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writes: I have been married for four months, living with my partner for 18 months and together for 3 1/2 years. He thinks we are not having enough sex, I'm satisfied, and it is starting to become an issue. How much sex is normal in a long term relationship? Reply to this Question
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reader, lc +, writes (3 August 2006):
we have been together 9+ years and he still wants to do me every day but iam happy at everyother. so, i let him jerk off the other times as he stares at my naked body which is the way i sleep. also if the sex you dohave is great then he wont mind stroking it .
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reader, MilanaNYC21 +, writes (16 January 2006):
 Its not the quantity of sex you are having, its the quality. When you are intimate, make sure that you are very into it and enjoy every second of it. This will fulfill a man alot more than having sex with him many times. Perhaps, role play, new form of foreplay? Anything to keep things interesting.
But if I were to throw a number out. I would say 3-5 times a week is normal!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2006): my hubby and I are on the verge of getting back together after one year.We split up when I got pregnant. we've been together for 6 years married for 2 and we have 2 boys aged 4 and 2 months.By the time we're both finished putting the kids to bed at night we barely have time for nookie between feeds. We've tried everything sucessfully a bit rushed but exciting all the same. it's unplanned and just sort of happens anywhere, corridor ,in the bathroom, kitchen, living room. a bit of spontaneity helps. there's hardly time for foreplay but we love it. i don't know if it's good enough to keep him in my life but who knows what our future holds.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2006): I'm so glad someone asked this questioned cause I know now that we're not the only ones going through it. My man had the same issue but, we just made a deal that we would have it every other day and thats like 3or 4 times a week but, thats what we did cause he felt we weren't having enuff either and if he still complains then I would give him so much he won't be able to handle it. wear him out girl!!!
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (3 January 2006):
 I think Tinkz below was trying to suggest a compromise and that is a good idea. Perhaps you feel satisfied and don't wish for more sex but that he does, so you could pleasure him in ways that do not involve intercourse if you don't want to do that. Quality is so much more important than quantity, however. Perhaps spending more time on foreplay may help.
All couples vary; there isn't a certain amout of sex that couples should adhere to in order to be 'normal'. However, men don't necessarily have higher sex drives as said below and also, please do ignore the comment by RedRobin that if sex becomes a chore, the relationship becomes stagnant and the other partner has an affair for excitement. Thank goodness we aren't all like that! The last thing you want to be worrying about right now is the possibility of your husband having an affair.
Talk things through with him. Ask him how he would like things to improve. Suggest compromising with him and injecting romance into the relationship that could be missing (but of course, only you know if this is the case).
Keep talking with each other and you will be able to work things through together.
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reader, Tinkz  +, writes (3 January 2006):
 Well you first need to see how much sex you having now, if you are having it twice a week then make it 3 times a week, every second day, there is no "normal"amount of times, it is completely up to the couple, some are content with once a week others everyday, but try doing it one day more than what you doing now and see if he is satisfied with that.
Bear in mind men have a higher sex drive than women so if you not up for it, try and pleasure him in other ways and see if that works.
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