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30-35,
*manda08290
writes:When I first started dating my boyfriend in college he introduced me to this female classmate of his and the three of us hung out together. Everything was great. Then I started to notice something strange... She and this other girl baked him cookies and gave him little gifts but nothing for me. I asked him if she knew that we were dating and he said yes. Then when I went to his place I saw large redskin panties on the floor I showed them to him and he said it was from his ex and from years ago and didn’t know he had her panties. I believed him...Then one day my friend told me that my boyfriend was going out with the other girl to different restaurants while he always took me to cheap burger places.And I had to hang out most of the Time at his house watching TV and sleeping together never really going anywhere like we used to go. My friend showed me this girl's FaceBook and it showed her and my boyfriend together and her calling him her man. I asked my boyfriend what's going on but he never gave me a straight answer. He'd say he'd deal with her and I believed her. Two years went by and I was still dating this guy when he called me and said he got her pregnant. He said that he paid for an abortion and I believed him. My friend convinced him to leave my boyfriend for him and so I did and it gave me the chance to leave my horrible grandmother who wouldn’t feed me anything decent and kept me locked up growing up and scared of the world. I lived with him for 8 months and everything was great until my ex started to want me back saying he changed and I fell for him again. My current boyfriend found out that I was seeing my ex but I knew his ex who had been messing with me on Facebook saying she's going to beat me up etc because she wants my current boyfriend which drove me crazy that he wasn't doing anything about her. Any time I mentioned her he'd get angry and hit me to the point where I'd bleed and the one time I fight back he kicks me out. I've been homeless for a week and my old boyfriend said he got the other girl knocked up after the abortion and she said if he dates me she'll make him pay child support. She went to the college with her baby told his friends, teachers and boss on campus that the baby is his. He loves me but doesn't want to pay child support he's afraid to stand up to his mistakes and be with the one he loves I still love him but he's afraid this girl will start stuff in court she's a bad mom she does drugs and drinks I feel sorry for the baby. What should I do I still love him
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reader, xkatastrophex +, writes (29 March 2013):
I agree with CMMP. Look in your heart. Do what you NEED to do to be happy. Don't settle for anyone. Don't be in an abusive relationship. Get help, most importantly. You need to see a professional counselor. I know it may sound weak, but I have gotten help for years from counselors, & it always makes me feel better. Leave your current situations. If he really loved you, he wouldn't give a fuck, & he'd man up to this bitch of an ex. He sounds like a real catch. Like you catch STDs, lies, & beatings from him.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (29 March 2013):
By sticking around you're never giving yourself the chance to move on.
Do what most people do and cut him off, block his number, facebook, etc. Stop visiting him. After a few weeks or months you'll be fine.
Either you love drama and you'll stay, or you want to be happy and you'll leave, it's up to you.
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