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Gift ideas for Christmas with no money to spend?

Q.   ok so christmas is around the corner and i dont have any money to buy gifts this year so any gift ideas that is free or cheap for family and boyfriend? Thanks!...

A.   14 December 2009: Just tell them "This Christmas all I can give you is my love" and give everyone the greatest hug and a big kiss! That's the greatest gift I think,it's free, honest, it comes from the heart and everybody who loves you will appreciate it. Cheers!... (read in full...)

I had never found my wife physically attractive so I left her for a woman I am attracted to

Q.   This is something I am really struggling with at the moment and am in desperate need of some advice. A couple of months ago, I announced to my wife of 2 years (been together seven years in total) that I didn't want to be with her anymore. The re...

A.   12 December 2009: I dissagree with rhythmandblues2. I understand how you feel, that's a trap a lot of men fall into. You go pass 30, you are with a get who is perfect on every aspect except the physical part and you try to ignore it, you are thinking "oh, physical ... (read in full...)

I love a girl from afar and she just ignores me!

Q.   Ok so im new to this web and im desperate. Im 13 going on 14 in march. I have liked this girl since second grade. Now that im in 8t grade I fell everyday she keeps slipping away. Shes dating people more popular and closer to her group and doesnt ...

A.   12 December 2009: Maybe you are just not her type. You are only 13, as you grow older you will realize that this happens often, some girls like you but they are not your type...you like some girls but you are not their type. It's no big deal really, you just train ... (read in full...)

He cheated with his ex, now we are FWB

Q.   i was with this guy for 8 yrs and then a year and a half ago I caught him cheating with his ex wife. he left and i moved out,and since then we have became friends with benefits. what i would like to ask is, i want to end it but i do not know how , ...

A.   12 December 2009: You don't have to tell him. Show him! Stop the FWB relationship and dissapean, avoid any contact with him. That's the only way to let go of someone you love. Best of luck!... (read in full...)

I can't be happy without a man in my life!

Q.   I can't stand being single anymore! I was involved with a guy for 9 months, not seriously but then he moved and our romantic relationship ended. It's been 3 months since he left and I'm still having trouble moving on. I know he wasn't that great, ...

A.   12 December 2009: Don't we all wish someday to find the ideal partner? But sometimes things don't come the way we wish. You have two choices. Find someone who is "just a guy", which i am sure it's not hard, who might not be the right one for you, but just for the ... (read in full...)

She's so perfect for me... I just don't find her physically attractive...

Q.   i was in a relationship with a girl that ended about 3 years ago, it was my longest relationship and most serious, we dated for about 2 1/2yrs. I didnt think i was happy with her, i thought i could find someone better, someone with which i was more ...

A.   12 December 2009: My friend... that is such a classic story, it happened to me numerous times. No matter how perfect she is for you, chemistry is absolutely a must for a healthy relationship. Of course as you get older and pass 30, some people would rather be in a ... (read in full...)

Help!! Confused and Hurting. How do you know if it's love? I don't know which guy!

Q.   I need serious help. I have been with this guy for almost 2 years. I love him, but Im not in love with him I dont think. Hes like in love with me though. We're like best friends and he's always been perfect. But With my ex I got butterflies and I ...

A.   12 December 2009: I don't know how good idea is to go back with your ex, because other than you feel butterflies for him, you don't really describe what type of a person he is. What I do know is that it's not right to remain in a relationship only because your ... (read in full...)

How can I make him hate her and love me instead???

Q.   i am sleeping with a guy who has a girlfriend that he cannot sleep with because of her religion. Anyways i am confused. people have told me that he is playing me and i think he is. he has said some really hurtful things to me like he loves her but ...

A.   12 December 2009: Are you serious? If you are indeed 26-29 age and not 15 years old, you can only be just a little excused by such attitude because, as you say, you are obsessively in love with this man and love can blur your mind. This man apparently is using you ... (read in full...)

Why does my ex hate me so much?

Q.   Why does my ex hate me so much? My ex just hates me. He's terrible. He spreads lies, stirs the pot with friends, loves a good drama scene, loves making me feel crazy...We're not togther anymore, and since the summer- we haven't even been in ...

A.   11 December 2009: I suspect he turned to be utterly heartless because he got utterly hurt, utterly dissapointed...... (read in full...)

I don't know how to tell to my hubby that I don't love him anymore

Q.   i am married and i felt i don't love my hubby since i gave birth to my first son. and we were married for 6 years now, and now i am having friends online, there is someone that caught my attention. he is way older than me, but i have feelings for ...

A.   11 December 2009: You can't be serious right? That's such a selfish thinking, you act as if your husband is a car that you bought brand new, you enjoyed driving it and after 6 years the new model comes up and you wanna trade it! You made your choice, you became a mom ... (read in full...)

She has a b/f, do I tell her I still like her and hope the feeling is mutual?

Q.   So, wen i was,like, 10, I lost contact w/ a girl who was realy important to me. She was my first kiss, first girl i ever had feelings for, and the first person who ever made me truely happy. It's been 3 years sinc I last talked to her, but, the ...

A.   11 December 2009: I would say for now just initiate contact and ask her to meet, don't mention anything about still liking her. Meet her and try to figure her out, how happy she is with her current boyfriend, why she contacted you after 3 years, maybe she missed ... (read in full...)

He keeps reminding me I messed him around in the past. Should I pursue it?

Q.   I have known this guy for 8 years, and we saw each other a few times and still in contact now even though we are in relationships. I previously messed him around alot in the past which he still reminds me of now. I like him alot and for the past...

A.   10 December 2009: Well obviously you hurt his feelings and the wounds are not healed yet. He kind of lost his trust since you messed with him. You need to try hard to prove him that you changed since then. I'm sure he still cares...but understand that his ignorance ... (read in full...)

Why is this guy behaving like this after our date?

Q.   we went on a date.. he kissed me.. he wanted to touch me up.. i didnt let him...(he got a bit distant) when i got home i rang him to tell him i had a nice time.. he said he did too..he said he would call me. didnt hear from him for 5days ...

A.   10 December 2009: I think this kind of behaviour is not acceptable. You don't try to put your hand on a woman on the first date and get pissed off because she won't let you. Just let go he is not worth to deal with him with such attitude.... (read in full...)

Will making peace with him confuse him even more?

Q.   Hi. Bit of a strange situation. A while ago I started having an affair with a guy at work and moved in with him after separating with my husband. About 6 months later another guy at work revealled that he had had a big crush on me for years and that ...

A.   10 December 2009: I was in a similar situration: Flirted with a girl at work, went out a few times, she said she wasn't interested for a relationship so i backed off. Ever since then, i kept distance, only basic chatting but like in your case, i catch her to keep ... (read in full...)

I still really like her but she's got a boyfriend now! What do I do next?

Q.   Hi, I have been best friends with this girl for a year now and I love her so much and she likes me to, we were rely close we used to spend all are time together and were constantly on the phone to each other. Shes been with her boyfriend for nearly ...

A.   10 December 2009: "Ask oldsister" is absolutely right man. What you do is get up an leave with no hard feelings, just accept the facts. She obviously viewed you as a friend matterial, not a bf and now she doesn't need your friendship, attention and comfort any more ... (read in full...)

I think I'm depressed, please help?

Q.   I am depressed. I have seven of the nine symptoms I found on a list about depression. I have a lot of relationship problems that aren't going to be fixed for a long time. I also have very little extra money and no health insurance. Wher...

A.   9 December 2009: Pray. When no one is around to hear, when nobody offers a hug for comfort, when everything seems to go wrong, when you feel so weak and incapable to take control on your own just kneel in a dark room, alone and do a prayer. I have no better advice ... (read in full...)

How can I find the right person?

Q.   well, I am 21, i so much want to be in a relationship, a serious one.i dont like to feel loneliness. I really want someone nice in my life. Can someone tell me where i can find the right person?...

A.   8 December 2009: Ha! Such an easy question but such a difficult answer. I'm sorry, at my 32 years I am still looking for this answer myself but I wish you best luck finding it soon.... (read in full...)

I need some flirting tips so I can get him running around after me!

Q.   i really like this boy, but the problem is that the other month i rejected him because i have some family issues and a boyfriend was the last of issues, but i let him down really badly. i want some tip on how to get talking to him again, so ...

A.   8 December 2009: I agree with Pinktopaz, don't play games. Little flirting games can be fun under some circumstances but in this case you already turned him down and dissapointed him. You are looking for a tactic to make it up not play games. Just tell him how you ... (read in full...)

She cheated on me a couple of days after we first started seeing each other... now I just feel sick!

Q.   I'm not really looking for help, because I don't think there's anything I could possibly do to make myself feel better. I just need a place to share my feelings. But if you want to offer some feedback, please do. About a month ago, I split up ...

A.   6 December 2009: "...agreeing (??) that if circumstances were ever better we might get back together", "She cheated on me a couple of days after we first started seeing each other", NEVER, EVER trust a woman so easily my friend. I see from your age that you are... (read in full...)

We have been together for 4 weeks and I am too lazy to have sex

Q.   My boy friend any I have only been together 4 weeks and have a great relationship and I'm very happy but every time it comes down to having sex I just can't be bothered to have sex. I enjoy having sex and especially with him but I have always been ...

A.   6 December 2009: Maybe you are just cold hearted, you never really learned to truly love someone, to find joy in giving and sharing and you just have this "default apathy". Maybe you developed this mechanism in the subconscious part of your mind to protect yourself ... (read in full...)

I know I love her but does she deserve it!

Q.   I have been in a relationship with this woman for a year and a half now. I found out about 4 months ago that she had slept with another man after we got into a fight and she stayed at a friends house. I broke things off immediately and tried to ...

A.   6 December 2009: Man, all these thoughts that go through you mind show that you are a very rational and mature person. This girl's slatish and unacceptable attutude and actions show a very week, unstable and selfish person that has learned to look for comfort in ... (read in full...)

He's my world... so why can't I say these 3 special words to him...?

Q.   i can't say i love him and i can't say i don't. let me explain. i'm so paranoid.i worry about things i shouldn't be worrying about and i overthink things. this has been going on for exactly a year and i'm worried and i'm loosing sleep and ug...

A.   5 December 2009: I think you love him indeed as you say but in the way you love your brother, your dad or a dear friend, you don't love him as a MAN. You say you feel save in his arms, he knows you very well, he listen to you and that's very comforting and ... (read in full...)

Have I just totally ruined any chance I ever had with him?

Q.   Hi, Help! I met this guy abroad. I thought he liked me as he asked me to exchange contact details. We did. I gave him a card which was about missing someone, with my details inside. He rang me after I arrived, to see if I landed safe...

A.   4 December 2009: No I don't think you ruined a chance with him. He was just interested to have you around to offer him your affection, attention and compassion for free...it's nice when someones comes forward and offers you all these and you just offer your ... (read in full...)

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