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writes: Hi guys!There is an issue which is driving me mad at the mo and i'm hoping for some advice on it!To cut a very long story as short as possible, i met this guy about 5 years ago and i didn't know at the time but he was engaged!There was this massive chemistry between the two of us straight away and for a short period of time we had quite a passionate thing going until i found out he had a fiance and i went totally mad about it. Anyway he must have felt guilty and he told his fiance about it and she ended up dumping him. After that he made various fone calls to me and as he was so upset i ended up forgiving him and gave him a shoulder to cry on but only as a friend. However I realised i had really strong feelings for him though and over the last few years if we've ever bumped into each other we can't keep out eyes off each other and i can't describe the chemistry its amazing!Anyway a couple of years ago the guy moved away and i didn't see him for ages, within that time we've both got into serious relationships and are both engaged to different people. I thought that i'd got over him as i hadn't seen him for so long, however the awful thing is that i bumped into him the other day and all the feelings i had for him came flooding back.I could feel him glancing over at me all the time and I couldn't help doing the same and i got into such a flutter that i could hardly speak to him without going bright red. Since then its all i can think about how much i fancy him. What's going on? I know i'm being an idiot but i havn't been about to stop thinking about him for the past week!
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reader, jingle +, writes (3 July 2006):
 i know how you feel friend coz ive been once at your shoe. all i can say to you is that follow wat you really feel and show what's inside your heart. thats what makes you happy. you still have time to think because you havnt got married, dont think other peoples choice coz they are not the one who will suffer in the end. you still have the chance to quit if you trully love this guy. ive been once fall inlove with my bestfriend and never seen him for 4 years.... weve been dating a few times before but we doesnt express our feelings to each other knowing we both know how we felt for each other. i was kind of confuse because of my friends advice that he was not meant for me, that he was not the type of guy to be my partner in life. thats why i tried to let myself stay away with him and listen to my friends advice until such time i met a guy who seems to makes me forget him... i thought he might be the right person now and want to set my life happily ever after... but i was wrong.. trully wrong coz after i got married to the guy.. im still unhappy and feel so empty. recently i got a phonecall from my bestfriend and told me he was too late... he tried so hard to find me and ask me from his love but i cnt answer him at all. im already tied to a dreamboy i wasnt trully dreamed of.. and what i really felt so bad for myself that it was too late for me to realize how i really love my bestfriend and until now i carry this everyday.
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reader, Tinkz  +, writes (3 July 2006):
 I know how you feel, chemistry should be illegal because there is nothing more troublesome, especially if it's with some one you shouldn't feel that way for. It leads to temptation and temptation leads to heartache!
There is nothing you can do about the chemistry being there but you have to think of your fiance. if you are willing to lose everything for a lustful relationship then go for it see what happens, but if you are not willing to lose your fiance then think carefully about your feelings for this other man! you both have moved on and as hard as it may be try to ignore those thoughts, when you think of this man think of your relatinship and think what it could do to it!
All thats really playing in your mind is the hormones that sense of passion that you once had, so try to generate those feelings onto your fiance and it could create a really passionate between you and your fiance!
It will be hard in the beggining, but it gets easier and what ever you do, don't contact this other guy because that will just confuse you!
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