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writes:So. Again with that guy that I went to homecoming with. Everything has been like really shaky and I don’t know because he is seriously so confusing. He got a girlfriend, they had dated for 3 months and during those 3 months we did not talk at all. Like I was basically non-existent in his life I guess. Anyway, she cheated on him and although I told him that like when they first started dating, he did not believe me because he thought I was jealous or something when really I just did not want him to get his heart broken like I did. Before all this, things were good. We would talk a lot, I thought he liked me, but obviously not. And before that, he just totally blew me off I guess. Now? After the breakup, I was there for him. We were friends, he would tell me if he was upset or something, text me everyday (first), talk to me in school, etc. I had a photo-shoot and he told me that I looked "amazing" so obviously that was nice. Then, I did things that teenagers should not do, like send certain types of pictures...if you get my drift.So then we would talk on the phone like every weekend and sometimes on weekdays he would call me and be like "I like talking to you" or like joke around and say he wanted to talk to my brother, but then be like "I'm just kidding, I want to talk to you" which is like oh my goshhh so cute. Swooning here sorry. Then suddenly he stopped calling and texting me and I do not understand why. But like last week, we were talking and we were like not even 3 inches from each other and ugh it was so cute. He was blushing and like smiling and looking directly into my eyes. One day he was showing me his hookah pen or something and like blew the smoke in my face. He was literally not even an inch away.My friends had said that I should have kissed him but like I am so awkward and clearly bad with telling when something should be done. This week and a bit of last week, he was trying to make me jealous. He would look at me as I walk by and start hugging this girl. He was like on her, if you know what I mean. Anyways yeah he was watching me as he did it, as if I would react in front of him. So he has been doing it still and I do not know why. Obviously now it is upsetting me, but what upsets me more is how today? He completely ignored my existence. He usually says hi or something but he didn't. Like what is he doing man. Okay enough with that. I need help to like figure out why he is acting like that? Why is he trying to make me jealous, ignoring me, etc? What do I do about it?
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reader, justinsmuse +, writes (27 April 2014):
justinsmuse is verified as being by the original poster of the question That picture in my avatar is from my photoshoot... I wasn't trying to do anything with my breast or whatever.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (26 April 2014):
 Just some more really boring adult advice. You said you sent him 'certain type of pictures… if you get my drift' and now you have this little avatar picture on here which sort of looks like you are trying to put forth a certain breast forward here I am look at me profile.
Some guys your age think with their genitals. Some girls your age do as well. It's normal, you all have hormones going totally off the charts as you do the maturing thing.
You wrote "Well today, he did the hookah thing again. Idk why he shows me it but it's hot lol." You dk why he shows you it bc it's hot to you.
He does the hookah thing, you do the picture thing, it's all very awkward and weird and no one is really thinking with the big head.
Seriously, just walk away from this one. Ignore ignore ignore.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (26 April 2014):
Oh and one more P.S. Your friends are what, like the same age? Are they liking his friends or him? They are unreliable… soz.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (26 April 2014):
Why is he even trying omg. Because obviously you are paying attention.
He's a bee oh wye. Or more accurately like a teen boy. So
if he's being this weird
then don't reward him for being weird
ignore
ignore
ignore
don't look at him
don't pay attention to the weirdness
Do your best, I know you are young too.
Frankly, my best guide at your age was my mom. Weird, I know. But she was honest and helpful and had my back.
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reader, justinsmuse +, writes (26 April 2014):
justinsmuse is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell today, he did the hookah thing again. Idk why he shows me it but it's hot lol. Anyways, at lunch he was literally looking directly at me & hugging this girl. Like directly. & when I was walking, he kept looking at me. Then he kept walking past me idk why & like at the end of lunch he was walking withsome girl & llooking directly at me again. Like what is he even trying omg.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (25 April 2014):
 I think he is a VERY insecure and immature guy who doesn't know how to treat a girl and how to be an adult. Just because a person hit his/her teens doesn't mean he/she automatically knows how to be.
Being a teenager means he is rules more by peer pressure and hormones then common sense.
LET this guy go, he is NOT who you want him to be. Ignore him right back and move on. You are wasting your feeling on a guy who has as much sense and maturity as a rock.
IT IS NOT cute for a guy to treat a girl, who he KNOWS like him, like dirt. And if you keep letting him, he will use you as his "security blanket" in between other girls.
And trying to impress you with a E-cigarette? Jeeez..
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reader, Besstrashnyy L'vitsa +, writes (25 April 2014):
 Honey, he is a guy. Most young guys are like that. Sadly some of them never grow out of it. I have been through the same thing. A lot. You seem to like him quite a bit. So if you really do want him, you ignore him. You pretend that he doesn't exist. That he doesn't matter. Don't totally blow him off. Just make him come to you. The Cold Shoulder Routine usually works for me. But another route you could take that works just as well is confronting him about it. Talk to him. Simple as that. Men are very simple creatures. Just don't come on too strong when you're talking to him. You just want to talk, not scare him away. Just talk to him, like he talked to you when he got cheated on. I honestly hope this helps you. Let me know what you decide to do?
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