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I want to date her but she's not over her last crush

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Question - (1 June 2012) 3 Answers - (Newest, 2 June 2012)
A male United States age 30-35, *reedom76 writes:

I'm best friends with this girl. I like her, like a lot, and she loves me as a friend, and I know she does. The only thing stopping us from going out is that she's not over her last crush. She had a HUGE crush on him, and still does. And I will admit, her last crush was more attractive than me, physically speaking (not otherwise though). She says that she wishes that I was him. But me and her are still really really good friends, either way. But I like her, and she likes me but is conflicted. She says that I "deserve someone better," and that she doesn't want me to be compared to her last crush by her. So what do I do?

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A female reader, curious1987 Australia +, writes (2 June 2012):

curious1987 agony auntmy advice would be to wait until she is 100% over her crush. other wise u will just be a rebound. is that what u really want? wait a while longer until she only has feelings for u, because if u date her now, u will only be a rebound, and like the others said, secondnbest, which u dont want. food luck.xx

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2012):

Sad to say but she is warning you off and you would be second best. That wouldn't be a nice feeling. Try to focus less of your attention on her and spend less time with her. That way, hopefully you will become interested in someone who will return your feelings.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2012):

Sounds like you are in the Friend Zone. Google it if you don't know what that is.

The bottom line is that you have to go after some other girl. That's the only way to get another girl and it's the only way that you might have any shot with this one.

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