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writes:hi, well im 14 and i have been going out with my boyfriend for 6 months. i went to a party and i got really drunk. we made out on the beach. this other guy means nothing to me, at all. we both agreed that we shouldn't tell anyone. it will never happen again, i sware. i cant tell him. what do u think? i sware it will never happen again and i feel terrible!-regretful teenager :(
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reader, xnickx +, writes (23 July 2008):
 If you've been together 6 mths and you love him, chances are he loves you back. If he loves you, he'll definately understand, although he might be mad.
My oppinion is you should tell him what you told us:
The other guy means nothing, you'll swear you won't do it again, and you feel terrible.
Not only will it make you feel better, but i know i'd rather hear it from my girl than some person who gossips. It would show a lot of maturity.
Hope it works out
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (23 July 2008):
 Hi, I was 14 once too, and also had too much to drink one night. Kinda makes you feel sick the next day, doesn't it?
Well, you've had what a parent might call a teaching moment. What you've discovered is that alcohol lowers inhibitions and basically removes good judgement.
So you have a big decision to make now because you've done something you regret. If you were at a party, then there may be other people who know what happened, so someone there might tell your boyfriend. It's probably a good idea to come clean, if this is the case, because he'd probably prefer to hear the bad news from you than from someone who likes to gossip.
Hope this helps, and remember that everyone makes mistakes in life, it's how we learn. And if you remember this lesson, you probably won't make the same mistake again!
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok, well he would know that it was recent cause i just met this other guy like 4 days ago. my bf like started crying and freaking out when i hugged another guy, the school we go to is very small and it would screw everything up for all 3 of us. i dont think i can tell him. what if i just forgive myself and sware to meself never to do anything like this again. i really want to be with him forever. i have made a promise to myself not to drink anymore. i know that it wouldnt have happened if i was not drunk. he took advantage too. i had like 10 drinks he only had 3
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok, well he would know that it was recent cause i just met this other guy like 4 days ago. my bf like started crying and freaking out when i hugged another guy, the school we go to is very small and it would screw everything up for all 3 of us. i dont think i can tell him. what if i just forgive myself and sware to meself never to do anything like this again. i really want to be with him forever. i have made a promise to myself not to drink anymore. i know that it wouldnt have happened if i was not drunk. he took advantage too. i had like 10 drinks he only had 3
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reader, Phsyciatrist-to-be  +, writes (23 July 2008):
 If your bf is the kind of guy who you think will flip out at this sort of thing, it's probably a good idea to keep it to yourself.
Whilst it is morally right to tell him about this, it could jepordise or even end your relationship. If it's constantly bugging you, then you definately need to get it off your chest.
I suggest going out somwhere with your bf (like this beach you mentioned), and bring the other guy with you. You could then mention it in a passing comment, like: "hey, didnt we kiss here once?" Then laugh about it and go on about how drunk you were and how silly it all was etc. Try not to hint that it happend recently, else your bf may become suspicious.
That's all I can do at present, along with a strong recomendtion not to get so drunk so young!
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