Did she treat me badly? Should I be angry?
Q. I will give a brief introduction to my situation. I just finished my first semester at University where I started a relationship with a girl very quickly. The feelings at first were mutual but over time I noticed, but didn’t admit to myself that she ...
A. 10 January 2008: Glad you have that kind of attitude.It is good to hear that you have overcome this problem.
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What is going through her mind?
Q. Hie there. recently i broke up with my first true love because of arguements. i have looked at the reasons for the arguements and i dont think they are worth the love we had.now i left her a letter the other day explaining how wrong i was and how ...
A. 9 January 2008: She wants your understanding or validations of her feelings. You should feel the same way as her and that makes it like you are in the same boat together.Having the same feelings or thoughts is what make your bonds stronger.
Try to find more com... (read in full...)
What's caising my boobs to get bigger?
Q. I am currently 20 years old and I have stopped growing a long time ago. That includes my breasts. As of late they have magically started to grow again. I noticed when I was not fitting right into my B cup. I am now a C cup. (although my boy...
A. 9 January 2008: It could be your diet. Certain foods contain hormone-like compounds called phytoestrogens, plant-based foods high in estrogen-like compounds.
You can find what they are by following this link;-
http://ww... (read in full...)
Why can't I get a boyfriend?
Q. I have never had a boyfriend. Last year i asked out a guy that i liked and he said no. Ever since i have not been able to talk with boys face to face. The guy that i liked a month ago (i liked him for about a year) found out that i liked him and we ...
A. 9 January 2008: Maybe , you need to overhaul your appearance. Go get the new hairstyle that suits you and a new dress that would make you gorgeous. The males are attracted by visuals and the new you would attract a lot of new admirers.... (read in full...)
How should I act with him?
Q. i need ur opinion so badd! this guy i like, i think he finally notices me in that way!! hes being more touchy...if i was passing by he wouldn't move...or if hes moving he'd make sure he'd bump into me...and he'd push ppl on me then look at me likes ...
A. 9 January 2008: If he likes you , he would not smirk but would apologize to you for knocking into you and try to strike up a conversation with you.If this is more than once, that is something not right.... (read in full...)
He wants his money back - do I pay up?
Q. I had a male business associate and we unfortunately became intimate two years ago. Four months into the relationship he offered to lend me money for a breast augmentation. We had a tumultuous love affair and after his obsessions became apparent, I ...
A. 9 January 2008: Do your conscience bothers you?If it bothers you , then you need to pay him back for your peace of mind. If you can afford to pay back a lump sum and then good riddance to him.
If you think it is a trade off for the favours you accorded him , th... (read in full...)
He wants his money back - do I pay up?
Q. I had a male business associate and we unfortunately became intimate two years ago. Four months into the relationship he offered to lend me money for a breast augmentation. We had a tumultuous love affair and after his obsessions became apparent, I ...
A. 9 January 2008: I don't think , he will take you to court as both of you will be losers.He is only threatening you.He is harassing you and you can report to the police if it affects your sanity.Get a new phone number.... (read in full...)
He blows hot and cold. Is it me or is it him?
Q. Hi. Me and my boyfriend have been together about 6 - 7 weeks and he's upset me tonight. He was being really weird on the phone with me - not talking much, being really quiet and he didn't say love you when I went and he always does. But when ...
A. 9 January 2008: I don't think he is serious with you . He is flirting with any girls that come within his range for that matter. He is like a playboy.He knows you like him and takes you for granted.He sweet talks a lot .If he likes you he would not do those mean ... (read in full...)
Is he on the rebound? Does he love her?
Q. me and my boyfriend of 1 1/2 years have just split up..naturally i am crushed as he has left me for another girl. but what i do not understand is that we live on an island and he is going out with someone who lives on the mainland even though he ...
A. 9 January 2008: It is quite possible it is a rebound love because it happened so soon after your break up.
Initially , he may try to be a very nice guy to her but eventually , his own true self will surface.
Whatever, if he is the one for you , he will come b... (read in full...)
Am I plagued with bad luck?
Q. Recently my girlfriend broke up with me. It wasn't a bitter end to it all (we only went out for a month) and we're still friends. However although she said she's not ready for a boyfriend, part of me thinks I screwed things up. My girlfrie...
A. 9 January 2008: It is possible or a combinations of other factors.Maybe you are jinx! LOL! A stretch of bad spell before the good spell .
Anyway ,you should learn to have more self confidence and not needy/clingy .A needy person is a turn off for both guys and... (read in full...)
I'm so shy, the thought of meeting people terrifies me. What can I do?
Q. I need help to get over my crippling shyness cos its ruining my life. i'm meant to be going on a trip soon with my friend and she has just emailed me to say we are meeting her friends and travelling with them, she says there's quite a lot of them ...
A. 9 January 2008: You can Google the word Shyness and you will find many sites that give you tips about shyness and the cure.
Getting to know more people is interesting. We can find out about their culture and their way of life. We get to know more friends and frie... (read in full...)
My bf has a fetish with bestiality. Is this normal?
Q. I recently discovered my boyfriend of 2 months has a huge fetish with beastiality. Is this normal?! Personally, it grosses me out.....
A. 9 January 2008: No! It is not normal.It is an aberration.The Bible forbids it.... (read in full...)
How do I deal with this best friend of mine...who can't accept that my current bf didn't want her?
Q. me and my boyfriend are very much in love we always have been but my friend is insanely jealous because she fancies my boyfriend although i did ask if she was ok with me going out with him and she said yes on top of this she has her own boyfriend ...
A. 9 January 2008: It is an impasse. You cannot talk to her. She would want you to give up your b/f and this you cannot or won't do.It is a stalemate.
Forget about talking to her .She hates you to the guts by now. You cannot have a threesome ,you , your b/f and ... (read in full...)
She ended it but she keeps buying me gifts...what is she up to?
Q. Hello A woman who I dated and loved deeply ended our relationship about 18 months ago but we both remained 'friends'. I was devasted but managed to 'pull myself together'. Recently she has has started giving me expensive watches and other gift...
A. 9 January 2008: There could be several reasons,
1)She still treats you as a good friend and wants to repay you back for those good times together.
2) She could be feeling guilty she broke up with you.
3)She wants you to remember her as she remembers you.
... (read in full...)
He sold me his phone and we kind of 'clicked'. Why haven't I heard from him in two days?
Q. Dear Agony Aunt, I have been single for a year now. The other day I called my friend to see a phone that she had for sale. She told me that a friend of a freind had the phone, but that he would call me and meet me with the phone. He did call me a...
A. 9 January 2008: Waiting for his call can be an agony . Why not you call him up about your cardigan ? This would give you an excuse to call him. It is quite possible that he is not aware that you left it in his car.
If he is interested in you he will contact ... (read in full...)
I'm seeing a therapist and a married jerk. Why can't I get rid of the latter?
Q. I'm very confused and am starting to get depressed. I'm seeing a therapist over this, but it has not been helpful as of yet. A year ago I met a man online and we dated for six months. He traveled between three cities for work and so lived in my c...
A. 9 January 2008: A married man would most likely sit on the fence and do nothing and enjoy you as long as he can.You will have to take the knife out and cut the invisible cord and give him the big boot.
To let go off him , you need to demonise him for what he ... (read in full...)
I cant figure him out, I'm getting mixed messages, is it worth it?
Q. First, I apologize for the length of this, I've never written anything like this before and felt knowing the details would help understand why i need advise - thanks in advance! I'm a 48 yr old woman who had stopped dating for several years - raised...
A. 9 January 2008: Is he suffering from the bipolar disorder? Sounds like he has a category of mood disorders, alternating from the normal mood , depress mood and mania. Life with him would be like an emotional roller coaster ride. If you cannot ride the roller ... (read in full...)
I got in there first, now Delilah won't speak to me. Did I do wrong?
Q. I have known "George" for a long time, we've quietly been into each other for years although nothing ever happened before a few months ago. We hooked up at a party, it wasn't that serious, all my friends seemed happy enough for me, and George and ...
A. 9 January 2008: You had as much right as your best friend . George does not belong to your best friend. When a man come in between two women, their friendship would be shot to pieces. That is to be expected. Your best friend has muscled into your territory. She had ... (read in full...)
We're living together and constantly fighting, what do I do?
Q. Hi, I am living with my boyfriend for about 4 months now and we are constantly arguing. The house were living in is mine i bought it but i asked him to live with me. he seems to have a terrible problem with the fact I own the house. I can't take the ...
A. 9 January 2008: You feel he has not pull his weight and he is cold and calculating.If there is love, you would not count those things.
If he has love , he would not mind paying or contribute his share for the house and help you out financially.Is he unwillin... (read in full...)
I don't really like him but I can't stop thinking about him
Q. hey im really confussed so please someone help me out i like this guy and have 4 ages trouble is i like him and think about him all the time but i dont wanna be with him and i dont like him like that i dont think when i really think about it so why ...
A. 9 January 2008: You subconsciously like him but you don't like him when you see him. There is a conflict between the outer man and the inner man.
Love from afar is wonderful and perfect and when you come near, you see all his faults.
Your inner person lik... (read in full...)
We just can't seem to be happy together
Q. hiya, well my relation ship is at an end again. me and my fiancee split up on new years eve, over a rather trivial argument. i got really angry and told him to leave. we have been seeing each other for over a year, are very much in love, but ...
A. 9 January 2008: Confucious say ," If you are angry count 1 to 10 and if very angry count 1 to 1000."
When you feel anger rising , like raising your voice, call a time out. STOP!..You cannot talk rationally when you have anger and when in anger , you may say word... (read in full...)
Broken up with my boyfriend, but he's slirting with my friends, how do I deal with it?
Q. My ex wanted me back and I jumped to it cos I still really liked him.I was really happy but about a week into it it all changed and went back to how it used to be - him making false promises, not seeming interested in me etc, etc. SoI finished it ...
A. 9 January 2008: Treat it as a lesson or experience in life. Learn from your mistakes and be wiser when you choose your next b/f. Only give your heart to someone who can really value and appreciate you as a person or it would be like throwing pearls to those swines ... (read in full...)
We are both soldiers, but when I get home I don't know if I can trust myself, why is this?
Q. I have been married a little over a year now and we are both soldiers and might be for a while(meaning frequent seperation) We are both deployed and I love my husband very much! But when I get home I don't know how to trust myself? Will it be like ...
A. 9 January 2008: "If you love a person , you must let him go , if he comes back , then he is yours."
With that you would be better placed to learn to trust him.If you had not trusted him , you would not have married him.Build on this foundation .You need to learn... (read in full...)
I invited him "as friends" to a dance, but in reality I fancy him. Now that he accepted, how do I save this experience from awkwardness?
Q. I need help! I asked this boy that I like to a semi-formal dance, and I asked him "as friends" but I actually fancy him (he said yes by the way) What are some suggestions for conversation topics and general behaviour? Also, how do I make this ...
A. 9 January 2008: Be cool and relax , be your usual self.Don't worry, things will just flow.Go out there and enjoy.Let your hair down and have fun. Think positive.... (read in full...)
How do I approach her without feeling nervous?
Q. Hi. I like this girl a year ahead of me in school. She only has half a year left untill she goes off to another school somewere. If we did end up going out, then I'd see her over the summer, and we might go to the same school (we're both ...
A. 9 January 2008: Just relax and don't be tense. Think of her like she is your sister or just a friend. She maybe tense too.
You can ask your buddy to accompany you and it wont be so obvious and he can chatter when you are blank in your mind.He is like your win... (read in full...)
I love him but the spark has gone. How do we rekindle what we used to have?
Q. Hi. I am a 21 year old female who has been engaged for 4 years to my highschool sweetheart. He has been with me through some pretty tough times, including the revelation that I was molested by my stepfather. We used to have a very sexually exciting ...
A. 9 January 2008: Sometimes ,it is difficult to bring back the past glory. You have changed and so has he. Times are not the same . You cannot go back in time.
It is like flogging a dead horse. No matter how hard you try , the horse has come to the end of the road... (read in full...)
Do men need 3 seconds of eye contact before speaking to a girl?
Q. Hi, I'm 21 year old virgin and I've never had a relationship with a man, I don't know what to do, because I belong to the most shyest people in the world. All (3) guys which want me to go out were uninteresting for me (for some time I tried to...
A. 9 January 2008: The eye is the window to the world. When I speak to a person, I will look into their eyes to see if they are paying attention to what I am saying or if they are uninterested.
If some one is speaking , I will also look into their eyes to see if t... (read in full...)
Is it stress or faded attraction?... What can I do?
Q. My boyfriend is really busy with his work nowadays. He has project deadline. I dont see him interetsed in having sex with me nowadays. Is it because of stress? or because he is in pressure. Its been s lot of time now. We live together.. I dont ...
A. 9 January 2008: Stress and pressures can affect his libido.He is just too tired after work.
A man may have a mistaken belief that after he has settled down , he would concentrate on his career.He has taken you for granted.
You could have a frank talk with ... (read in full...)
An older guy consoled her and she has feelings for him. What should I do?
Q. Me and my gf have been together for a years plus now, she is 16 and I am 18. I can honestly say I truly love her and she loves me. I was her 1st major boyfriend. We've been very happy together, we've been discussing about out future and we're...
A. 9 January 2008: You two should take a break and cool things down.This will give both of you time to reflect back on your relationships.If your love is strong , she will come back to you.
You need to apologize to her and admit that it was your fault and mistake ... (read in full...)
Did she treat me badly? Should I be angry?
Q. I will give a brief introduction to my situation. I just finished my first semester at University where I started a relationship with a girl very quickly. The feelings at first were mutual but over time I noticed, but didn’t admit to myself that she ...
A. 9 January 2008: You were the chaser. She just basked in your attentions. She has too many male admirers and you were just another also rans. You cannot fault her as you went after her and not the reverse. If you find she has no feelings, then you should have cut ... (read in full...)
Sex, and then runaway? Is he cheating on me?
Q. ok, so. I was with my boyfriend at a romantic lake. We there talking and making out. When suddenly I see him running towards the lake and tells me to join him skinny dippin. So i did. We were about to start having sex, when he suddenly ran off. Is ...
A. 9 January 2008: I don't think he was cheating on you . There could be several reasons which we can only deduce.
1) Suddenly , he could not have a hard on to have sex with you and he would feel disgraceful or disappoint you.The cold water may have affected... (read in full...)
I found my brother and his business partner making out, they are both married, should I say something?
Q. I just went by my brother house to pick something up of mine, I have a key, so I went on in the house. When I opened the door, he was making out with his female business partner. I played it off like I didn't notice, and I don't think he or she ...
A. 9 January 2008: See no evil, hear no evil and speak no evil. Who are we to judge others? You may speak to your brother but what good will it do?
Your brother may not accept your opinions and worse, you could become an enemy.Your words would be like pouring ... (read in full...)
I found my brother and his business partner making out, they are both married, should I say something?
Q. I just went by my brother house to pick something up of mine, I have a key, so I went on in the house. When I opened the door, he was making out with his female business partner. I played it off like I didn't notice, and I don't think he or she ...
A. 9 January 2008: See no evil, hear no evil and speak no evil. Who are we to judge others? You may speak to your brother but what good will it do?
Your brother may not accept your opinions and worse, you could become an enemy.Your words would be like pouring ... (read in full...)
I think I've made a huge mistake marrying him, any advice?
Q. We have only been married for 50 days (before that we dated for three years)and I am already feeling trapped in this marriage. Over the holidays, I found out my brand new husband has been carrying on a phone/email/text message "friendship" with his ...
A. 9 January 2008: Everyone make mistakes and no one is perfect. You can either forgive him and move on if you think a divorce is out of question.If he is willing to change , you should give him another chance.
What has happened cannot be undone.Let time heal you... (read in full...)
Was I a fool to believe this could work?
Q. Am I a fool? I'm 50, he's 34. I'm Irish, he's African. I'm a graduate, he's intelligent but uneducated. I had money and status in a country where the majority live on less than a dollar a day, and very aware that that was a big attraction to ma...
A. 9 January 2008: You are the master of your own destiny. You don't have to take the crap from anyone. If you have tried your very best and not satisfied with what you get in return then you need to take stronger actions. Either he response favourably or someone has ... (read in full...)
The guy I like fancies another girl but I overheard her friend saying she doesn't like him, should I do something or just get over him?
Q. There have been rumors about this boy who I like saying he fancies this girl, I over heard her friends talking about it. One of the girls talking about it said she does not even like him, and if he was going to ask her out I wouldnt want him to get ...
A. 9 January 2008: Do nothing. What you do will not be appreciated. Let him learn his own lessons in life.You can prevent him once but you cannot prevent him from falling down all the time . He has to learn how to walk by himself. It is like the story of the butterfly ... (read in full...)
Should I just accept my situation or end it ?
Q. I have been w/my current boyfriend for almost 7 years. I lived w/him for most of it until last year. I moved out when he said he needed more space. He wanted to also date other women. This went on a couple months with us still seeing each other 3 ...
A. 9 January 2008: Half a man is better than no man. There are millions of women who are still single and cannot find a man.We should be contented with what we have.Contentment is the key to our happiness.When we are not contented , we will not be happy because we ... (read in full...)
My mum doesn't want my grandma at my wedding, what can I do?
Q. I need help again. Please refer to my last question (about my controlling mother) for more in-depth background information. Really quickly- planning a wedding, mom and her own mother (my grandmother) do not speak. Mom has said she isn't allowed ...
A. 8 January 2008: You should invite your mother and gran.You insist that she must come to your wedding.Whether she wants to go is up to her. She may initially reject your invitations but last minute ,she will go.
This time , it is different because you will be ... (read in full...)
What is going through her mind?
Q. Hie there. recently i broke up with my first true love because of arguements. i have looked at the reasons for the arguements and i dont think they are worth the love we had.now i left her a letter the other day explaining how wrong i was and how ...
A. 8 January 2008: The wall is only temporary and you need to be more loving and tender towards her.Do not argue with her. Just say that you have a different opinion and let it pass.There is no point in arguing.You cannot force another to see your way.
She has been... (read in full...)
My mum doesn't want my grandma at my wedding, what can I do?
Q. I need help again. Please refer to my last question (about my controlling mother) for more in-depth background information. Really quickly- planning a wedding, mom and her own mother (my grandmother) do not speak. Mom has said she isn't allowed ...
A. 8 January 2008: It is your wedding and not your mother's wedding.You don't have to obey every rules your mum set for your wedding. Go ahead and invite your granny.Tell her to stop treating you like a kid. You are now a matured person and can decide what is best for ... (read in full...)
She won't reply to my messages...why is she so distant?
Q. hi im 19, i met a girl(18) at a club, had alot of fun together, kissed, number exchange. she invited me out the next night (sat). we spent a lot of time together during the week including meeting all her friends and got along very well. after a ...
A. 8 January 2008: There could be a number of probabilities. 1)She could have lost your phone number.( Call her up to verify) 2) She could have been taken. 3)She has found someone new. 4) She did not want to continue anymore or lose interest. Just treat... (read in full...)
I know she thinks a lot of me so will her new relationship last?
Q. Me and my ex were solid for about 8 months but we broke up for various irrelevant reasons. After we broke up I sent her lots of texts, not urging her to take me back but just for her to not see other people and give it time. Anyway, she saw this one ...
A. 8 January 2008: What you see or hear may not be the truth. If a girl were to tell you that , it does not mean that it is the last nail in the coffin. It depends on you . If you still like her,keep on wooing her till she makes a U turn for you.It is also a test of ... (read in full...)
It upsets me how he just won't do little things for me. Should I say something to him or just leave it?
Q. Hey, well I've just got back from seeing my boyfriend and i'm a little upset. We were at his mates house and my bus was going to arrive in 15 minutes and he wouldn't just come outside with me and say bye properly or just walk me to the bus ...
A. 8 January 2008: Maybe , it is because of his mates he acted cool towards you.Whatever his reasons is only known to him.Probably to let his mate see that he is no sissy or pander to girls. It is callous to let you walk alone in the dark. He should be more thoughtf... (read in full...)
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