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What qualifies me to help you? Vast dating experience, especially in the LDR department, even an international on with an Aussie, broke hearts, had mine broken, been engaged once before, I know what a real friend is, seen the ugly side of divorce coming from a recently broken home myself, even went as far as to tip the odds to my side and use men only to toss them aside like yesterday's garbage like they do women, I know what it's like to almost give up hope on finding the perfect man when he's really only a few boyfriends away, and I'm starting to learn the ropes of married life. I also know a vast deal about the female and male reproductive system, and all about the mental struggles with infertility. On a side note, I'm the one who gives you tough love, I'm not on here to sugarcoat it or to tell you what you want to hear. I'm going to give it to you straight up, wouldn't you rather the truth?
-TOP 5 QUESTIONS I CAN'T STAND-
#1. Does this mean my teacher likes me?
Just because they're nice to you, offer extra help, and put a little gold star on your A+ paper doesn't mean they are in love with you.
#2. Could I be pregnant?
Have you not heard of a pregnancy test? Get off this website, and go to your local drugstore.
#3. I'm 14 and I want a baby?
Really? Me too! Oh wait I'm 28 and married. You're how old again?
#4. My husband loves porn more than me!
Maybe if you didn't let yourself go into the frumpy woman you have turned into then he wouldn't have to look at porn now would he? I recommend you get your rear to the salon for highlights, manicure, pedicure, tanning, toss the baggy tees and sweat pants for a wardrobe that fits, and a little makeup goes a long way. It's called basic woman maintenance in order to keep your man's eyes on you.
#5. Will we get back together, how can I get him to love me again?
Unfortunately, my crystal ball is broke at the moment and I just gave away the last of my love potion No. 9. Sorry.
MY GENERAL RULES OF THUMB (this should be common sense)
-No means no.
-Girls can ask out ask guys, this is a new generation.
-Unless you know sign language or are telepathic, you're going to have to talk to him/her.
-My "Don't ask, Don't tell" policy as is follows: Do not by any means volunteer your own sexual history, or ask your date/partner/wife/girlfriend their magic number (how many people they've slept with). If you find yourself being prompted to answer this question, politely tell them that's none of their business.
-Your past doesn't define who you are today. We grow, mature, age, and change as time passes.
-If you have to even ask random strangers on this website if you should have sex, then you're not ready for it.
-FWBs, fuck buddies, no strings attached, whatever you want to call it..is not a relationship don't get the 2 confused. In this case, sex=sex, not love.
-No trust=no relationship.
-It is normal for your husband/boyfriend to have friends of the opposite sex, do you not have male friends?
-LDRs can work, however they're not for everyone. You've got to have trust, communication, be faithful, and a lot of hobbies to keep yourself occupied. If you have trust issues, a case of being needy, clingy, problems staying faithful and are in a LDR don't be surprised when it doesn't work. I told you so.
- An ex is an ex for a reason. If you guys couldn't hack it as a couple the first 2 times what makes you think the third time is a charm?
-Going on a "break" is a nice way of breaking up.
-If you have sex with a man and he hasn't called you, or responded to your texts in weeks sorry to say but he was just after a piece of ass.
- Now unless he's getting blown up in Afghanistan, an on call ER doctor, or lying dead in a coffin then he's got no excuse for his poor or lack there of communication.
-You have a 12% chance of your married boyfriend leaving his wife and children.
-A man who is going through a divorce is still legally married. He's about to have an ex wife and you're wanting to get into a relationship with him? That's called a rebound.
-If you're a minor who's just found out she's pregnant, do me and everyone else on this site a favor..Tell your parents.
-Just because some one stares at you, it doesn't mean they like you. They could be staring at that booger hanging out of your nose.
-If you have a lump/bump/cyst/rash that looks green, has oozing puss, and itches like hell, but kinda looks like a STD then you had better consult your doctor. They went through 6 years of schooling and have a license to practice medicine, I think they would know better than random virtual strangers.
-Don't mix business with pleasure. Why? Because if you date your co-worker and in the event things turn sour then you're still stuck facing them 9-5, Mon-Fri. Awkward.
-No matter how hard you try, you can't change a person..they have to make that transformation themselves.
-When your boyfriend/girlfriend says they want space that doesn't mean you do the opposite and bombard them with calls/texts.
-As far as ultimatums go, don't try to make your boyfriend choose between you, his female friends, or weed. You won't like the results.
-If you're 13-17, I'm sorry but you haven't a clue what love really is. You have minimal dating experience confined to the high school dating pool which are nothing but horny boys. Their facial hair doesn't make them a man. It's only till you get out into the real world, a vast dating pool is when you learn the definition of love. So, go on thinking you and 13 year old Tommy will go on to get married, have 3 kids, and a two story house with a white picket fence. I don't expect you to listen, I'm 28 and married, what do I know? There's a reason why everyone says it won't last..because it doesn't.
-The average penis size erect is 6 inches, 4.85 inches. Women like average to even a little below average. We're not going to bust out a tape measure and measure it to make sure it's up to our standards. We just want to have sex, so enough complaining about your size let's get down and dirty.
- The legal age of consent in the U.S. is 16-18 varying oer state, in Britain it's 16. I think it's safe to say most parts of the world (unless you live in a tribe with their own form of government) the legal age to consent to sex is 16. So yes, all you minors below the age of consent are committing a crime when you engage in sexual activity. The age is set that high for a reason, you are not above the law. |
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Is she just saying what she thinks I want to hear?
Q. I have been dating this woman for about 6 months now. I liked her a lot from the beginning but that feeling of love wasnt there at first. Over the last couple of months I have fallen for her more and more. Last week we were lying in bed and I ...
A. 9 October 2010: See, told you so! Your in like flint!... (read in full...)
12 years together, am I just wasting my life?
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A. 14 September 2010: So you guys are more or less, longtime boyfriend/girlfriend? If this is the case, then I think it is a little to late in the game to be going "dutch". Tell him you don't have the money to spare, and ask him if you could pay him back. If the $ really ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend won't talk to me.
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A. 11 September 2010: Oh I forgot to add one more thing I was rather appalled that one of the reasons she broke up with you because you didn't ask about your feelings! WTF, you can't read her mind..she expects way too much out of men, probably why she's divorced. Oh a ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend won't talk to me.
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A. 11 September 2010: Yayyy, I think you're making a break through here! So proud of you. You do have a smidgen of relationship experience but a little more couldn't hurt just to help you out of that shell. Hey, I was serious when if I was single I'd give you a ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend won't talk to me.
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for a week less than two months. We met online (we only live a few miles from each other though) and began texting each other a lot, usually until 2 to 3am. We met in person maybe a week after talking and ...
A. 10 September 2010: Good, good. It sounds like she's possibly wanting to work on being friends. Drop the relationship talk..just focus on normal routine. What do you think I'm going to say?? Don't text her like she didn't text you..she wants you to keep up the ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend won't talk to me.
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for a week less than two months. We met online (we only live a few miles from each other though) and began texting each other a lot, usually until 2 to 3am. We met in person maybe a week after talking and ...
A. 10 September 2010: Reply to her but be vague....especially don't text her right after she texts you. If she wants you she will come to you. We're women we jump when we get a text, or a phone call. And usually it's hard for us to keep our little fingers off the ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend won't talk to me.
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for a week less than two months. We met online (we only live a few miles from each other though) and began texting each other a lot, usually until 2 to 3am. We met in person maybe a week after talking and ...
A. 9 September 2010: Go without texting/ talking to her for 2-4 weeks..then send her a friendly text nothing more, nothing less than "Hi, how are you". Leave it at that, work on giving her a lot of space. The worst you could do is bombard her with texts, calls, and ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend won't talk to me.
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for a week less than two months. We met online (we only live a few miles from each other though) and began texting each other a lot, usually until 2 to 3am. We met in person maybe a week after talking and ...
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Boyfriend said he needs to take a "break"
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A. 8 September 2010: Ah everyone is telling you to end it for a reason..That's a majority vote there. Agony aunts and uncles are on here to give you good advice, never bad advice. You're wanting someone to tell you what you want to hear, sorry but so far that isn't ... (read in full...)
How to get rid of acne quickly and naturally?
Q. Dear cupids, I am getting really upset about my acne, no girls like me because of it and it depresses me, I wash everyday and wash my face 3 times a day with soap and water, I don't want to use cream etc as I've tried them already, I just ant to ...
A. 7 September 2010: If you have acne then you will need special cleansers..I'm not sure what they have in Italy, but hit the drugstore and go over to your Face care aisle and start looking for acne care products. They will say it right on it, for guys they use ... (read in full...)
Is she just saying what she thinks I want to hear?
Q. I have been dating this woman for about 6 months now. I liked her a lot from the beginning but that feeling of love wasnt there at first. Over the last couple of months I have fallen for her more and more. Last week we were lying in bed and I ...
A. 7 September 2010: There is no gray area of love. It's either black or white, you either do or you don't. Now if she's around your age range of 36-40 you guys have grown out of infatuation. What's she's saying is she feels it's too soon to say those 3 words, and she's ... (read in full...)
Magic Number - 5 too many?
Q. I told a close (male) friend of mine my magic number the other day (5). He seemed to think it was pretty high. I can account for these: 1. first time 2. 3 yr relationship 3. short relationship 4. 1 night stand 5. current relationship. I hav...
A. 7 September 2010: No 5 is not high at all. I'm 25 and mine stopped at 16, well I risk sounding like a whore on here..mine rose after I called off my engagement whom I've been with for 4 years the last year no sex at all, well that can aid a girl in making irrational ... (read in full...)
Help!!! What can I say to ask her out?
Q. I met a girl at a house party 2 weeks ago, we got on really well but I never got her number. However I managed to be added by her on facebook (she even sent me a message before I could). I want to ask her out but I don't kow how to when the only way...
A. 7 September 2010: I can work with this..She stalked you on Facebook, friend requested you, and even sent the first message. Very good sign, this chick is definitely into you so asking her out will be a cinch. Age is just a number, you're only 2 years younger and I'm ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to feel as though you're not going to find a good person to be with?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm 18 and I feel as thought i'm not going to find a good guy to be with. I know you're probably thinking that i'm young and i shouldnt be worrying about boys right now because i should just be having fun with my friends and enjoying ...
A. 7 September 2010: Yes!!! I felt this way all the way up to my marriage at 25. For some people it takes longer than others, some it may never happen, and those girls who have boyfriends it doesn't always last. Guys will come and go throughout your life, it's best to ... (read in full...)
12 years together, am I just wasting my life?
Q. Hi,I last wrote moaning that my boyfriend ignored my birthday. Here I am again. We've been together 12 years and have a son.I am down 'cos Christmas is coming and I know it'll be another disappointment, not the fact that I wont get any presents, but ...
A. 7 September 2010: You know it sounds like there is other problems in your marriage other than you not receiving presents on your birthday or on holidays. 12 years is a lot to invest in marriage, plus you have a son...now to me marriage is sacred you took those vows ... (read in full...)
When someone says they are thinking of you, opinions please!
Q. When someone says they are or have been thinking of you is it considered: 1) friendly 2) relationship material or 3) quit making a big deal of it? I don't want to go into details in my case, I want to see other people's opinions and their...
A. 7 September 2010: 2. Usually when I hear that it's coming from a guy I'm interested in, dating, or a current flame. However, I never said it to another guy..I say it to my husband when he is away from me going to schools for his training in the army. So whenever I ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend said he needs to take a "break"
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 13 months. He lives in California, and I live in Maryland. We've had a long distant relationship for 13 months, and haven't seen each other once. We've never really seemed to mind it, as long as were ...
A. 7 September 2010: You have never met him in person? Or you haven't seen him since being in this relationship in which I'm curious as to how this relationship transpired? Here's the secret to a successful LDR..communication without the relationship is pretty much over ... (read in full...)
How can I get her to initiate sex more?
Q. Hi - I have been seeing my girlfriend for 18 months. When we first started our relationship we had sex frequently, however, recently we only have it once a week. This is partly due to me working away during the week, however, my girlfriend doesnt ...
A. 7 September 2010: It's just that unwritten rule that you have to give in order to receive..
Hmmm 18 months, your sex life shouldn't be dwindling already. If she's a student stress from school used to kill my sex drive, and also I find if you start that rela... (read in full...)
Help, my man cheated on me.. with a man!
Q. Heres my story. I started dating my best friend of several years just about a year ago. Everything was going fine untill a few months ago when he started agruing with me over everything. He is always canceling plans and ditching me to go do drugs ...
A. 7 September 2010: Ok let's take a minute to accept that your boyfriend is gay. Now, that we've accepted that he no longer likes vagina, it's time to end the relationship if it isn't already over. He's cheated on you 5 times so I'm thinking it's definitely over. After ... (read in full...)
My girlfriends period was short! could she be pregnant?
Q. Hi My Girlfriends period is very short however in saying that what are the chances of her falling pregnant in the middle of her period? She told me that her period did not end as it normaly does, Could this mean that she is pregnant?... whe...
A. 7 September 2010: You know I've found out that your periods change over time. My period used to last for the whole 7 days and now it just goes for 4-5 then I'm done. If she was a week late and all she did was spot I would definitely take a test..Or some women have a ... (read in full...)
Should I contact my ex or wait for her to initiate communication?
Q. I broke up with my ex girlfriend 5 and a half months ago. Realized I was an idiot, tried to get her back immediately but she started dating someone new and didn't want me back. I haven't spoken a word to her in about 2 and a half months, and I still ...
A. 7 September 2010: I'll tell you right now she's not going to initiate contact with you. Women don't often want to cross that line because it can get really gray..We don't know what your thinking if you want to give us a shot again, do I want to get rejected, or is ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid to touch my genitalia!
Q. I have never had sex, or even masturbated. I have tried but I cant. For awhile I was scared to look at my genitalia but I am slowly getting over that fear, I still cant look at it freely. I know the body is a very beautiful gift but for some reason ...
A. 7 September 2010: To explore things take one of those handheld mirrors, spread your legs a little, stick the mirror between your legs and tilt it to where you can see your area. Then proceed to check out what you have, to find your clitoris spread your vagina a bit ... (read in full...)
How should I tell my friend what's going on?
Q. Ok so we had a fair and my best friend really wanted a big stuffed animal. I won it a little later and I was about to give it to her but then she ran away and said she had to meet her mom. She texted me later and asked me if I left and I said yes. ...
A. 7 September 2010: That's very silly to fight over a stuffed animal that will probably end up at Goodwill 3 years later. Back off your friend for a day, let her come to her senses that she is getting mad over a stuffed animal that you were going to give to her anyway. ... (read in full...)
Wife and sex toys!
Q. So I need some advice. My wife and I have been married for 18 years and have 3 kids. About a year or so ago, some of my wife’s girlfriends were all talking about vibrators and my wife admitted to being a “vibrator virgin”. Her girlfriends told...
A. 7 September 2010: Women often have that private drawer in a nightstand next to their bed, or in the dresser with the panties...I understand where she is coming from wanting to keep it separate from usual sex..and believe it or not they are addicting and do give you a ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend won't talk to me.
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for a week less than two months. We met online (we only live a few miles from each other though) and began texting each other a lot, usually until 2 to 3am. We met in person maybe a week after talking and ...
A. 7 September 2010: That issue is part of who she is..something only she can work on..If you leave things bottled up for so long they always come exploding out and not in a good way. I know women like this and they are often divorced or bounce from relationship to ... (read in full...)
He is married and I want him, not just as an affair!
Q. TO START IT OFF .I MEET HIM AT MY OLD HIGH SCHOOL... I KNEW HE WAS MARRIED.HE IS MARRIED AND I HAVE A WE AND THE FATHER OF MY CHILD BEEN TOGETHER FOR 5 YR.AND HE HAS BEEN MARRIED FOR 6 YEAR.ME AND (BILLY) MARRIED MAN HAS MADE AGREEMENT TO HAVE NO ...
A. 7 September 2010: He's a cheater, he isn't going to leave his life of a wife and 2 kids to continue something with you. One it's because of the fact he wants his children to have a mother and a father as normal life as possible, or the relationship is lacking in one ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend just left me and I want her back. How should I proceed?
Q. My girlfriend just recently left me. She danced around a couple of reasons such as her issues, she pushed me away, etc... But in the end she said I was a really great guy, a really great boyfriend, but she wants to be single. We dated for almost...
A. 7 September 2010: Even after a recent breakup we often wonder what the ex is doing, so this is nothing but a "keeping tabs" on you so to speak. "Hi, what are you doing, oh you went to the bar, who did you go with, blah, blah"..you get the idea..We don't want to hear ... (read in full...)
I am afraid I may lose my friends if I brake up with him!
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been in a relationship with the same guy for a little over 5 years, we used to have sex all of the time but over the last two years I have lost interest in having sex with him. I'm not sure what to do about it, I know it's caus...
A. 7 September 2010: Dear, this all happened to me around 23, I was scared shitless didn't know if I could break it off, kept being in denial over it for about a year then, it all blew up in my face...You get a plan, walk away with your head held high and lesson ... (read in full...)
I need advice about what to do right now in regards to seeing my b/f
Q. my boyfriend is 2 years older than me and is a bout to start thinking about college. hes still got senior year but hes working on stuff. i support him in everything he does including his band which is practically his life. We had this talk about how ...
A. 7 September 2010: I didn't say it wasn't going to work, neither was my answer negative...I'm 25, been to college went into college engaged..so I know how this works. Give him a break he's busy, you can talk to him and tell him you feel a little left out. But that ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend won't talk to me.
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for a week less than two months. We met online (we only live a few miles from each other though) and began texting each other a lot, usually until 2 to 3am. We met in person maybe a week after talking and ...
A. 4 September 2010: She was at least separated when you guys started to date, right? Here's the thing about this situation..
1. This woman is going through a divorce and what I'm reading about her this relationship/dating has progressed pretty fast.
2. She's not read... (read in full...)
I am afraid I may lose my friends if I brake up with him!
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been in a relationship with the same guy for a little over 5 years, we used to have sex all of the time but over the last two years I have lost interest in having sex with him. I'm not sure what to do about it, I know it's caus...
A. 4 September 2010: My apologies I misread that part. What concerns me most is the lack of proposal and not telling everyone you're engaged. Honey when you get engaged even your man wants to tell the whole world!! Even though guys try to get out of planning the wedding ... (read in full...)
Pregnant and the father is cheating and unsupportive!
Q. Ok, I'm 22 and pregnant with twins. I also hav a 8 year old son. Right now my life is crazy,and I'm hoping not 2 lose my mind. My boyfriend at first was there 4 me. Now that I'm 4 months pregnant he jus doesn't care at all. He's cheating, doesn't ...
A. 4 September 2010: Good for you! Concentrate on making you, your son, and your babies happy he will pay up in due time that's the only support you need from him. There is other people in your life that will give you the love and support you need, they're friends and ... (read in full...)
He says he likes me, but dates other girls, whats going on?
Q. So I like this guy in school but I've never talked to him in person. I only text him and he says he likes me and says I'm hot. but then he just goes out with a bunch of other girls. I'm so confused. And he knows i like him but..i don't know I'm just ...
A. 3 September 2010: You can try but even those girl friends he has he will still flirt with like no other because that's how he is. Giving you false hope he's into you, you'd have to really control your feelings. And that's hard to do at your age.... (read in full...)
Is having lasting pain from losing my virginity normal?
Q. Me and a guy i know were messing around earlier yesterday and ending up "doing things". I was a virgin until he put his penis inside me. I told him to stop so he did but then he put it back in and we had sex but it was only about a minute ...
A. 3 September 2010: To cure those back pains put a heating pad on your back and take some Aleeve back and body pain.... (read in full...)
Too big a change in the relationship. Why?
Q. Hi me and my bf have been together almost two years..In the beginning it was absolutely wonderful. So romantic he showered me with attention. Even had our problems with jealousy and trust issues for the last for months. I recently went to riverside ...
A. 2 September 2010: When the cat's away the mouse will play.
First thing that jumped out at me was he was fine this whole time until you came back from riverside..that tells me there is someone else. He's not necessarily cheating but there is someone who he has take... (read in full...)
Will he text me back?
Q. Basically, me and my boyfriend broke up a few days ago... I cried for hours, it basically ruined my vacation... I still feel like crap... Basically because I'm very lonely as it is... I don't really have any friends to my name, I didn't depend on ...
A. 2 September 2010: Well sweetie you need to get yourself some friends, you need some girls to help you through a break-up...teenage boys just don't do the job sometimes. They threaten to beat the other up and that makes us laugh but you need a comforting shoulder to ... (read in full...)
Should I try anal? Does it hurt?
Q. Dear cupid. I cant stop thinking about receiving anal sex do you think i should go ahead and have it Does it hurt very much the first time as I never went all the way before with a man ...
A. 2 September 2010: If a guy is pressuring you into having anal sex then no..Or if you are just really curious and you happen to be with a man you really like who requests then give it a whirl. Everyone is different, my first time was horrible this guy wanted to go ... (read in full...)
Is having lasting pain from losing my virginity normal?
Q. Me and a guy i know were messing around earlier yesterday and ending up "doing things". I was a virgin until he put his penis inside me. I told him to stop so he did but then he put it back in and we had sex but it was only about a minute ...
A. 2 September 2010: Actually, my first time was just like yours..I made him stop it hurt so bad and I was sore the rest of the week..Sex didn't start to feel good until after the third week of having it. It may have to do with your boyfriend's size as well. Give it ... (read in full...)
Do girls like public hair?
Q. Do girls like pubic hair?...
A. 2 September 2010: Since I know men don't like to shave it all off because they'd rather keep all their crown jewels...Plus I couldn't imagine navigating around the curves, and wrinkles of the ball sac, seems very difficult. I think a trimmed genital area is perfectly ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant by my younger b/f, I don't want him, or the baby.
Q. need help fast! I am a 30 year old female and have a boyfriend that is 21 I just found out i was pregnant he doesn't no yet because I didn't want this to happen he already made it clear that he want's a baby by me but lately I have been having a ...
A. 2 September 2010: I'm sorry if I came off as trying to make you feel bad about an abortion. Just trying to get you think of the other options and take it into consideration. Ultimately you're going to do what you want but all I'm saying is really think it through. ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me because I had sex with an ex but it was BEFORE I was with him!
Q. im a girl 16 years old.. i met this guy he is in my school in class 10 and im in 11... we started to talk to each other and became very good friends and love happened.. before him i had 4 boyfriends and had sex with one of them... he loves me ...
A. 2 September 2010: Have you tried talking to him? Well, tell him that you learned from your mistake and that you have already changed tell him that you will prove it. Ask him to give you a trial of like 1-2 months and let him monitor how much you've changed. ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm literally going nowhere
Q. NOD NOTE: OP's own title: I'm basically stuck in the game called life. I'm 23 and I just don't know what I'm supposed to be. Basically my life is like an endless cycle of failure (on my part). After highschool I went to college, got stuck doing some...
A. 2 September 2010: Yeah, I can't step on other people to get to the top, it's just not my style either. Even though I am competitive..Commission based jobs are never good, because you never know how you're going to make unless you're really that good in talking people ... (read in full...)
We've been together for three years, what does he mean by "Let's lay low"?
Q. dating this guy for 3 years,after a 2 days getaway, he said lets lay low, no text, i will text you thursday or friday and will have lunch. what does it mean him saying lets lay low after a weekend getaway? ...
A. 2 September 2010: Did you go on this getaway with him? If so it could mean let's take time to relax after a getaway. However if he was on this getaway solo then he's either met someone else or this isn't what he wants anymore and a break-up is on the horizon. I agree ... (read in full...)
After our troubled relationship, why would he buy me such an extravagant gift?
Q. i really need to know how this guy i work with feels about me. when he started i was there for him always and have helped him no end over the past year. i have liked him since day one. anyway the last few months hes grown distant and become very ...
A. 2 September 2010: Sounds like he bought you a netbook to pay for your listening services..to make things square. He doesn't see to realize that you like him. I think you need to come out with it and keep the netbook. ... (read in full...)
He ended it, but now he wants to get back together - on HIS terms. What should I do?
Q. I've been in a long term, long-distance relationship with a guy who basically controls me. I can't do anything without him knowing, he HAS to know what I'm thinking and why I'm thinking that and I'm not allowed to go near any other guy, which is ...
A. 2 September 2010: Woah talk about a toxic relationship..at first I was confused about how he controls you when your long distance there's no way for him to know everything you're doing. Some stuff just isn't his business, your life is your own. Let him have his ... (read in full...)
My ex girlfriend just emailed me!
Q. Humm she emailed me back after I wrote here wanting my coat? This is what she said does it sound like she wants to talk to me again? here is what she said! "I dont have a bf at all. And as for your coat why do you need it now?? Its not winter...
A. 2 September 2010: Agreed, Boston gets cold. Then this is just an email about your coat nothing more. By her telling you she got into the car crash says she's saving up for the repairs and then she'll send your coat but it's not priority right now. And maybe she wants ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm literally going nowhere
Q. NOD NOTE: OP's own title: I'm basically stuck in the game called life. I'm 23 and I just don't know what I'm supposed to be. Basically my life is like an endless cycle of failure (on my part). After highschool I went to college, got stuck doing some...
A. 2 September 2010: Life makes you jump over several obstacles, I had to move out 3 times, start college put it on hold to move to the south, get engaged, break it off, move back to the midwest because of the economy, be jobless for 4 months, endless dating, and ... (read in full...)
Have I started my period?
Q. MOD NOTE; OP's own title. help, i am 14 almost 15 and have just had brown discharge for three days (on and off) i have all the signs of development and think that i should have started by now. is there anything i can do to help my period start...
A. 2 September 2010: Actually, my mom used to draw me a bath as hot as you can stand it and sit in the tub until the water cools off...my period started the next day. It's worth a shot!... (read in full...)
Long time girlfriend suddenly ditches you for friends.
Q. MOD NOTER: OP's own title: My girlfriend and I have been dating since the middle of our sophomore year in high school, and we just started our senior year. So it's been a little over a year and a half. I really really hate her two best friends, so s...
A. 2 September 2010: You're not going to like all your girlfriend's friends that's just a given. But, if you're going to be with her then you need to set those differences aside and be the bigger person here. Tell her that you feel a little left in the dark because ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant by my younger b/f, I don't want him, or the baby.
Q. need help fast! I am a 30 year old female and have a boyfriend that is 21 I just found out i was pregnant he doesn't no yet because I didn't want this to happen he already made it clear that he want's a baby by me but lately I have been having a ...
A. 2 September 2010: I'm anti-abortion here, I think you should pay for your mistake if you didn't use any form of contraceptive. Unless, you did and this was one of those accidents...However, there are many couples out there who aren't so lucky to get pregnant and have ... (read in full...)
My ex girlfriend just emailed me!
Q. Humm she emailed me back after I wrote here wanting my coat? This is what she said does it sound like she wants to talk to me again? here is what she said! "I dont have a bf at all. And as for your coat why do you need it now?? Its not winter...
A. 2 September 2010: Did you ask her if she had a boyfriend? Because if she just randomly volunteered that info, then yeah that sounds like she wants to talk. If that's the case you should go and get the coat in person. Now, if you didn't ask that then you're ... (read in full...)
He says he likes me, but dates other girls, whats going on?
Q. So I like this guy in school but I've never talked to him in person. I only text him and he says he likes me and says I'm hot. but then he just goes out with a bunch of other girls. I'm so confused. And he knows i like him but..i don't know I'm just ...
A. 2 September 2010: This my dear is what you call a "man whore" or the nicer term "ladies man". Be careful of these guys..They like all kinds of girls and don't settle for monogamy or just one at a time..they've got at least 2 other girls they date or are talking to ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend just left me and I want her back. How should I proceed?
Q. My girlfriend just recently left me. She danced around a couple of reasons such as her issues, she pushed me away, etc... But in the end she said I was a really great guy, a really great boyfriend, but she wants to be single. We dated for almost...
A. 2 September 2010: Agreed..it sounds like a game, which you really don't have the time for. Plus, that's rather childish.... (read in full...)
He broke up with me because I had sex with an ex but it was BEFORE I was with him!
Q. im a girl 16 years old.. i met this guy he is in my school in class 10 and im in 11... we started to talk to each other and became very good friends and love happened.. before him i had 4 boyfriends and had sex with one of them... he loves me ...
A. 1 September 2010: @Anon assuming that she's been checked out and so was her previous sexual partner. So are you saying a person's sexual history is a current significant others business? No, it's not. The only thing the other needs to inquire that if the significant ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me because I had sex with an ex but it was BEFORE I was with him!
Q. im a girl 16 years old.. i met this guy he is in my school in class 10 and im in 11... we started to talk to each other and became very good friends and love happened.. before him i had 4 boyfriends and had sex with one of them... he loves me ...
A. 1 September 2010: I don't ever understand guys getting pissed about something that happened before their time. It doesn't apply to him. Also the "Don't ask, don't tell" rule applies as well, I suppose he is unaware of it. However, your mistake was that he found out ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend just left me and I want her back. How should I proceed?
Q. My girlfriend just recently left me. She danced around a couple of reasons such as her issues, she pushed me away, etc... But in the end she said I was a really great guy, a really great boyfriend, but she wants to be single. We dated for almost...
A. 31 August 2010: Tread lightly it's only been 4 days, give her the space. Give her a little after her friends leave too. You've been showing up at the bar that makes you look a little laid back but also too desperate. Just send her a text, "hi, how are you, hope all ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend just left me and I want her back. How should I proceed?
Q. My girlfriend just recently left me. She danced around a couple of reasons such as her issues, she pushed me away, etc... But in the end she said I was a really great guy, a really great boyfriend, but she wants to be single. We dated for almost...
A. 31 August 2010: There's just something about alcohol and the wilderness that is so right.
Now the lack of contact, if she was using her cell then she could have had spotty service, or her day was so scheduled she really didn't have the time. Hence why she need... (read in full...)
I am afraid I may lose my friends if I brake up with him!
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been in a relationship with the same guy for a little over 5 years, we used to have sex all of the time but over the last two years I have lost interest in having sex with him. I'm not sure what to do about it, I know it's caus...
A. 30 August 2010: You're better off ending this relationship and being friends. A student with no income, get a job and move back home for now. Being dependent on a boyfriend is a big mistake. After 5 years it sounds like it's more than the sex, it's his substance ... (read in full...)
I need advice about what to do right now in regards to seeing my b/f
Q. my boyfriend is 2 years older than me and is a bout to start thinking about college. hes still got senior year but hes working on stuff. i support him in everything he does including his band which is practically his life. We had this talk about how ...
A. 30 August 2010: Ouch he told you, that you are second best. The guy is busy with his band and it's his senior year so there's the added stress of what colleges do you want to apply to, will my good grades pay off, or did slacking off in literature class ruin my ... (read in full...)
Pregnant and the father is cheating and unsupportive!
Q. Ok, I'm 22 and pregnant with twins. I also hav a 8 year old son. Right now my life is crazy,and I'm hoping not 2 lose my mind. My boyfriend at first was there 4 me. Now that I'm 4 months pregnant he jus doesn't care at all. He's cheating, doesn't ...
A. 30 August 2010: Congrats on twins, they're more than a handful. You don't want to be a single mother again, so he's left you before? Tell him that you're done with his cheating ways and that since he doesn't care you the next time you will be seeing him is in court ... (read in full...)
He is married and I want him, not just as an affair!
Q. TO START IT OFF .I MEET HIM AT MY OLD HIGH SCHOOL... I KNEW HE WAS MARRIED.HE IS MARRIED AND I HAVE A WE AND THE FATHER OF MY CHILD BEEN TOGETHER FOR 5 YR.AND HE HAS BEEN MARRIED FOR 6 YEAR.ME AND (BILLY) MARRIED MAN HAS MADE AGREEMENT TO HAVE NO ...
A. 30 August 2010: He's not going to leave his life with his wife and 2 kids for you. All you will be is an affair to him, or his mistress nothing more. Also, he's told you this it's nothing but a no strings attached deal. Chances are his wife probably suspects he's ... (read in full...)
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