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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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Tested my boyfriend with texts from a "mystery admirer"... and he's arranged a date with her!
Q. I've been seeing on and off (cos of lack of time) this guy for 3years. He was and says he is so into me loves me very much; in the past i found 'his love' a bit suffocating. However recently I decided that i will give a good go to a relationship ...
A. 13 August 2007: Now you know for sure, for absolutely sure, that he is a liar and was cheating on you for who knows how long. The good part about your testing him was that it led to exposing it. I think your gut feelings warned you something was the matter.
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Tested my boyfriend with texts from a "mystery admirer"... and he's arranged a date with her!
Q. I've been seeing on and off (cos of lack of time) this guy for 3years. He was and says he is so into me loves me very much; in the past i found 'his love' a bit suffocating. However recently I decided that i will give a good go to a relationship ...
A. 25 July 2007: I'm happy for you. You managed.... (read in full...)
Tested my boyfriend with texts from a "mystery admirer"... and he's arranged a date with her!
Q. I've been seeing on and off (cos of lack of time) this guy for 3years. He was and says he is so into me loves me very much; in the past i found 'his love' a bit suffocating. However recently I decided that i will give a good go to a relationship ...
A. 20 July 2007: The civilized peace you mention is worth in itself and I would go for it. After all, you had a love relationship. Sometimes problems like the one you had are good, in a way, because they expose what is not working well, and, with the right ... (read in full...)
I've just broken up with a player, I'm not devastated and I didn't love the bloke, but I soooooo want to teach him a lesson!
Q. Ok ok, for starters I don't want do gooders here! I don't want comments or advice from people who think I'm sad and bitter and I should move on and forget and forgive ok? I've just broken up with a player, I'm not devastated and I didn't love the ...
A. 12 July 2007: Tellulah is right. Don't put yourself at risk. I had missed this possibility.... (read in full...)
What can I do to save our relationship?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over two years. Recently, I have been feeling alone. I feel like he isn't interested in me. When I try to tell him how I feel, I end up feeling guilty and cry. He acts as if he doesn't notice that ...
A. 11 July 2007: Let's hope things improve.... (read in full...)
He went away on business and promised to call to say he got there safely... but didn't!
Q. Recently my b/f went away on business. The night he left, he promised to call when he arrived at his first destination. He knows that I am always unable to sleep until I know he's there in one piece. He never called. I laid awake until 1:30 AM ...
A. 10 July 2007: Well, my dear anonymous, with this new information, I have to agree with you: he should have called.... (read in full...)
Tested my boyfriend with texts from a "mystery admirer"... and he's arranged a date with her!
Q. I've been seeing on and off (cos of lack of time) this guy for 3years. He was and says he is so into me loves me very much; in the past i found 'his love' a bit suffocating. However recently I decided that i will give a good go to a relationship ...
A. 10 July 2007: All right, Butterflyfly. We don't know when you'll find the right guy, but I hope you do find him. I hope we've helped you.... (read in full...)
I need closure from my last relationship, but my ex still refuses to speak w/ me even after 15 years! What can I do?
Q. I'm in a happy long term relationship of over 15 years. My problem is that I had one previous serious relationship of 5 years when I was at college. It ended very badly and caused me much pain. I don't think I have ever fully got over it, partly ...
A. 10 July 2007: We understand better now. But, anyways, this is how it will be. I'm sorry about it, you know.... (read in full...)
He went away on business and promised to call to say he got there safely... but didn't!
Q. Recently my b/f went away on business. The night he left, he promised to call when he arrived at his first destination. He knows that I am always unable to sleep until I know he's there in one piece. He never called. I laid awake until 1:30 AM ...
A. 9 July 2007: I'm afraid you might. Sometimes calling is not as easy as it seems. I had to stay one night in an airport, on my way home, and I simply found no way to let my family know.
Maybe you are insecure about him and he's resenting that. But I wouldn't... (read in full...)
How do I get over past mistakes made by my wife?
Q. How do I get over past mistakes made by my wife? Here's the story. When we first got together, it was over the internet while playing an online game. We were both married to others at the time, and both couples spent time together on this game. ...
A. 9 July 2007: If she's what you would call "out of your league", maybe that's the reason for your insecurity. In any case, I'm happy to see that you didn't take our comments badly, and that you're trying to work things out. This is our purpose in posting replies ... (read in full...)
Been in touch with a guy on the internet and after week hes' told me he loves me!
Q. hi evry body i have just know a boy from internet and after a week he told me that he love me shod i bleave him or not ?...
A. 9 July 2007: Maybe he's in love with the idea of you. I don't think he's in love of you, either, since he hasn't even seen you.
In some cultures, people say "I love you" in order to communicate they want to explore a relationship, and that they are serious ... (read in full...)
I turn 20 soon and im still a virgin. Is that okay?
Q. I turn 20 soon and im still a virgin. Is that okay? I wanted to wait until i was in a serious relationship before i had sex but now i dont know if i should just go out and sleep with someone because of the whole age-pressure thing?...
A. 9 July 2007: If that is what you want, lady, of course it's OK.... (read in full...)
He's drinking heavily due to his sons leaving. Should I leave him?
Q. Ok, got together with a guy,but he's got problems! His young sons been taken to live in europe this week and he's a drinker..... i know he likes me alot and me him. I dont know if i can cope with him drinking and showing up at my place hammered. ...
A. 9 July 2007: I suppose you made the right decision. I hope I helped.
Take care,... (read in full...)
Tested my boyfriend with texts from a "mystery admirer"... and he's arranged a date with her!
Q. I've been seeing on and off (cos of lack of time) this guy for 3years. He was and says he is so into me loves me very much; in the past i found 'his love' a bit suffocating. However recently I decided that i will give a good go to a relationship ...
A. 9 July 2007: I'm with you, Butterflyfly. Only he who has never been through the horrible experience of finding out someone is cheating can disagree with the reason for the testing.
I think you're doing things the right way: you are giving him an option. ... (read in full...)
We split so he could get back together w/ his ex for the sake of their children. He doesn't even love her!
Q. Hi Here is an update on my probs My bf of a year split up with me three weeks ago Im finding this very hard as i loved him so much and he is the greatest man iv ever met Thing is he is in the army and based on the opposit end of the country f...
A. 9 July 2007: You're heartbroken and that's only so natural. You have the feelings we all have when we need to give up on a love. Maybe this is harder because obviously you do love him and you are a great person, one who'd be willing to step aside if so things ... (read in full...)
I told my bf that I started thinking he was being unfaithful and it led to an argument! Now he's been avoiding me a bit. How do I get our relationship back on track?
Q. I met my boyfriend about 2 years ago online. Our relationship has been going well but soon I started to think he was cheating on me. Then just yesterday told him about it and the next thing you know we were in a bit of an argument. Now he has been ...
A. 9 July 2007: My guess is, the relationship was already having problems and his being away was just one sign of it. You took it to mean he was cheating and he got upset. Maybe he is, or he isn't, but in any case there are some issues to be solved here. Try ... (read in full...)
My ex treated me like crap, so I broke up with him. Now he's decided to not speak with me, so how can I get him back?
Q. Hi all, i've been with my bf for 7 months now and i love him so much. however at the beginning he treated me bad, talking to his ex, wouldn't introduce me to his parents. we had a massive argument at the weekend because his friends think he treats ...
A. 9 July 2007: Your love for him, and the pain, don't let you see that you're better off without him.
You did the right thing: you told him you would not tolerate such treatment. If you called him again, or went after him, you'd be giving him the message ... (read in full...)
My gf is two months late so she took a pregnancy test. It came up negative! Are blood tests not that accurate?
Q. hi to all... im an 18 yr old male who's gf is 2 months late already. We took a blood test to see if she's pregnant, but it came out negative. Is there something wrong or could it be that blood tests are not that accurate? Thanks...
A. 9 July 2007: I understand that sometimes there are false negatives and false positives, yes.... (read in full...)
My husband refuses to kiss me on the lips! When I try, he turns his head. Is he losing interest in our marriage?
Q. Hi, I've been married for nearly two years and have given birth to a beautiful baby boy 6 mths ago. Recently, my husband has been refusing to kiss me on my lips. Our sex life hasn't decreased but he will not touch my lips. Everytime I try,...
A. 9 July 2007: I agree with eyeswideopen. This is very odd, I think.... (read in full...)
He wrote a love letter to his ex, told a friend he wished he could see her "hot friend," and more! I'm jealous and insecure - am I overreacting?
Q. Please help . . . I have been in my relationship for a year and my boyfriend continued to write to his ex girlfriend in Germany. I found one letter (it was not hidden) and it was basically confessing his undying love for her (he has not done tha...
A. 9 July 2007: I don't think you're overreacting at all. He has clearly been doing things he shouldn't, since he says he loves you. You should request clarification about the meaning of that last post-card. You know, this is the second time you find something ... (read in full...)
I need closure from my last relationship, but my ex still refuses to speak w/ me even after 15 years! What can I do?
Q. I'm in a happy long term relationship of over 15 years. My problem is that I had one previous serious relationship of 5 years when I was at college. It ended very badly and caused me much pain. I don't think I have ever fully got over it, partly ...
A. 9 July 2007: I agree with flower girl. She gave you very good advice.
I have a little something to add. I understand your feelings because I was in the same situation. I know you just want to make peace between you two. But, you won't be given that cha... (read in full...)
I went through my boyfriend's things and found some really unusual stuff! Why would he have these things???
Q. I did a very bad thing: my boyfriend and I just moved in together and while he was at work, I went through some of his old things. I know I shouldn't have done this, but what I found is really disturbing me! I found a lot of porn and that doesn't ...
A. 9 July 2007: Well, it's so good to know we helped you.... (read in full...)
What can I do to let him know that he isn't getting her back and that I'm in charge!!!
Q. My girlfriend went out with this guy and now I think he wants her back. Me and her have been going out about 4 months and she doesn't want him back but what can I do to let him know that he isn't getting her back and that I'm in charge.. thanks ...
A. 9 July 2007: I agree with the girls, but I'm afraid they have not considered a possibility, remote as it is. You know, sometimes there are guys out there who just cannot accept their former girlfriend is with someone else, and they tend to say things that make ... (read in full...)
Female in love with female. Need some advice on why after I told my best friend that I loved her she denied it, but she would continue to flirt.
Q. Female in love with female. Need some advice on why after I told my best friend that I loved her she denied it, would she continue to flirt. She refers to me as "Kimmers" just so you know. She is unhappily married and I don't need a lecture on that ...
A. 9 July 2007: LauraE has said it all. I fully agree.... (read in full...)
How do I get over past mistakes made by my wife?
Q. How do I get over past mistakes made by my wife? Here's the story. When we first got together, it was over the internet while playing an online game. We were both married to others at the time, and both couples spent time together on this game. ...
A. 9 July 2007: I see you have a problem trusting her. I wonder why. There must be a reason, particularly considering that you've been together for nine months only.
Apparently you have found no "evidence" of her being involved with someone else. So, with the... (read in full...)
He's been phoning prostitutes but says he wouldn't meet them, it just gives him a thrill... is this acceptable?
Q. I recently discovered that my partner has been phoning prostitutes and asking them what they offer. I inadvertently found that he had been looking at websites for local massage parlours on his PC and so checked his phone, and he had a number for a ...
A. 9 July 2007: Eyeswideopen chose a good nickname. Follow what she says.... (read in full...)
He's drinking heavily due to his sons leaving. Should I leave him?
Q. Ok, got together with a guy,but he's got problems! His young sons been taken to live in europe this week and he's a drinker..... i know he likes me alot and me him. I dont know if i can cope with him drinking and showing up at my place hammered. ...
A. 9 July 2007: I say, give him a chance, but make him understand his drinking is affecting you. He is going through rough times and may not have noticed this unwanted effect of his drinking. Maybe he's relying on you for support, too.... (read in full...)
When we have sex, I think he's thinking about someone else.
Q. im scared that when my bf and i have sex that he is thinkin of some one else because i just caught him looking at porn yesterday and now it bothers me to be around him andi feel as if he is going to cheat on me what should i do?...
A. 9 July 2007: I agree with DV1.... (read in full...)
I think I like my best friend more than a friend.
Q. Hi i am a fourteen years old boy I have a best friend who is a 13 year old girl but we go to diferent schools and she has a boyfriend there or so she tells me but i think i like her more then a friend what do i do...
A. 9 July 2007: If you aren't really sure whether she does have a boyfriend or not, find out. If she does have him, stay his friend. If she doesn't, take your chances.... (read in full...)
I've just broken up with a player, I'm not devastated and I didn't love the bloke, but I soooooo want to teach him a lesson!
Q. Ok ok, for starters I don't want do gooders here! I don't want comments or advice from people who think I'm sad and bitter and I should move on and forget and forgive ok? I've just broken up with a player, I'm not devastated and I didn't love the ...
A. 9 July 2007: Sorry: "to make love to you". Do this more than once and that will hurt.... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriends all seeming to be popping up from nowhere!
Q. Am so confused! suddenly all the guys have popped up, my ex started talking to me through the msn but just general talk I guess he misses me... then the ex before him; my 1st love has sent me a message thru facebook that he's comin this week (he's ...
A. 9 July 2007: You seem to be like a small jar of honey: all the flies come near. Pick your bee and "bee" happy.... (read in full...)
Does he just want me to wait around?
Q. My boyfriend texted me and told me to call him so I did and he said he wants us to take a break, but not break up, that he wants to get himself financially stable, but hes 16 so there is no financially stable in my opinion, and deal with family ...
A. 9 July 2007: I'm afraid he doesn't love you anymore but doesn't have the guts to tell you. So he keeps you waiting until you get tired. He used a poor excuse.... (read in full...)
I've just broken up with a player, I'm not devastated and I didn't love the bloke, but I soooooo want to teach him a lesson!
Q. Ok ok, for starters I don't want do gooders here! I don't want comments or advice from people who think I'm sad and bitter and I should move on and forget and forgive ok? I've just broken up with a player, I'm not devastated and I didn't love the ...
A. 9 July 2007: Tell him to come to your place to make love you to, and then change your mind at the very last minute.... (read in full...)
How can I make my mum and dad approve of my boyfriend and allow us to marry?
Q. Ok here goes I am 16 years old and my fiance is 20 years old we are now 9 weeks pregnant and we have been together for a while, I was 15 when we got together and I'm about to be 17 in September. I want to marry him but my parents hate him and don't ...
A. 9 July 2007: I'm afraid you can't force people to like someone. That comes naturally.... (read in full...)
Do you think this is a sign that I could possibly be pregnant?
Q. Me and my fiance have been together for about a year and a month now, were getting married in two months. I've known him for over two years now and all is well but we want a child even thow we're young, were not as young as some couples with ...
A. 9 July 2007: You might be pregnant, yes. But, if the sex happened only a week ago, I'm afraid you wouldn't know by now. I understand that this kind of manifestations take place later in the pregnancy.... (read in full...)
I have fallen for the daughter of one of the people I've been working for...
Q. I'm a self employed contractor of the grand old age of 20 (I'm afraid this may drag on a bit)and I fell for the daughter of one of the people I have been working for for years. it started last summer when I just asked her out, got no for an answer. ...
A. 9 July 2007: I don't think a girl leaves a man because of her friends' opinions. I think she likes you, but doesn't love you. But, I might be wrong.... (read in full...)
Do women like a tough boyfriend or a sensitive boyfriend?
Q. Hi, I was just wondering... do women prefer a manly man or a sensitive guy for a boyfriend? Not to sound bigheaded but I'm reasonably muscley and quite strong but I'm also really sensitive and I cry at sad films and other sad stuff that a lot of ...
A. 9 July 2007: I will offer the help I think you're in worst need of. You can't please everyone. Women have different preferences. So, instead of trying to become "the man the girls want", try being yourself. Some girl will not even talk to you, but then so... (read in full...)
I've waited so long to be with him, why have I lost interest?
Q. When I was 16 I met my new best friend Jaymore. I met him through my friend Alicia which was his girlfriend. He was there for me when I needed him. Now while we were getting closer our feelings got mutual, we wanted to be more than just friends. ...
A. 9 July 2007: Well, it seems you don't want a relationship with him anymore.... (read in full...)
There is a girl that I really fancy and I thought she fancied me too but a couple weeks into the summer holiday she got a boyfriend
Q. I am 16 years old and I am leaving school to go to college, there is a girl that I really fancy and I thought she fancied me too but a couple weeks into the summer holiday she got a boyfriend. When we were both at school we were very close, we w...
A. 9 July 2007: If she has a boyfriend, I suppose you should not think of her as a girlfriend anymore. A good friend, maybe.... (read in full...)
What can I do to let him know that he isn't getting her back and that I'm in charge!!!
Q. My girlfriend went out with this guy and now I think he wants her back. Me and her have been going out about 4 months and she doesn't want him back but what can I do to let him know that he isn't getting her back and that I'm in charge.. thanks ...
A. 9 July 2007: I say, speak in person to the man. That should give him a strong message, I guess. Just make sure what his intentions are before you make yourself embarrassed.... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend hardly ever want to spend time with me any more?
Q. Hi, I'm 17 an have been with my boyfriend for nearly a year now, but lately he doesn't seem to want to spend time with me, seems he would rather be out with his mates. I really love him and it hurts that I hardly get to spend time with him anymore. ...
A. 9 July 2007: It seems to me that you should let go. We could use some more information, but it seems like he is not interested in you anymore.... (read in full...)
I went through my boyfriend's things and found some really unusual stuff! Why would he have these things???
Q. I did a very bad thing: my boyfriend and I just moved in together and while he was at work, I went through some of his old things. I know I shouldn't have done this, but what I found is really disturbing me! I found a lot of porn and that doesn't ...
A. 9 July 2007: I guess that the porn and the doll can be explained in the same way, and maybe this should not be a reason for concern. About the rest, maybe it's things his former girl left and he just forgot to get rid of them, or couldn't make use of, like the... (read in full...)
Could you get AIDS, HIV, STDS, and etc if you had never had sex?
Q. Could you get AIDS, HIV, STDS, and etc if you had never had sex? While I was washing down there I felt couple bumps. Then they went away. I had never had sex and I am still a virgin....
A. 9 July 2007: Some diseases, like herpes, you can catch if your boyfriend has open sores and you kiss him. But, unless you're a drug user or share razor blades or the like with someone, there is no way you will get AIDS or most STDs. Who knows what you had; I ... (read in full...)
I am dating a girl and I am crazy on her, only thing is she's dating someone else at the same time until she can decide who she wants to be with.
Q. I've been dealing with a problem for quite some time now and all the advice I've been getting is unacceptable to me (no offence). So basically I've been secretely dating a girl for the last 5 months or so and I love her more than words can express. ...
A. 9 July 2007: No, man, if you put it this way, there is nothing else for you to do. However, I would try to make sure she is seeing the other guy just because her parents put pressure on her. Maybe she does like him.... (read in full...)
Is running the best for weight loss and overall toning for the body?
Q. Is running the best for weight loss and overall toning for the body?...
A. 9 July 2007: I understand that swimming and walking are better options.... (read in full...)
What can I do to save our relationship?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over two years. Recently, I have been feeling alone. I feel like he isn't interested in me. When I try to tell him how I feel, I end up feeling guilty and cry. He acts as if he doesn't notice that ...
A. 9 July 2007: Apparently you have serious problems. It is not possible to save a relationship unless the two parties cooperate. So I think you should try to get him involved. If he won't, well, the relationship will be doomed. Obviously you are being neglec... (read in full...)
How can I tell my long distance boyfriend I'm having second thoughts about going to see him in 2 days?
Q. How can I tell my long distance boyfriend I'm having second thoughts about going to see him in 2 days? I just been having visions of him cheating on me and I don't think I can face him until I get these stupid visions out my head. We haven't seen ...
A. 9 July 2007: Well, this is a hard one. I'm afraid you can't tell him anything now. What you should do, however, is have a clear picture of why you have second thoughts about him. I wonder what could happen in four weeks for you to feel this way.... (read in full...)
Please take the time to read this, I know it is long but it's important to my relationship.
Q. Please take the time to read this, I know it is long but it's important to my relationship Ok well where do I start... I'm sorry if bits and pieces of this don't make sense, but bear with me, I am writing this as she is leaving the house becaus...
A. 9 July 2007: Frankly, I don't believe her. I think you were played, man. I don't believe there is anything in the world that will make her return to you. I think you should move on. As a principle, you should respect another person's privacy. So, lo... (read in full...)
Tested my boyfriend with texts from a "mystery admirer"... and he's arranged a date with her!
Q. I've been seeing on and off (cos of lack of time) this guy for 3years. He was and says he is so into me loves me very much; in the past i found 'his love' a bit suffocating. However recently I decided that i will give a good go to a relationship ...
A. 9 July 2007: Well, with the information you give, it's obvious he was not just curious about knowin who his mistery admirer is. I'm happy to see that you and I are in the same wavelength, but now I want to add something. I'm with you, not in the test itself,... (read in full...)
Tested my boyfriend with texts from a "mystery admirer"... and he's arranged a date with her!
Q. I've been seeing on and off (cos of lack of time) this guy for 3years. He was and says he is so into me loves me very much; in the past i found 'his love' a bit suffocating. However recently I decided that i will give a good go to a relationship ...
A. 8 July 2007: I agree that you shouldn't play this games. However, I also think there is a reason for you to. If he constantly says he loves you and you found reason not to believe him, there is a problem here.
I also think he should not go with this game, le... (read in full...)
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