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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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I hate porn and no guy I am with is going to look at it!
Q. Are there an men who would be satisfied with one female sexualy? Is this too much to ask? I mean not be interested in porn etc...I ask this because I am considering whether to start dating again..Frankly Im very against porn for political and ...
A. 23 June 2007: Yes, there are men who would be satisfied with one woman only. Many of us would. However, most of us do watch porn until a significant one comes along. I think I would not lose a lot of money (quite the opposite) if I bet a teenager he's lo... (read in full...)
My friends tell me we are in a relationship but he does know or admit to it! Help!
Q. How to deal with friends with benefits while they are pursuing a new relationship? We move into apartment (separate rooms) and ever since we have moved in we have been having sex. Now this girl he has been talking to is coming home where does that ...
A. 23 June 2007: I think I understand what you're going through. At some point in our lives, we all have had to walk away from someone we loved very much. So the decision doesn't seem right. I would like you to think about what I read once: "love is ... (read in full...)
He's been with someone else the whole 5 years I've been with him. Should I stay with someone who has lied to me all this time?
Q. Well im a 26 year old who was with someone who is 39 and we've known each other for about 5 years. we have been together 3 years and i recently got a phone call from a woman who told me they have been together for 9 years. He admitted they were ...
A. 23 June 2007: No, dear. When you love somebody, you don't lie. He doesn't love you or the other lady. Now, I wonder if this woman really called to tell you that "she wants to let him go". If she wanted to do just that, why did she need to tell you? Why n... (read in full...)
How can I be a proper ladies' man?
Q. Gud day readers! Im 23 but I had only experienced having a girlfriend twice in the past and it started when i was 20. I won the hearts of both of these women way too easily. I never worked hard to win them nor did anything to impress them. I'...
A. 23 June 2007: Be yourself.... (read in full...)
I bumped into an ex of mine and now I can't get him off my mind! Help!
Q. I bumped into an ex-boyfriend a couple of days ago and I can't get him out of my head, I just want to see him again. However, I'm in a serious six year relationship with a wonderful and caring person who I do love. I just don't understand why I'm ...
A. 23 June 2007: Just leave. If you love your current boyfriend, that's the right thing to do. If, with time, you feel you cannot love your current boyfriends, then leave him. Good luck.... (read in full...)
My friends tell me we are in a relationship but he does know or admit to it! Help!
Q. How to deal with friends with benefits while they are pursuing a new relationship? We move into apartment (separate rooms) and ever since we have moved in we have been having sex. Now this girl he has been talking to is coming home where does that ...
A. 23 June 2007: English is not my native tongue, but I understand "friends with benefits" to be the situation in which you have sex with someone but there is no commitment between the two. You may care about each other (who wouldn't, after so long a time toge... (read in full...)
I want to stop watching porn! Help!
Q. I want to stop watching porn! How can I do it? Hi there! I have a problem, I don't can tell anyone esle. I don't know, is it normal that female watch prons? I don't do it about once in a month. Free ones from the internet. But I don't ac...
A. 22 June 2007: You can stop watching porn simply by stopping. That's it. Now, I don't think the question here should be whether it's normal for a woman to watch porn. You said it yourself: you watch porn because it's a way to let the pressure go without havin... (read in full...)
On his webpage, there are loads of women he doesn't even know with very sexual pictures. What should I do?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend nearly 2 years and recently he has been spending a lot of time on the internet because he has a lot of spare time on his hands. We both have webpages on popular networking sites but i haven't really gone on mine until ...
A. 22 June 2007: I think he wants the excitement. I'm not sure what this means, though, so I'm afraid I can't tell you whether you should confront him.... (read in full...)
I like her and just when I was gonna tell her how I felt, I found out she likes someone else!
Q. Just when I was ready to tell her how I feel about her. My friend comes up to me and tells me that she likes another guy in school. Her school since we don't attend the same one. Probably why she is trying to graduate Highschool early. She is one of ...
A. 22 June 2007: Here's what you can do: tell her now. If she won't be with you, well, man, you tried. I like this attitude of yours. Just don't try to push things if she prefers the other guy. If she wants you, too, be happy.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
I can't afford to give him sweet gifts for no reason like he can! What can I do?
Q. Hi everyone, I'm 18 years old and dating an absolutely fantastic guy. He's wonderful, treats me well, everything is great. So obviously that's not a problem. The problem is gifts and things. This guy comes from a pretty wealthy family, he work...
A. 22 June 2007: My dear, I don't think you have a problem here. Your man knows you can't afford the things he can. I take it he was a student sometime; and I suppose he knows you're not wealthy. I don't think there is a need to "repay" things when you love ... (read in full...)
She says she's not ready for anal, but she did it with her ex!
Q. My gf has done anal sex with her ex bf but will not let me. She says she will but is not ready yet ? She clames to love me unconditionaly and has never ever felt about anyone as she feels about me? I really want to do this with her and have tried a ...
A. 22 June 2007: It means she didn't like it.... (read in full...)
How do I keep our relationship from de-railing?
Q. I am with a gorgeous guy and we've been together about 2 years. We get along really well and love each other, but here's the problem. I am probably the most attractive woman he's ever been with and it's killing his ego. Last night he admited that ...
A. 22 June 2007: I don't understand your man. In a way, being with a gorgeous woman should be a boost to his ego, something like "See who's with me, you morons?". That should help him with his insecurity, not the other way around. That should ensure him enough ... (read in full...)
Who loses their virginity to two guys?! I'm finding this hard to deal with.
Q. I've been dating a woman for about 3 months who loves sex, and ours is great. But I just found out that she lost her virginity in a threesome with two guys who she then had multiple threesomes with after that. She was 23 at the time and is just over ...
A. 22 June 2007: This is a tough one. First things first: You are asking about ways to get past it. You would simply need to forget about it.
Now, some people enjoy threesomes and some other people don't. Let's not be judgmental about anyone, you or her. He... (read in full...)
My boyfriend left me, then I found out I was pregnant. He threatened me alot and when the baby was born she was stillborn. Should I send him a picture of what we made together?
Q. My ex and I have been separated for the past 8 months (he initiated it after 5 years together). When we split I discovered I was 5 wks pregnant. He didnt want me to carry on with the pregnancy and told me to abort. I told him where to get off and ...
A. 21 June 2007: Dear, I beg to differ with everyone else. If I were you, I wouldn't send the bastard any picture or have any contact whatsoever with him. He didn't want the girl before she was born, or after, and he didn't want any part in that. I don't think he ... (read in full...)
I want a quickie!
Q. I'm wondering maybe from a woman's point of view, how would you like your boyfriend to initiate a quickie? I'm of course in the mood for sex but not always full blown naked intercourse with multiple positions. I'm sure she feels the same way so how ...
A. 20 June 2007: I'm glad you asked this question! I don't have any advice for you, as I am a man, but I do want to thank deejuliet for such an enlightening answer! ;-)... (read in full...)
Is an online romance still considered cheating?
Q. Is it okay to talk to a guy online that you have really come to enjoy talking to everyday and you could possibly see yourself with when you already have a b/f?...
A. 20 June 2007: I don't think the question is whether it's ok to talk to someone online. Maybe there are problems between you and your boyfriend and you find in this guy something you don't find in him. The right question is, Do you want to stay with your ... (read in full...)
I told him I needed my space. Did I do the right thing or did I over react?
Q. Sorry its so long...Just so hurt still, im not a perfect person at all BUT I went above and beyond in giving of myself in this relationship. We have been together for 5 1/2 years. I have been their for him emotionally, financially, mai...
A. 20 June 2007: I'm a man and often we do not understand women :-), but I think I can help. You said it already: you feel he does not appreciate all you have done for him, which is pretty much, I must say. Maybe you feel that he should not remember someone... (read in full...)
I only see him 3 nights a week and do want more but get the feeling he doesn't. What should I do?
Q. been seeing a guy for a year on and of,he is just about divorced and i would like to know where i stand with him? his kids are the same age as mine and get on great at school but he doesnt really involve them too much with me.i only see him 3 nites ...
A. 19 June 2007: I guess you should tell him exactly that: "Where are we going from here?" If he wants to get serious about you, he will respond to your question with actions. If he doesn't, he won't. That will hurt, but you'll have a clear picture of what to ... (read in full...)
I know she reads my texts but she's choosing not to answer me right away for some reason! can someone explain why this may be?
Q. My girlfriend dumped me last sunday and this sunday just gone we talked about starting fresh and 2 take things slow by just dating again and meeting up every week or so and to slow down on all the calls and texts, i was fine with that and still am ...
A. 19 June 2007: She doesn't say she loves you because she doesn't. It's that simple.
I've been there, man. When a girl says she needs space or time away, she needs to take things slowly, et cetera, IT'S OVER. For some reason which only she knows, she is still... (read in full...)
I'm a married man of 7 years who is torn.
Q. I'm a married man of 7 years who is torn. I am so in love with my best friend who is my soulmate too. I am so unhappy with my marriage situation as I am a weak minded guy whose wife is in control. I know what I want to do but havent got the ...
A. 19 June 2007: If you didn't have any children, I would have an easy answer: leave your wife. Since you have kids, it's not that easy.
If your kids are babies, then this might be the time to leave. Divorce always affects children, but I feel it's easier i... (read in full...)
She keeps going back to her rich ex, but I am thinking of proposing anyway.
Q. I am almost 29 and I have been in love with a woman 20 years older than me for the past 3 years. We have dated off and on since we met. She has waivered and gone back to her ex - because he can provide for her financially better than I can - a ...
A. 19 June 2007: Frank and DrBroz have said all you need to know, man. You just have to follow their advice.... (read in full...)
I want to know if i should risk putting myself out there again, if it sounds like he is actually wanting it back,
Q. My name is Danielle. I don't have 1 particular question I want to ask, so I'm going to give some detail about the past of my relationship with Greg. Greg and I met about 4 years ago, he was 15 turning 16 and I was 16 turning 17. We met through ...
A. 19 June 2007: You've been together for very long, so you're sort of used to each other. But, I don't think you should continue to see him. I don't think he loves you, since he keeps dating other girls. Move on to other interests.... (read in full...)
What's up with her and how should I deal with this situation?
Q. My girfriend says she need space for a while but she say she still loves me and does not want to break up. She also says that she does not want to date anybody else, she just wants to do her own thing and can't give me 100% She also said that she ...
A. 19 June 2007: Frank already said all you need to hear, man.... (read in full...)
I can't believe he destroyed our friendship all for a fling!!
Q. My ex broke our relationship off some 6 months ago. Although I feel heaps better than I did, I genuinely feel that I will never 100% get over the way he treated me. He had been with his ex for 5 years and was having trouble getting over it. ...
A. 19 June 2007: That sure hurts. He was not a real friend if he could mistreat you like that. However, I think you should get over him. You know, when you keep thinking about the bad things people did to you, you never stop suffering. Focus on something else ... (read in full...)
Every guy I meet is a slimeball! Should I just lower my standards?
Q. I am on some on-line dating sites, and there is this guy who has asked me out on a date. However, he came across really slimey by mentioning my breasts rather than anything else about my profile. I sometimes wonder if I have had a complete sense ...
A. 19 June 2007: I don't think you should lower your standards. You won't be comfortable with a man who does not "meet" the minimum you need.
However, I think that you should also avoid speed dating and, to a point, online dating. I have the impression that the... (read in full...)
is it wrong for me to want to feel desired and irresistable to my fiance?
Q. is it wrong for me to want to feel desired and irresistable to my fiance?...
A. 18 June 2007: The answer is:
NO.... (read in full...)
He's bad at communication, how can we improve that?
Q. Long distant relationship-help! Me and my boyfriend have been attempting a long distance relationship from opposite sides of the world for 5 months now after being (physically) together for 6 months. He tells me i am the one he wants to marry e...
A. 18 June 2007: I've been there, and I think there are a few things you should do.
First, as you point out, communication is vital. When two lovers are away, each fears that the other will lose heart or find someone else, or is cheating, et cetera. So, you need... (read in full...)
I have a problem when it comes to trusting people due to past relationships. Any idea of how I can deal with this?
Q. I don't understand. I am an honest, nice, dependable, loyal person but yet I keep meeting these men who manipulate me and seem to take advantage. They gain my trust then lie or cheat and thankfully I usually catch it early on before it goes to ...
A. 18 June 2007: I think I have some insight for you, madam. I'm 37 and have been brutally and remorselessly used by ALL the women I have met. Things were so bad that I even considered remaining single for ever. So, don't think that only men do this: it happens ... (read in full...)
Should I sleep with this man when I go back over in July? He's 16 years older than me.
Q. I have a problem, I'll start from the beginning, when i was 13 i met this man who was 29 and we hit it off, he didn't know i was 13 since he never asked and i looked older for my age. He lives in the Phillipines and i live in england, and go over ...
A. 18 June 2007: Sweetie, what you need to do is NOT to lose your virginity with him. Also, you need to get over him.
You may look for your age, but I can bet no man who is 29 will mistake you for a woman in her early twenties. He knows you're young, and, if ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to be with him even though I know it wont be forever?
Q. No baby, no wedding, but delightful all the same. My boyfriend of one year and I both have very different life plans as far as pairing off and reproducing. He intends never to marry and frankly admits neither the desire for children nor the...
A. 18 June 2007: I see you're a smart woman and you're very clear about what you want. Maybe you might agree with me if I say that every opinion is, to an extent, influenced by who is giving it. Did you notice that we males over 30 are telling you that we don't ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to be with him even though I know it wont be forever?
Q. No baby, no wedding, but delightful all the same. My boyfriend of one year and I both have very different life plans as far as pairing off and reproducing. He intends never to marry and frankly admits neither the desire for children nor the...
A. 18 June 2007: I don't think there is anything morally wrong with your decision. If you both feel comfortable living together, knowing that it won't last, so be it.
However, it seems to me that sure you do like each other, but there is no love between you two.... (read in full...)
Both of us are ready for the next step and, I have no idea how. I understand the basic idea of sex but, I don't know how it is done.
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, I'm a 16 year old girl in a committed relationship with my boyfriend of a year and a half (he's 17 and my best friend). Everything is great, he loves me and I love him (and not the typical teenage love where you say I love you...
A. 18 June 2007: I'll write for your guy. Be gentle, man. I can tell you will want to rush. That is NOT the way to do it. Think that she is not going away; she is there for you, and you can make it a wonderful experience for both of you or you can simply rush ... (read in full...)
I like this guy very much but I just can't seem to understand any signals he might be sending.
Q. Okay I know this question has probably been asked a ton of times, but I need it answered for me. How do you know a guy is into you? How can you tell? I like this guy very much but I just can't seem to understand any signals he might be sending. ...
A. 18 June 2007: I just would like to add that you need to be careful about "signs" someone is into you. Sometimes people flirt and the "signs" would be the same as for the real thing.... (read in full...)
How do I prove I'm sincere guy? I'm scared the thought of being in a relationship will freak her out.
Q. Im 21 one and my friend for just 6 months Joe(exactly 1 year and 1 day younger than me) shes one of the best and closest mates Ive ever had we're very alike in our manourisms which is I feel is reason why Ive got to know and trust her so well which ...
A. 17 June 2007: Man, this is a tough one. The problem is not your being sincere; if she's a close friend of yours, my guess is that she already knows this very well. The problem is her not being able to trust you. You can't do anything about this.
If I were y... (read in full...)
Partner wants me to move out. I need more money before I do but he's very persistant. What can I do?
Q. partner today has asked me to move out, he is buying me out as i am on the title deeds. He has told me he has slept with another woman (that makes the total 2 in 6 months) so why would i want to stay in the house with him/ I can't stand him anymor...
A. 17 June 2007: You're going through a very hard time, madam. Just rest assured that "this too shall pass".... (read in full...)
How do I tell him that I would like to have more sex? When I bring it up he just ignores me.
Q. I got married 3 weeks ago, to my boyfriend of 3 years. We are very close, and he is a wonderful, caring (and) good-looking guy - so far, marriage is good. Only one major problem - he hardly ever initiates sex, and Im very disappointed to say that we ...
A. 17 June 2007: Dear Horny: It's a known fact that marriage changes things. I'm not married myself, but I know that one of the problems is that the partners become "always available", and part of the thrill is therefore lost. However, I have also heard people ... (read in full...)
Whats a good way to tell someone youre in love with them?
Q. Whats a good way to tell someone you're in love with them? thanks x...
A. 17 June 2007: Approach the person, and then do things the person cannot mistake for good friendship. Maybe the person will not love you, so proceed with caution. Try moving closer to the person one millimeter at a time, until you feel comfident to show your ... (read in full...)
What is he all about? Was he just trying it on with me for the sex or did he really care?
Q. hi! am a bit confused about an issue...am trying 2 find a job in my field of study which is broadcasting and leave my current job, and 2 months ago some work colleague introduced me to a guy let's call him "T" who works in the media and has his own ...
A. 17 June 2007: I think he just wants you for the sex. Since you didn't give him what he wanted, he is now avoiding you. Just stay away from him.
I find it nasty that he brought up the subject of the job you would supposedly get with him. I can believe ... (read in full...)
Partner wants me to move out. I need more money before I do but he's very persistant. What can I do?
Q. partner today has asked me to move out, he is buying me out as i am on the title deeds. He has told me he has slept with another woman (that makes the total 2 in 6 months) so why would i want to stay in the house with him/ I can't stand him anymor...
A. 17 June 2007: Maybe he wants to push you out of the house, and then keep it to himself. The other woman may be putting pressure on him to make you go. Maybe this is the course of action he has chosen in order NOT to pay you for your share and please her other ... (read in full...)
How can I make him last longer during sex?
Q. My boy's isn't too big in that certain region. His penis is about 5 and a half in long. But there's no problem with me, to my understanding a lot of girls don't get soooo much pleasure out of actual intercourse anyways, so I was wondering, I know ...
A. 17 June 2007: His penis is average, though on the short side of average. Maybe you need more time to adjust to each other? That is a lot of fun.... (read in full...)
He mistreats me but I cant leave him!
Q. My partner dont treat me right. I love him and hate him at the same time. I was strong before and would walk away from any man. I cant seem to walk away. Please help. How do I turn my feelings away from him. He knows how I feel about him. Thats why ...
A. 17 June 2007: Once I read that love is unconditional but relationships are not. No one deserves to be mistreated. If he won't respect you, walk away, no matter how much you love him. This is your best course of action.... (read in full...)
I like this guy very much but I just can't seem to understand any signals he might be sending.
Q. Okay I know this question has probably been asked a ton of times, but I need it answered for me. How do you know a guy is into you? How can you tell? I like this guy very much but I just can't seem to understand any signals he might be sending. ...
A. 16 June 2007: It's difficult to give a general answer. Maybe it would be better if you posted what he has been doing about you. Then it would be easier to say if he might be interested or not.... (read in full...)
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