I have to choose between the love of my life, or my wife who wont try and work on our marriage and our new baby......
Q. Help. Please help. I am truly desperate and at the end of my sanity. I have been married for 3 years, together with her for a total of 5. I do love my wife as a person. I want to be "in love" with her, but she makes it difficult to do ...
A. 31 December 2010: hi Trying Man - while it's good that you have truly given up your affair, I still question if the way you are staying in your marriage is a "good" idea. Meaning, emotionally healthy for both you and your wife and improving rather than worsening your ... (read in full...)
Will the hurt ever go away, or should I cut my losses and apply for a divorce and let 10 years of marriage go down the drain?
Q. My husband had a one night stand with a "friend" of mine. I am not sure that I can forgive or forget it. I have tried and we have done the counsleing deal, but I have so much anger inside of me, because I feel as if he has brought this into our ...
A. 31 December 2010: 10 years of marriage will not go down the drain because you divorce him. It has already gone down the drain because of his infidelity.
Don't feel responsible for keeping together a marriage that he broke apart.... (read in full...)
I'm putting everything I got into this marriage when I get nothing in return!
Q. Ok here it goes, I have been married to the same man for 18 years. And we dated for 4 years before that. We have three kids, I am a stay at home mom, as well as running my business from home. I run a dog daycare, grooming and overnight care for ...
A. 31 December 2010: it sounds to me like your husband is emotionally abusive. Emotional abuse can be just as bad as physical abuse. It can even be worse because there are no outward scars so it's easy for yourself and other people you talk to , to minimize it or ... (read in full...)
Is knowing he will never be there emotionally when I need him the most enough to leave?
Q. My husband is in the military and has been gone for the majority of the year. He was only back for a couple of weeks when I had gotten a hysterectomy. We have 4 children and he has been great helping out while I recover the problem is he is working ...
A. 31 December 2010: In light of your more recent details....now I think the relationship is one-sided after all. Now I see where your "all take and no give" is coming from.
It seems that yes in daily life he isn't really there for you either because he can't be as hi... (read in full...)
Boyfriend saved my life and is now handicapped. Should I stay with him?
Q. I'm 20 and my boyfriend is 24. He is the best thing that's ever happened to me. It almost sounds unreal, but he saved my life about one month ago. He pushed me out of the way from getting hit by an oncoming car, but he was badly injured. Right now, ...
A. 30 December 2010: You should stay with him because you love him, he obviously loves you, and when you love someone you support them in their time of need. He risked his life for you - in fact he sacrificed a HUGE chunk of his life for you because he loves you. ... (read in full...)
How to deal with the game he seems to be playing?
Q. I don't know how to deal with this guy that seems to be playing games. Basically, when I show interest in him, he backs off even though he was the one who pursued me. He would always be the first to call, to ask me out, etc. But like I said, when I ...
A. 30 December 2010: Ignore him when he pursues you since you know he's just going to pull back if you respond.
it's highly irritating when someone does this to you. At worst it really messes with your mind. The more involved with him you get, the more invested... (read in full...)
Is knowing he will never be there emotionally when I need him the most enough to leave?
Q. My husband is in the military and has been gone for the majority of the year. He was only back for a couple of weeks when I had gotten a hysterectomy. We have 4 children and he has been great helping out while I recover the problem is he is working ...
A. 30 December 2010: He has not been there for you at the times you needed him the most. But those times are few and far between, they are not every day or even regular occurrences. So why do you say it's "all take and no give"?
How is he in daily life, is he pulli... (read in full...)
If I tell her I cheated she may not accept my proposal!!!
Q. Please 1. what processes do i need to go through during love making (sex) to make my girl smiling during and after sex. 2. I've faulted my girl by having sex with another girl because she refuse my advances. So do i tell her that i did cheat on ...
A. 30 December 2010: You're right if you tell her she may not accept your proposal but if so then that's the way it has to be, because that's the consequence of cheating.
by not telling her you're saying you want to get away with your transgression. This is the cowa... (read in full...)
How can I get out of this mess?
Q. I just really do not know what to do now! Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year.. We were both in relationships when we had a one night stand which lead to our relationship but ended them. For the first few months it was a ...
A. 29 December 2010: Please do an internet search for a local domestic violence hotline in your area and call them! they can help walk you through what to do and give you local resources. Another option is to look up battered women's shelters in your area, they provide ... (read in full...)
Should I open that forbidden door or play it safe?
Q. hello im needing advice. im 24 and a parent to a 4 yr old boy. im also married and have been with my partner since i was 18. hes 30 yrs old. my dilemma is that he wants another baby. he feels hes ready and i do too but is it wrong for me to want ...
A. 28 December 2010: There's two issues here. One is, should you have baby#2 now? Second issue is, you want to go out and party like other young women your age who are not married with kids and your husband "wont' let you" so what do you do about that? First the baby... (read in full...)
I was in love with a terminal cancer patient and she passed away...
Q. I need help with laying old ghosts to rest. I'm 17 years old, a senior in high school and for 4 months, I was engaged to 15 year old girl who had terminal Leukemia and CIPA (she couldn't feel any pain or sensation in her entire body 8 months ago, my ...
A. 28 December 2010: Don't blame yourself hun, you didn't do anything wrong at all. You are kind, compassionate, brave, and mature. Not many guys your age are even half of that. Heck not many guys twice or three times your age are half of that! You followed your heart ... (read in full...)
I have to choose between the love of my life, or my wife who wont try and work on our marriage and our new baby......
Q. Help. Please help. I am truly desperate and at the end of my sanity. I have been married for 3 years, together with her for a total of 5. I do love my wife as a person. I want to be "in love" with her, but she makes it difficult to do ...
A. 27 December 2010: I'm sorry to be blunt, but it sounds like you keep flip flopping between different courses of action because you are trying to run away from taking responsibility for your actions. And you are STILL doing it.
I think you are digging yourself... (read in full...)
I want this baby, But I am in love with another woman!
Q. My wife of three years, and I, have been having a rocky marriage. We were trying to have a baby, but it wasn't working due to the stress and arguing. I have a dear friend of 10 years, whom I've never dated, that I know I am in love with. We'v...
A. 23 September 2010: I forgot to add - if you are going to leave your wife, I think you should wait until after the baby is born before telling her and going through with it. Yes it is prolonging the lies and dishonesty for longer but I think that in this already messed ... (read in full...)
I want this baby, But I am in love with another woman!
Q. My wife of three years, and I, have been having a rocky marriage. We were trying to have a baby, but it wasn't working due to the stress and arguing. I have a dear friend of 10 years, whom I've never dated, that I know I am in love with. We'v...
A. 23 September 2010: wow, what a mess. So..you have loved another woman for 10 years while married, but did not resolve that situation - either letting go of your friend or letting go of your wife because it's not fair to your spouse to stay married when you know you ... (read in full...)
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