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writes: hi i recently met a guy online .we met up and got on well and he told me he liked me and cant wait to see me again then few days later he just didnt reply to my txt and hasnt contacted me for a few days.does he not like me now or something. i am pregnant and he knows it but says hes fine with it and will help me through it even tho its not his Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionim def keeping this baby
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2006): I'm sorry to hear your baby's father wants nothing to do with you. He didn't feel that way at one time, obviously!
You have to think about what you're going to do now, rather than worrying about the man you met online.
Do you intend to go through with the pregnancy? If so, will you keep the baby when it is born? Can you afford, financially and emotionally, to raise your child for the next twenty years? Having a baby, while not impossible, will make pursuing a career or education and a social life, extremely difficult, you know.
If you cannot, then there is no shame in giving your baby up for adoption. Many couples would love to have a child, but are not able to. Nor would this mean you would not see your baby again. YOU NEED TO THINK ABOUT WHAT IS BEST FOR YOUR CHILD, REGARDLESS OF YOUR OWN FEELINGS. But of course, you do ALSO need to think of what is best for your own future.
Finally, if you do decide to keep your baby, you are entitled to CHILD SUPPORT FROM THE FATHER. Contact your local social services agency, or talk to your doctor, to get started. Don't neglect to do this, just because he wants nothing to do with you!! Under the law, it is HIS RESPONSIBILITY to support his baby financially!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthe father of the baby wants nothing to do with it and has ignored me
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2006): You recently contacted a guy online, met him once and had a good time. So far, so good. HOWEVER, there's a huge "elephant" in the middle of the room: you're pregnant. This man, on the basis of ONE MEETING, told you he would help you through your pregnancy.
Its only been a few days, and he may well be busy. On the other hand, there's a good chance that he's thought about it since meeting you and decided it would be taking on too much to get involved. You were honest in letting him know you're expecting, but it really is a lot for such a very new friendship, you know.
Anyway, what about the father of your baby? HE has the responsibility to support you, emotionally and financially - I'm talking child support - EVEN IF you have broken up with him. Now THAT's something you need to pursue!
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reader, auntie claire +, writes (14 June 2006):
 dear reader men sat things, men do things, but they don't always use their brains don' take everything he says gospol you met this guy online remember so please don't expect too much or you'll jsut get hurt.May-be there is a perfectly good reason for him not contacting you since but you says its just been a few days.don't forget what he has to think about too, he has told you he will look after you and someone else's kid thats a big step for a man to take so i think you should give him some time and see what happens i hope it does work out well for you and good luck with you babykeep me posted all the best xxx
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (14 June 2006):
 If it is just a few days then try not to worry because perhaps he is busy, and you could always drop him an email if you like saying you enjoyed your time out together and would like to know how he is doing. However, you also have to accept that internet dating can be a risky business. You meet someone online and develop a friendship, and then you meet them in the flesh and the person just isn't who you imagined them to be either physically or otherwise. It is not your fault, but you may have not met his 'cyber expectation' in some way or he maybe a serial internet dater. Some people are net dating addicts and meet lots of people through dating websites just for the thrill of the situation. I know that lots of people find love over the net, but I rather suspect more just end up getting hurt or tangled up in strange or difficult situations. I hope it works out with your net guy, but don't be too distressed if it doesn't work out either because it is just the nature of net dating unfortunately.
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