Like what
she writes?
... Add *indyCares to your favourite agony aunts
Want to get in touch?
... Send *indyCares a private message | | | *indyCares's profile:Hi everybody. I am an Italian woman currently living in Italy but I spent many years in England and USA. I hope my English is still decent but in case it got a little rusty, please be lenient.
My age ? Let say that I am way past the stage when you cry if the boy you like takes your best friend to the prom, and young enough to remember how awful that feels.
What qualifies me to help people- well, let me show off just a bit and mention that I studied Psychology 4 years in college, and, even if then I graduated in a different subject, I never lost my interest in psychology and kept reading a lot about this subject. Yet that does not really qualify me for anything because intellectual knowledge is not the same as real life experience. So let's say I feel I can advice people because I have lived a lot, travelled a lot, met a lot of people from all backgrounds , races and religions- I have loved a lot, and I have also been dumped a lot :)
Plus, I am really fascinated with people and their stories. Not in a gossipy way. I just find that every person is a whole new world that I am excited to discover.
Right now I am single- and happily so. I realized- better late than never - that rather than waiting for Prince Charming I should first become a Princess myself. You can't love anybody unconditionally, if first you don't love yourself unconditionally, and this is what I am learning to do.
Looking forward to hear from all of you..
Ciao
Cindy |
|
| Latest articles: Devastation in Italy
This question has 2 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
26 August 2016: This has got nothing to do with romance or relationships or love- maybe with love for our fellow human beings, i.e. solidariety and compassion , so I hope that the mods will publish this regardless. On August 24th a devastating eartquak...
Ten best ways for a woman to be given her walking papers.
This question has 7 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
19 August 2014: Yeah I know : ultimately love is a mystery, not an exact science. There's always an element of sheer luck, of serendipity, of magic in it. Some times you do everything right, by the book, you are the perfect gf / wife / lover .. and you still get ...
|
I bent over backwards to make it work, but he still dumped me!
Q. My bf, of 4 years, and I just broke up like 20 mins ago. I saw it coming for months now. Since January nothing had been the same. He was distant, disrespectful and basically seemed to live to make me miserable. I tried to work things out for the ...
A. 20 July 2014: Are you really surprised ?...You said you've seen the BU coming for ages- your bf was distant, disrespectful and lived to make you miserable. He acted as if he hated you and showed he did not give a flying fuck.
So , if now he seems not to give... (read in full...)
Is my husband gay? straight? or just curious?
Q. I'm questioning whether to believe my husband when he says he's not gay or bi after I confronted him about knowing he watched/chatted with a couple trannies this one time that I know of. There were also females he watched/chatted with as well. He ...
A. 11 July 2014: Yes, but... he should not be " capable of beng faithful and loyal ", he should be faithul and loyal, period. He is married.
I don't think he is " confused " more than other hundreds , thousands of married men are confused- trannychasers are noth... (read in full...)
How long to withold sex in a LDR when you meet your significant other?
Q. I just met a guy through a mutual friend here in the states that I really like but he lives in Europe. We have been chatting everyday both on the phone and all other messaging means. He really likes me as a matter of face he loves me and claims I am ...
A. 11 July 2014: Yes , OP, your post is a bit confusing, it sounds to me that you need to make peace with your own brain.
First you say that you have decided to save yourself for marriage, then you know you can't wait for the 3rd visit. So, you alreday KNOW you ... (read in full...)
I bent over backwards to make it work, but he still dumped me!
Q. My bf, of 4 years, and I just broke up like 20 mins ago. I saw it coming for months now. Since January nothing had been the same. He was distant, disrespectful and basically seemed to live to make me miserable. I tried to work things out for the ...
A. 11 July 2014: OP, this will sound patronizing maybe, but I wonder : if this is his usual M.O.- ignoring you for a week or more, then sending you a " cum fuck me " text on a weekend late night... rinse and repeat ... has not ever dawned on you that most probably ... (read in full...)
Chatting online for a month and he wants me to pay his phone bill so we can talk
Q. I met this guy in a dating website about a month ago and he asked me to pay his phone bill. It makes me a little uncomfortable because I don't know if he is using me. He says he likes me a lot and has plans to come visit me in 3 weeks (lives 7 hours ...
A. 11 July 2014: What a shameless moocher.
Come on, you know nobody in their right mind would do that ! By the same token you could have asked him to do the same for you, - pay YOUR phone bill so that you can talk, I bet that 60 bucks more in your pocket woul... (read in full...)
Is my husband gay? straight? or just curious?
Q. I'm questioning whether to believe my husband when he says he's not gay or bi after I confronted him about knowing he watched/chatted with a couple trannies this one time that I know of. There were also females he watched/chatted with as well. He ...
A. 11 July 2014: Funny, your husband has a story of being inappropriate and disloyal, and might be cheating / have cheated on you, and you worry not about having married a cheater, but about his basic sexual orientation ?,... A cheater is a cheater, whether he ... (read in full...)
Tips to get a man going?
Q. Heya there Aunts and Uncles, So, I'm an eighteen years young rising freshman at college, my boyfriend of over a year and I are starting to make things sexual and I have very little idea what I'm doing. I didn't have much of a sex education, even in ...
A. 11 July 2014: I'd think it does not take anything particular to get a boy in your age rabge going, maybe the problem is how to get him NOT going :)...
Anyway, since you have a loving, patient and understanding boyfriend, and since he is the one who shou... (read in full...)
Should I shave my beard for my friend's wedding?
Q. I have my friend's wedding to go to in a couple of weeks and I am debating whether or not to shave.. I have had a beard for the last 10 months and have grown fond of it, it is part of me now I feel. I do keep it 'trimmed' but it is still probably...
A. 11 July 2014: f they have asked you to be best man when you were already sporting the beard, they know what you'll look like in the pictures and they don't have a problem with it . What they saw, it's what they get- a bearded best man. I don't think they just ... (read in full...)
How long to withold sex in a LDR when you meet your significant other?
Q. I just met a guy through a mutual friend here in the states that I really like but he lives in Europe. We have been chatting everyday both on the phone and all other messaging means. He really likes me as a matter of face he loves me and claims I am ...
A. 10 July 2014: " I feel in my heart that I have found him " ( your future husband ).
Uhm. Pardon me , but if you really felt this way, what would be the point of your post ?.
You will only have sex with your future husband. You feel sure in your heart th... (read in full...)
I feel the need to talk to him to see if there is anything there ....
Q. i met this boy when I was in my senior year of high school and we really hit it off. It seemed like we were the perfect match for each other, until one day he told me he was moving away after that school year and he will be leaving the school. I ...
A. 10 July 2014: While I don't feel that hitting him up with a " Hi John, long time no see you, what have you been up to ? " would be particularly strange or inappropriate, in this Facebook time and age when people reconnect from the paleozoic era... I am dubious ... (read in full...)
What do women think about men, fitness and fights?
Q. So, I'm a pretty peaceful guy. I'm going to school for biochemistry (which I love), and spend most of my life in the lab or library. I study hard, get good grades and generally enjoy prefer mental work as opposed to anything physical -- except for ...
A. 10 July 2014: I am past the age of being impressed by fighters, but I was not favourably impressed even when I was your age. I agree with "straight to the truth", the peacockry of someone strutting his stuff , and intentionally provoking confrontations and ... (read in full...)
LDR - so why doesn't he tell his family and friends that we're dating?
Q. I've been dating someone, long distance, for about a year though I've been talking to him and we've been good friends for around 5. I met him through another friend. I love him and think he's absolutely amazing, so my entire family and close...
A. 9 July 2014: I agree with SVC. That's weird and it's not a good sign.
I could understand him not wanting to tell his parents yet , maybe he knows they would make a fuss or just does not talk about his love life with them... but not telling his friends, in o... (read in full...)
I feel I am constantly waiting for him and wasting my life away ...
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for six years and we have a son together who is 3 years old. We all live together, my partner works 16 hour days, and he works nights. He only gets one day off but even on his day off i don't see him as he lays in bed ...
A. 9 July 2014: OP,please do not be so literally minded, people cannot know the composition of your family, and then again, if you had your parents, seen your young age , they'd be still young too and in a country where most people needs a double income to live ... (read in full...)
His dating site profile says he's just looking for friendship
Q. I am 28 years old, my boyfriend is 30, we have been together for a year and a half. we don't live together. I found out recently his got a profile on a dating site. a friend was browsing the site and came across the profile, she informed me about. i...
A. 9 July 2014: Sorry but I think he is up to no good. I don't believe he is just looking for people with similar interests. Why have these people to be women only, and why is he looking for them on a DATING site? It would make sense, and it would be ... (read in full...)
Am I still a Virgin?
Q. Hey me and my boyfriend were having fun kissing and stuff so we got to this point were we were taking off our clothes,he wanted to put his penis in but it was so sore so he tried to put half of his penis in I didn't experience any bleeding but my ...
A. 9 July 2014: I doubt it.
Your hymen is AT the vaginal opening , not somewere at the bottom of your vagina- so half a penis ( let's say 2/5 -3 inches ? , or more ) is quite enough to break it ; IF it was still there. A hymen ( except unlucky exceptions ) is... (read in full...)
Prom is next year and I have no date! Should I ask him?
Q. Here goes. I'm in year 10 and so next year it will be my prom and at the moment I have no date. I really want to ask this guy but I am way too worried about the things that could go wrong to ask him. We are friends and I'm scared that if I ask him ...
A. 9 July 2014: Chill :). There os nearly one year yet to your prom, if you ask him now he'll think you have OCD or an anxiety disorder or something !
If you want to ask him out for a date ( AND you can handle a possible rejection / seeing possible chan... (read in full...)
How long to withold sex in a LDR when you meet your significant other?
Q. I just met a guy through a mutual friend here in the states that I really like but he lives in Europe. We have been chatting everyday both on the phone and all other messaging means. He really likes me as a matter of face he loves me and claims I am ...
A. 9 July 2014: One should wait as long as she has decided to wait.
If for reasons of yours you have made your mind up to abstain from sex till marriage- well, then this exactly how long you should wait : till marriage - regardless of how many visits and how ... (read in full...)
Haven't conceived after 18 months of trying ...
Q. Hi guys, I'm feeling really low today and I just need to get this out. I'm 31 (and a half) and my husband and I have been trying to conceive for about 18 months. It took a long time before he felt ready for a family and then if only we'd known ...
A. 9 July 2014: I am afraid your doctor is right, before having hs sperm tested there's no point in seeing a fertility specalist or undergoing further exams or tests, because that's the first thing the specalist will need to know, - if his sperm is viable in ... (read in full...)
I need help understanding why he won't see me!
Q. So I've got this friend of like 7 years, but recently he refuses to see me. We used to be the best of friends and then we got together. It wasnt easy as we were very shy and alot of people made it hard. It ended, by him, I was hurt but we stay...
A. 9 July 2014: I'd think it would be evident why he refuses to see you ?...
Because he has a girlfriend !, who yes, happens to be jealous and possessive, but also if she was not jealous and not possessive at all , she very probably would have a legitimate prob... (read in full...)
He went through so much with his ex I wonder if I'm a rebound?
Q. Please Bare with me because my story is long and detailed. Three years ago, I started working at a Psychiatric Board and Care Facility as a housekeeper. I was 18 then, from being a housekeeper, I changed linens, worked in the kitchen, drove p...
A. 9 July 2014: Yep. He's a flake. I don't know if he is also a potential stalker, but he is SO using you to thumb his nose at his ex. What, he gets laid ( pardon , he spends a happy weekend with a new conquest )- and this is debated with his ex ?? she should ... (read in full...)
Does not wanting to to work outside the home make me a bad person?
Q. Does not wanting to to work outside the home make me a bad person? My husband barely makes enough to support us. We don't even have children. We have talked about adoption in the future when we are better off. We're in our mid twenties. I ofte...
A. 8 July 2014: Thanks for sharing your story , OP, but you seem to miss the point of why some people may see you as " spoled ". Well, spoiled is an excessively harsh word- but spoiled is not about how many gadgets you had growing up or have now, spoiled is in the ... (read in full...)
Boob size and pain issues! Normal?
Q. hey I m 22. I recently noticed that my left breast is bigger than the right one. Is this normal and can being in a sexual involvement cause this? Also both my breasts pain a lot for 3 to 4 days every month? what could it be? please help me ......
A. 8 July 2014: It's normal. It's not infrequent that one breast is bigger than the other.
The monthly breast pain is linked to the hormonal variations in your cycle. A few days before the period , some women's breasts swell ( even a lot, like having to wear a di... (read in full...)
I need my boyfriend's support right now and all he wants to do is argue
Q. hey guys I am just going to give you a brief background before telling you the issue. My boyfriend and I have been together almost 3 years we have been living together 6 months and have recently bought a puppy together...you'll see why this ...
A. 8 July 2014: All what Janniepeg says, plus,.. there can be something much simpler.
You did not ask him.
That's not YOUR own electric chair ( electric chair ? it sounds bad ,lol ) . It belongs to you and him, it's his also. I don't think he'd really be such... (read in full...)
I feel I am constantly waiting for him and wasting my life away ...
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for six years and we have a son together who is 3 years old. We all live together, my partner works 16 hour days, and he works nights. He only gets one day off but even on his day off i don't see him as he lays in bed ...
A. 8 July 2014: No you did not have to drop your studies. Your kid is in day care 4 mornings a week, you can use that time to study. And the fact that your bf sleeps on his day off, becomes a positive- you can study then .Same, as when he is at work at night ( ... (read in full...)
I don't need a relationship right now, but in the future I'd love to be a family with them again.
Q. Hey they! Hope you all can help me out here! I'd like some advice about my ex girlfriend and I. Well first off I'll tell you about me. I'm a super caring and nice guy who would do anything for ones I love and care about. I have a job and a nice car ...
A. 8 July 2014: I do not quite understand what advice you are asking, what is the question...
You like the girl but you won't be back with her, a) because first you've got your own issues to sort out b ) because she does not want you. But, you hope one day you'... (read in full...)
I don't know who to chose as a room mate!
Q. Hi there, I am trying to decide what to do regarding living arrangements next year and it's making me have sleepless nights with worrying over it. I am living with two guys at the minute, one is moving away to university and the other is a gu...
A. 8 July 2014: I would stay with Paul, even if he is far from perfect as a roommmate.
Not having to nove all your stuff, and walking distance from work ?!. Those are two huge bonuses. Kathy should be funnier than Seinfeld to make ME move.
Then, do you real... (read in full...)
Boyfriend not going to my graduation but going with his friends. What does this say?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend flr ober a year. Were quite serious and are currently living together and saving for a new home. Were very much in love and generally get along great. The thing is its my masters graduation this week. I got 3 tickets, o...
A. 8 July 2014: It means he does not want to get stuck all day at something so boring, WITH your parents to entertain in conversation too.
Selfish ? Yes. Everybody is selfish . Aren't you selfish too in wanting him to sacrifice his spare and precious free time... (read in full...)
My inlaws have out stayed their welcome and my husband doesn't get it!
Q. My husbands parents live in canada, weve been together 10 years and they've only come to England once in that time (for our wedding). After the birth of our 1st child they said they were coming to see their grand daughter. They kept changing their ...
A. 8 July 2014: Hang in there . It's nearly over. Only one more week to go !
It is not THAT bad- comparatively. If you think that you have seen this people once in 10 years .... there's tons of people who have to deal with unsavoury in laws every days of thei... (read in full...)
Does not wanting to to work outside the home make me a bad person?
Q. Does not wanting to to work outside the home make me a bad person? My husband barely makes enough to support us. We don't even have children. We have talked about adoption in the future when we are better off. We're in our mid twenties. I ofte...
A. 7 July 2014: It does not make you a bad person, but it makes you a broke one. And makes yout husband broke too. If he BARELY makes enough to support you both, that means that every extra or unforeseen expense ( new tyres for the car, a new par of eye ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is as unromantic as can be
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year. We connect so well in everything. He challenges me intellectually, is fun, sweet, affectionate. The thing is, he is as unromantic as a person can be. As an example, he lives right across t...
A. 7 July 2014: Erm, I'd check with City Hall before having him pick flowers for you. This field is obviously not into the wilderness, so , either it belongs to a private owner 's ( and the roses are the owner's ) or it belongs to your municipality, i.e. to ... (read in full...)
Why did my friend say one thing and do another? I'm so hurt
Q. Why did my friend do this? am I overreacting? So a couple from our church was getting married and my friend told me about it and I was really looking forward to it and she's close to the couple so she said she'd let me know when the wedding ...
A. 7 July 2014: @ eric troy : " sad " ? sad is a big word. Don't you ever forget anything ?... then you are a lucky excepetion, I have been blessed genetically with an excellent menory, and still , every now and then , I happen to forget something that I had ... (read in full...)
I bent over backwards to make it work, but he still dumped me!
Q. My bf, of 4 years, and I just broke up like 20 mins ago. I saw it coming for months now. Since January nothing had been the same. He was distant, disrespectful and basically seemed to live to make me miserable. I tried to work things out for the ...
A. 7 July 2014: Yeah well, surely a long, heated, emotional confrontation after just seven days from a BU would not win the prize for most effective, coherent No Contact of the year, but so be it. One can always go back on track.
You 've got to be honest with... (read in full...)
Since I refused to do things he's seen in porn he wants nothing to do with me
Q. My bf watch too much porn and he gets himself relief by watching but he still want to have sex with me and wanted to do it from behind but I won't let him and he doesn't understand when I tell him no. He tells me I'm no fun, I did what he wanted me ...
A. 7 July 2014: No, Caring Aunt A, don't worry :).. the OP does not mean her ex has blown up her phone literally, with dynamite - just that he has been calling her repeatedly and insistently. It's USA slang.
If you are not in love with him- let him go. Igno... (read in full...)
One night stand trouble
Q. Dear readers, I wonder does anyone have similar a similar problem: Lately any guy that I have sex with doesn't seem to be able to maintain an erection. I understand that nerves etc. can play havoc and mixed with alcohol can also play havoc, but...
A. 7 July 2014: For those who have been imbibing heavily, blame it on the alcohol. I think most people underrates the influence of alcohol on sex. In my experience, let's say that it never helps or enhances it: granted, not all guys will go limp because of a ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says for our relationship to survive I need to start surprising him sexually
Q. Quick and short... My boyfriend says that for our relationship to survive I need to start "surprising" him sexually. One of his versions of being surprised is a spontaneous blowjob in the car. That's pretty much all the hints he has given me! An...
A. 7 July 2014: But that's not a separate issue ! that's part of his being a tough one to sway at all, and being set in his ways and wanting what he wants when he wants, screw everybody else. And of projecting and unloading his issues over you in your couple ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend got another girl pregnant
Q. i would like to ask about my boyfriend of six years. he got another girl pregnant. i saw them dating through the pictures in facebook. i ask my boyfriend first but he refuse to answer. thats why i directly ask the girl. she said that my boyfriend is ...
A. 7 July 2014: No it's not OK !
I'd be curious how would he go about fixing this.
What is he going to do, is he going to un-date, un-fuck, and un-get pregnamt the girl whom he has been cheating on with, you and about whom he never came clean before you caug... (read in full...)
I found out he was an uncle by marriage of a friend of mine and now she hasn't really spoken to me a whole lot.
Q. I am 29. Recently out of a 7 year relationship ending in him cheating on me, met a pretty decent guy online and have been dating him for 5 months now. He and I have so much in common, cheated on, faithful in previous relationships, love the same ...
A. 7 July 2014: Yes, either you are overthinking this or SHE is overthinking it.
The man WAS married to her aunt six yers ago, - then he moved on with his life and decided to date again, and ended up with someone your friend knows.
That would be weird if it ha... (read in full...)
Is it unreasonable to not want my baby exposed to an unhygenic environment?
Q. Hello everyone I am having a problem with my parents and i'm wondering if i'm being reasonable. I'm 19 and i'm almost 36 weeks pregnant me and my fiance live with my parents we have our room and our nursery. My parents have always told me they never ...
A. 6 July 2014: No, with due respect to all animal lovers , I don't think you are unreasonable at all ! When your baby will start crawling, what is it supposed to do, crawl over dog shit and dog pee ?! I would not want my baby to live like this, and , regardless ... (read in full...)
Why did my friend say one thing and do another? I'm so hurt
Q. Why did my friend do this? am I overreacting? So a couple from our church was getting married and my friend told me about it and I was really looking forward to it and she's close to the couple so she said she'd let me know when the wedding ...
A. 6 July 2014: What do you mean it wasn't invites only ??!!.
EVERY wedding is invites only !, in the sense that people can't be so presumptous to invite whom they want to another person's wedding ! Just, not done. Only the bride/ groom get to say : you come, you ... (read in full...)
My parents are so strict I am getting teased about it!
Q. OK, so I need some advice. My parents are really, really strict and I've NEVER been on a date before. Even when I hang out with friends, I'm not allowed to do it unless they drive us there and back and they're really strict on the amount of time. ...
A. 6 July 2014: I second what FA says. And mind you, by my personal standards your parents's rule are exceedingly, almost insanely strict - yet you are 13 ? case closed. You don't go on official " dates " , alone with a boy , at night, in a restaurant - at 13. ... (read in full...)
Now I've got him why aren't I satisfied?
Q. I've been having an affair with a married man for almost over 18 months now, he's been wed for about 6 weeks, has a 2-year-old son, and on Wednesday he announced he's leaving his wife for me. He said he'd told his wife "I'm leaving you, got a new ...
A. 5 July 2014: Oh wait- I've got something to edit too. I see now that you are worried about HIS in - laws .Yeah well, they'll be furious too, what do you expect, but actually those are the least of your worries since you won't need to have any social ... (read in full...)
Now I've got him why aren't I satisfied?
Q. I've been having an affair with a married man for almost over 18 months now, he's been wed for about 6 weeks, has a 2-year-old son, and on Wednesday he announced he's leaving his wife for me. He said he'd told his wife "I'm leaving you, got a new ...
A. 5 July 2014: I think that the poster is having a little laugh at our expenses .... or else, she' s writng under the influence.
I can't find other possible explanations for some things she wrote.
Like, that about her friends, who would not be afraid t... (read in full...)
I haven't known my boyfriend and feel like I'm barely getting to know him and we have an 11 month old baby together. Break up or make up? Relationship problems going on.
Q. This question is going to go a little deeper from this post: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-boyfriend-told-me-let-me-get-fat.html I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now coming December 13th. We've hit some bumps in the road a...
A. 5 July 2014: Oh then the fat issue was just the tip of the iceberg, and this new post draws a different scenario. In fact, frankly I am amazed that you are even so flustered about him calling you fat. This is apparently the least of your problems.
I thin... (read in full...)
My grandmother is a gossip and I don't want to see her. How do I handle this?
Q. My grandmother and mother are both negative gossips. I am 32 years old and for the past 4 years have put some distance between them and myself. However, now that I have returned to the city that I grew up in and they live in my grandmother is ...
A. 5 July 2014: I think that if you really really wanted to be left out of the family- you would not even be writing to us. You would have had no doubts , you would have made up your mind and written your family off with no regrets and no looking back.
So you ... (read in full...)
I'm starting to get stirrings about wanting a baby. Do I tell my partner? He doesn't want one now
Q. Thankyou for taking the time to read this I have been struggling with something that has happened recently and I don't know how to overcome it. 2 and a half years ago I suffered a miscarriage with a previous partner. We were at the end of our r...
A. 5 July 2014: You know what ?, I am thinking that , before and beyond sharing your feelings with your bf if you wish, the most practical thing would be to have a good long chat with an OB/GYN . Again, I am no doctor but I have got the feeling you MIGHT have ... (read in full...)
I bent over backwards to make it work, but he still dumped me!
Q. My bf, of 4 years, and I just broke up like 20 mins ago. I saw it coming for months now. Since January nothing had been the same. He was distant, disrespectful and basically seemed to live to make me miserable. I tried to work things out for the ...
A. 4 July 2014: " suck my dick for helping you ? " ...Is he mentally ill ?...
Back to ignore ignore ignore, and mean it this time. It does not matter if he is the Wizard of Oz, or has the secret to save mankind from a worlwide catastrophe-do not ask him anyt... (read in full...)
I bent over backwards to make it work, but he still dumped me!
Q. My bf, of 4 years, and I just broke up like 20 mins ago. I saw it coming for months now. Since January nothing had been the same. He was distant, disrespectful and basically seemed to live to make me miserable. I tried to work things out for the ...
A. 4 July 2014: What do you do ?... sigh... you start all over again. The moving on process and the ignoring. And try harder this time. This, if you are serious about wanting to STAY broken up.
It's like following a diet, or quitting smoking. You fall off the ... (read in full...)
My grandmother is a gossip and I don't want to see her. How do I handle this?
Q. My grandmother and mother are both negative gossips. I am 32 years old and for the past 4 years have put some distance between them and myself. However, now that I have returned to the city that I grew up in and they live in my grandmother is ...
A. 4 July 2014: Actually, I'd think there's an easy solution to your problem. Just do not give her ammo. Do not tell her anything too personal, or anything that you would not want spread around . You can keep your visit not too long , and sort of not too intimate. ... (read in full...)
I'm starting to get stirrings about wanting a baby. Do I tell my partner? He doesn't want one now
Q. Thankyou for taking the time to read this I have been struggling with something that has happened recently and I don't know how to overcome it. 2 and a half years ago I suffered a miscarriage with a previous partner. We were at the end of our r...
A. 4 July 2014: You are not crazy.. but you are broody :). And your partner should NOT be supportive, since: you are too young, you are not ready, he is not ready , and you have a folic acid deficiency to take care of ( at least the best you can ) before ... (read in full...)
I bent over backwards to make it work, but he still dumped me!
Q. My bf, of 4 years, and I just broke up like 20 mins ago. I saw it coming for months now. Since January nothing had been the same. He was distant, disrespectful and basically seemed to live to make me miserable. I tried to work things out for the ...
A. 2 July 2014: Fair is fair :).
He writes you " fuck me "... you write him back " fuck you " and you are even.
No, don't , actually. Just kidding. Keep ignoring him. You are doing good, and soon you'll be fine .... (read in full...)
| *indyCares's friends
These are mutual friends, so *indyCares has
added them and they have added *indyCares!
|
![[?]BitterSweetFinale;[?] agony aunt](/avatars/7bb1e9ea-6c2f-43b8-a4f7-0635b7eff08c.png){kind=small}
