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*arenival
writes:my boyfriend of a year and i are great together, when we're physically together. i only see him about once a week, and all is well. the problem is, when we're not together during the week, i feel like things are a bit tougher emotionally. we're constantly texting, but rarely call. i suppose we're having "long distance" issues, but only temporarily. for instance, we'll have more miscommunication issues than if we were face to face. i'll hopefully be moving in with him late summer, but until then, how do we communicate more effectively? we could call, but i'm not the best speaker on the phone, so i feel i communicate better by text. should i save serious talk to when i see him next? what if it bothers me at the moment? i'm also more stressed during the weekdays (as everyone is!) and feel the need to tell him so... about daily, as of late. i've been depressed (been in therapy, seeking psychiatric treatment), and i feel like i'm bugging him too much. i know it's good to talk about my feelings.. but how much is too much?
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reader, karenival +, writes (28 May 2010):
karenival is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks :) i suppose our problem is temporary, too, so i'll take your advice and keep doing what i'm doing for now.
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reader, xnickx +, writes (27 May 2010):
 I just left a relationship that was very similar.
We're both 17, she drives, i dont. she lives maybe 40 miles away. Usually, i saw her once a week. there were times when i didnt see her for a month, and this summer had we still been together i probably wouldnt have been able to see her for 2 or 3 months.
We texted constantly, probably sending atleast 100-150 a day, and talked for a few hours before going to bed. occasionally skyped.
Ironically, we communicated too much. We told just about everything in text and then our daily talk got to the point it was so boring because we didnt have much to say.
We too, were somewhat depressed (although more from never seeing each other and like we were letting each other down) and it got to the point where she said if i ever left her shed kill herself, and so i broke it off.
I never minded when she complained to me tho. i liked hearing what she had to say and helping her with her problems. My suggestion is that you just keep texting, perhaps call everyonce and a while.
I think you guys will be fine.
If you need any help i have some decent experience so just ask and ill do all i can to help.
xnickx
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