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writes: my bf of almost 3years has recently joined the army, the other day i was out with my mates and i was drowning my sorrows and got really really drunk, the next day my friends told me that i kissed someone, i dont remember it but they said they pulled me away as soon as they saw because they knew id regret it, a few days later i was txtn my bf and he askd me if i had cheated on him, i lied and told him i hadnt, i feel so guilty i love him so much but am really struggling with him being gone i dont know what to do please help me xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2006): If you can't handle him overseas fighting whatever war he's fighting, then you should leave him and go for local guys instead. This may break his heart, but it will be better in the long run.
People can say it may not be your fault because your excuse was alcohol, but if you didn't put yourself in that situation in the first place, none of that would have happened. I'm not going to tell you that it was okay to have done what you did. People always try to blame it on the alcohol and then proceed to apologize to their lovers as if it was something or somebody else's fault. Drinking irresponsibly is your fault and no one else's. The alcohol was a tool - you are in control.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (19 June 2006):
 You just kissed someone, and you were so drunk you didn't really know what you were doing, so don't feel like you 'cheated'. It wasn't good what you did for sure, but it was no where near as bad as waking up in bed with a stranger...
A couple of suggestions:
- Drink less
- If you do intend to drink a lot, make sure your friends are with you and tell them to keep an eye on you
- When you are going out, send text messages to your husband telling him where you are going, what you are doing, and that you are thinking of him. This will make him feel closer to you, and you will probably be less likely to make a mistake since he'll be on your mind more when you are out
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reader, auntie claire +, writes (19 June 2006):
 dear reader you have to be strong if you really do love your b/f then you'll wait for him. yes its hard and you want to feel loved and be cuddle and do what normal couples do but think of how he would feel if while he is off trying to protect his country his g/f is playing around, don't punish him for being brave just concentrate on what it will be like and how much fun you'll have when he comes home.don't be sillykeep me posted, all the best xxx
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