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writes:so i'm trying to get a read on this girl who i've been the best of friends with for years. she's living with and dating someone else, but i still believe there may be some hidden meaning behind the things she says to me. and let me go ahead and say that i don't condone cheating; not at all. but i've liked this girl practically since the day we met. and second, nothing has ever directly happened between us. and i never would allow it to happen unless she left her partner first. but i'd like to get some opinions as to what people believe her intentions may be.to start, when she's at home with her partner, she never really says anything out of the way. but once she's alone, it starts to pour out of her. we started texting one another for a while tonight and i am going to post some of the things she wrote me and would like some interpretation or feedback as to whether anyone believes it's purely for fun or if it's more.we were discussing how we had known each other for over three years now and she remembered the month was march when we first met. so she joked that we had just had our three year anniversary recently. and we were discussing how we had hit it off immediately and she said that we were a match made in heaven. she then asked if there were any new hot people that worked at my job. i told her there were in fact a bunch of new attractive people just hired there. she proceeded to respond with "really??! wow don't replace me with another girl! :(" next in line she mentioned how she never wants to live alone because she gets so paranoid when she's by herself. and she said that if her and her partner break up, she's coming to live with me. she then went on to tell me she was getting sleepy and needed to go to sleep. i told her okay and that we needed to plan a time to see one another (she moved about 4 hours away). she agreed and then mentioned that she sleeps naked and joked that i should come visit her right then.okay so i sound about fifteen, but the thing is, this is just driving me insane not knowing if she's just playing or if she means these things. advice please.
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (15 May 2011):
 Hi
It sounds like she really has the hots for you!! you dont joke about being naked if your only freinds. Maybe she has felt she couldn't tell you before becuase she dont want to ruin the freindship, but now her feelings are coming to surface and she is letting you know in a playfull way. Asking about new girls in the work place is a sure sign of " hey I really like you, when are you going to notice"..I would ask her straight, would you like it if we were more than just freinds, or are you just playing? because you obviously would like this to be more. Does she tell you how she feels about her currant BF? is she happy in their relationship? has she hinted that thngs are not working out? Because you also would not like to be her re-bound. If she does break up with her BF I would suggest you still remain freinds for a while so she has her greiving time, and then go for it :) feel free to message me anytime if you need any more advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2011): It sounds like she's either confused about you or she is just flirting (harmlessly in her eyes). Especially the bit where she said she sleeps naked and she wants you to join her, that's a bit risque and obvious! I couldn't guess her intentions as women are ridiculously confusing, I don't even think they know what they want half the time!! I suggest you weigh up how much you want to tell her with how much your friendship means to you. Or whether you can even keep your feelings secret. She sounds like she's already contemplated something going on between you two so perhaps she wouldn't be surprised at all if you sat down and chatted with her. Either way, good luck I wish you the best :) xx
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reader, adamantine  +, writes (15 May 2011):
 She's obviously flirting with you.. but I wouldn't take it as more than that. Be her friend if she needs/you want, but leave it at that until she is out of a relationship.
The only way you can ever possibly know whether she has feelings for you or not is if you come out and ask her.
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