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How do I get my boyfriend to finger me?

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Question - (5 January 2009) 5 Answers - (Newest, 31 December 2009)
A female United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

How do I get my boyfriend to finger me? I have tried to bring his hand down there to touch me, but he just stops. What should I do or say to get him to finger me?

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A female reader, surferchick0427 United States +, writes (31 December 2009):

well it all depends on how long u have been going out, and of course dont do it all the time. then hell think ur to despret. just try to talk about that stuff too

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2009):

He could be shy, super nervous, doesn't know how, doesn't want to disappoint, doesn't want to disrespect, doesn't want to 'take advantage of you', or just doesn't want to finger you for some other reason...

Whatever the case you need to let him know you want him to finger you and that you're completely fine with it it's exactly what you want from him but also it's ok if he's nervous/doesn't know what to do because you can help him.

Bringing his hand down is a good idea- helping him get there- showing you want it. What about sexy whispering? Do you guys do that? Cause then you can ask him like 'do you know what I want you to do now?' without being like weird or bossy and ruining the moment. Haha.


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A female reader, AskEve United Kingdom +, writes (5 January 2009):

AskEve agony auntHe obviously doesn't feel ready to go that far. He may well be one of the very few old fashioned guys left that prefers to take things slowly and just respects you too much. I would leave it for now and concentrate on getting to know one another better. Let things happen gradually and don't rush it! He'll soon give you the vibes when/if he's ready.


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A male reader, yum yum Switzerland +, writes (5 January 2009):

yum yum agony auntI think you should say it to him when you are close together. If you feel he is resisting then you should just tell him what you like; that he should not feel shy. If he still does not want, ask him genlty why he resists. Take care!

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A male reader, MichaelS2 United States +, writes (5 January 2009):

MichaelS2 agony auntIf leading his hand down their doesn't work than you should talk to him!

Your boyfriend may have never fingered a girl before and doesn't want to disappoint you!

Simply ask him why he doesn't finger you.Tell him he doesn't have to be amazing! Assure him that you want him to please you and that you can help him if he needs it...

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