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writes:So there's a really popular,sexy,beautiful girl at my school who's shown an interest in me. She's been going to all of my basketball games, both at the home court and away. We've gone on study dates together and I've gone to her house to study, and met her parents. When we talk its awesome, and we've got a lot in common. One day she also invited me over to her place while her family was gone, and I failed to make a move, even when I knew she wanted to hook up with me. It's been eating me up ever since t happend, and I've been avoiding contact with her. I just need some advice on what I should do to make my first move not so awkward, and making it smooth. I dont have any experience and I'm a pretty awkward person when it comes to romance, so just the most obvious tips would help me out. Reply to this Question
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reader, SillyA  +, writes (3 February 2010):
 Stop avoiding the girl! If you want to "make a move" on her and not get all nervous, let it happen organically. Make it a non-threatening, casual envirnment and tell her how you feel, if you need to write her a sweet note- Let her know you think she's great and when you see her give her a hug and kiss on the cheek, form there she will let you know she likes you too and chances are it'll make you feel more comfortable around her. Life is too short to be self concious, remind yourself of the good person you are!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2010): Dont avoid her! Thats the worst! First you fail to make a move on her and then you avoid her? You're sending her a message that you dont like her! Hurry up and text her saying "Hey, I was wondering if you'd like to come over and watch a movie with me" or something like that. Or invite her just about anywhere, but make sure you contact her asap and invite her to do something with you so she knows you like her!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2010): Dude, seriously, this is very straighforward. The girl is totally into you and giving you EVERY indication that she would be receptive to your advances. Opportunities this golden happen once in a blue moon, so you have got to stop thinking, worrying and obsessing and start DOING. Just tell her face-to-face (yes, that's right, face-to-face) that you fancy her and would like to date her. Nothing more is required.
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reader, veronika  +, writes (3 February 2010):
 If you want to hook up with her, avoiding her is probably the worst thing you can do!
You need to be comfortable around each other, so make time for her, put your arm around her if you're sitting next to each other or something, stroke her hair, give her a compliment... if you're certain she likes you, then you shouldn't have too much trouble.
And just tell her you really like her. It really isn't as bad as people make it out to be.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (3 February 2010):
Stop avoiding her. You'll be pushing away and she'll be confused. You've got to just tell her you fancy her. Not easy, but you need to do it or you're going to lose her. She does like you, but the more you avoid her the more you are going to lose her. So if you want her, phone her, tell her you want to meet her and just say you fancy her. Good luck.
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