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writes: so each day i fall a little more in love with my boyfriend when i talk to him or see him. we've briefly talked about sex and whether or not hes ready or im ready and i asked him how he knows and questions like that. we are both virgins @ 19, which isnt a bad thing at all, and im not saying i plan on having sex with him anytime soon. but if at some point in the near future i feel i am ready and want to and that he feels the same way (he claims he'll only be ready to when i feel ready), could maybe i get some tips on what to expect, to do, anything i need to know to prepare for sex, anything at all....would be appreciated. i think its better to go into a situation like that (when i am indeed ready) as educated as possible to avoid mistakes or better the event for us.anything suggestions, tips, advise, anything would be great.thanks
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reader, bikiniilove_xX +, writes (20 June 2006):
Think about sexx laterr in life....i mean u dont wanna have sex early in life!!!!!
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (19 June 2006):
 I always say to people who are asking about whether they are ready for sex, you're probably not if you're asking. However, you've admitted that you may not be ready yet but want to be aware of all the dangers and stuff in the future. You sound like an intelligent girl!
Firstly, always be prepared. If you're going to his house, or he's coming to yours, always have a condom to hand. If you're not ready, obviously you won't use it but if it does happen, at least you won't get caught out. Carrying a condom doesn't mean you expect sex, it just means you're intelligent and sensible.
Don't pressured into anything you don't want to do. When we start out at sex, we often get pressured into doing things we don't want to but your boyfriend sounds like he won't do this. Even so, if you're not comfortable with anything at all, just let him know. Just because you start having sex doesn't mean you have to jump in at the deep end!
There's so much advice I could give you but you can check the internet for all the nitty gritty stuff. I just want to say be careful, make sure you're ready and enjoy it.
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (19 June 2006):
 The site below has some good info on I and think you may find it of some use! Glad you have been patient and are looking out for each other!
http://www.avert.org/sfeel2.htm
Take care x x
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reader, auntie claire +, writes (19 June 2006):
 dear reader. before anything els ei would like to congratulate both of you for your patience.
the first time you have sex is not always a smooth as you'd like it can sometimes hurt and you could bleed,
obviously condoms are a must!!!
btu the best advice i can give you make sure you are ready and take it slow, don't try to rush into it because you won't enjoy it.
the only mistake you will make is not being ready for it 100% sex is meant to be fun not a chore, but don't be scared of it you will find the right things for you and what you like.
i hope your first time feels a magical as you want it to keep us posted
good luck xxx
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