He seems to now be rushing, is it okay to carry on dating see where it leads or do I need to set some ground rules ?
Q. Hi, My ex boyfriend and I are trying to be together again. We went out for 3 months, he broke up with me for 2 months because of issues with his ex, and we have now been back in contact and dating for 2.5 months. So ive really not known him that...
A. 13 September 2006: Well it's actually a very clear cut solution.
he hurt you and you need time to regaint that trust, tell him. how will he know what the problem is if you don't tell him! sometimes it's true what men say about women, we always expect to know what... (read in full...)
Question on virginity....
Q. i have a question as i am not sure about something. When a woman lose virginity does she always bleed?? Also what about men do they bleed??? Sorry about my ignorance...
A. 13 September 2006: There is no such thing as an ignorant question, if you don't ask you will never know.
Not all women bleed when they lose their virginity.
maybe because of sport, you don't even have to have sex to break your virginity. a lot of horse riders l... (read in full...)
Am I gay or a bisexual? If so - calling all potentials!
Q. I am 21 yrs old and for a long while now I have liked females a whole lot longer than males. I've slept with my best friend once and didn't like it and I hate to cuddle with guys and don't mind cuddling with females. I have kissed two girls (2...
A. 7 September 2006: It doesn't mean because you like females that you Lesbian.
I for one love kissign girls and looking at them and yes i prefer at times being with girls more than i do men.
Maybe BI. But there is nothing wrong with it ina actual fact alot of peopl... (read in full...)
Im all confused, I confessed how I feel and he was cool with it, hes like we are more than mates, but insists im just mates material!
Q. Help! Im in a dialema, I have met a wonderful guy about two months and have been speaking to him everyday since, we meet up at least twice a week and have loads in common an get on amazingly. Thing is he only wants us to be friends, after being ...
A. 6 September 2006: Shame my sweets, i know how you feel, i'm in the same situation at the same moment. the only thing we can both do is just be there for them, make sure they know we there for them but not over crowd them and chase them away!
Lets take it one day ... (read in full...)
Stop playing with my emotions!!!
Q. How can someone fall out of love, and one day say they'll die for you and want to spend their lives with you, then the next week they dump you saying their priorities changed, and that they don't feel the same?...
A. 3 July 2006: that is just a women that doesn't know what she wants and is holding on to you buy giving mixed signals so that she has some one to fall back on when she has no one to go to! DON"T let her do it to you, tell her she either wants you or she doesn't ... (read in full...)
We have this amazing chemistry and now I have bumped into him again and all the feelings are flooding back...
Q. Hi guys!There is an issue which is driving me mad at the mo and i'm hoping for some advice on it!To cut a very long story as short as possible, i met this guy about 5 years ago and i didn't know at the time but he was engaged! There was this mas...
A. 3 July 2006: I know how you feel, chemistry should be illegal because there is nothing more troublesome, especially if it's with some one you shouldn't feel that way for. It leads to temptation and temptation leads to heartache!
There is nothing you can do abou... (read in full...)
Worried that my sister is in with a rough crowd...
Q. I have questioned before for help about my sister and her boyfriend breaking up after six years. This is a continuation of the story. Well for the past 2 years my sister has been working at a horse farm during the summer between universi...
A. 3 July 2006: Unfortunately there is nothing you can do!
Speak to her tell her you are worried about her and that you feel the friends she hangs out with are no good! but if she doesn't take the advise then there is nothing you can do, she is 20 and she feel... (read in full...)
Still seeing the ex is tearing me up inside!!
Q. My ex and I broke up a month ago, and we see each other at school everyday. Trouble is, I thought I was over him but everytime I see him my feelings come rushing back. We don't talk at all. When we see each other we just look straight through each ...
A. 3 July 2006: It is very ahrd to let go of someone that you care deeply for! And by the sound of it you still care deeply for him! But there are a few things you can do and being a girl makes it easier! Show him you over him, you may not be, but men try to ... (read in full...)
How do I reassure how I'm not out looking for other girls??
Q. I went out with a friend tonight and my girlfriend who is out of town visiting her cousin is mad that i went out to bars. Of course, it didn't help that I didn't tell her I was going out tonight, but i did try to call her all day without getting a ...
A. 3 July 2006: Sweet pea, and i mean that! You eally do sound sweet, just the fact that you told her where you were and what you were doing is reason enough for her to believe you!
Not many men will come clean or even attempt to letting there GF now where they... (read in full...)
He is looking at porn and imaybe pregant!!
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been with my boyfriend for eight years.We have lived together for most of that time.Just recently we have started trying for a baby. This morning I went on the internet and checked the history. Up came loads and loads of porn site...
A. 3 July 2006: Well if you love him, and you sure that he is telling the truth then don't be concerned about it! Men will always love porn, whether soft or hard porn it's just how they are!
Don't become paranoid as this might scare him away! And if you thin... (read in full...)
Do I take a chance on him or back off ?
Q. I've been dating M since the 9th of May this year, Ive met him 10 times. His wife left him in Jan of this year.but he says there has been no sexual relations for two years between them. He rings and texts me reguarly, we have got closer to each ...
A. 3 July 2006: His intention may be good but the only way you may find out is talking to him! Ask him all the questions that you need answers for. what does he hope to come out of the realtionship? What he wants from the realtionship?
How does he feel abou... (read in full...)
Is he taking showers to wash away the evidence of his cheating!?
Q. It was my b/f's b-day. I am with him over the year. Just wanted an opinion. I remember when i was with him last summer--he would sometimes take showers when i came over and in the winter not so much..he works inside as well as outside so i can ...
A. 30 June 2006: My angel, don't over work your mind! He probably just felt like been fresh to see you! Their is nothing wrong with taking a shower, i wish more men would do that!
Don't worry i'm sure he has nothing to hide!... (read in full...)
We may never see each other again but we're falling in love...
Q. Hi, Ive had my ups and downs in life just like anyone else. and ive been throught some tough stuff and thank god ive managed to work things out. But the problem is a couple of months ago i met this guy through out work and we hit it off straight...
A. 30 June 2006: Thats a tuff one
if you seriously believe that there is no way to stay together then end it now and try to work through it!
I once dated a jewish guy and i'm christian and we to had an amazing connection and i met him at work! we dated for abo... (read in full...)
I want change in our relationship
Q. Okay, apparently I wasn't very clear about my situation with my boyfriends broken promises. Let me get this out. By no means am I selfish, spoiled, or whiny and my baby is the utmost important to me. Yes, he is a good guy and we love each other but, ...
A. 30 June 2006: Well sweety
Being in different cities can be hard, so instead of him coming to you, go to him! tell him you want to cook him dinner and just in case he tells you he doesn't have time, say to him you'll cook him dinner at his house!
Tell him your... (read in full...)
I like this boy at school so how do I approach him without making a fool of myself!?
Q. You probably get this all the time, but I need some practical advice! I like this guy at school, (you know how it is!) but i don't know whether to like make the first move or whatever. I'm really very shy, and would not want to do anything ...
A. 30 June 2006: Hey Angel,
well that shouldn't be hard, ask a friend preferably a guy friend to ask him what he thinks of you! Get him to market you and if the out come is good, bump into him accidently, make i contact hold it and then walk away.
The next ... (read in full...)
Is it me that he likes, or is he like this with everyone!!!!
Q. i really like this lad but he is 3years older! he sends me suggestive texts and the other night we became very cuddly but he flirts with everyone! is he just flirting with me like he does with everyone else or does it mean more? also i got with ...
A. 30 June 2006: Men flirt to say they interested! But how interested i'm not sure!
Flirt back, make direct comments, tell him put your money where your mouth is and lets go to the "bathroom" or where ever you feel comfortable and see how he reacts, if he reac... (read in full...)
My gf' cannot have proper bowel movemnts after we had anal sex. What's wrong?
Q. My girlfreind and I had anyul sex for the first time now she cannot have a bowl movement unless its small and painful, whats up? please help yours SK...
A. 30 June 2006: I'm no doctor but i'm female to.
Anal, is sore, the size of your bum hole is a lot smaller than an enlarged penis, so it would naturally stretch, she may have been willing but her bum wasn't. it is not normal to have "foreign" objects put up ther... (read in full...)
My ex keeps texting me and it's jerking my chain every time!
Q. Hello, I have a prob and I'm not sure what to do about it. I've written in before about the suprise breakup, and that after a month of not talking nor texting which was really very hard I kept my distance, then one day in the early hours of the ...
A. 30 June 2006: Hi Sweety
Breaking up is never easy and if it is, it means the relationship didn't mean anything!
But it meant alot to you if you still hurting!
Women can be people at times, my guess is that she wants to see if you still hung up on her and m... (read in full...)
Everyone says to keep my distance after the breakup... But I want to win him back!
Q. Hello,! A month ago my boyfriend of 2 and a half years broke up with me and my heart is breaking as i love him dearly. i am 21 and he 22. we have known each other for about 5 years through work, and have spent almost every night together for tha ...
A. 27 June 2006: Shame angel, my heart breaks for you cause i to have loved so unconditionally and had my heart broken. and it's easier for people to say just don't see him, when it kills you to be away from them. But what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger. ... (read in full...)
I've kissed my manager's boyfriend... I'm in a tangle please help!
Q. When I read some of the posts on here, I wonder how do some of these people find themselve in these crazy situations. Like affair with boss', or drunken kiss's with your bestfreinds, or girls getting with theres friend man. Now I have come to find ...
A. 27 June 2006: Yes it's wrong to kiss a man that belongs to someone else, but it happened and believe me i know what those types of kisses can do! a kiss when you want more but you ashamed every time the thought crosses your mind. but you young and energetic. ... (read in full...)
I've kissed my manager's boyfriend... I'm in a tangle please help!
Q. When I read some of the posts on here, I wonder how do some of these people find themselve in these crazy situations. Like affair with boss', or drunken kiss's with your bestfreinds, or girls getting with theres friend man. Now I have come to find ...
A. 27 June 2006: Yes it's wrong to kiss a man that belongs to someone else, but it happened and believe me i know what those types of kisses can do! a kiss when you want more but you ashamed every time the thought crosses your mind. but you young and energetic. ... (read in full...)
I fear my girlfriend is sleeping with the godfather of our child. For the sake of my daughter, please help!
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 2 and a half years, and we have a 14 month daughter together. My girlfriend became friends with her friend's mate, and made him godfather to our child. Since we moved into our own place my girlfriend tends to phone ...
A. 5 January 2006: You have every reason to be suspicous, but the best thing is to casually bring it up!
I don't think you want to bring your daughter up in an environment with discomfort, children can sense this and it really isn't healthy.
And if you really don't... (read in full...)
Worried my boyfriend will do something awful if I leave him
Q. i'm 24 yrs old and currently dating my boyfriend for nearly 7 years. I'm having an affairs with someone else he seem to knew about it and started to cursed me saying that he would want to kill me and the guy if he saw it on his own eyes.I broke up ...
A. 4 January 2006: My angel,
You in a bit of a mess but there are ways to stop your boyfriend from hurting you.
If you don't want to be with him, leave him and if he bothers you tell him you will have a restraing order put out against him. This should get him to b... (read in full...)
I want more than friendship from her...what do I do?
Q. Ok so I know this girl. Shes 27 and she is AWSOME. I can't get enough of her when Im around her and we connect on all levels. I've had this major (you prolly can't fathom how big this crush is) on her. Now we used to work together and we've still ...
A. 4 January 2006: I think it is really great that there are still men like you out there that think with there heads and not other heads. The respect you showed that night will not go unnoticed!
The only way to find out if she would date you is to ask her, she... (read in full...)
She has 75 guys in her address book... And I just hate to share her with any of them!
Q. Some one please help... I have a small problem with sharing. My girlfriend and I have been friends for many years and have always wanted to date but something has always stopped us (distance being one factor). We are together now and are extremel...
A. 4 January 2006: Well there is nothing wrong with a bit of jelousy, but once you feel it's getting to much, take a walk to the bath room!
Girls normally have more male numbers and the visa versa.
You said yourself it's not like she calls them or goes out of her w... (read in full...)
What can I do to catch the eye of the smiling guy at school?
Q. Ok guys, another really fun q!! Ok, I'm 16, and there's a guy I like. I think he likes me too but I don't know, because I've had to go into his classroom a few times, and every time I popped in there, he was looking and grinning. Now, I don't kno...
A. 4 January 2006: My opinion,
Don't degrade yourself, have confidence, there is nothing more attractive than a girl with confidence.
Women tend to put themselves down for no apparent reason.
If he smiles at you smile back.
Invite him out when you go out with... (read in full...)
How do I choose? I'm falling for the guy nearest to me...
Q. Hi, I am so lost because I am in love with a guy that lives in Florida and I am with a guy that lives here with me. The more I am with the guy I am living with, the more I am falling out of love with the guy in Florida and falling hard for the guy ...
A. 3 January 2006: Mellybutton,
Follow your heart and if your heart says go for the guy close to you, go for it.
All women need to feel affection and the guy in Florida can't give you that when he is so far away!
... (read in full...)
Nothing for Christmas or my birthday, not even flowers! I'm so disappointed in my boyfriend.
Q. My boyfriend, for my birthday and Christmas - yep both in the same month - has got my nothing still for either of them. Not even a card. My feelings are hurt and it is pretty much drawing the line on everything. I have talked to him about it...
A. 3 January 2006: Why would you want to fix or solve it, he obviously couldn't care, why should you.
Don't let a man make you feel like that.
He needs to show some appreciation and if he can't then he doesn't deserve you!
It's one thing if he forgets your anniver... (read in full...)
Have I the right to revenge?
Q. I am in the process of a messy break up. I put up with too many ugly lies, cheating and dangerous behavior from her. I feel right to revenge at this point, should I?...
A. 3 January 2006: Revenge is sweet, but think carefully of the consequences.
Yes it hurt to be lied and cheated on, but the best revenge is to move on and just cut her of.
The less attention you pay to her the more she will realise what she's lost.
... (read in full...)
Him looking at porn affected me so badly...
Q. my bf and i have been together for almost two years and we click very well and make eachother laugh. we have sex about two times per week and it's passionate and good. problem is that he looked at porn once and i have a severe body image problem and ...
A. 3 January 2006: You not doomed,
As hard as it may be, try and watch a porno on your own, i am sure there is nothing to be worried about your body alot of women have issues with their bodies.
Find something interesting to do and try it on your boyfriend, a little c... (read in full...)
Will he ever change and will I ever get what I really need from this relationship??
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a 22 year old female and I have been with my current boyfriend for 2 years. Our relationship has been nothing but up and down from the beginning. We have broken up four or more times, and we argue quite frequently. My friends ...
A. 3 January 2006: Honestly,
He is not going to change. If he was going to change then 2years should be long enough to make a change.
How can you stay with a man who verbally abuses you?
If debit collector come looking for there money and he doesn't have it, do ... (read in full...)
How much sex is normal in a relationship??
Q. I have been married for four months, living with my partner for 18 months and together for 3 1/2 years. He thinks we are not having enough sex, I'm satisfied, and it is starting to become an issue. How much sex is normal in a long term relationship? ...
A. 3 January 2006: Well you first need to see how much sex you having now, if you are having it twice a week then make it 3 times a week, every second day, there is no "normal"amount of times, it is completely up to the couple, some are content with once a week others ... (read in full...)
I need genuine suggestions... My dick is just too BIG!
Q. Don't know what to do... I'm too big! Yes, I'm sure a big penis looks great in pictures, or when a porn star jumps all over it - but for me, not being interested in pictures, and not dating porn stars - it f***ing sucks! I can't even r...
A. 3 January 2006: I'm not sure if this will help but I had a boyfriend that firghtened me with his dick, but if you get her to be on top that way she can adjust and straddle herself to her comfort and if you are battling to get it in, use Lubricant on yourself and on ... (read in full...)
How long until love?
Q. When is it looked on as acceptable to love someone? People always tend to think that you only love someone truley if you've been with them for ages? What do all of you think?...
A. 30 December 2005: Love has no time restriction nor does it have any boundries!
If you wake up in the mornign and he is the first on your mind and when you go to bed if he is the last thought on your mind, then it may be love! When you miss him and he is in the next... (read in full...)
Can't get over my girlfriend's ex!
Q. I need some serious help! I am in college and have been with my girlfriend for 3 months now. She had a previous "relationship" about a year ago for 3 months (I use the quotes because she has never openly admitted to being in a relationship). Our ...
A. 30 December 2005: I'm not going to say you insecure but you do need to try and find out why you are acting the way you are!
I know how you feel because i'm going through the same thing! I Love my boyfriend and he says he loves me, but i get cross when he brings u... (read in full...)
I'm not interested in the guy I think is going to ask me out. But my best friend is. What can I do?
Q. This problem is real long so I will just sum it up. There is this guy that likes me. He is always saying things and it's pretty obvious he wants to get with me. I do not have the same feelings (I am into someone else). My best friend is in love wit...
A. 30 December 2005: Well, the best thing to do is be honest with him,
You don't want to get yourself in a relationship that you don't want to be in! Tell him you not interested in him that way and the fact that your friend likes him is even more reason why you won'... (read in full...)
Mum just can't come around to the idea of my dating guys, and I'm almost 18!
Q. I'm 18 in less than a month and my mum still sounds weird about me dating. I've met a guy I really like but I'm too shy to tell my mum straight out because I know she'll be angry. I've dropped hints like putting his picture up and talking about hi...
A. 30 December 2005: Your mum will always be your mum and she is so much more strict on you because you are the youngest(i'm assuming)
You her little girl and she may just be scared of loosing you! Most mums are like that.
What you need to do, is sit her down cal... (read in full...)
Still getting over being dumped by my ex, I worry that a new guy might be just as bad...
Q. Hi I'm 17 and just getting over a hard break up with an older man who lied a lot to me. It's been a year but everything is still fresh in my mind. I've met a new guy and he's my own age but I'm worried that he'll only be interested in sex. If I do ...
A. 30 December 2005: Well the only way you'll know if he is just after sex, is not to do it until you are 100% sure that he is commited to you!
Distance can be hard and trust will play a big part, just remember men have urges and if the 2 of you stay so far away from... (read in full...)
Afraid my "best" friend is going to try and steal my boyfriend... Again!
Q. I'm afraid my 'best' friend is gonna try n steal my guy....again... When me nd my boyf james* first got togeva she tried everything for it to not happened...telling me and him poisonous stories about one another etc. 6 months down the line and ever...
A. 30 December 2005: Well sweety,
Why would you even consider her as a friend if that is what she is like, she doesn't deserve your friendship.
You don't need people like that in your life.
Speak to your boyfriend, tell him your concerns and if he doesn't listen t... (read in full...)
Dream interpreter needed. Why did I dream about a guy who turned away when I kissed him?
Q. I need some help decodeding my dream. It probably sounds dumb but......... In my dream I leaned in to kiss a boy he turned his head. Then I woke-up. It was odd becouse during the whole dream I couldnt see his face clearly. This is realy bothering ...
A. 30 December 2005: Well there is most likely a guy that you interested in and the fact that you could really see who it was probably means that you not sure if he is the one and the reason turned his head is your mind saying you afraid that he may not want you and it ... (read in full...)
A question of timing
Q. How often do most couples in committed relationships talk on the phone?...
A. 30 December 2005: Short and simple,
As often as you want! If you miss him call him!... (read in full...)
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