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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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How can I moan more when having sex with my husband without getting all embarrassed?
Q. i have a question? i am very shy to moan during sex with my husband, i wanted to get some advice to help me open up to moaning for him. i love to have sex a lot just shy to moan. please help me? Tabitha...
A. 23 August 2007: I'm happy I helped.... (read in full...)
I like this guy very much but I just can't seem to understand any signals he might be sending.
Q. Okay I know this question has probably been asked a ton of times, but I need it answered for me. How do you know a guy is into you? How can you tell? I like this guy very much but I just can't seem to understand any signals he might be sending. ...
A. 18 June 2007: I just would like to add that you need to be careful about "signs" someone is into you. Sometimes people flirt and the "signs" would be the same as for the real thing.... (read in full...)
He mistreats me but I cant leave him!
Q. My partner dont treat me right. I love him and hate him at the same time. I was strong before and would walk away from any man. I cant seem to walk away. Please help. How do I turn my feelings away from him. He knows how I feel about him. Thats why ...
A. 17 June 2007: Once I read that love is unconditional but relationships are not. No one deserves to be mistreated. If he won't respect you, walk away, no matter how much you love him. This is your best course of action.... (read in full...)
Should I go with my lover or my husband?
Q. i'm really confused. i've been married for 6 months. we met 2 years ago. everything was fine before. he's a sweet man who i'm sure loves me. but i just don't care about him anymore. i cheated on him about a month ago with my co-worker. i'm having so ...
A. 17 June 2007: I think that there are two issues here.
First: If you don't love your husband, should you stay with him? I think you should not. There may be few things as painful as sharing a life with someone who does not love you anymore. Let the man live... (read in full...)
If he loved her, wouldn't he do anything for her?
Q. If a man really loved a married woman but they split up because she felt she had to,wouldn't wild horses not keep him away and he would try to get her back,even though she is married to someone else,like he knows her address but she has changed her ...
A. 17 June 2007: I've been there. If he is any smart and cares about the woman, he will move on. Frankly, there is no future for the two of them as a couple if she splits "because she has to". If he kept on insisting, he would be seen as stubborn and stupid, and ... (read in full...)
People judge us, but we are happy!
Q. Hi I am from the Caribbean. I am a 32yr old African Origin woman that is in a relationship with a 61 yr old White French man. My parents hate our relationship. People make fun of us and stare at us. I am a hard working woman, I have a nor...
A. 17 June 2007: Part of the problem is that only too often it is true that people from poorer societies get involved with people from richer societies just to get a visa.
Now, people who are judgmental do not stop to think that there is another side to this coi... (read in full...)
We broke up and he says he wants me to be happy, but I want HIM!
Q. I've been seeing a guy for 6 months. To begin with he showed interest and we've been getting on great. We love each others company. The problem is the time and my family, we're from different backgrounds. He does shifts at work, I got 2 jobs and ...
A. 17 June 2007: Yes, you are wasting your time, but, more important, you are agonizing over something that won't take you anywhere. A girlfriend I had said that line to me, the "I would understand if you met someone else" thing, and, after what seemed an eternity ... (read in full...)
I panic when I can't reach him!
Q. I suffer with panick attacks and in two weeks my bf is going away with work for three weeks. Then he's back for a week, and then he's going on holiday to see his kids for three weeks. Im so upset! I know Im gonna miss him. He says he misses me too, ...
A. 17 June 2007: It seems you are insecure about him. Take it easy. Let the man do his work and visit his kids. If you insist in his giving you his unending attention all the time, eventually he will feel smothered.... (read in full...)
His parents think I am using him to get an american citizenship! But I'm not...what should I do?
Q. I met my american boyfriend on his holiday while Im working in the UK, Im a filipina. He is visiting his uncle in the nursing home. I'm working and since then we had a long distant love affair. His parents is doubtful of me believing Im after his ...
A. 16 June 2007: I agree with Jovial: whenever a "brown" has a relationship with someone from a rich country, everyone thinks you're only after his/her money or a visa to go there. There is simply no way to change that; people don't want to believe otherwise. ... (read in full...)
I like this guy very much but I just can't seem to understand any signals he might be sending.
Q. Okay I know this question has probably been asked a ton of times, but I need it answered for me. How do you know a guy is into you? How can you tell? I like this guy very much but I just can't seem to understand any signals he might be sending. ...
A. 16 June 2007: It's difficult to give a general answer. Maybe it would be better if you posted what he has been doing about you. Then it would be easier to say if he might be interested or not.... (read in full...)
I'm a woman in my 40s, been separated for a year now and when I date, I tend to go for the younger guys.
Q. I'm a woman in my 40s, been separated for a year now and when I date, I tend to go for the younger guys. Ages range from 27 to 35 and then I had several really sweet dates with a 19 year old. A lot of people would think it's not right, and some of ...
A. 15 June 2007: You're doing great, madam.... (read in full...)
Am i wrong to just let them be??
Q. I am a single middle divorced female with 3 grown children ages 35,30,3l,1 boy the eldest and 2 girls. I believe my problem initially stems from a messy, spiteful divorce approx 20 years ago which left many scars and unresolved issues. My problem ...
A. 15 June 2007: Couldn't agree more with Beckto.... (read in full...)
Obsessed with taking my wife's 17 year old sister to bed!
Q. I am happily married,,my wife is 26yrs old and I am 46.The problem is that I have this obsession with my wife's sister,,she is 17yrs old I want to take her to bed and she seems to have feelings for me as well.What do I do?...
A. 15 June 2007: You're old enough to know you just can't take this girl to bed and that you must control yourself. Are you really sure the 17 year old has "feelings" for you, or is that how you would like things to be?... (read in full...)
I'm unattractive--is there anything I can do to get noticed?
Q. i don't feel attractive! ive never had a gf or anything, i think it is because im not attractive. im 5ft and 14 stone. is there anything i can do 2 get noticed ?...
A. 15 June 2007: The more you try to be "attractive", the more women will feel it and reject you. Just be yourself. Everyone eventually finds someone.
Now, if you don't usually brush your teeth or scream at people, that would definitely be an areas where yo... (read in full...)
When he turns me down for sex..I feel so rejected. What is going on with him?
Q. Last night after work I got to my boyfriends house around 9:30, I suggested we take a shower and hinted at a little more, but he said It's too late as he has to be at work at 5am. This isnt the first time this has happened, I dont ask for it a lot, ...
A. 15 June 2007: Maybe he's just overworked? Find out. If he really is overworked, then he is not rejecting you. ... (read in full...)
Can anybody tell me why men are such commitment phobes and why they like to lead women on?
Q. Can anybody tell me why men are such commitment phobes and why they like to lead women on?...
A. 15 June 2007: Don't make the mistake of thinking that only men are afraid of commitment. Many women are, too.
Now, the most sensitive opinion I've heard on this matter comes from a columnist whose name escapes me now. The question is, are people afraid o... (read in full...)
I'm scared if I see him all these feelings will come flooding back and I'll be back to square one but if he contacts me.
Q. I was with this guy for 4 and a half years and although he initiated the break up I knew it was for the best. Our relationship was very volatile when i was good it was great but when it was bad it was awful. The bad out weighed the good. Although I ...
A. 15 June 2007: I think you just need closure, and his marriage should be that. Since you could keep your cool when you saw his pictures, I think you could handle seeing him again. Maybe you're sad at the distance that has grown between you too, but you don't ... (read in full...)
I'm a woman in my 40s, been separated for a year now and when I date, I tend to go for the younger guys.
Q. I'm a woman in my 40s, been separated for a year now and when I date, I tend to go for the younger guys. Ages range from 27 to 35 and then I had several really sweet dates with a 19 year old. A lot of people would think it's not right, and some of ...
A. 15 June 2007: I don't think you need counselling, and I don't think you need to worry about this being acceptable either. To me, you are very clear about what you want for the moment. You don't want to commit to anyone, at least for the moment. I'm sure your ... (read in full...)
My daughter had oral sex with another boy when she (first went out with him)!!
Q. I'm a parent, I snooped on my daughter's messages. My daughter had oral sex with another boy when she (first went out with him)!! He goes to her school. My guess is also that she has done it several times before with another boy. I have had "the ...
A. 15 June 2007: Frankly, I don't think there is much you can do, no matter how old your daughter is.... (read in full...)
I'm a 21 year old female, who's been told she 'intimidates men', but I'm not even sure how I do it.
Q. I was just wondering if I could get some male input here. I'm a 21 year old female, who's been told she 'intimidates men', but I'm not even sure how I do it. If a women were to initimidate you or scare you off, how would she do it? Im not the kind...
A. 15 June 2007: Now this is a hard question. I assume you do not usually carry a gun :-).
I met a girl who was like 6 feet 3 inches and some men were intimidated by her height. What was truly intimidating about her, however, was her personality. She was very... (read in full...)
He needs space before the next step and I am so confused!!
Q. My boyfirend of three years has asked for some time. We are supposed to move in together this December and i am starting school by his house this summer. He said that he loves me but just wnats to be sure that this is it. We still talk a little on ...
A. 14 June 2007: He may like to think things through, but he's had three years for that. He should be sure by now. Whatever it is he needs to think through, I don't think a month will be enough if three years have not. I believe this is a bad sign.
I've ... (read in full...)
My partner wants me to marry her, but my parents dont! Help!
Q. I need help with my relationship between my partner and my parents. I am 35 year old divorced man. I got divorced about 4 years ago. I Cought my ex cheating. anyway, I have been going out with this new girl for 9 months now and we love each oth...
A. 14 June 2007: Fully agree with Stina. Enough said.... (read in full...)
He is giving mixed signals. Is he attracted to me?
Q. Is he attracted to me? I really feel like a goofy teenager again. I started a new job and have developed a crush on one of my colleagues. Its started off as a few harmless pranks I played on him, but under the laughter I realized I fancied him. He ...
A. 12 June 2007: Apparently he does fancy you. Yes, maybe you should give it a shot.... (read in full...)
I've been whoring it up so bad and now I'm getting a reputation and my friends all hate me now.
Q. Ive been single for two months now and have felt kinda lost without my ex. Im normally a really good girl that doesnt do anything wrong, thinks things through, and never makes mistakes. But lately Ive been drinking a lot with my frinds and making ...
A. 12 June 2007: Don't feel bad about yourself. Everyone has lost control sometime. Just get back on your feet and stop doing things which you recognize as bad for you. The pain will eventually go away, and you don't need to destroy yourself in the process. ... (read in full...)
I have just had sex with my boyfriend's best friend.
Q. I have just had sex with my boyfriend's best friend. i really like my boyfriend and i know you are thinking that if i really like why did i sleep with the best friend? i only understand it now that i am in the situation. should i tell my boyfriend? ...
A. 12 June 2007: Maybe you like your boyfriend, but you certainly don't love him. Maybe your boyfriend thinks he has a friend, but he certainly doesn't. The man was betrayed twice, by his love and his friend. Is it only now that you and the "friend" understand it ... (read in full...)
How do I work out how I really feel about him so I can put it into words and tell him?
Q. this question is going to sound really stupid but i really really need some help. iv been going through a really rough time lately. mostly its down to having a baby and being on maternity leave for 6 months. not being at work has affected me much...
A. 12 June 2007: I understand that things change very much in a relationship when a child is born. For example, many men find that they aren't as important to their partner as they used to be, because the child becomes the most important person for the woman. ... (read in full...)
It's a classic case of being in a relationship, but liking someone else
Q. It's a classic case of being in a relationship, but liking someone else. It all started nearly a year and a half ago now, I realised I liked one of my best male friends, let's call him Tom. We became quite close and talked a lot and the feelings...
A. 12 June 2007: If you don't love your bf, dump him now. Spare him any hurt.
If you love Tom, tell him. Maybe things will be as you wish. Maybe not, but then it's unfair to keep your bf as backup.... (read in full...)
I have been suspicious of her cheating, even if its not full sex maybe just fooling around.
Q. Hey everyone I've been with this girl for 11 months now, I'm very much in love with her and for the most part things are great. However lately I have been suspicious of her cheating, even if its not full sex maybe just fooling around. She says...
A. 12 June 2007: The first thing you should do is stop being paranoid about women. The fact that your other girlfriends were mean doesn't mean every other woman will. Get over those girls and be happy. Your being paranoid may have complicated your relationship ... (read in full...)
How do I know if I am falling out of love? I don't know if I still love him.
Q. I'm a 26 year old female and I thought I met the man of my dreams. How do I know if I am falling out of love? I don't know if I still love him. I want him to be "the one" more than any man I've ever dated. How do I know if he's the right one? I'm ...
A. 12 June 2007: You should give more information. The way you put things, no one can really give you much advice. But I think you don't love him anymore. If you did, you wouldn't be asking yourself this question.... (read in full...)
He's checking out women on dating sites! Should I leave?
Q. hello i met my boyfriend online, we have been together for six months. i recently found out he had been checking out single females on a dating site! i am terribly hurt by his action.when i asked him why, he replied he loves me, was sorry and wa...
A. 11 June 2007: You have every reason to feel confused, because this is a very bad sign. I'm not sure what he has in mind, but he might be looking for someone else while keeping you for "backup". If this were the case, he wouldn't tell you, would he? If you ... (read in full...)
How often is too often? (Sex wise?)
Q. How often is too often? I recently lost my virginity with my boyfriend, we have sex every night if we are together and things are great..should we be slowing down? I am in Europe for a few months ( havent seen him in over a month, so obviously no ...
A. 10 June 2007: Only the two of you know how often is too often. As long as you BOTH find it pleasurable, that is fine. Now, if you would rather slow down, tell him.... (read in full...)
I am to be married in 3 months and he has not told his family or bought a ring.
Q. I am to be married in 3 months and he has not told his family or bought a ring he has made excuse after excuse, no input in the wedding plans or nothing should I walk off Help please...
A. 10 June 2007: It's unusual that he's marrying and he's not telling his family. Does he have a good relationship with his family at all? If he at least talks to them, this is a huge red flag for you.
Now, his not buying the ring seems odd. Has he used his... (read in full...)
Is he teaching me a lesson and restoring his macho dignity?
Q. I am reposting my old story and its developments. I am SO confused... ----------------------------- I have been in a romantic affair with a lovely married man for 9 months. He was the one doing all the running, and gave me a lot. I never gave him...
A. 10 June 2007: Yes, you're in denial. He has a new love. He respects you for who you are, and will be there if you need him. But his love for you is OVER. I know this because I was personally involved in a situation just like the one you describe. I was the ... (read in full...)
I am so frustrated with my love life and this man I am seeing.
Q. Hi again. I got some good advice last time and now I need more. I am so frustrated with my love life and this man I am seeing. Once in a while when we have sex he will go soft and stop doing it. He gets upset and says sorry and its not me and ...
A. 10 June 2007: I'm sure his erection problems have nothing to do with you. Maybe he is, exactly, just nervous. Maybe he has diabetes and doesn't know that yet? How old is he? The penis loses sensitivity with age, and that is a fact that not many people are ... (read in full...)
How can I moan more when having sex with my husband without getting all embarrassed?
Q. i have a question? i am very shy to moan during sex with my husband, i wanted to get some advice to help me open up to moaning for him. i love to have sex a lot just shy to moan. please help me? Tabitha...
A. 10 June 2007: You can only overcome shyness about anything by deciding not to be shy anymore. So, in short, if you want to moan for him, do.
Now, why are you shy about moaning? Ask yourself. This is the real heart of the matter.
Why is it important for... (read in full...)
Why is it that after a breakup the person who intiates the breakup always wants friendship and then when you offer it to them they do not want it
Q. I am a little confused right now and thank in advance anyone who takes the time out to answer my question. Why is it that after a breakup the person who intiates the breakup always wants friendship and then when you offer it to them they do not want ...
A. 10 June 2007: I've been there and I understand how you feel. I don't know the details of your situation, so I will offer some alternatives as to what may be happening.
First, obviously you're a fine person. If you weren't, then he wouldn't care about softenin... (read in full...)
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