was left out of the dating and relationships world, but it is what it is. Masturbation doesn't cut it anymore and I don't have the cash to hand out to hookers and escorts. Which brings me to the adult industry. Does my size quality for the camera? I know my height may be an issue because it is for a lot of women. Few ladies short or tall like short guys to begin with. At least what I can take from this is that my body and penis size might give me a chance. It sure didn't in the single world, so I'm looking to share myself with the women in adult entertainment. Maybe gay porn too because I've heard that's where the money is, even though guys don't turn me on at all. I love women but I have to say that I'm sick and tired of being pushed to the friend zone and eager to get physical and really learn how to pleasure a woman. Working out helps a little because I do like to keep my body in shape and release daily frustrations. Besides nearly all the guys in the industry are fairly cut, except Ron Jeremy.What do you think here on DC? Should I give it a try? You only live once you know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2011): Seek out counseling with a good counselor.Otherwise, you will be just one more seriously fucked up porn star who still doesn't enjoy sex.How many of them are f^^^^d up seriously in the head, well, never generalize, but essentially all of them, drugs and alcohol are used to try to help them remain functional but they end up decompensating from those in the end as well.How many of them truly enjoy sex, unclear, because they are actors they carry that "acting" over into their relationships...you never really know who they really are.If you want sex, and want to enjoy it, then you need to learn about yourself, about others, about relationships, and about what makes relationships and sex good.You don't do that in the porn industry.Get real help.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker  +, writes (4 October 2011):
 To answer your basic question regarding your size, yes, it is perfect for the industry. Unfortunately, size is not everything. Porn males are expected to be able to ejaculate on demand, under the glare of multiple cameras and with a crew of 5-15 persons present, fully clothed, and watching you go at it. The women you would be working with would range from mildly amused to actively disinterested in their attitude (though there are honorable exceptions who do enjoy what they do). Again, stamina is something to worry about, a porn stud may be expectedto perform upto three times a day if not more. If you 'pop' before the director has asked you to, you will have to go again (or you may not even get paid). You may have to do sex acts you do not enjoy (it's not just women who have problems with certain acts, you know).
So...well, think about it. I'm not one to pass moral judgements on this. It has risks, STD's being not the least of them. Those who have actually made money out of the industry have been those who have looked at it as a job, not those who have gone there to get their rocks off.
Whatever you choose to do, do consider all your options.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (4 October 2011):
 You don't enter the porn industry because you're horny just like you don't become a cashier at McDonalds because you're hungry. It is a business, and you would be an employee. You would have to have sex even if you don't really want to, and do sex acts even if you don't like them. It's not just a club where people sit around having crazy sex for fun, nor is it a good outlet for sexual frustrations. Not to mention you don't necessarily have a steady job, you would be auditioning and getting jobs if you're lucky. Not necessarily something you go to daily. As well, porn is an incredibly poor place to learn how to please women since most mainstream porn is based on cruelty and degradation.
Also don't count on it as a way to pick up girls since many women there are only there from a lack of options, or worse you may even run into trafficked women at some point (and if that happened, you would in essence be raping them).
Not to mention almost no porn uses condoms, so you would be having a ton of unprotected sex with people who've had sex with hundreds of other people without protection.
So I suppose if you're comfortable being in an industry that contributes heavily to the trafficking of women and children without regard to the health and wellbeing of any women or children anywhere and realize it's work, not sex, then maybe it's a good choice.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (4 October 2011):
 You sre so right ;you Do only live once, however, you just might be expediting that once by chosing a "vocation" that is a high exposure to AIDS and other life ending germs. You'll never know what you're getting from who even though the other actors are supposidly tested and all. to me it would be kinda like playing russian roulette with someone saying oh well those cartidges have been checked and they are not "really' packed with poweder. I'm glad you are so self-confident and all and I'm sure you would do well in your new "profession' I'd just go visit some studios first and check to seewho's using the clean needles out back.
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reader, Doe Eyed Beauty +, writes (4 October 2011):
Dear 'Sex-starved'- Let me repeat this several times if you are as large as you say(a bit pretentious I might add)then sex isn't the problem.You are so desperate that you would go against what you like to get it.That tells me how pressed you are to hit something.You are hurt from rejection and can find healing through some short term counseling. There is nothing wrong with you in general you probably just lead with you pen-s when picking a woman. The first thing that I would do if I were you is to read up on becoming socialized and also picking women who are interested in you.Overanxious guys are a turn off. You must be patient when you find the woman you like. It is rather easy is to tell if a women likes you. Does she tilt her head back(openess), make reasons to touch you(ready for closeness), touch her hair(ready for intimacy), make eye contact with a smile(welcoming you over.) Look for these first. Then after meeting her you should play it calm but do be like other stupid guys that take too long to call.( give it 24 hrs.) Make no mistake this isn't about porn it is about the basics needs. Don't make porn the solution for the rejection you have felt in the past. Hang in there seek some dating help online or through some local service and you will get right where you want to be. D.E.B.
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reader, DanceInTheDark  +, writes (4 October 2011):
 Well one. You aren't going to learn how to please a woman by doing porn. Seriously. Porn is ACTING, those men usually aren't actually pleasuring the women.
Sex in the porn industry well, If you're fine with constantly stopping and starting, it might work for you. They don't have sex all in one take. They do multiple ones, get different angles, you have to orgasm on demand.
I don't know if this matters to you, but wouldn't you rather bang a woman who wants you? One who thinks you're sexy, and wants to sleep with you because you're sexy? The women in the porn industry will only be having sex with you because it's their job. You might as well get a prostitute.
Trust me, Women who are not porn stars aren't going to be satisfied with what you "Learn" from doing porn.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 October 2011):
 Well if you have the confidence in yourself and you love your body why not give it a try. But remember they are looking for someone who is experienced in sex and is very confident while having sex and knows what he is doing. You make it sound like you want to be a porn star so you will know how to please a woman but you actually will need to know this before you get your foot in the door. Also what is your stamina like? In the porn industry they are looking for plenty of stamina and naturally for a man to last long while he is having sex. You need to remember when you are in porn you are acting out sex and there are cameras everywhere therefore its not all fun and games. You need to remember that it is a job and you are getting paid to do it right.
There is a lot for you to think about and also it is a very hard industry to break. But as you said you only live once so why not give it a shot. You have nothing to lose. Just make sure you are doing it for the right reasons.
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