It upsets me how he just won't do little things for me. Should I say something to him or just leave it?
Q. Hey, well I've just got back from seeing my boyfriend and i'm a little upset. We were at his mates house and my bus was going to arrive in 15 minutes and he wouldn't just come outside with me and say bye properly or just walk me to the bus ...
A. 8 January 2008: Maybe , it is because of his mates he acted cool towards you.Whatever his reasons is only known to him.Probably to let his mate see that he is no sissy or pander to girls. It is callous to let you walk alone in the dark. He should be more thoughtf... (read in full...)
Is he talking to his friends about me or am I just being paranoid?
Q. i was sort of seeing this guy who i meet down my local but everything was going ok then things changed, in the end i never did have sex with him and have not seen him since but this evening down the pub i felt that everyone who works there was ...
A. 8 January 2008: He did said something to his pals and the word spread. Whether it is good or bad about you will have to discern from their looks.You cannot stop gossips or control other people's mouth. If you did no wrong, just stand tall.... (read in full...)
He only wanted cyber sex with me! But I still want to be his friend..what should I do?
Q. i encountered an old boyfriend. I'm 40. Now back then I was 15. He was really excited and he gave me all of his phone numbers so we chatted. A week went by and he decided to stop talking to me. I'm married he's married. In the beginning he only ...
A. 8 January 2008: You cannot force a horse to drink water if he is not thirsty.Your wants and needs are different.He did not find what he wanted from you and he is afraid of being a friend to you, can lead to extra marital affairs.It is better to remove those ... (read in full...)
My fiancee's ex is his secretary, she still works with him, how can I cope with this?
Q. I dated my now fiancé several years back and we broke things off because I got back together with an old boyfriend and he started dating his secretary. He and his secretary lived together for 5 1/2 years and their relationship ended over a year ...
A. 8 January 2008: If your mental and physical health is severely affected, competent or not , she has to go for the sake of your mental and psychological health.You cannot go on in that mental state. You can suggest to him to employ a new one and give her sometim... (read in full...)
What's his problem? Wouldnt a boyfriend that loves you give you support in anything you do?
Q. hi im 16 an me an my boyfriend have been together for a year now. we r happy. i am on a college course but not enjoying it and am decided to quit an start a new course which starts in april that im really keen to do! however when i told my boyfrien...
A. 8 January 2008: Yes! A boyfriend who is matured and loving would do the utmost to make you happy and support you all the way .You can discuss your problems with him but if his reasons are valid then you will have to accept his thinkings.
If you think he has no g... (read in full...)
I like my best friend's bf...a lot! Should I go after him?
Q. ok i really like this guy but his girlfriend is like my best friend............and im best friends with him to.............but i really like him... i dont no what to do!!! i dont want to ruin our friendship!!! and he likes me to! and i really rea...
A. 8 January 2008: You have to decide him or your best friend. Which one will you sacrifice?If you go after him , you will lose a friend and gained an enemy.
If you think , he is worth it , then you will have to sacrifice your friend.
It is not right to compete... (read in full...)
I didn't give him his space and now we're broke up. How can I get him back?
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me the day after christmas saying that he wanted to be alone... but that weekend we spent the entire weekend together, and new years together... I had gotten him a really big expensive gift that he loved, and he got me ...
A. 8 January 2008: Write him an apology letter or email or text and say that you are sorry and that it was your fault and asked for his forgiveness.Then wait till he responds or come back to you.When his anger subsides and rational again , he may reconsider and go ... (read in full...)
I'd like to go to Australia but I'm still in school. What should I do?
Q. Hey ive been dating this girl for 3 months. When i met her she already had plans to go to australia for a working holiday for 5 months. We were just gunna keep it chill but we ended up hitting it off real quick. We're now madly in love with each ...
A. 8 January 2008: You need to learn to trust her.If she is not into you , even if you go there to be with her would be useless.
You can chat everyday in skype or online. This is like a test of your love.If you pass, then she is yours. 5 months will pass very soon... (read in full...)
Can I call it love or is she decieving me?
Q. My problem can be said not to be a problem some times. There is this girl of mine (can't really callher mine yet) i love her the way a guy can love a lady, and i told her about my feelings towards her, but as usual at first she obliged which she ...
A. 8 January 2008: If she is willing to meet you , she has given you the chance to show who and what you are.Just be your natural self and win her with your charms.Don't try too hard or overdo it .
Love covers a multitude or sins. When you love a person , you don'... (read in full...)
I am falling in love with a collegue but can't help being nasty to her!
Q. Hi ive never asked for help like ths before but then again ive never behaved like this before! Any advice would be appriciated. Firstly im a Major in the British Army, a doctor and a lesbian. I dont hide my sexuality nor do i shout it from th...
A. 8 January 2008: She is your junior in the army and your army training and way of life has made you the way you are.In the short stint that she has been in contact with you , she has formed an opinion of you .It is not easy to overturn those opinions and it will ... (read in full...)
Do I trust him or not?
Q. Confused, I've been going out with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years off and on. I already have trust issues with him for stuff he did in the past. I happen to look into his wallet, and I find a buisness card of a woman, I calle the # and I asked her how ...
A. 8 January 2008: You can trust anything but not money matters.The accident may have jarred his mind and you have to give him the benefit of doubts.
What you did was improper.To look into his wallet and then confronting him about it.You invaded his privacy and show... (read in full...)
I love him but he's finished it, how can I make him see we should be together?
Q. i love this man for 8 years have 1 child with him i have not treated this man very badly latley and it has caused our relationship to end for the 3rd time,but i can t live without him and i wish that he could see how much i love him.i dont know how ...
A. 8 January 2008: When a man's heart has grown cold ,whatever you do would not bring him back. You can be nice to him ,love him and be there for him.Thats all you can do .It is winter in his heart and you need to hunker down and wait till it is summer.
If he retur... (read in full...)
I believe we're meant to be together, again. She believes differently..any advice?
Q. Me and my ex were the perfect couple for nearly a year. We broke up for a few reasons: - She was scared that I might be moving away - It was our first love and she wanted to know how good our relationship really was as we have no other experience...
A. 8 January 2008: You can try to woo and win her back.You need to convince her that you won't be moving to calm her fears.If her love for you is deep enough , she will not feel that way.It is best not to talk about any potential moving as she is quite sensitive on ... (read in full...)
He's a big boy and I'm letting it get in the way. How can I get over this?
Q. ok i met this guy we get along really well an have hooked up a few times, i like him alot... iam a slim good lookin girl an he is kinda a big boy, an for some reason im lettin that get in the way an keep thinkin what other ppl are goin to say, how ...
A. 7 January 2008: For he is a jolly big fella! Is other people's opinion more important than yours? Can other people give you happiness?
Do you want to be sad and others happy or you happy and others sad?
Love him for what he is...Damned with what others think... (read in full...)
How do I get him to see things my way?
Q. I've been in a relationship for about 3 years now, but it's been off and on since the beginning. As of now, I haven't seen him since before the holidays. Last year, he avoided me for a long time because he hadn't gotten me a Christmas gift, and I'm ...
A. 7 January 2008: There are only three things ,one, he is very busy with his work or studies, two, he has another relationship and three, he has grown cold.
You will have to find out which and then take the appropriate actions.... (read in full...)
Can I trust her not to cheat on me again?
Q. Hey every1.I guess today i also need some advice.I've been dating this girl i regretfully love with all my heart.Everything was rosy in the beginning even when i moved to another town due to work. However,the past two months things changed.S...
A. 7 January 2008: A woman is more in tuned with her love than for sex. It is love that make a woman stay with the man. Sex is just the icing on the cake. You should not be overtly concern about your performance. Don't worry , practice will make perfect .Just enjoy ... (read in full...)
He's so special, but is it worth continuing things?
Q. hey, I've recently starting seeing a new guy, problem is he split up from his longterm girlfriend of 2 and a half years just four months ago! she finished him, but she seems to be getting jealous of me and him. ive heard that he's been telling her ...
A. 7 January 2008: When you are in love, you become very vulnerable because you let your guards down for him.You can be hurt when your guards or defense is down.
It is not right to tell your ex that you still love her.This cannot be.It looks like in his heart, h... (read in full...)
How can I eliminate lust?
Q. How can i eliminate lust? I mean...i'm single, i always have been, And i understand i never have a chance with anyone ever. And talking to friends when i like someone just ends up with them building my hopes up...and you know - the bigger they com...
A. 7 January 2008: You cannot totally eliminate lust but you can try to control it. Find some meaningful indoor or outdoor activities or hobbies that will take your brain away from those lustful thoughts.
Don't watch those pornographic or online smuts or sex maga... (read in full...)
In love with her but she does not reciprocate. Any advice?
Q. there's this girl im deeply in love with and i would do anything for her no matter what and it's like she doesn't care, and she doesn't feel the same about me. all this is doing is making me streesed out of my head and i really don't know what i ...
A. 7 January 2008: You are coming on too strongly for her likings. You should just be friends with her first. Enjoy her friendship and get to know her more.
Don't talk about love. She is not ready yet or she has no interest in you . In which case, find another ... (read in full...)
Is there a chance we could go out in the future?
Q. i'm very confused, there was this guy that i like lots but know i don't know if he does or wat to do. it started with him chasing me lots and said he really liked me and told he's friends and my friends i was amazing, he also treated me so well and...
A. 7 January 2008: When you like someone , you don't bring your girls along ,or you two go off away from your pals. He does not click with your best pal.It would be easier to handle you alone than all your female bodyguards.
... (read in full...)
I want someone who treats me lovingly. I'm not sure if this guy's the one! Advice?
Q. I am at an impass... I really don't know if I should try to work through things with my rather new bf. We're really different in a few crucial ways, but we also get along better than I've gotten along with most other people. I really love him, but ...
A. 7 January 2008: A guy should know how to love a woman and make her happy. If he cannot , then he is not the one for you.
What is normal to him is abnormal to you .You come from different backgrounds and culture. He should therefore learn the ways that will app... (read in full...)
His ex is pregnant and he doesn't love her...should I still date him?
Q. So I use to go out with this guy for 2 months. Then we broke up and later on he got with this girl but then they broke up. During the time that he was with that girl, he would still try to contact me and try to keep it cool with me. So once him and ...
A. 7 January 2008: The question is "IF" ,so hypothetically if she is confirmed pregnant then he should solve his problem first .
If you date such a man , he will not be able to give all of him to you.Would you be satisfied with half a man?
If you don't want any p... (read in full...)
I got overly-anxious over a rape scene I saw in a movie! Why did I feel that way?
Q. I currently watched the movie Rob Zombies Halloween. I'm not very good with horror movies, but this one did not bother me as much, although the only thing that did make me feel like screaming gave me anxiety, was the rape scene. I am ver...
A. 7 January 2008: The movie triggers your subconscious fear of being rape.It is a natural reaction from you.... (read in full...)
We broke up 9 months ago and I miss him. Is this normal?
Q. Im quite confused, me and my ex broke up around 9 months ago. I dont want him back or anything but sometimes i really miss him and i think about him i just cant help it no matter how hard i try. I just want to know if this is normal and if so how ...
A. 7 January 2008: When the thing is no more , you will have regrets or remorse but in time , those thoughts will slowly fade .
For some , it may last forever and be reminded when they are in the same place . Those places where you went together can trigger your bra... (read in full...)
I believe we're meant to be together, again. She believes differently..any advice?
Q. Me and my ex were the perfect couple for nearly a year. We broke up for a few reasons: - She was scared that I might be moving away - It was our first love and she wanted to know how good our relationship really was as we have no other experience...
A. 7 January 2008: Love is a two way channel. Apparently , she does not believe in long distant relationship. She will need more convincing on your part.
Will you be able to meet her needs when you are far from her?... (read in full...)
Is sex with an ex so wrong when you are both still in love or is this doomed from the start?
Q. I dumped my boyf 4 months ago after a 5 year relationship, things werent going well and he was going through a bad time emotionaly and was pushing me away through lies, so I thought it was best to get out of the relatinship then and there. It was ...
A. 7 January 2008: There is no right or wrong. If you love a person enough to have sex with him, it means that you still love him..He came back and your love rekindled again.The love is between you and him and why should you care about what others think.
5 years, m... (read in full...)
Sacred for her because some of the girls are going to do bad stuff to her! What should I do?
Q. Hi, I'm 15 and I'm really into sports. I play netball for my county and last year, my school netball team did really well @ national schools, so my team was invited to rain with the senior girls @ our school, after school. We did well i guess, ...
A. 7 January 2008:
You are dealing with rumours or hearsays which may not be true and you could be in big trouble if it did not happen. You should not tell anyone about this matter.
Just tell her to be careful on the tour and be vigilant and keep an eye on y... (read in full...)
My mum is always telling me off, when I don't even do anything wrong. What can I do?
Q. Hi,i'm 13 and my mum is always telling me off, when i don't even do anything wrong. If i play a game on tele, computer,playstation, phone or any gadget i am told of, and everytime i do play a game she always says to me on purpose could you do this ...
A. 7 January 2008: You cannot stop your mum from worrying about you. She is made like that. You need to see why your mum treats your sister differently.
Do you play those games too often? She is indirectly telling you to stop.
Some mothers are like what you de... (read in full...)
Do you think this girl likes me or what?
Q. Alright just wondering here, do you think this girl likes me or what? She's in one of my classes, we've hooked up like 5 times now, we flirt all the time, and she always gets me to call her, but lately, the last two weeks now, she'll say we wa...
A. 7 January 2008: If she has a valid excuse, you can forgive her.If not , she may just be toying and having fun with you.... (read in full...)
We are just too different! But I don't feel right with him or without him! Help!
Q. Dear Aunts, I am confused and i seek help from those who are purely here to help me as opposed to 'friends' that only give manipulating oppinions. Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 2 years and recently for about 4 months i ha...
A. 7 January 2008: Tell him , he should initiate more and not let you be the initiator all the time. A man should not always let the woman initiate always.It is no fun. if he can change, then fine , if not, find another one.... (read in full...)
I love him but I dislike his whiney, grating voice! Am I too picky?
Q. This problem may sound silly but although I love my boyfriend very much I am not attracted to his voice. This seems ridiculous as I have known him 2 years and you'd think I could have made that decision on the first date but its not that it ...
A. 7 January 2008: There are somethings you can change and somethings you cannot change. If you accept him , you accept the whole package. You cannot choose bits and pieces of a person.
When you love him , you can overlook those obnoxious habits but when you have... (read in full...)
What can I say to him to help bring his confidence back?
Q. This is mroe advice for my friend. I have a male friend - he's one of my best friends and I love him to pieces - not in a romantic way, but as a friend. We're really close. A while ago he told me he was in love with me, and although I adore him, ...
A. 7 January 2008: He just have to take it like a man . No words can console him.Don't try too hard. He will rebound in time. The less said the less obvious.It may hurt a while but he should be Ok.... (read in full...)
How can you live with a bossy controlling man, the nice ones bore me
Q. How do you stay in a relationship with a difficult man? And don't tell me they don't exist, I see them all the time. They're the guys who lose their temper over every little thing, think they have to tell a woman what to do all the time, are bossy ...
A. 7 January 2008: Some women come from such a family background or culture where the men are like that.They subconsciously are attracted to those same men.
Good men are too stereotype and predictable while those creeps are unpredictable and can spring surprise... (read in full...)
I'm a faithful wife and mother, but there's this guy at work I cant get out of my head, advice please
Q. I can’t discuss this with my family, girlfriends or husband. Maybe someone out there can help to enlighten me. I am a happily married woman with kids. I’ve been married almost twenty years, to a wonderful man, that I love very much. He i...
A. 7 January 2008: You are going through a mid life crisis.Don't fall into the temptations for the fruits are bitter.Look inwards at your own marriage and rediscover your man from another perspective.You can indulge in some fantasies but you should go back to the ... (read in full...)
My bf wants to try bondage, is this a good idea?
Q. hi my bf wants 2 do some bondage he has done it a bit with his past gf's but i have never done anything like it i am a bit scared to try new things but want to please him sexually as we have become less interested in each other sexually we have been ...
A. 7 January 2008: Bondage can sometimes go awry because you will be immobilized and cannot stop him when he goes overboard.What if he goes berserk and you will be at his mercy? Can you trust him to stop when you want?... (read in full...)
Can I trust her not to cheat on me again?
Q. Hey every1.I guess today i also need some advice.I've been dating this girl i regretfully love with all my heart.Everything was rosy in the beginning even when i moved to another town due to work. However,the past two months things changed.S...
A. 6 January 2008: If you really love a person,you need to have total trust and confidence in a person. You are your worst enemy. Cast away your doubts if you want her to come back to you. Nobody can guarantee anything in this life. Temptations are everywhere and no ... (read in full...)
My family have forbid me to stay in touch with my ex. What can I do?
Q. ok well heres the problem, my ex and i broke up about a month ago. It was long distance and lasted for 4 months, my family were against it from the start because of our age difference(i'm 16 he 20) well the reason we broke up was that he wanted me ...
A. 6 January 2008: This is all part of our growing up process.You will survive. Don't worry. Life will go on and there will be better guys whom you will meet in later life.
Time will heal your pains and your broken heart and you will slowly return back to normal a... (read in full...)
I was crushed but I want him back - what should I do?
Q. Hey! I've had a crush on this kid for a veryy long time .. but he was in a relationship so i never let it show.. 2 months ago we were at the same get together.. his friends are my friends and he had broken up with his girlfriend a month ago!! it was ...
A. 6 January 2008: You try to be a better person than your competitor. When he feels you are better , than he may return to your side.
Don't give up hope too quickly. In any relationships ,there will be ups and downs.When their relationships is at a low ebb, he may ... (read in full...)
He thinks I'm cheating but I'm not. What can I do to reassure him?
Q. Hi i am a 20 year old and i am having problems with my boyfriend he thinks i am cheating on him with every man i know i use to live in a house where there were 3 guys living there we just rented a room and he always worked more then me and thats ...
A. 6 January 2008: Your b/f is an insecure person.He needs more reassurance from you. You should ask him to be more explicit by what he means ,'To show your love to him." You need to call him up often to show your care and concern for him.You need to spend more ti... (read in full...)
I was so afraid of being hurt again I decided to live with someone I didn't love. Now I no longer think this is right and I want to end it but I don't know how?
Q. I have been with my partner for 11years. He is 15 years older than me (im 32)We got together when I had a bad split from my ex - I knew at the time it was a rebound thing and even told him this, but we got on well and even though there was no ...
A. 6 January 2008: You can have a heart to heart talk with him about what you want in your life. Some men do not understand women and thought what they did was right or perceived what you wanted in that relationship.You need to let him know the truth. If he is unabl... (read in full...)
Is he stressed about being in the 'Real World'?
Q. I had been dating someone for 2.5 years. It was mostly long distance since we went to different colleges, but we would spend summers together and both graduated and came back to our hometowns and were finally together. However, right before ...
A. 6 January 2008: Keep your options open and do not shut your door to other men.He is not ready for any serious relationship.Just let him go and be friends only.He has to find his niche first before he has the confidence to come back for you. If somewhere down the ... (read in full...)
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