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My age ? Let say that I am way past the stage when you cry if the boy you like takes your best friend to the prom, and young enough to remember how awful that feels.
What qualifies me to help people- well, let me show off just a bit and mention that I studied Psychology 4 years in college, and, even if then I graduated in a different subject, I never lost my interest in psychology and kept reading a lot about this subject. Yet that does not really qualify me for anything because intellectual knowledge is not the same as real life experience. So let's say I feel I can advice people because I have lived a lot, travelled a lot, met a lot of people from all backgrounds , races and religions- I have loved a lot, and I have also been dumped a lot :)
Plus, I am really fascinated with people and their stories. Not in a gossipy way. I just find that every person is a whole new world that I am excited to discover.
Right now I am single- and happily so. I realized- better late than never - that rather than waiting for Prince Charming I should first become a Princess myself. You can't love anybody unconditionally, if first you don't love yourself unconditionally, and this is what I am learning to do.
Looking forward to hear from all of you..
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19 August 2014: Yeah I know : ultimately love is a mystery, not an exact science. There's always an element of sheer luck, of serendipity, of magic in it. Some times you do everything right, by the book, you are the perfect gf / wife / lover .. and you still get ...
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Did I mess up asking for a second date?
Q. I'm a 30 year old man and I recently went out on a first date with a 34 year old woman. I had a great time. The next morning, I need to leave to teach a day long rock climbing course (i.e., no cell coverage) and I text her beforehand to say that I ...
A. 29 May 2015: Yes, the reaction is likely to be 50/50 : half huge relief that the guy got the hint, half a pang of guilt for having disapponted him. Or maybe... 70/30 ?... don't forget that, as another poster mentions, current dating etiquette ( particularly ... (read in full...)
Should we carry on or just walk on different paths? We still have feelings for each other, but is that really enough?
Q. Dear Cupid, Thanks for taking the time to read this - whoever you are. I've been with my husband for 3 years. We come from different continents, but met while I was traveling in his country. We traveled together and it was fun at the beginning ...
A. 29 May 2015: Yeah well, like WiseOwlE said too, he might be crying because he sees the gravy train coming to a stop !
Precisely for this reason, although normally I would agree with WiseOwle also on the fact that taking " breaks " in a marriage is neit... (read in full...)
Is my wife lying? She says she can't remember back 15 years ago whether the guy had a large penis or not
Q. Ive been married to my wife 15 years. When I first met her, i remember her telling me of a former sex partner who was big in penis size. When i brought that fact up recently, she denies anything was ever big. She says she dont remember even ...
A. 27 May 2015: She TOLD you !- she explained you neat and nicely. It's only that you can't bother to hear , because it's not the answer that you want or expect. Just because it's not an answer you can relate to, or not the one you'd give if YOU were a woman, ... (read in full...)
Is my wife lying? She says she can't remember back 15 years ago whether the guy had a large penis or not
Q. Ive been married to my wife 15 years. When I first met her, i remember her telling me of a former sex partner who was big in penis size. When i brought that fact up recently, she denies anything was ever big. She says she dont remember even ...
A. 27 May 2015: The fact that YOU do not understand something does not make it less true,less witnessed, or less fequent when it happens all the time.
I do not understand how computers work, and yet, here I am posting my answers to you.... (read in full...)
She says she don't remember her ex boyfriends sizes. Could it be?
Q. I am with a girl for about 5 yrs. I like her very much and our sexual life was very beautiful, until 3 months before, when disaster came. Here is what happened: I had never asked her anything about her past, I knew only what she had told me herself ...
A. 27 May 2015: OP, I'd say that, between you and her ,you have amply responded to your questions. The Aunts confirmed.
How big must " he " have been to cause pain ?
Not that big, OP, in fact a small one is enough- as long as you aren't properly lubricat... (read in full...)
Girlfriend and I fought and haven't spoken in a week. We are playing the waiting game but what should I do?
Q. I have been dating my gf for over 3 years now and she accompanied me to the hospital so I could update my hospital card. She said that the office to update my card closes at 4 but when we arrived she pointed out that they close at 3. I innocently ...
A. 27 May 2015: Yes, I had noticed too that at every posting the grabbing seemed to become softer and gentler... nearly fading into a loving caresse....
OP, let's cut to the chase : would you agree to a definition of grabbing as putting your thumb and index ( at... (read in full...)
Should I be allowed a lock on my door?
Q. Hello, opinions on my situation please. I currently live with my step mum dad and little sister. My little sister is my half sister my step mum is her mum. Ive only lived with them for a few months. I used to live with my mum other sister, I was ve...
A. 27 May 2015: Well, OP, it's not really about age or " what everybody does ", that's not really the point.
My own son only moved out at 25 ( and, being that we are in Italy... everybody goes " Oh... so SOON ??! ,LOL ). BUT, my son did not have a wicked step... (read in full...)
He likes to show me affection but shuts me off when I do the same.
Q. I have been friends with this man for 3 years. We met online and gradually become really close friends. When we become friends, he was living a 1000 miles away from my city, now, he moved to my city, living only a mile away from my home. We meet ...
A. 27 May 2015: Oh...then I am afraid that my opinion will be disappointing to you...Personally, I don't feel he is THAT serious or interested. His aren't really WE statements or WE projects, it's more like involving you in his escapist fantasies.. One thing is ... (read in full...)
Is my wife lying? She says she can't remember back 15 years ago whether the guy had a large penis or not
Q. Ive been married to my wife 15 years. When I first met her, i remember her telling me of a former sex partner who was big in penis size. When i brought that fact up recently, she denies anything was ever big. She says she dont remember even ...
A. 27 May 2015: OP ! She TOLD you why ! Are you even listening to her... or have you decided that you guessed right ,so whatever she says does not matter now ?!
She told you that she did it because she always felt ugly and like there was something wrong with... (read in full...)
He made me feel special ... and then he let me down!
Q. Last week, a guy told me that he liked me. I didn't really have feelings for him, but now when I think about it, he makes me happy and I think I'm starting to like him.. The problem is, this week our friends started playing a game of 'who you'd ...
A. 26 May 2015: Sweetheart ,it's just a silly game. Same as he does not literally want to kill you ( hopefully ) he did mot mean he literally wanted to marry you.
He is just discovering... girls. A whole new world. Last week he liked you and he was sincere, I be... (read in full...)
He likes to show me affection but shuts me off when I do the same.
Q. I have been friends with this man for 3 years. We met online and gradually become really close friends. When we become friends, he was living a 1000 miles away from my city, now, he moved to my city, living only a mile away from my home. We meet ...
A. 26 May 2015: Ask him if he wants to get engaged or what.
If you live in a culture of arranged marriages where families gets routinely involved ( such seems to be the case ) he will be perfectly aware that he is compromising you , your perspectives and your... (read in full...)
Should I be allowed a lock on my door?
Q. Hello, opinions on my situation please. I currently live with my step mum dad and little sister. My little sister is my half sister my step mum is her mum. Ive only lived with them for a few months. I used to live with my mum other sister, I was ve...
A. 26 May 2015: Excellent suggestion by EWO. That's what would make more sense.
If for some reason this is just not possible yet, - then it makes more sense if you just go back to your Mom's.
The reason why you left, was because there was Mom plus a wicked s... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my inlaws who show up unannounced every day and won't call first?
Q. I'd love some advice/opinions from anyone that has a tension-filled relationship with their inlaws. I really don't know whether I'm overreacting and over sensitive as I've been made to feel I am. My inlaws are eccentric types. They're the typ...
A. 26 May 2015: OP, I feel your pain, and your in laws would drive me nuts too... but you can't make an omelette without breaking any eggs !!
Now , it seems you have reached your scope- which was to not have them come over so often because, let's face it, they... (read in full...)
Girlfriend and I fought and haven't spoken in a week. We are playing the waiting game but what should I do?
Q. I have been dating my gf for over 3 years now and she accompanied me to the hospital so I could update my hospital card. She said that the office to update my card closes at 4 but when we arrived she pointed out that they close at 3. I innocently ...
A. 26 May 2015: OP, I think you are either sticking to your guns because you are stubborn by nature, or ... you are somewhat clueless and you just don't get it , do you ?
It's quite simple ,actually :
- You do not get to " grab " your gf. There's no somethin... (read in full...)
Did I mess up asking for a second date?
Q. I'm a 30 year old man and I recently went out on a first date with a 34 year old woman. I had a great time. The next morning, I need to leave to teach a day long rock climbing course (i.e., no cell coverage) and I text her beforehand to say that I ...
A. 26 May 2015: I agree, you did not do anything wrong,- and I think you guess eight, it might be a fade away.
Her response to your clear , inequivocable message suggesting a date activity next wekeend was.. lukewarm at best.
If she had been interest... (read in full...)
We never have sex and fight all the time, why am I with him?
Q. Dear readers, I really don't know where to start from because the situation is quite complicated. Let me say in end of 2013 after a nasty break up, I met a guy 2 years older than me ( he is 27years now) and completely feel in love. We spent time ...
A. 26 May 2015: Sister- it's simpler than you think ,you know ? FIRST you call off the wedding, kick him out of your life, block him, go no contact, the whole nine yards- THEN you start the mourning and HEALING process. You may need to see a therapist, or read ... (read in full...)
Is my wife lying? She says she can't remember back 15 years ago whether the guy had a large penis or not
Q. Ive been married to my wife 15 years. When I first met her, i remember her telling me of a former sex partner who was big in penis size. When i brought that fact up recently, she denies anything was ever big. She says she dont remember even ...
A. 26 May 2015: So if you know you are acting stupid... why do you KEEP acting stupid ?
Are you always so suspicious ? She said she does not remember. Period. Are you always questioning anything she says ?
" What did you have for breakfast ? " - Cereals ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my ex's girlfriend that we made out and had oral sex?
Q. I was recently in my ex's hometown and we hung out even though he has a girlfriend. He called me as soon as I got to my hotel and we had drinks. Within two hours we were making out, and fooling around (oral sex, boob sucking, dirty talk) he wanted ...
A. 26 May 2015: Oh you let it go far enough, have no dount about that.
Oral sex is serious cheating and .. IT IS SEX. Curious that you think otherwise, unless you guys are ex President Clinton and Monica Lewinsky !
Should you tell her ?... Uhm- WHY would yo... (read in full...)
My ex is confusing me.. Why is he still explaining himself?
Q. Me and my ex broke up a week ago. I ignored him and his texts since then but he keeps msging me. Today he msged me asking why i was ignoring him... So i said he made his decision. I respect it but I'm not settling for any less than what I want (he ...
A. 26 May 2015: Nothing. Ego. Sheer ego. Nobody likes to be ignored, and everybody likes to have things go according to the scenario THEY have in mind. Your ex obiously want his freedom back AND you to be cheerful , friendly and " cool " about it, and he does ... (read in full...)
She says she don't remember her ex boyfriends sizes. Could it be?
Q. I am with a girl for about 5 yrs. I like her very much and our sexual life was very beautiful, until 3 months before, when disaster came. Here is what happened: I had never asked her anything about her past, I knew only what she had told me herself ...
A. 26 May 2015: OP, ... you are one frustrating OP :). Do you even BOTHER reading what we write ?
So, no other explanation "but the size " for pain during intercourse ???...
Plenty of explanation, as you'd know if you were a woman. Having sex without being pr... (read in full...)
Dad hasn't changed at all and won't let me live my life?
Q. Hello. I am highly stressed out because my dad doesn't want me to have a boyfriend or move out of the house. EVER. Although, he HAS MET my boyfriend last year and I have been with this guy for three years. I am 18. My dad thinks my grades would go ...
A. 25 May 2015: Hard to reply without knowing a bit of background. Granted, your Dad sounds somewhat more overprotectve than the average Dad ( and all Dads are overprotectve of their young daughters to some extent ) but , without knowing why.... I mean, if you ... (read in full...)
He seemed to treat our date as if I was on his payroll
Q. Hi everyone Please let me know if you think i am crazy but i went on a day out recently with the boss of a large firm. This guy has been flirting with me for ages and i agreed to go with him and his staff. I did seek assurance that i wouldnt be...
A. 25 May 2015: Interesting question. Interesting for me , because for once I can't agree with anybody. The field is split between those who think he does not give a hoot, and those who think he is very kind and very keen, maybe too much
( controlling ). I am h... (read in full...)
I've made the first move. Is he interested?
Q. Just a little background info: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/hes-5-years-younger-do-i-make-the.html So I made the first move and started a conversation asking if he's going to dress up for Halloween. He told me about a party he went and aske...
A. 25 May 2015: @anon reader. Don't grumble, anon. Women DO approach men. Maybe not as often as they could / should / you would like them to, but in our times the sight of a woman taking the first step is in no way like an albino tiger - rare and exceptional - as ... (read in full...)
What was my G/f (who I'm in a Long Distance Relationship with) doing at 4:00 AM and why is she evading my question?
Q. Hi there, I'm not sure how these things work so I'm just going to post the situation and hope for a response. My girlfriend attends the University in Liverpool and I'm home in Coventry, it's been like this for about a year now and the long distance...
A. 25 May 2015: What do you do, is stopping being intrusive and paranoid.
There are many legitimate reasons why she would be up at 4 AM. Like, having to go to the bathroom. Or menstrual cramps. Or a bout of insomnia which she whiled away by sending you funn... (read in full...)
Should we carry on or just walk on different paths? We still have feelings for each other, but is that really enough?
Q. Dear Cupid, Thanks for taking the time to read this - whoever you are. I've been with my husband for 3 years. We come from different continents, but met while I was traveling in his country. We traveled together and it was fun at the beginning ...
A. 25 May 2015: This sounds like a typical unfortunate case of : marry in haste repent at leisure. Or maybe of " I love you- you are perfect- now change ".
You were attracted to him BECAUSE he was this independent, free spirited wild child, and now you'd like... (read in full...)
Should I be settling down?
Q. I'm 23 years old and I still like going out and enjoying myself. All my friends are settling down with their boyfriends, moving in together or having children. I just don't feel ready for all of this! I still live at home with my parents although I ...
A. 25 May 2015: If you ask me, your question does not even quite makes sense, seeing that nobody, but nobody, wants to settle down at 23 here, and the average age for marriage is around 30 ,and for first child, 31.5 , or something along these lines. And that's ... (read in full...)
The woman I love shows verbal abuse and tells me to leave her but I love her!
Q. I am in a relationship with this woman for over 2 years but the past few months she has been an emotional wreck she lost a loved one and her job nothing really worked out her..because of which I have been subjected to verbal abuse like "asshole" ...
A. 25 May 2015: " But I love her / him " must be the most used and abused words by which people tries to justify and explaon away all kinds of disrespect , mistreatments and cruelty.
Ok you " love " her, and what about loving yourself a little too ? Just enou... (read in full...)
Seven days later, is there a reason he hasn't asked me for another date?
Q. So I went on a date with a guy about a week ago. He picked me up, and we went out for a few drinks and came home relatively early because he had work the next day and had already been at a dinner. When we were both in the car together, we kept ...
A. 25 May 2015: I think HE thinks that you have blown him off. Sure, literally " possibly let me know if you are free tomorrow " would mean that if he did not hear from you, that was because you were not free the day after. Then again,common sense and common ... (read in full...)
Telling him how much I love him isn't working, so what's the best way to get him back?
Q. Two months ago I broke up with my boyfriend of 3.5 years after an argument. We had been having lots of arguments and it wasn't our first time breaking up. Now, 2 months later, I feel like I made the biggest mistake of my life and I desperately want ...
A. 24 May 2015: I agree with Aunty BimBim. You may have pulled the rope one time too many until it snapped. That's the mistake of many couples with this constant break up / make up dynamics. One of the parties thinks it's a way of loving passionately and fiercely ... (read in full...)
Why does my ex blame me for his failed conquests?
Q. Why does my ex blame me for his failed conquests? I fell out with a guy I had a brief fling with. He is one of these smooth talkers, who likes to chat the women up - so I said I couldn't cope with his flirting around etc anymore. So anyway, we fi...
A. 24 May 2015: Yes ,it's not nice to be blamed for things you haven't done, but, not everybody in the world will only think positive things about you, sooner or later you are bound to meet people who do not " get " you, plus if he is an ex, and an ex FLING !, ... (read in full...)
I have gained weight and my health obsessive MIL is coming for a visit!
Q. My mother-in-law, let’s call her Mildred, is coming for a visit. My husband and she simply do not get along, sad fact. But, right now I need your advice on how to survive her obsession with physical beauty/looks/exercise/food, having in mind that I ...
A. 23 May 2015: Sorry but I can feel your pain... up to a point . And note that I know perfectly what you are talking about, because my own MOM is a beauty-nazi, so you can imagine I haven't been short of occasions to feel under scrutiny.
BUT, this is the typi... (read in full...)
She says she don't remember her ex boyfriends sizes. Could it be?
Q. I am with a girl for about 5 yrs. I like her very much and our sexual life was very beautiful, until 3 months before, when disaster came. Here is what happened: I had never asked her anything about her past, I knew only what she had told me herself ...
A. 23 May 2015: Her explanation is totally possible.
Generally women do not pay to what a penis looks like a tenth of the attention than mysteriously men do.
I have seen penises of course, and some of them, I have seen them consistently for years and year... (read in full...)
We remain celibate and want to wait. Why is my Bf asking me to be more 'dominant' in our relationship ?
Q. My boyfriend recently asked me to be more dominant in the relationship. Being dominant is something that doesn't come naturally to me, and to be honest, I have no idea how!! What does being more dominant mean? (And no not in bed, we don't do tha...
A. 23 May 2015: I think the only one who can answer your question precisely is your bf- why don't you ask HIM what he means by dominant and how would he like you to show your dominance ? Wouldn't that be much simpler than guessing ?....
Anyway, if I have to g... (read in full...)
He says nothing is wrong but always has excuses for not contacting me
Q. I met this guy on a dating site. He texts me often and we decided to meet in real life. A few days after we've both returned to our various countries he starts to ignore me. We had so much fun times together. He's active on facebook and Whatsapp but ...
A. 22 May 2015: As already suggested by other respondents ( and it's a very good advice because t's true in any circumstance of life, not just love matters ) always pay attention to what people DO , not what they say.
Talk is cheap and cost no effort, other than... (read in full...)
Where does all of my boyfriend's money go? He gets angry when I ask him
Q. I love my boyfriend. He loves me. We've been together for a year and lived together since 3 months of dating. I lost my last boyfriend who I lived with my all heart to a drug problem I was helping him fight for years. My boyfriend was with one girl ...
A. 22 May 2015: What to think- alas nothing good. Gambling,or drugs, or hookers. You are correct, even reckless , mindless spending would not burn such a big, fast hole in his pockets. Having lived in NY for long time, I am familiar with that typical NY sensation ... (read in full...)
Why after all this time - does he still show such hatred towards me?
Q. Hi, I've heard about men and women falling out on bad terms due to affairs, jealousies etc - but can someone please explain the hatred still shown to me by this guy? The thing is - I am single and got close to a guy who fancied me, last year, n...
A. 22 May 2015: Well, hatred is such a strong word, I don't think he " hates " you. And 6 months is not such a long time ... for people who's prone to hold grudges, there are types of personality who stay hung up over minor slights ( true or perceived ) for YEARS. ... (read in full...)
Am I going to look back and regret settling with a guy 16 years older than me?
Q. Hi everyone, I'm hoping to gain some advice away from the judgements of my family. I met a guy through my work who asked for my number, we text for quite sometime and found we had so many similar interests and outlooks- it kind of felt like f...
A. 21 May 2015: SVC don't cheat, lol. You are supportive of age gap relationships... when the man is younger- for some reason, I just can't picture you paired up with some gentleman in his 70s... can you ?:)
Anyway OP, I'll be banal and I'll repeat what most post... (read in full...)
How do I deal with this calculating intern before things get out of hand?
Q. I have a potential problem at work. Our company is really small - my boss, who has two other companies, and I. In the office (which is basically one room in his otherwise big apartment) there are only two desks, one of which is for my boss’ ...
A. 21 May 2015: Maybe not SO tough, OP. The intern is only going to stay two more months , and , although she tries to hog more work and more responsibilities- she still is an intern, how much damage she can realistically do in 2 months ?
Besides, that's your... (read in full...)
How can I come to terms with, accept, and overcome my jealous feelings towards a woman who has done better in life than me?
Q. My problem is some kinda jelousy. I am 52 y old now and I am an artist. I did very well on my career,but had some very powerful people that wanted to exchange some favors with me,which I never did. My career went to a higher level,but in som...
A. 21 May 2015: I don't know OP.Maybe deep down she is the one who is jealous of you. Maybe she thinks you are the one who had it really good.
She may have seemed, or even felt, confident about her choices and career shortcuts- but these things have a way to l... (read in full...)
Can a 62-yearold man climax twice in a day? Is this possible? The norm?
Q. Anyone know what the turnaround time is for a 62 year old man to have an orgasm? Could he have two in one day? One in the morning and one at night? Or is the recovery period longer that he must wait to go again the next day? Just curious be...
A. 20 May 2015: Yes He could
- it varies individually but average refractory time for men in their 60s is 12 to 24 hours .... (read in full...)
Am I unreasonable to be upset that she won't come out for my birthday meal with family?
Q. IT is my Birthday next week and my family are going for a meal in the evening. Naturally they have invited my girlfriend of three years. She says she doesn't know if she can come because she has plans with her family during the day, and it may put ...
A. 20 May 2015: I think jls022 may be right, and I don't think is necessarily " weird " or " cold " if she does not want / can't join your birthday celebration. It all depends.
Suppose she had made and comfirmed plans with her family before she got your fami... (read in full...)
How do I dig myself out of the depressed hole I am in?
Q. How do I get over my self consciousness of my body . I'm nkt overweight but after having children things are not the same . There are sags and scars . I look around at the mens mags and online stuff that exes have enjoyed and see that I'm about as ...
A. 19 May 2015: Where would be the problem in that , even if it was just as you say ?...
If we want to reduce it all to a beauty contest- then we'd be even,because definitely average Joe too ( or even cute ,attractive Joe ) would be MY second choice
( or... (read in full...)
I've lost interest in sex after the birth of our first child. Is this normal?
Q. Hey, i need to know if it's normal to lose all interest in sex when you have a baby, as it's becoming an issue btwn me and my fiancee. We've been together 2yrs, very happy, engaged and live together. Usually sex was fun, satisfying spontane...
A. 17 May 2015: OP, you are exhausted. You are breast feeding 24/7 and your boobs are sore. Plus, your hormons may be completely out of whack after giving birth- and such stay for about one year or a little more.
It seems to me you have excellent reasons for ... (read in full...)
What am I to do about this flakey friend?
Q. At the beginning of this year, I starting getting on and becoming best friends with someone I had previously been best friends with. However, before this time we'd drifted apart a bit and weren't in each others' lives that much, so the friendship ...
A. 17 May 2015: I agree with Ciar.
I guess this friend feels a little overwhelmed . You sound a bit clingy, or at least rather depending upon her as your own agony aunt, shoulder to cry on, etc. Maybe she meant to rebuild the friendship but in a less inte... (read in full...)
How do I dig myself out of the depressed hole I am in?
Q. How do I get over my self consciousness of my body . I'm nkt overweight but after having children things are not the same . There are sags and scars . I look around at the mens mags and online stuff that exes have enjoyed and see that I'm about as ...
A. 17 May 2015: Who cares what men " want ".
Women prefer well heeled professionals who can provide them with a fully staffed, comfortable house, an elegant designer wardrobe and exotic vacations every year- have you ever met any man taking up a dema... (read in full...)
Time perception related advice needed, please? Does anyone else feel how I feel, about time elapsed?
Q. Hey everyone, this is affecting my life significantly in area of human interractions, so I was hoping I could get your advice and maybe find out I'm not alone. For a while now, I don't remember when exactly it started but definitely for years, I...
A. 17 May 2015: In part this feeling is very much age related , and it tends to fade and go towards the opposite rhe more you go on.
Do you remember that the two or 3 measly months of vacations during primary school seemed a long time at the end of which your... (read in full...)
Always young and physically perfect: Why do the porn mags and sites predominately use these type of women?
Q. Lots of questions from women worried that they don't meet mens beauty standards and the usual answers say something along the lines of men are forgiving of flaws, women are their own worst enemies etc But when one looks at the images men consume ...
A. 17 May 2015: You say that men don't want to see real women's bodies ? - That's a surprising conclusion, where did you draw it from ?
I think they do instead. At least they always wanted to see mine, which was not a body to specially write home about. In fact... (read in full...)
Dating 3 years, unexpected pregnancy but he says he will marry me when we are "ready"
Q. I need advice. I am 27 years old my BF is the Same Age. We have been in this relationship 3 years total and 1 1/2 year living together. We found our recently that we are expecting our first baby. It wasn't planned but we feel blessed and happy. ...
A. 15 May 2015: I think Janniepeg is right. That he loves you like crazy here and now and that you are having great times together, does not make him sure that it will always be the same. So he is hesitating.
And , won't it be the same in , say, 5 years time... (read in full...)
She asked me to do a project for her...after she already asked somebody else to do the same thing!
Q. Hi, I am a single male in NYC. I know this woman who is very pretty and married. Let's call her S. I guess you can say we are friendly acquaintances. She has done things which have offended me in the past, like planning to meet up and then canceli...
A. 15 May 2015: I admit maybe I did not quite get what exactly happened- but , as I understood it, not only I do not see what this lady did so wrong to be called names,.... I just don't see what she did wrong .
I take it this was not paid work, right ? ( othe... (read in full...)
How can I get over feeling I'm too old to have a girlfriend at 26? How should I flirt, talk to and approach women?
Q. The fact i'll be 27 in a few weeks and I still haven't had a girlfriend yet, obviously still a virgin, the fact that I didn't have my first girlfriend and didn't lose my virginity around the age-range most people do just makes me bitter and ...
A. 14 May 2015: I am glad that you and I did not get the same memo and we did not read the same books. Otherwise, I would not have enjoyed relationships- and sex too - as I did in my 40s and 50s.
Oh so it's all stuff for the youngsters and then no more ?...... (read in full...)
How can I get over feeling I'm too old to have a girlfriend at 26? How should I flirt, talk to and approach women?
Q. The fact i'll be 27 in a few weeks and I still haven't had a girlfriend yet, obviously still a virgin, the fact that I didn't have my first girlfriend and didn't lose my virginity around the age-range most people do just makes me bitter and ...
A. 10 May 2015: And ?... Do you expect to be the only human being who's spared any pain and frustration in their life ?...
Are you entitled to feel only happy, positive emotions ?
Pain and frustration at some point belong to everybody's life. Some people a... (read in full...)
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