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writes:Ok so I know this girl. Shes 27 and she is AWSOME. I can't get enough of her when Im around her and we connect on all levels. I've had this major (you prolly can't fathom how big this crush is) on her. Now we used to work together and we've still carried on a great friendship even thought I don't work with her anymore. One night at one of her parties I had some knowledge handed down to me by one of our close friends. He told me that shes a little wierded out by the age thing but if I were to kiss her she probably wouldn't stop me. Now with that in mind I had my opportunity to do so as I was leaving instead I gave her a great big hug and left. Now I've been kicking myself because I didn't have the balls to kiss her then and there but also she was drunk and I didn't want it to be a "drunken hookup". I care and respect her and the last thing I wanna do is to ruin a great friendship over a kiss. Now with that said I have to ask, how do I approach her to think about "dating" me or should I just enjoy the friendship and surpress my feelings????
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reader, Skintooth4 +, writes (12 June 2006):
Skintooth4 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Ok so we just spent the entire day together. We went to a concert in the park, she brought balket and we layed out on it. We had a fantastic time.
I still am debting if I should say anything because I care for her so much and we are the closest friends. I don't want to open my mouth because I am afraid I'll F***k things up.
She's 24 and I'll be turning 19 on the 20th of june. I thought with us not working together that the feelings would slowly die but no now they are stronger cause I don't see her every day.
I need help.
Should I really tell her and risk our great friendship or should this be one of those cases where I just stay quiet???
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reader, kjandrew +, writes (28 January 2006):
Im goin through almost the same exact problem and take the advice from tinkz and rebecca, on monday thats what im gonna do.
hope she feels the same way you do
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reader, Angel Underneath +, writes (4 January 2006):
The only way to do this is to jump in. I dont think a kiss is the best way to start - you need to actually ask her out. I would say that she is probably interested as she wouldnt have discussed the potential kiss with her friend if she wasn't OR she would have got the friend to make it clear that she wasn't interested. Be brave and mail or text or call her and just say something like "I've been meaning to ask you something for a while now but don't want to ruin the friendship. How would you feel about going out on a date" If she says no then just say "thats cool" and have another topic of conversation ready so she doesn't feel like its a major deal. I think she'll say yes though from what you've said
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (4 January 2006):
 I wonder what the age difference is between you?
Instead of trying to kiss her, why not ask her how she would feel about going on a date?
Explain to her that you love being friends with her and that if she wishes it to remain this way, then that is fine (obviously, you may not feel this way but to preserve the friendship...) and suggest where you may go for your first date.
Wait for an appropriate moment when you can catch up with her, she is on her own and obviously not drunk! Pluck up your courage and ask her out! Keep the kissing until later!
Good luck.
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reader, Tinkz  +, writes (4 January 2006):
 I think it is really great that there are still men like you out there that think with there heads and not other heads. The respect you showed that night will not go unnoticed!
The only way to find out if she would date you is to ask her, she likes you otherwise she wouldn't have said she wouldn't stop you if you kissed her, and the worst she would say is she isn't ready or she wants to be friends, but thats unlikely!
So ask her!
GOOD LUCK
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