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My wife isnt horny enough for me...Any suggestions?

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Question - (18 July 2009) 8 Answers - (Newest, 21 July 2009)
A male Canada age 51-59, *hulo writes:

My wife isn't horny enough for me. She beautiful and has a great bod for 50. But she's a tom boy. She's not affectionate or feminine. I am just a fat overweight husband that looks at my wife and fantisizes. We are intimate about once every three weeks. Any suggestions guys or how about you women?!

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A female reader, SirenaBlusera Mexico +, writes (21 July 2009):

SirenaBlusera agony auntMy professor put the weight loss thing in very simple terms: Eat less, exercise more, and do it forever. It's no secret. It's quite simple, it's a question of will power.

By the way, I practice the sport of tae kwon do. When I first took it up, I lost five pounds within a few weeks. It's an expensive sport, but worth it. Any exercise will do, however, but if you find one you like, then you'll be motivated. :)

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A reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2009):

As all have said, lose some weight. I know it is difficult, but you have to try for both health reasons and for your sex life. Look at it from the ego side too. If you lose weight then less of your penis will be buried in your fat layer and you will look bigger and be functionally bigger. I was somewhat overweight about 10 to 15 years ago and my wife does admit that sex with me was less enjoyable and that it would not have been enjoyable at all if I were actually fat.

One other thing. You have gotten some good advice from both the man and women who have answered. However, I find it interesting than when a man doesn't want to have sex with his wife because she is fat that 2/3 of the women who answer tell him that he is shallow and not deserving of her. Interesting!

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A female reader, SirenaBlusera Mexico +, writes (19 July 2009):

SirenaBlusera agony auntBeingblack is direct, but he's right.

Being overweight isn't good for your health either, but unless you have some sort of illness, you can do something about it.

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A female reader, Fay South Africa +, writes (18 July 2009):

Sounds like a fine woman u got, my boyfriend has a belly got to admit his a horny buggar but i don't desire him much as he doesn't satisfy me much. his penis seems to be our problem but i've never told him that, when he sit's up and wants me to ride him i feel nothing and he moans from being satisfied until 1 day during sex i told him i'm feeling nothing and he got upset well i dunno maybe it's his stomach that's in the way does being over weight have any thing to do with his weight??? but when his on top i get to atleast reach an orgasm , well then he still has the nerve to suggest a threesome i doubt he'll be able to satisfy that? Mind u his tummy was something that attracted me before and i'd still love to just cuddle with him.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2009):

amazing you are fat and bored by your own admition. Your wife has a great bod. Doesn't take a genius to work out the problem.

I am always amazed at men who think they can look like poo but their wifes need to fit the 'perfect' image. Your wife has probably always been a tomboy you on the other hand have probably changed.

Look in the mirror and see if you like what you see. That's what she sees too. Loose weight and get a better attitude. Your wife needs to feel wanted, desired and respected not just as the good 'bod' you describe her as.

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A male reader, Beingblack United Kingdom +, writes (18 July 2009):

Beingblack agony auntIf you were a beautiful woman of 50, would you look at a fat overweight, drooling man, and FANCY him? I think not. Lose some lard. Tom-boy or not, she will notice and maybe you'll get lucky more often.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2009):

i am assuming your wife has aleways been a tomby? You on the other hand probably haven't always been fat and bored. Maybe you need to look in the mirror and see what she sees then maybe you'd understand why she isn't interested in being more affectinate to you.

You could always change the way you are. You could also make her feel sexy, desireable, wanted, loved and treat her like someone special rather than a great bod for you to desire while you look like crap!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2009):

Sounds simple enough to me. Lose some weight so that she's attracted to you once more.

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