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writes:So, there's this guy. I really really like him, and he seems to like me back. But he NEVER talks to me in public. Only when its just me and him. He has this girlfriend that he claims to love. But when he's with me he says he doesn't even care... I had sex with him 3 times too. I need advice for this! Am I just a booty call or what!?
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reader, The Realist +, writes (9 October 2011):
 You're a booty call and the reason he doesn't talk to you in public is because if someone he knew saw him he may then have to explain that one to his gf. That is the last situation he wants to be in.
Now I hope you know you are in the wrong for hooking up with this guy but in the end it really isn't your problem if you want to hook up with him but don't try to get more out of it then just sex. Starting a relationship off from cheating is not a good idea.
I would just ditch this guy and find someone else. You could tell his gf but she will blame you and then you will caught up in his garbage. Just get out while you can.
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reader, Thelaird1  +, writes (8 October 2011):
 The guy doesn't deserve you or his girlfriend.
He has no respect for you whatsoever. You are a booty call, simple as that. He gets all he wants from his gf, then calls you occasionally when he gets horny.
The only thing you are likely to get from all this is an STD. Chances are, you are not his only booty call.
Let him go and let someone who deserves you find you. Lose him while you can. You deserve much more
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (8 October 2011):
Why are you going after someone who has someone already? You can't expect him to treat you like his gf when he already has one, whether he loves her or not.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (8 October 2011):
 You're a booty call.
he's cheating on his girlfriend
he's lying to both you and her.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (8 October 2011):
 You are just a booty call. Sorry. He's taking advantage of the fact that you like him. That makes him a user. He has a girlfriend. That makes him a cheating user. Sorry you've fallen for a bit of a creep. He may be charming but that doesn't negate the fact that he's a cheating using creep.
Drop him.
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reader, DanceInTheDark +, writes (8 October 2011):
 Yep.
He loves his girlfriend. You're just a bit of variety.
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reader, Odds +, writes (8 October 2011):
 Have you considered that you are expecting loving, romantic behavior from a guy who is a cheater? He's going to do the bare minimum to be with you. If you ask for more, he'll put up with it for maybe a couple of weeks before moving on to someone easier.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2011): Are you kidding? The situation doesn't get much clearer. You are purely a booty call.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2011): Yes, you are just a booty call. On another note, what did you expect, he has a girlfriend...
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reader, innocentfacadexx +, writes (8 October 2011):
 I would lose the guy, it seems like he's using you, you deserve better. If he cared about you he'd break up with his girlfriend instead of staying with her. You deserve someone who appreciates you and shows it in public and private.
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