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21 March 2016: Hello Everyone! So I'm going through a break up, after 6 long years together and everyone keeps asking me "How on earth are you doing this?" and "I can't believe how strong you're being" so I thought perhaps I could help you lot in some way. ...
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Did I make a mistake when I decided to let him go? Broke up last night
Q. i really don't know how to express myself still i will try. Its been 2 years since i am dating my boyfriend. Both of us are in our late twenties and this is the 2nd relationship for both of us. We started dating in 2014 before that we were ...
A. 1 April 2016: No, you didn't make a mistake. It's going to be hard, as break ups are, but it would be harder to stay with him with such doubt in your mind.
And he doesn't love you as much as you love him? His loss! You deserve someone who loves you desp... (read in full...)
Was my boyfriend insensitive to praise this new employee to the extent he did? Or am I being too sensitive?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend a few years now and we love each other but a comment he made this morning really upset me... He was interviewing this woman for a job and he texted me afterwards saying she was excellent and that he would be hiring h...
A. 31 March 2016: Is that all he said, that she was excellent? Then yes, you are being insensitive.
Putting myself in his shoes, if I was trying to hire someone and I found a person that ticked all the boxes and more for the job, I would be excited about hiring t... (read in full...)
Should I be happy for my ex fiance after he cheated on me and hurt me so badly?
Q. About 3 months ago, my fiancé of 4 years ended our relationship. I would later find out he was cheating on me behind my back for about 2 weeks with a new woman at his work who he barely knew. I knew he met her and I actually knew her somewhat bac...
A. 30 March 2016: Completely agree with Honeypie, you cannot move on with him still in your life. You need to delete all his contact information and block him so he can't speak to you. Also block his girlfriend so you can't look at her facebook or anything! He's... (read in full...)
Do all women like to be watched while they are bathing?
Q. When I ask my wife how she will feel if some one peek in her bathroom and watch her bath, she got extremely horny. Is that normal... how do I know she got extremely horny?, I was doing an intercource with her when I asked. So she basically went ...
A. 29 March 2016: Everyone is different, people like many different things sexually. Why are you worried if it's normal? Just go with it.... (read in full...)
How can I stand tall this time without letting him back into my life?
Q. Hello and thanks for your help. I've been with my boyfriend on and off for 4 years. His attitude isn't good to say the least. He dictates how long I need to stay when I'm with him. If I can only stay a couple hours he argues. He wants me to cons...
A. 29 March 2016: I agree, block ALL contact with him. Make sure he cannot reach out to you because that's when you might falter and speak to him.
It's going to be hard at first. But whenever you feel like you want him, just remind yourself of how he acts towards ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend ghosted and I'm trying to move on, but always anxious and unhappy with life.
Q. My boyfriend of three months ghosted on me one and a half months ago. We had an amazing relationship and I was shocked to the core. I feel that it's been more than enough time to get over him but he's always still fresh on my mind. I've given up ...
A. 28 March 2016: Well you are certainly on the right path to forgetting about him by going out and keeping yourself busy! Keep that going and eventually you'll feel ok!
It's very difficult to move on from a relationship if you haven't had an explanation why it e... (read in full...)
My stretch marks seem to be a huge problem for the men that I date
Q. I came out of a 3 year relationship almost 2 years ago and for the past year I have been dating again. It's kind of personal to talk about but I am someone with very sensitive skin, and my breasts grew very fast when I was young and because of t...
A. 28 March 2016: Wow, the guys that have had an issue with this are real jerks!!
Anyone that has a problem with them is someone that you shouldn't want in your life anyway.
One thing I wouldn't do with a potential boyfriend is bring them up straight awa... (read in full...)
He's at least 10 years older than me. Should I go with it?
Q. hi I started going to the gym and began to have a crush on a guy. I'm thinking he knows I like him because he introduced himself to me and said to ask him if I need help with the machines. The only thing is that he's probably at least 10 years older ...
A. 28 March 2016: The only issue I can see with this is that because he's so much older than you, he's at a different stage in his life. You are 21, and should be partying with your friends and doing all the stuff you want to do in life whilst you still can.
I'm just... (read in full...)
Should my stepbrother and I date in secret? Our parents have told us that we can't.
Q. me and my step brother like eachother but my step mom and my dad have set us tow down and said we cant date but i want to know if we should date secertly or not ...
A. 28 March 2016: No you shouldn't. Your parents have told you that you can't for a reason and you should respect that.
To date your step brother in secret is going to make your life alot more complicated than it should be. Just leave it be and eventually your fee... (read in full...)
Depression and isolation has made me unable to make new friends
Q. I'm in my early 20's. I've suffered from depression for over 4 years now and I also have generalized anxiety. Due to my mental illnesses it has caused me to isolate away from people and caused me to live in a bubble. For the last few years I hid ...
A. 26 March 2016: Are you on medication for any of this? If not, then you need to go to the doctors. Medication, counselling, those are probably the best options to help you deal with the depression. I can understand how hard it is, wanting friends but completely c... (read in full...)
I think I'm turning into a bunny boiler! How do I explain things to my ex and move on?
Q. Help - I think I'm turning into a bunny boiler!! How do I reverse this and make people trust me again? Without going into too much details - I was dumped by my ex, blocked and given no explanation. He wouldn't answer my calls or explain what I'd...
A. 26 March 2016: Well first of all you need to accept that it's over. He has a new girlfriend.
The fact he didn't give you a type of explanation is hard, because sometimes we need these answers to move on, but if he's blocked and deleted you what other choice do y... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend said I was too comfortable in the relationship
Q. My ex boyfriend broke up with me because he felt I was too comfortable in the relationship and Those were his own words. In a way I kind of saw where he was coming from, but for the most par lt I don't really understand. He and I always said thin...
A. 25 March 2016: That's a very poor reason to break up with someone! If he won't tell you what he ment by that or give you a real reason, that indicates to me the real reason is NOT good, so I would just draw a line in the sand and forget about him. ... (read in full...)
I'm cheating with a guy with a girlfriend and I'm really confused!
Q. I was going out with a boy for a few months last year then he broke up with me and got a new girlfriend. They've now been together about 4 months but in the past 2 months we've been seeing eachother without her knowing. On one hand I don't feel ...
A. 24 March 2016: You are literally giving this little cretin the life of riley. He has two girlfriends, no doubt having sex with the both of you, and you are letting him do this to you!
He's using you. He obviously isn't going to leave his girlfriend so why on e... (read in full...)
Is sex such a big deal? Do I need to hold out for someone special? How do I know if that special person exists? Did you regret your first time?
Q. I am 16 and yes I know you might be thinking i m too young to be talking about sex. But that's on my mind almost 24/7. Unlike a lot of the people who claim to be otherwise, I'm still a virgin. I never really talk about it to anyone, not really ...
A. 23 March 2016: It's ok for you to want to have sex. You're 16, and it's legal and I remember at that age I was EXACTLY the same.
I would 100% wait for someone you really like. I regret how I lost my virginity. In a field, to an absolute cretin who I did like... (read in full...)
I think all my experience in improving myself should be there for all to see, otherwise why even try. What do you think?
Q. 26 years of working for the same company and i am suddenly unemployed. Basically i dont know what to do, they paid redundancy but offered no help in regards to securing another job. While i may have work experience my job advisor keeps going on ...
A. 23 March 2016: I can 100% say that your job advisor has NO idea what the hell they're talking about. I've been to the job centre, they know nothing!
You obviously have TONS of good experience that many employers are going to look at. They say a CV shouldn'... (read in full...)
My husband left me after 20 years of marriage saying he needs to be by himself
Q. Am I a fool He has left me after 20 years of marriage He know he has been treating the family badly He said he still love will look after us I will never be alone But need to be by him self Every one is in shock He away told every on...
A. 22 March 2016: If he agrees he has depression but doesn't get help, does he expect it to magically go away?
Depression is a horrible illness that takes sometimes years to get rid of, in some cases not at all, you can only control the symptoms.
If he won't ta... (read in full...)
My wife says she has feelings for her boss!
Q. 2 days back me and my wife were having casual discussion and my wife informed that she is having feelings for her boss. I was stunned to hear this. She further said that she is feeling for him for past 3-4 months. She said she wanted to control her ...
A. 22 March 2016: Well it's a good thing that she can be so honest with you. It's a tricky one, but I think the only option you have is to remind her of the love you share as husband and wife. Spoil her and tell her that you love her, always.
That's all YOU can do. ... (read in full...)
It's been a year and I'm still upset over ex boyfriend. Will I ever get over him?
Q. Dear Cupid, it's almost been a year since my ex boyfriend broke up with me, and I'm still upset and I still miss him. I don't think I will ever fully get over it. I no longer think about it constantly like I did in the beginning, but I still thin...
A. 21 March 2016: I feel for you. My boyfriend of 6 years ended it just as we were about to move in together, just a few months ago, so I know exactly how you feel.
It takes time to get over this. You have someone in your life for x amount of time, and suddenly... (read in full...)
He moved in with his online girlfriend. We had such an intense connection, surely that hasn't gone away for him if he's contacting me and it feels like it used to?
Q. I started dating someone in early December.Things went on for nearly two months. It was magic. Incredible conversation, passionate intimacy - you name it. We were instantly drawn to each other, it was a ridiculous "love at first sight" type of ...
A. 21 March 2016: Meeting up with him after you're fully aware of his girlfriend? That's not very nice is it? Although I can understand your actions to some extent if his meeting this girl was random and he was still seeing you.
Doesn't that depict to you what sort... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated and left me, so why do I feel guilty?
Q. I need some help. Basically, my ex boyfriend cheated on me and ended up dumping me in order to be with the girl he cheated with. Now he didn't do this in a 'mean' way, he just seem very confused. He was still trying to make our relationship wor...
A. 21 March 2016: STOP making excuses for him. He cheated on you, and left you to be with her and that wasn't in a 'mean' way?!
He sounds like an absolute cretin and you'd be wise to keep him deleted off everything and move on. It's hard, but have some self res... (read in full...)
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