I'm getting the feeling she's just ignoring me, but I have no idea why
Q. I've been talking to this girl for a while now and I really like her. I thought she liked me as well, so I told her how I felt and it turned out she wasn't looking for a boyfriend and she said she was sorry if she gave me the wrong impression. ...
A. 26 May 2010: Ignore her too! She got your messages, so don't try to excuse her that she might not got them or she was too busy to reply and all that! So, whatever her reasons, that's what she choose to do and that's what you should do too buddy. Get her off your ... (read in full...)
Will he break up with me if we don't have sex?
Q. hi aunties and uncles. my bf wants to have sex with me. we have been going out for a year now. i don't want to because I am too young - plus there is a chance I could get pregnant, so I said no to him. BUT, he keeps touching me and kissing me and ...
A. 20 May 2010: YOU are feeling selfish for not giving him what he wants??? Girl you got it all wrong.It sounds to me he is the one who acts selfishly and good thing for you that at your age you are smart enough to act and think wisely. Your thoughts are so right! ... (read in full...)
Have I made the right decision to cut her out of my life?
Q. This is about as complicated as it gets, so I'll try to be as clear as possible - apologies for the length and the spelling/grammar errors below. The story goes: Back when I was 15, I met a girl in my home town. We fell in love, and start...
A. 11 May 2010: I've been in a similar situation once and I would say that yes, you are doing the right thing cutting her off. There's no need being around her, as she cannot give you what you are looking for. You made your point that you have feelings for her so, ... (read in full...)
How does one overcome bitterness, or should I say pettiness?
Q. I know a lot about myself and why I react a certain way to certain situations. But I want to know how I can overcome my pettiness complex. I am still twisted and angry that all the girls at school and university ignored me. Is this being petty? What ...
A. 11 May 2010: Cerberus is so right, I agree! To his comments I would add this: make peace with yourself, put away all the need for attention and affection because then you focus on how to make women like you and you are not being yourself. You are becoming ... (read in full...)
She cheated on her ex! Should I stay with her?
Q. I have a girlfriend and we are in a relationship since last six months. Her ex-boyfriend came to me and told me everything that existed between him and my girlfriend. They used to kiss a lot, even got physical but it was not proper. They were in a ...
A. 11 May 2010: I wouldn't break up with someone just because i suspect that she might have cheated on her ex! Instead I would just keep an eye on her, just be a little carefull for my own sake. That's all.... (read in full...)
Is she going overboard with the privacy?
Q. Why does my girlfriend countinue to talk shit to me when i get into her personal business when she is on her phone online and she ignores me when i ask her questions bout what she does or who she with?...
A. 3 May 2010: Simple! Because you allow her to do so. You put up with her disrespectful behaviour. If you do or say something she doesn't like she could simply talk it over with you. Talking shit and ignoring shows bad attitude! Be a man, for your own sake get ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to get advice about my marriage from a man I am attracted to?
Q. My husband and I haven't been seeing eye to eye on things recently,which causes us to fuss heatedly. I recently met a man who I can talk to and vent with. We are attracted to each other. Is it wrong to Get his advice?...
A. 10 March 2010: Probably. It won't be a realistic advice...You are biased and he is biased what are the chances a good advices come out of this? :)... (read in full...)
I'm over the fact that she left me, but not the resentment.
Q. To cut a long story short, my partner who I loved very much left me for another guy. This was 3 months ago. I have gotten over the jealousy and the feeling of sickness when I think about 'them' but I can't seem to shift the anger. I've tried to tell ...
A. 10 March 2010: Don't be angry man. We all have the right to make our choices...and also we often pay the price for the choices we make if they are bad. I don't know you, but if you consider yourself as a nice guy then too bad for her that she left you and good for ... (read in full...)
My bf is acting overly cheesy. How can I let him know it's a turn off without hurting him?
Q. Okay, so, my boyfriend is overly cheesy. At least, he says cheesy things all the time. And when I say all the time, I mean, at least 5 times a day. I'm a sucker for romantic things and everything, but this has grown to be too much. I mean, I'...
A. 13 January 2010: Poor man, if he keeps acting like this, eventually you will naturally loose interest and respect for him and eventually dump him, while he would be worndering what on earth he did wrong. He is just a little inexperience, you can't do anything about ... (read in full...)
I want to make her my family, how do I gain her trust?
Q. Hey how are you doing.. Ok I have this question... how do I get this female that I've been talking to actually give me a shot.. I mean she's been hurt in the past and she always tells me that she just needs time to find herself... but then sometimes ...
A. 9 January 2010: I don't think is a matter of trust rather a matter of chemistry and attraction. Imagine if Brad Pitt would make a move on her would she said to him "Oh, i don't trust you, let's take it slow i am not ready yet!" Of course not! It's clear. She just ... (read in full...)
How do you get someone out of your head?
Q. How do you get someone out of your head? I should not be thinking about a married man the way I do. It's a guy I have been friends with for about 10 years - from our early teen years. He's recently married and has a baby on the way. I always kind of ...
A. 9 January 2010: From my experience here's a list that worked for me when I was trying to get someone out of my head:
1) Minimize and do not initiate any contact
2) Stop daydreaming
3) Don't let your mind fly with thoughts, always be focus on something (e... (read in full...)
One day he's really attentive, the next day he ignores me! What's up with this guy?
Q. I have absolutely no idea what to think about this guy. This guy is the co-owner of a bistro that is next to my work, a place that I eat at when I work (I started because there's nowhere else to eat over a 30min. break in the area!) I'm 18 and I ...
A. 1 January 2010: Hmm, sometimes i use this tacktic as well when I like a girl or if I try to figure out if she is interested. I make one step forward, I act like your friend here, nice,talkative and a little charming and then a step back. I back off to see how she ... (read in full...)
Can I get an abortion at 14 without my parents approval?
Q. hello... 3 weeks ago i lost my virginity but we didnt use a condom and i went and got the morning after pill. but now i am sore and red and itchy in my virgina and i have white liquidy stuff coming out my virgina, it drips out when i use the b...
A. 31 December 2009: Girl, you need to talk to your parents immediadely!! They will find out sooner or later. You need their support on this, plus you cannot even afford a doctor at age of 14. Definately talk this with your parents. May God be with you.... (read in full...)
Unsure what to do...pregnant at 15!!
Q. well without a doubt im pregnat. 15 years of age thats the bad thing about it. with me being sexually active i had only one partner wich is my boyfriend. we have been together for two years now, and we always used a condom. i just dont know what to ...
A. 31 December 2009: Without a question you need to talk to your parents RIGHT NOW! They are the only people who can help you and advice you. They are gonna find out anyway. At the age of 15 you don't even have your own money to visit a doctor. Please ask your parents' ... (read in full...)
Why is my girlfriend lying to me?
Q. Okay, so I have a situation where I can hardly ever trust my girlfriend. We've been together for almost 2 years and I still findit hard to believe her. Sometimes she'll tell me she's busy at work, but then if I call her up 5 minutes later, I...
A. 31 December 2009: I think your girlfriend has issues and insecurities that have nothing to do with you. All these indicate a person who craves for attention. She tries to create a fake image around her self, i.e "I am a busy person, and look how popular i am in ... (read in full...)
I can't find a girlfriend, the issue is bringing me down, any help?
Q. I am good looking guy 27 yo , i have been told many times from different people that i am very good looking and i have friendly and down to earth personality , but the point is that no one interested on me anymore ,, i don't know why i feel ...
A. 28 December 2009: I think DoubleM got the wrong impression, you don't sound like gay. I think where you write "...but i cant found him" you wanted to say "...but i cant found HER", right? That's the case? Because it's important information.... (read in full...)
Am I worthless??
Q. Evening everyone.I just feel so worthless at the moment....You know how everyone has something they are good at? Well im rubbish at everything. I failed my driving test, i didnt get a work promotion despite working late and training up several ...
A. 27 December 2009: My dear. You will not find a single person who doesn't have his/her issues. For you is failing your driving test (I failed too by the way on the first time),a bf who doesn't propose (probably not your fault) and not being able to afford to live ... (read in full...)
Why do I always feel dead inside?
Q. I don't know why but I'm in my late 20's and just lack the motivation to do anything. I find everything boring. I've never had a GF and couldn't be bothered, I've never had sex because it feels like too much hard work to bother with. I feel tired ...
A. 25 December 2009: Luck of motivation can easily turn into depression if you are a weak character. Passing 30 I find myself a lot less motivated than 6-8 years ago but I know this situation is not mentally and physically healthy so I keep fighting it. Throughout this ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when she says this?
Q. what does it mean when a women you like says this to one of your friends? ", he is a lovely lad but im not sure if i like him in that way but i dont really know," Does that mean she only wants to be friends? ...
A. 24 December 2009: I'll translate that for you in the woman's mind: "I only like him as a friend, not as a boyfriend but I'll play a little confused so he gets a little hope that I might be slightly interested and he keeps pursuing me because I like the attention and ... (read in full...)
Can anyone make me feel better about this? I think porn has changed the way people perceive women.
Q. Hi. I had a boyfriend a few years back and we'd both never done anything with anyone. when i trusted him, i took my clothes of for the first time in front of him and the first thing he said was "Urgh, youre not like the girls off porn" I was very ...
A. 24 December 2009: My friend you are so absolutely right! Especially if you start watching at early teenage, when your soul is still pure and vulnerable. You get the wrong impression that how it's supposed to be, you get brain washed. You begin to think that there are ... (read in full...)
How can a woman stay with the man she's with, if someone better comes along?
Q. If women are turned on more and more as a guy gets more confident, wealthier, higher in status, famous, stronger, bigger, wittier, etc, how are they able to fall in love, and have a relationship without feeling like going off with a guy who is ...
A. 24 December 2009: I'll answer your question with a simple example: I drive a 10 year old Honda CRV but I can afford to pay cash to buy the new Mercedes CLK. I don't care! I love my old CRV, we've been through a lot of off road adventures together and endless hours ... (read in full...)
My ex has a new boyfriend, better in everyway than me. How am I supposed to get a girlfriend of equal looks?
Q. My ex and I, let's just say we were about equal in looks. I'm introverted (most of the time), and she likes extroverts. She got a new BF that is very socially confident, outgoing, charming, taller, and probably intelligent. Hands down, better than ...
A. 24 December 2009: Hey you don't have to find someone with equal looks to be as happy. You might meet someone who has a little less looks than your ex but a very charming, exciting personality and you end up having even better time with her. And also it doesn't ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to still be in love with someone a year after it ended?
Q. Is it normal for people to still be completely and utterly in love with someone a year after it ended? There's been no contact, I haven't seen him and yet I still think about him every second of every day and still can't help but beam when I talk ...
A. 23 December 2009: Yes, it's normal i think because you haven't found someone new yet. How long it takes? Maybe longer than you think if you keep being single for a while. Time tends to clean away the bad moments and you only remember the good moments and that's what ... (read in full...)
I think I made a mistake by breaking up with her, what should I do?
Q. Agony readers, I need the best advice here. I found a girl I truly and honestly love, we dated for roughly a year and a half... I lost my virginity to her... I felt I couldn't trust her so I broke up with her. My parents absolutely hate her, eve...
A. 22 December 2009: I've been in a very similar situation a few years back. I tell you with no regret pursue what you want, go back and tell her that you made a mistake, you are sorry and you want to give it another shot. Do it!! Just hope she is still available. ... (read in full...)
She thinks she loves me but we've never met and I'm just not feeling it.
Q. There's this girl I'm friends with. We've been friends for a while now but never met because she lives in a different country from me. We talk on the phone alot and have become really close. She tells me that she loves me, I'm the first boy to treat ...
A. 22 December 2009: Phylosopher F.Nietzche said "We are more in love with desire than THE desire". By this he meant that we are more in love with the idea of being in love with a person rather than being with this person. In her imagination you are the perfect man, she ... (read in full...)
My friends all encourage me to dump my girlfriend!
Q. hi, im 16 and all my guy friends say to dump my gf (of 7 months) i love her to bits and see us together for a long time. is this because guys my age are commitment phobes? or dont we care at this age? i certainly do, but i am more mature than most ...
A. 20 December 2009: Don't listen to your friends! I think at the age of 17 they luck the experience and maturity it takes to give someone such an important advice to dump his girl. If you are happy and love her that's good enough reason to be with her. End of story, ... (read in full...)
She's a party girl and I found messages saying I was boring
Q. 32 yr old male here...long story short..been with a girl 9 mo now and i love her deeply..we have been having some issues about her liking to go out alot more than i do and where we are at in our relationship. i recently found an e-mail from her to ...
A. 20 December 2009: You feel disappointed and betrayed don't you? Maybe she is bored with you indeed and that's fine, we cannot make those we love to love us back just because we love them so much. What I see wrong here is why wasn't she honest enough to talk to you ... (read in full...)
Dating a nice guy who's been treated badly, how do I proceed & make him trust me?
Q. I've been seeing a guy for a little while who is the stereotypical nice guy who gets dumped on. I'm quite mad about him and let him know how I feel, but he's quite withdrawn from me alot of the time and I can tell he's scared of getting hurt. ...
A. 20 December 2009: Be careful so you won't get heart. A nice guy who has been taken advantage of twice, can get very, very defensive which i find completely normal. His self-defence mechanism might take over and indicate him to keep a distance. So to answer your ... (read in full...)
Do I like my friend? Or do I just like the attention?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for two years, we now live together. I love him with all my heart, we never argue, are like best friends and my life would be pointless if he wasn't in it. This is why I cant understand why Im feeling the way I am. Rece...
A. 20 December 2009: I think you are at a point where you are taking your boyfriend for granted. Let me guess: he is one of those "nice guys" that never cause you any problems and he is always there to run and satisfy every request you have just to make you happy. If ... (read in full...)
My managers are asking me out and I'm afraid I'm going to get fired because I say no
Q. I would like to ask for your help to give me some piece of advice. I am working in a big company for 2 yrs now with more than 100 plus employees. I am a silent type of person and when at work I just do my job well but these past 6 months, managers...
A. 20 December 2009: I would spread a roomer that you already have a boyfriend, that you met him a few months ago, it started as friendship but now you are a couple. If they ask why didn't you tell them just say you were not sure about your feelings but now you are so ... (read in full...)
I want to have sex like I used to!
Q. I never used to have a problem having sex and i used to love it! Now i have a new boyfriend and everytime he goes near me i freak and move away! We have had sex a few times and it was good but he always has a go because i dont have an orgasim. I ...
A. 20 December 2009: I must agree with the anonymous reader below. I think your relationship lucks chemistry, at least on your part. Ok, maybe you love him, he is a great kid, he treats you nice and all that, but you don't feel attracted to him. Or perhaps is just a ... (read in full...)
My GF hangs out late drinking with her many guy friends...
Q. Hi, I'm not sure if this is me being insecure or overly protective. My girlfriend and I have been going out for 2 years. Recently in the past 2 months, she has been hanging with guy friend(s), I say this because she is not clear who she hangs ou...
A. 19 December 2009: I don't know if she plans to brake up with you soon,...maybe. What it's really obvious though is that this girl is very disrespectfull to you and acts very selfishly... as if you do not exist or as if you are unimportant to her. Don't tollerate such ... (read in full...)
Should I knock on his door or just leave well enough alone?
Q. Ok, hi everyone, im kinda really wanting to do this but not sure if its going 2 work or not, I was kinda seeing this guy and we stoped talking, he didnt reply 2 any of my text messeges or answer tho phone to me, But my problam is i cant stop t...
A. 19 December 2009: I am currently in a similar situation. This girl likes me, she texted me 2-3 times and I turn down her offers politely. The thing is, we men are simple: if we like you we will make it clear, and if we are not interested again we will show you! We ... (read in full...)
Have I become her slave?
Q. Ladyfriend asks me to do favors for her. When we're at my house she wants me to provide cocktails, snacks, movies, clean bathroom, clean bed, etc. But the favors are growing in scope. Now she has me fixing her house,hanging cabinets, fixing ...
A. 19 December 2009: Simple, I wonder why you don't see it! She is taking advantage of your kindness and naive character. Turn your back an leave, you don't need such friends... (read in full...)
Is she leading me on? Or confused?
Q. Hello, I recently have been hanging out with this girl on whom I am very interested in. She flirts with me constantly (touches me, playfully slaps me, she even sort of bit my shoulder). She gives me her number at work and I told her I'll call he...
A. 17 December 2009: Ahh my dear friend, you are too young and inexperienced to really see how manipulative women can be if they want to. You can be sure you lost this girl. Even if she had the slightest interest, once you revealed your true, honest feelings i guarantee ... (read in full...)
Does she like me more than a good friend or does she want more?
Q. Okay I started dating this girl about 2 to 3 months back. She's really nice and she is very attractive. Anyway after about a month of dating she said she wasn't in the right place at the time. She just wanted to be friends and she wished we coul...
A. 17 December 2009: I would say "Approach with caution!" Women can be very manipulative and snicky so i wouldn't be surprised if she is just playing games and just wants attention to satisfy her ego. Of course she could be interested indeed. I would go with her ... (read in full...)
I texted my wife's sister and she's no longer talking to me!
Q. i have this sexually fantasy of doing it with my wife's only and youngest sister. she's not pretty. dark, thin, small breasted and all but i am really turned on when i think of having sex with her. i texted her anonymously but she's very bright she ...
A. 15 December 2009: Shame on you. You don't just ask your sister in law to have sex with you, just because you want to. What kind of thinking is this, are you 15 or something? Wrong, wrong!... (read in full...)
I think my girlfriend is cheating on me, what should I do?
Q. What do I do when I think my girlfriend is cheating on me?...
A. 15 December 2009: Find out...and if your right show her the door to the exit! Respect!... (read in full...)
Will my dependency on sex workers affect any future relationships with women?
Q. I'm worried that my dependancy on sex workers might one day make it impossible for me to be in a real relationship with a woman I see strippers about 2x a week and visit prostitutes 3-4x a month. i also call sex phone lines or watch pornogra...
A. 15 December 2009: I can understand how you feel.I think your real problem, and you mention it somewhere, is not sex-related. You are just using paid sex to temporary fight loneliness and the luck of intimacy in your life. But that's the wrong approach. You are just ... (read in full...)
I want to date her but don't want to ruin the friendship in case she declines
Q. I met this girl about 4 years ago. But we never really spoke properly until about a year ago. For the last year, we have spoke basically every single day, sometimes for up to like 12 hours, but the problem is all this takes place on MSN and not in ...
A. 14 December 2009: Imagine if Martin Luther King thought the same way: "I have a dream...but I don't want to talk about it because it might be a stupid dream" :) I would say give it a shot. Best of luck!... (read in full...)
Gift ideas for Christmas with no money to spend?
Q. ok so christmas is around the corner and i dont have any money to buy gifts this year so any gift ideas that is free or cheap for family and boyfriend? Thanks!...
A. 14 December 2009: Just tell them "This Christmas all I can give you is my love" and give everyone the greatest hug and a big kiss! That's the greatest gift I think,it's free, honest, it comes from the heart and everybody who loves you will appreciate it. Cheers!... (read in full...)
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