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writes:hey everyone, so if u havent read my past questions, i am 17 and i have a 16 year old boyfriend. we dated from august 22,2009 to may 17,2010. we broke up then because he cheated on me. . .but we got back together in december 22,2010 and we are still together. well, around april 15th, i found out i am pregnant. as of right now, i am 11 weeks pregnant. i just moved in with my boyfriend and his mom. his family loves me, but i dont think he really does. . . he claims to, and gets mad wen i dont believe him, but the fact that he hurt me so badly before kills me and i cant get over it and i have serious trust issues now because of it. any time we are apart for more than a few minutes i find myself wondering and worrying if he is secretly talking to another girl. . .i have the most awful dreams about him hurting me and leaving me and everything and the thoughts just haunt me. i find myself growing depressed actually, which i know is not good considering i am pregnant and still in the first trimester. . .and i would just really appreciate some help and advice on anything and everything right now. . .i know its alot to read, but thats not even half of it. . .he is constantly making me feel like shit without even meaning to. whenever i get mad or upset i can never talk to him about any of it because all it does is get him so mad that i end up crying knowing he is that mad at me. . .i just need to figure out what to do about us and get it all fixed before this baby comes. . .i dont want to be this confused and depressed with a baby to take care of.. .so please, help. thank you for ur time and i hope someone has advice for me out there. . .
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (22 June 2011):
 so are you with him because of you and him or because of the baby?
staying with someone because of your children is never a good idea...
sounds to me like he is giving you reasons not to trust him...
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reader, angelc +, writes (20 June 2011):
angelc is verified as being by the original poster of the question whoever you are "anonymous" person, you're not helping at all. i posted the question for help, not for stupid people to give me hurtful answers. and selfish? i should be seeing as he is MY man and i shouldnt have to SHARE. . .being in a relationship is supposed to be selfish if ur talking about sharing ur partner, duh! so uh, ur answer was not helpful. it was a really asinine answer and was not appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2011): well, i still say that you need to have more proof than that. and i think that you are just being an over reactive selfish prego girl. and you should let him do him, and you do you.
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reader, jager1234 +, writes (23 May 2011):
Sit down and have a talk with him about what you feel like happened over the weekend. Tell him that you talked to the girl. Confront him face to face. Catch him off guard. Depending on how the conversation goes,.I would leave him. If you werent pregnant id tell you to leave him no matter what.
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reader, adamantine  +, writes (23 May 2011):
 You need to trust your gut on this one.
Why don't you leave him? Why are you staying with him if he's causing you unnecessary grief? Are you sure you want to keep this baby? Even if you did stay with him, you guys have gotten pregnant (it seems by accident). He's probably going to resent the child cause he might feel like his life has gone down the drain.
I really don't think you should stay with him. What kind of guy goes away for a weekend, takes another girl, then bags out the mother of his child to said girl? That's so low.
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reader, angelc +, writes (23 May 2011):
angelc is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeah but last weekend he went to spend the weekend with his dad and i found out that he had some girl he had been texting alot go with them. . .and he said to me that he didnt even like this girl and i messaged her on facebook and she said he was flirting and calling her cute and saying he regrets getting me pregnant and being with me. . .thats one thing that scared the shit out of me. . .i dont know wut to do in this situation. . .i have the strongest feeling he did shit with her or at least kissed her last weekend but dont have any proof and if i did have proof id prolly end up getting so upset i hyperventilate and pass out and possibly harm the baby with doing so. . .im jus so scared. . .i need more help than this, guys!? pls?
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reader, adamantine +, writes (21 May 2011):
You need to sit and talk to him properly about this. If you two can't even sit together and have a conversation, how do you expect to spend the rest of your life with him, and this baby? Communication is crucial, and he's not going to know he's making your feel like shit unless you tell him. And if he then goes on to make you feel BAD for bringing this up, that's called emotional abuse.Can I just ask, why are you even with him? Would you still be with him if you hadn't fallen pregnant? I don't know if it would be healthy for a baby to grow up in that kind of environment. You should confide in your close family/friends if you ever have any problems, and if you feel yourself getting depressed, maybe see a counsellor. Just remember that this is a person you're bringing into the world. You need to love it as much as you love yourself. Don't let this kid walk all over you.. you deserve to be treated so much better than that, especially now that you have this life inside of you.
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reader, jager1234 +, writes (21 May 2011):
It sounds like to me that you are still stuck on the past. He cheated on you before, your worrying he's still doing it. Hes allowing you to live with him, that says a lot. Give him a chance. Some trust, don't dwell on the past. It will never work. Let go of what happened in the past and trust him, if he is cheating you will catch him eventually. Trust him til he gives you an obvious signal that he is cheating. I don't know all the things he's done to make u think he's cheating but from what you've said I think your just worrying too much because of the past.
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