What should I do if he doesn't respond to my messages?
Q. My boyfriend sent me a text message this morning saying that he loves me, and a couple of hours later, he called me, but i missed the call. He didnt leave a voicemail message. I couldn't get back to him until a few hours later. I tried to call him ...
A. 29 February 2012: Unless there is more going on than you've told us about I think you are fretting for nothing. You've sent him a text. You could send him a facebook message, but that's it. If he doesn't get back to you about this outting, there will be others. ... (read in full...)
I think I may be pregnant with my married FWB's baby!
Q. Hi everyone this isn't a relationship question but didn't know where else to ask I have recently three weeks ago finished with my fwb as I found out he was married with three kids now I think I am pregnant I keep on feeling sick and I'm really tired ...
A. 27 February 2012: The logical first step is to confirm whether or not you're pregnant then go from there, isn't it?
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My boyfriend's mom still buys his underware!
Q. I know some of you may find this question a bit ridiculous, but it's been driving me mad! My 27 year old boyfriend has never bought his own underwear. His mother buys them. She sends him boxers for every holiday. He has Halloween boxers, Christma...
A. 24 February 2012: I think it's fairly common for mother's to buy their sons underwear. My mother in law did it at Christmas and I've heard of others doing it.
Why is this a problem for you? How exactly does it affect your life?
Defiitely pick your battles.... (read in full...)
Wife and I haven't had sex in a year, she says go somewhere else
Q. My wife and I have not had sex in almost a year now and I do not know what's wrong. I try to talk to her about it but can't get any straight answers. She says she still loves me but that I should go find someone else who will not only love me but ...
A. 24 February 2012: I don't think this is menopause either. It sounds to me as though she loves you but is no longer romantically interested in you. She may be reluctant to talk about it if she isn't planning on leaving you. She might be afraid that doing so will force ... (read in full...)
An argument over opening doors has led me to question my feelings for him, am I being crazy or over-sensitive?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for just over a year. He's 46, I'm 43. I will admit, I have ignored some small "yellow flags", but there are many, many good qualities about him and I also know that there is no "perfect", that I, myself, am not ...
A. 23 February 2012: I have to agree with gist of the other answers. That kind of sweeping philosophy about womankind usually comes from those who want a lot but offer very little.
If your boyfriend's schedule was that demanding why did he pursue a relation... (read in full...)
How to deal with my son's inappropriate actions?
Q. Normally I am a very proud father who tries to stay out of my grown kids business but after a recent family vacation / wedding I am disappointed in my sons actions. My son Ryan is 23 yrs old and has been dating his gf Jill (20) for alittle over a ...
A. 22 February 2012: Good for you that you said something and it sounds like the face to face approach paid off.
Thank you for the follow up.... (read in full...)
How to deal with my son's inappropriate actions?
Q. Normally I am a very proud father who tries to stay out of my grown kids business but after a recent family vacation / wedding I am disappointed in my sons actions. My son Ryan is 23 yrs old and has been dating his gf Jill (20) for alittle over a ...
A. 21 February 2012: Your outrage is totally appropriate and you should definitely say something. Being an adult does not mean we're free to act any way we wish. It means, or ought to mean, we are old enough to know better and act accordingly.
Drunken, boorish ... (read in full...)
My G/f screamed at me publicly because I was looking at this gorgeous redhead on the train!
Q. Hi guys and girls im a bit of a chump - thats how i feel right now atleast... i made my girlfriend a beautiful silver necklace for valentines, took her away to a hotel/spa for the weekend, she absolutley loved it, as a treat for me she took m...
A. 21 February 2012: Your girlfriend's reaction was not only low class, but criminal. She had no right to put her hands on you and if the situation were reversed, had it been you who had hit her for watching another man people would be outraged.
Having said that, by... (read in full...)
I've split from my G/f but she's going to have our baby in 6 months time. Am I entitled to be at the birth of our baby?
Q. I have just split up with girlfriend and she is having our baby in approximately 6 months time. Please may I ask for anyone's kind advice in regards to if i I am definately entitled to be at the birth of my baby? I would very much apppreciate an...
A. 19 February 2012: I've read most of the answers here and only one can be described as harsh (the one calling the OP selfish, though I can see her point). The others simply say the OP doesn't have the right to watch his child being born.
Really no one has an inher... (read in full...)
I've split from my G/f but she's going to have our baby in 6 months time. Am I entitled to be at the birth of our baby?
Q. I have just split up with girlfriend and she is having our baby in approximately 6 months time. Please may I ask for anyone's kind advice in regards to if i I am definately entitled to be at the birth of my baby? I would very much apppreciate an...
A. 19 February 2012: Since the birth of your baby is also a medical procedure for your ex, I don't think you're entitled to attend. And honestly, women are much better off having women attend them at such a time.
That isn't what you wanted to hear, I'm guessing... (read in full...)
Should I feel bad about not attending my sister's wedding considering the circumstances?
Q. Hi guys, I've been a long time contributer on here for others problems and I was wondering what others could suggest on my situation concerning my sisters' marriage. I'm not sure how I feel about this as my family isn't so close and is rathe...
A. 19 February 2012: Despite the poor relationship you've had with your sister, I think if you can go you should. If you can't then let your sister know that you haven't the money and that you're deeply disappointed about missing it.
Be prepared for her to offer fi... (read in full...)
Boyfriend of 7 years says if I don't give him a child he will leave me
Q. So, My bf of 7yrs has giving me an ultimatum that if I don't give him a kid he is going to leave me..Mind you he has a daughter who is being raised by her mother and he feels since he has no say he is giving up and wants to have one with me cuz he's ...
A. 18 February 2012: 'I really believe that he wants me to have a kid to make him feel like I will always have to need...' PRECISELY.
He wants you vulnerable and dependent. That is the only way he will feel secure. Then he can behave as he pleases, cheat with who... (read in full...)
He thinks that I should ask his permission before I go out with my friends!
Q. me and bf have been together for nearly six years both in twenties. we have been arguing really bad so i went up his house to try and sort it out but we couldn't resolve anything. i ended up going down my girlfriends house and going out ...
A. 18 February 2012: These situations are excrutiating to read about.
When a guy treats you this way it is not because he's so madly in love with you he can't bear to be away from you even for a moment. It is because he doesn't think he has what it takes for you to b... (read in full...)
I deleted him off facebook. So should I message him and explain why?
Q. I have a crush on this guy for three years now. Even though we never got together, the chance we did have was thrown out the window for a number of factor. (he went back to his country + was seeing other women). I decided to be just friends ...
A. 18 February 2012: It isn't closure. It's one last desperate bid to get his attention and yes, it would make you look silly.
It didn't work out with him the way you'd have liked, but there will be other chances with better suitors.
Let this one go.
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I deleted him off facebook. So should I message him and explain why?
Q. I have a crush on this guy for three years now. Even though we never got together, the chance we did have was thrown out the window for a number of factor. (he went back to his country + was seeing other women). I decided to be just friends ...
A. 18 February 2012: Say nothing and just leave it at that. He doesn't need an explanation and if he didn't speak to you anyway, he probably won't care what your reason was.
Some things just aren't meant to be.
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What are my rights as a patient?
Q. Sorry, this'll be a bit off topic. I moved to Canada last August and I've just signed up to a medical centre here. I found most of the staff to be extremely rude and they signed me up for all sorts of tests without telling me what any of them...
A. 17 February 2012: Change medical clinics. You're in Ontario?
For starters, it is illegal for them to share any of your private medical information with anyone without your consent. That includes your mum.
Unless things have changed since I was young, doctors r... (read in full...)
My new friend does not like me talking to an ex. Is he being unreasonable?
Q. I am 19, and stuck in a huge confusion. Here is my story, In Dec 2011 I broke up with my boyfriend and the next day there was this guy from my guitar class whom I became friends with. That friend and I became really good friends and he helped me...
A. 16 February 2012: My advice is to make the choice that works for YOU and be prepared to let both of them go. That and learn to follow your head, not your heart.
Your new guy friend is not a best friend. He's not even a friend. He's a potential lover. At least he... (read in full...)
After having my sexual fantasy fulfilled, my desire for sex has burnt out!
Q. Recently one of my sexual fantasies of several years became a reality which I suppose is a good thing, however since then my sex drive has been almost zero which is really uncommon for me. I'm writing here because I'm really puzzled by it. ...
A. 16 February 2012: Time to find a new mountain.
If sex for you was goal oriented, mostly about gratification and 'accomplishhment', then you're quite right when you ask what the point is. You've been there, done that.
Maybe you should find a new reason to have s... (read in full...)
How do I make things better when he's ignoring me and being nasty?
Q. Me and my ex have been on and off for nearly four years now and had a lot of ups and downs. We got back together a couple of weeks a go and he was being nice and treating me how he should and spending more time with me. But he cheated by kissing a ...
A. 16 February 2012: If you want thing to be better you have to make better choices.
Imagine a great relationship with the man of your dreams. What does it look like? Now compare that with the relationship you've had with your ex.
You say you know he loves yo... (read in full...)
Old flame, old rumours ...
Q. I have reacently been in contact with a guy I knew from late high school, we had been messaging one another on and off for about 6 months. We had said we would meet and catch up. Then I get a message from him that said he had heard a rumour about me ...
A. 13 February 2012: How can you possibly prove such a thing?
That he would even tell you of such a rumour, whether it was true or not, reveals much about his character. To continue to feed a decades old grudge, from high school of all things, and to judge anyone h... (read in full...)
He says he doesn't find me sexually attractive. But I still love him so much. What should I do?
Q. I am 13 years older than my boyfriend we have been togeather for 6 months, he moved in with me in December of last year and we barley have sex, he said he has no desire, blaming it on himself like he has sexual problems, the times we have done it ...
A. 13 February 2012: Surround yourself with people you love and trust. Rely on your support network and do things that make you happy and proud of yourself.
Older women are very appealing. As a group we are more concerned with our health and take better care of ourse... (read in full...)
Do you know any links to good artices in DearCupid please re fellatio?
Q. I just started dating after getting out of a 15 year marriage. My ex never liked blow jobs and really zapped my confidence with his criticism so I need a step by step guide of giving a good bj. Thanks!...
A. 11 February 2012: No need to apologise. Re-reading my answer I think I came across as judgmental. No, I KNOW I did and I apologise as well.
It wasn't what you asked but where you asked it that caught me off guard. The question itself is a valid one and you've d... (read in full...)
What can I do to avoid or discourage this teacher's creepy actions?
Q. There is this teacher in my school who is new this year. I do not have him as my teacher so I don't understand why he constantly tries to talk to me all the time especially in the hallways. Half the time he ends up walking into school around the ...
A. 11 February 2012: If women had such keen intuition when it came to men over stepping there wouldn't be so many seeking our guidance in extricating themselves from the common dilemas they end up in.
But you're right, you haven't given us much to go on here and if y... (read in full...)
Cheating boyfriend's passport expired 3 years ago! Should I call immigration on him?
Q. What kind of a person does this? this guy is seriously sick!!? I loved my ex bf so much.. I thought we were in love.. He was so sweet.. Told me he loved me everyday.. He never gave my a reason to doubt him. Everything was great. We had g...
A. 11 February 2012: By the way, I didn't mean to sound unsympathetic to your plight. I was just answering your question.
You've been wronged so you're understanably hurt and angry and no one can blame you for being tempted to report him. I think most of us would be... (read in full...)
Cheating boyfriend's passport expired 3 years ago! Should I call immigration on him?
Q. What kind of a person does this? this guy is seriously sick!!? I loved my ex bf so much.. I thought we were in love.. He was so sweet.. Told me he loved me everyday.. He never gave my a reason to doubt him. Everything was great. We had g...
A. 11 February 2012: No, I do not think you should report him, for the reasons Miamine gave and that the kind of person who does that will only attract others of that ilk. Just as you cannot guarantee how, when or even if, immigration will handle this, you also cannot ... (read in full...)
Am I trying too hard to spice things up on Valentine's day?
Q. Ok, so another advice; For valentines day I bought this really sexy little outfit ( btw, today was the day my bf moved into his new place and our offical 1 yr ann. Is comming up on the 28th) anywho, so I bought the outfit and a lamp he likes; t...
A. 11 February 2012: Moving is no small undertaking and your boyfriend was likely very busy and very tired (and probably not alone if he had help).
Your attempts to arouse him were ill timed, I'm afraid.
Leave it alone and let him get settled in. When his house in... (read in full...)
He says he doesn't find me sexually attractive. But I still love him so much. What should I do?
Q. I am 13 years older than my boyfriend we have been togeather for 6 months, he moved in with me in December of last year and we barley have sex, he said he has no desire, blaming it on himself like he has sexual problems, the times we have done it ...
A. 11 February 2012: Did your boyfriend have a solid career or steady job when you met? Was he in any financial distress?
I think the anonymous male below summed it up perfectly when he suggested your boyfriend wants you to continue to provide for him emotiona... (read in full...)
Do you know any links to good artices in DearCupid please re fellatio?
Q. I just started dating after getting out of a 15 year marriage. My ex never liked blow jobs and really zapped my confidence with his criticism so I need a step by step guide of giving a good bj. Thanks!...
A. 11 February 2012: That sort of step by step advice can be found in books or online articles. They are plentiful and easily accessible.
This is a mainstream site about relationships (whatever their nature) and general life problems and caters to people of nearly a... (read in full...)
I feel like he has this whole other life that he won't let me into, because of his ex
Q. Hiya Hope you all can offer me some advice. I have been with my bloke for 7 months now. He has kids which I haven't met yet as I thought it was only fair to them that myself and paul were stable 1st. However, the kids and I speak on the phon...
A. 11 February 2012: No doubt your boyfriend loves his children, but I suspect it isn't his only motive for allowing his ex to control his life. Many men have an understandable fear of being hauled back to court for greater child support payments. He may be using ... (read in full...)
I am in love with my ex. Ex who broke my heart now wants to be friends. What do I do?
Q. I'm in love with my ex. We broke up 5 Months ago after 8 months together and he did it by text after I caught him online cheating and told him to get out of my apartment. He answered that with a "have a good life. Move on" text and would t answ...
A. 11 February 2012: Don't take him back either as a friend or a boyfriend. Cut him loose and move on.... (read in full...)
Did or did he not cheat? Is he still?
Q. I was away for two weeks in September, while I was gone, apparently my boyfriend and best friend were doing alot of talking. It caused a huge argument and I stopped talking to my friend for a few months. Recently, I started talking to her again. I ...
A. 9 February 2012: I'm with person12345. How did your friend respond when you told her your husband had confessed to cheating with her?
... (read in full...)
Is he just talking her up because he's in jail or is he marrying her for conjugal benefits?
Q. Okay so my ex and I broke up about 8 months ago since then he got a new girlfriend and they have been dating for 8 months now she 17 and he's 21. Everytime I see her all she does is brag about him infront of me and try's gives me attitude and supp...
A. 9 February 2012: He's keeping his options open because, obviously, he is not madly in love with this girl. She's a young, cute thing he can have fun with.
I'm not sure how long his sentense is but he may be preparing a nest for when he gets out, a place he can r... (read in full...)
He swears on the kids that he will be back before May!
Q. My husband left me for his mistress about two months ago and he doesn't think he is having an affair. I did send divorce papers right away but know I'm regretting it. We have been talking and he swears on the kids he will be back before may and ...
A. 9 February 2012: You're being played. Both you and the other woman.
If he really wanted to work things out with you he'd come back now. He doesn't need to sleep in her bed to pay her whatever money he owes her. He can send it via email or Western Union. He's liv... (read in full...)
Is our relationship worth salvaging?
Q. My girlfriend and I got in a fight about a month ago. Things haven't been working too well for about 6 weeks prior, so I told her I wanted to take a break. She asked me why, I said that the relationship was hurting me and I needed some space. S...
A. 9 February 2012: If trust wasn't an issue before it will be now with all this breaking up and reconciling. Add that to the troubles you've been having and you have a very steep climb ahead of you. I'd say this relationship has run its course. Time for you both to ... (read in full...)
B/f left me on a dark street by myself and he knows how terrified I am of this kind of situation!
Q. Just a quick question! What would you do if your boyriend left you in the dark on the street by your self? Ill give you a bit more detail, i', having doubts if my boyfriend acctually does love me, he says he does so much and i acctually started to ...
A. 7 February 2012: If your boyfriend is the sort who entertains himself and his friends at his girlfriend's expense then I'm with YouWish. Dump him.
No fuss. No muss. Tell him it's over and don't get into any explanations.
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Was I wrong to inform her of the rumour being spread about us?
Q. Would you quit talking to your friend? This girl and I like to joke around. I like to tease her for fun and enjoy her company. I like her as a friend but several reasons she's not the right person for me to date. She has a boyfriend so I r...
A. 6 February 2012: You weren't wrong to inform her though I don't know that it was really necessary at that point. You could have made less of a production out of it.
She may be distant with you because she now suspects that you fancy her and either made up a sto... (read in full...)
A married man continues to pursue me even after I decline
Q. I am working on a divorce. My husband cheated on me with another woman. I'm being honest, it hurts bad. I did meet a friend only to find out he is married too. I am angry and of course we are not together anymore. This stupid married man keep...
A. 6 February 2012: The fact that you and this married man are no longer together would suggest that you've already made it clear you weren't intersted and why, yes? And is it safe to assume that at some point during your time together or when you broke up that you ... (read in full...)
If a married man and a woman have an affair, can the woman be blamed as well?
Q. If a woman and a married man have an affair, is it the woman's fault as well? Obviously, it is the man's fault, but is the woman to blame as well as a home-wrecker? I have heard the defense of the woman saying "It was his choice to go after m...
A. 6 February 2012: If the other woman knew he was married, or even strongly suspected it then yes, she too has wronged the wife, though her error was no greater than that of the husband. The other woman may not have a written contract or a verbal agreement, but s... (read in full...)
I've made it clear I'm not interested but he won't leave me alone.
Q. A youngThis guy at my church asked me to be his girlfriend.. And now he won't leave me alone:(? So this guy at church started messaging me.. I asked how he got my number he said he got it from my friend at church. He said he thinks I'm rea...
A. 6 February 2012: First of all you could instruct your friend never to hand out your contact information without your permission again. She's old enough to know she should have passed on his request to you before giving him anything. Next, you can block his cell p... (read in full...)
Now that we've broken up my ex is suddenly doing all the things I wanted to do together
Q. My ex is planning on doing things that he refused to do with me. It really hurts. We were together 3 and a half years. I really wanted to go on a holiday with him, but he always said some day we will go. So I went on holiday on my own. After I came ...
A. 6 February 2012: Instead of jumping to the conclusion that he lied, you could look at this another way. Being dumped may have been his wake up call and he's trying to make up his past mistakes. That you know his comings and goings suggests you're still in contact ... (read in full...)
Would I be considered a ladies man?
Q. Do I sound like a ladies man to you at all? I'm 18, a senior in high school. I know perfectly how to treat a woman, if she was my girlfriend, would treat her like a queen, or like the best the women in the world. I never had a girlfriend before, but ...
A. 6 February 2012: Based on this alone, no you would not be considered a ladies man. In fact given your lack of experience, far from it.
As noble as your intentions are, they are, at this point just intentions. No doubt all men start out the same way when imaginin... (read in full...)
I am in love with my ex. Ex who broke my heart now wants to be friends. What do I do?
Q. I'm in love with my ex. We broke up 5 Months ago after 8 months together and he did it by text after I caught him online cheating and told him to get out of my apartment. He answered that with a "have a good life. Move on" text and would t answ...
A. 21 January 2012: He cheated on you and was caught. It should have been him begging you for forgiveness not you chasing him to have an adult conversation.
He apologised. Good. That doesn't mean you hang out with him for seven hours. That sends the wrong message.... (read in full...)
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