Is he avoiding/ignoring me because I wouldn't have sex with him?
Q. Just wanted to get a guy's perspective on this: I've been dating a guy for about 2 months, we seemed to get along, joke, talk about sports (yes I like sports), and he's been affectionate with me, however we haven't had sex. He's been dropping hi...
A. 3 February 2011: Yes, i'd say he is pissed off. Maybe he feels his manhood is woonded. You should not give in though, if that's how you feel, no matter what the cost is. I give this advice:always stick to your values, ethics and beliefs! Best wishes.... (read in full...)
How do I get over her.. or How do I make her fall for me as well?
Q. My ex-girlfriend who broke up with me a month ago talked to me today. I am still in love with her and wonder if I'll ever get over her. Our relationship never would have worked because she had to move, but today, she talked to me as if she still had ...
A. 30 January 2011: You get over her by keeping yourself and mind busy: sports, more work, get a hobby, learn to play the guitar, read a book, study more...you get the idea! just focus on something that you find interes in. There's no such thing as "make someone to ... (read in full...)
How can I bridge this terrible predicament?
Q. I am a middle-aged man, I have a daughter who was born when I was in my teens. Her mother and I were High school sweet hearts and I loved her very much. My daughters mother was unfaithful to me many times, I tried to make it work but I could no ...
A. 30 January 2011: My man...i sympathise, sad story. You are too, another victim of female manipulation. You sound like a reasonable, mature adult. You stick to your beliefs and values and you left when you had to because it was the right thing to do. Do the same now, ... (read in full...)
What do you think, does she like me?
Q. well i met this girl and we talked for a bit, then we hung out a couple times, and after the second time we hung out she was txting me and she said "thx for hangin out with me :))" and i was like "thx for being awesome..and cute" and her reply was ...
A. 27 January 2011: Watch out pal!! From my experience all these "clues" you mention do not mean anything at all! I hope I am wrong because I wouldn't want to put ideas in your mind and take the chance to destroy a potentially great relationship. Surprise:Girls do ... (read in full...)
Co-worker has become distant, but claims nothing is wrong. What should I say to him?
Q. Hey guys, I need some advice. I know I'm not being paranoid, but I had a friend who I was good friends with and I helped him with a hell of a lot. He's still working in my company but, now he has distanced himself. Something doesn't seem right. H...
A. 25 January 2011: Men are easy to understand, unlike women! I am sure you are not telling us everything, something must have happened that made him to distant himself. Give us more information. Perhaps you lead him on or something and now he lost his trust in you.... (read in full...)
She left me when things were going great!
Q. I'm so confused right now. We were doing great and it's been 4 months. It starts off like this. I met her at a party 6 months ago while I was playing a guitar. She found me on facebook the next day and told me how amazing I was and wanted to get to ...
A. 25 January 2011: I am 34 and to this day i have never, ever really understood what's on women minds!! They act so strange. I read your story and i am speechless, i have nothing to comment! Maybe a female reader can through some light to this story...... (read in full...)
Need help...what would stop her from wanting to be with me?
Q. Hi DearCupid, I am asking this question with regards to someone I really like but I'm not sure what her point of view is of everything... If she is single, attracted to me, cares about me, and knows that I really care about her, what would stop ...
A. 23 January 2011: Make a move man, stop wondering, there's no other way to find out. Ask her out, simple! Even if she refures, it's no big deal. I once asked a collegue out, she politely declined and ever since we still talk and joke in a flirty way. Ask her out and ... (read in full...)
How do you try to get along with someone you hate?
Q. I really hate my sisters boyfriend. He's loud, obnoxious, thinks he's hilarious, and is a HUGE suck up to my parents and other sister. Ever since the beginning he has ignored my presence and greeted everyone in the room except me. We spend our ...
A. 21 January 2011: This guy seems like as a** with a cocky attittude, I know exactly the type because i am annoyed too by such fellas. Stick to your believes and thoughts and don't be fake! Ignore him and avoid him....and don't laugh at his silly jokes!... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to have a sex buddy all the time?
Q. Hey everybody. I have a question; Is it so wrong to have a sex buddie? I mean I'm 19, I'm young I only had sex with 2 guys and the last time I had sex with my last sex buddie was almost 8 months ago. And yes I'm horny I never really like a guy befo...
A. 21 January 2011: You will always have that feeling of emptiness within...always trying to find a better performer, always bored after a while, always addicted to sex...but it's not meaningfull, it's just temporary. ... (read in full...)
Guys opinions, what is going on in his head?
Q. I have been going out with this guy for almost 5 years now. I am his first serious girlfriend he says. We tried moving in together, but shortly after I moved out because he said it seemed like it was too soon for him. Even though this was not ...
A. 21 January 2011: I think your guy has issues of insecurity an immaturity combined. You seem like a decent and down-to-earth girl but you are young and I assume your guy is too so he hasn't really been out there experimenting with a lot of girls. It's a jungle out ... (read in full...)
It seems like she wants me to chase her, even though we are official!
Q. My girlfriend and I have been talking for a year and some change now, and just in September we made it official. But its like she wants me to chase her, its like she doesn't like to call or respond to my texts unless I contact her. If i don't ...
A. 21 January 2011: It doesn't sound to me that she is playing cat & mouse chasing. Those are signs of a bad, selfish character and it should not be tolerated. This girl has no respect for you and she is over-valuing herself. I think you should let her go...find ... (read in full...)
Should I risk a possible awkward situation and tell her how I feel? What if she doesn't reciprocate??
Q. Ive suddenly fallen for this girl i know, our families are very close and are always visiting each other, she has just recently come back from up north were she has been working, she is back for a few months we have been hanging out quite alot ...
A. 18 January 2011: You say that you don't know if she feels the same way. Trust me, when a woman is interested you can tell one way or the other. If this girl was interested, perhaps she wouldn't make the first move but she would surely through you a few hints. I ... (read in full...)
We have a 6 month old child but I keep looking at other men. Am I a bad girlfriend?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 6 years, we have a 6 month old son. And recently i've found myself looking at other men and really really wanting them? i've told my boyfriend and he said hes hurt by it but wont talk about it. He works nights and ...
A. 18 January 2011: Unfortunately in life there are no rehearsals my dear. You made your choice...to start a family early and have a child. Try to see the beauty and blessing that lays within a family and appreciate it. Stop desiring other men and enjoy what your ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to decide which is more important: personality? Or who the person really is?
Q. I was just wondering, if you ever had to choose between personality and who the person is, what is more important in a relationship? Like what I mean by who the person is: -They play sports, can bake / cook, is very artistic, like the same animals ...
A. 18 January 2011: It all comes in one package. For instance, i exercise almost daily, i cook, i appreciate art and music, i've learned to play the guitar and i find pleasure in reading books. One might conclude that i am definitely not a lazy man sitting around all ... (read in full...)
How to talk to him? Or get him to notice me? Or get over my mad feelings for him?
Q. i feel so empty, knowing that he does not have feelings for me. I haven't asked him out front, but it's obvious in his actions that he doesn't really know i exist. It started out he'd see me, and smile. Or try and talk, but i never took action. I ne...
A. 18 January 2011: My dear, you are saying he is too good for you so probably he will never be interested. Those are the facts and the rules of the love game. How much would you honestly rate yourself out of 10 in terms of what you have to offer, personality & ... (read in full...)
I cant choose between the picture-perfect Vince and not-so-perfect Caleb who I love, but...
Q. Help me with my decision! I have been with Caleb for a year and a half. We have had some rough patches. I love him an incredible amount but I want him to do more with his life. Sometimes he seems unmotivated to work and find a job.He lost his ...
A. 18 January 2011: Hmm...this one is tough, i don't know what to advice. But note one thing: "What shines doesn't mean it's gold". Don't be blinded by his doctor career. Doctors are often on high demand by women, people look at them as if they are Gods and because of ... (read in full...)
I fell for Mr Nice Guy who promised the world and delivered nothing.....
Q. i am hoping to recieve help. my husband and i have been married only a year. we met on an internet dating site. he was the most romantic caring guy on the planet until we got near our wedding day.weve known each other 3 yrs. i had serious doubts t...
A. 17 January 2011: It sounds to me that you both got into this relationship each for your own selfish reasons! You thought that it's convenient to have a Mr. nice guy around to spoil you and offer you things and love, while he just wanted someone to settle, so he ... (read in full...)
Is she being spoiled in rejecting the single rose?
Q. I am thinking of a conversation I had with a very pretty female friend. We got into an argument and I was your opinion on it. This guy was interested in her and they sort of began dating. He came to her home with a single rose and a card saying, "...
A. 17 January 2011: Well you a right my friend. And your female friend is very spoiled and self-centered. And good move on behalf of her date! He barely knows her, why she beliefs that she deserves more flowers huh? It's not like she is the woman of his life, it's ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant but my BF of 9 years has left to live with his new GF. I feel so vulnerable. What can I do to protect my babies and me from being homeless?
Q. I am 5 months pregnant and have two toddler daughters. My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 years and we just bought a house. This is the first year he has made a lot of money since he opened his own business. He recently left the home stat...
A. 17 January 2011: This man is sick and irresponsible. Seek the advice of a lawyer, he should be legally obligated to provite financial support to his kids, especially now that he is making a lot of money. Leave the house and rent a smaller appartment if necessary. ... (read in full...)
When is the best time to tell him I'm a virgin?
Q. Hey. I'm 17 and in high school and I've been dating a guy in college for about a 2 months. His school is kind of far away so we aren't exclusive so he's not (officially) my boyfriend, but neither of us are seeing other people. I'm planning on going ...
A. 17 January 2011: I think there's no reason telling him now, it's too soon, you are not even officially boyfriend-girlfriend. Let the relationship unfold for a few months and enjoy it without worries. When the topic comes up then tell him. But be prepared: he might ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend has such random moods and I can't deal with them
Q. My girlfriend goes in random moods and puts me down when she is in them. an example I started to put the recycling out while she did the dishes, I finshed went to sit on the sofa 20 seconds she joined me, and said "thanks for helping me wash the ...
A. 17 January 2011: Your girlfriend's attitude is disrespectful and should be tolerated. Ok...you show understanding, we all have our bad days and that's fine. But even in our bad days, even if we talk bad or yel to our partner we then apologize for our behavior and ... (read in full...)
Is there a future with my meth addict boyfriend?
Q. Should I leave my meth addict partner? I am 23 years old and I have been with my 27 year old boyfriend for six years now. We have had a very rocky relationship and have been through a lot together. He cheated on me a year into our relationship...
A. 17 January 2011: Future?? You mean a family?? With a man who spends $13,000 on meth?? With a man who has no morals and cheats with your best friend?? What are you thinking girl? He will not wake up one day and just be a different man. You might have seen it in ... (read in full...)
Virgin wants to have sex but not with her boyfriend
Q. Am a girl of 20, also a virgin i always feel like having sex but when am with my bf i hate him touching me, kiss or having sex . Pls what is the cause?...
A. 17 January 2011: Not wanting to have sex with him, i understand...you might be scared that it might hurt but also you are thinking the consequences of getting pregnant, which is good!
But hating his kiss and touch...you don't really love this guy do you? I don'... (read in full...)
She wants me to get my penis pierced!
Q. Hey everybody! I've been in relationship with this girl for 2 years now... She wants to spice things up so she got a tattoo and she asked me to get my dick pierced!! Is this too much? Is it gonna hurt? Should I do it? So many questions...
A. 16 January 2011: It's not a question whether is gonna hurt! It's your dick man, not hers! She decided to mess up her skin to spice up things...fine! I wouldn't drill a hole on my dick to please a woman, unless I really wanted to! You are man! Honor your dick! Don't ... (read in full...)
How do I climb out of the pit of dispair?
Q. I am a 22 year old virgin, worse I haven't had a girlfriend since the 7th grade and as far as I know only one girl has been interested since. I lost over 75lbs and today am almost at the point of having a 6 pack. I changed my clothes and hair ...
A. 16 January 2011: What is your reason of dispair? Women!
Try to find other interests in life than women! Then you will be a happier man.... (read in full...)
We're Living Together but She Won't Marry Me. Why?
Q. I just wonder what is really going on here. My girfriend and I have been living together for a year and a half now. We are both in our mid - late 40's. I have been divorced around 7 years and she has been separated (not yet divorced) for almost 3 ...
A. 16 January 2011: I think it's very obvious what is going on.Sorry to say this friend but this girl has absolutely no interest in you romantically. You are just convenient to her. You are nice, you offered her free accommodation when she had no where to go, and ... (read in full...)
What are the long-term emotional/psychological effects of a promiscuous lifestyle?
Q. I know a girl who I am friends with, sort of. She is very loose sexually and frequently has sex with men for money. She had an affair with a married man a few months ago but I think she broke it off when it became clear this man was not leaving his ...
A. 10 January 2011: Nothing just disappears my friend, you are who you are and your actions speak for it! You don't just wake up one day, erase your personality and become a different person. This girl seems to have her issues, she sounds very unstable. She had to try ... (read in full...)
Are guys losing respect for girls today than in the past?
Q. I know the guy I am with does not act like this what so ever, but is it just me, or am I getting the feeling that now a days, men expect girls to bend over and give themselves to them? Are guys really loosing respect for females now a days? ...
A. 9 January 2011: I think it's excaclty the other way around... (read in full...)
What should I do with a boyfriend who is so loving and supportive that I can't reciprocate?
Q. I am in a ridiculous predicament - my boyfriend is a wonderful guy to me, he will do anything to please me. Of course he has his negatives (as does everyone) but he is just so caring, supportive and loving to me... yet I just can't reciprocate. I ...
A. 7 January 2011: It is unethical and selfish to be with someone only to receive. Half of happines lays in giving and apparently you cannot give him what he wants:love. Let him go to find a girl who will give him what he deserves and do your self a favor too to try ... (read in full...)
Do I let her do what she wants (sleep with whomever) and give her time to see what she wants?
Q. I have been seeing a girl for around 4 months, spending literally every day with her since I met her. I got involved knowing that she had a boyfriend thinking it would all be ok. We text each other whenever we are apart and it started out just ...
A. 7 January 2011: Oh my God, i don't believe i am reading this my friend. I don't want to be cruel, but no man with a little dignity and self respect would possibly tolerate such attitude!!! Be a man!! Get up and leave! You are better off just by yourself rather than ... (read in full...)
How do you get rid of boredom?
Q. How do you get rid of boredom?...
A. 6 January 2011: Do things that offer value to your life! Here's a few ideas that I do to add value to my daily schedule and help me not to be bored:
1) Keep your mind busy. I have found joy the last few years in reading nice books. Spend a few hours at Barnes & No... (read in full...)
Is there any real way to "break through" to her?
Q. Hi, I realized this year that I have probably had a relationship with a sociopath. Although we never got romantically involved, we became "close"--at least from my end. (I have written about her before here, but in short, the reason I say she...
A. 29 December 2010: I was also a little involved with a type of sociopath you describe a couple of years ago. I had become obsessed and madly in love with this girl but I knew she was wrong for me. She was the devil in disguise, exactly as you describe the ... (read in full...)
Is she annoyed at me for something I did?
Q. I talked to a girl for 3 months. Fell in love. I asked her out 1.5 months after meeting. She had a bf but they broke up 2 weeks later. We finally went 'out' (i dunno if it was a date) but I didn't make a move. I thought I messed up but we talked ...
A. 19 December 2010: No it's not you man. She is just not interested, that's what my experience tells me. Sorry...
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Also a little tip: Don't do that again my friend, bad policy to go tell a girl straight forward "Hi I like you!" Usually this type of honesty neve... (read in full...)
He forgets to call, should I be worried?
Q. I have been in a relationship for two years and a half and recently every time my bf goes on trips for a couple of days he forgets to call. We live together. I am worried he doesn`t miss me or love me for that matter. What is it???...
A. 19 December 2010: For me as a man: forget to call= i don't really care, you are not really on my mind...sorry... (read in full...)
Do I have to cut him off completely and just accept it?
Q. We didn't mean to fall in love, but it happened. He was my first love, too. The problem is, I'm 20, he's 36, and he was my teacher at my former prep school. We obviously cannot be together, and when we realized that the feelings had progressed way ...
A. 28 November 2010: Although I understand your worries because of the age difference, i don't think this should be the main reason for a breakup. It's really hard these days to make a succesfull relationship and if you found someone that you click with, he is mature, ... (read in full...)
She was my everything
Q. What does it take to get over a 3 and a half year long relationship? She was my everything and she found it so easy to just take every shred of respect and caring for her and throw it away. i was willing to do anything for her.. And she just met...
A. 6 November 2010: That's a very good lesson you learned there son. Now you know how manipulating and deceiving some women can be so next time be wise enough not to invest EVERYTHING in your woman, and if you decide to do so, be sure what you are doing. Meanwhile i ... (read in full...)
Should I ask her out? I'm having trouble with doing it?
Q. There's a girl I know that I like. I think she liked me like a month ago but I'm really bad at that stuff and didn't really think. Anyway, I want to tell her I like her as more than a friend But I'm having trouble with that. This girl is great. S...
A. 30 October 2010: Getting too much attention from guys huh?? Hot as heck huh?? Tss..tss. I don't think she is the right girl for you man, you sound like a nice guy and from my experience this type of girl is too self-centered, confused, selfish and arrogant due to ... (read in full...)
Text interpretation?
Q. I have a text question. So I met this guy last week and we fooled around. That was on a Saturday night. So I get this text Thursday night that says "Still wanna hang out. We need to mess around soon". My response was "OK sure." So then Friday ...
A. 17 October 2010: I agree with the rest of the people! Your message sounded like you are not in a mood to hang out, that you wanna just go home and sleep.... (read in full...)
I don't want to associate with drug addicts anymore...but I just want some more friends
Q. this sounds well sad, but i dont have any friends! i mean ive got 1 or 2 literally thats it, theirs my best friend who i live with and our next door neighbour, my neighbours mental (i mean literally shes bi-polar and hears voices and makes things...
A. 17 August 2010: Always stick with your principles and beliefs no matter what the cost is and you will not loose in the long run! I guarantee that, 100% sure! Wise decision to stay away from drugs and drug addicts! Wise decision for saying “yes” to life and “no” to ... (read in full...)
My head is wrecked because of her...help!
Q. Hey people.My story is that is a ex of mine who i feel for is a real head messer.She has model looks but messed me about big time when we where together,she lied to me all the time and one week she would be nice the next nasty as hell to me.i loved ...
A. 27 July 2010: This girl is the devil in disguise! Stay away from her!! All she needs is attention, she always looks for you when no one else is around to tolerate her sick games and bad attitude. For your sake, erase her number and erase her from your life, only ... (read in full...)
I'm getting the feeling she's just ignoring me, but I have no idea why
Q. I've been talking to this girl for a while now and I really like her. I thought she liked me as well, so I told her how I felt and it turned out she wasn't looking for a boyfriend and she said she was sorry if she gave me the wrong impression. ...
A. 26 May 2010: Ignore her too! She got your messages, so don't try to excuse her that she might not got them or she was too busy to reply and all that! So, whatever her reasons, that's what she choose to do and that's what you should do too buddy. Get her off your ... (read in full...)
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