A question of timing
Q. How often do most couples in committed relationships talk on the phone?...
A. 30 December 2005: Short and simple,
As often as you want! If you miss him call him!... (read in full...)
I trust my girlfriend, I just don't trust my mates!
Q. I get very jealous when my girlfirend goes out with my friends. I am 2 sets of friends and when I'm with one and my girlfriend is on a night out with the others, involving many males, who I know may/have made a move on her. I get really angry. I...
A. 30 December 2005: Firstly it takes two to tango, i'm sure you have heard that line before. If your friends were hitting on her and something did have to happen, she would be just as guilty.
But if you love each other as much as you say you do then there is nothing ... (read in full...)
He won't go out with me because he used to date my stepsister!
Q. I'm in love with a guy that used to be with my ex stepsister's sister. In fact he lost his virginity with her! When they were going out together I liked him when I first saw him. I liked him, it's just she got there first. I was too scared; ...
A. 30 December 2005: Angel pie,
I'm not sure what his problem is, because there is nothing immoral about it, your stepsister is exactly that, she is of no relation to you and now that she's your Ex-stepsister it's even less a problem, try and make him understa... (read in full...)
How is my boyfriend going to know when he hits the right spot during sex?
Q. I have a great boyfriend that has been able to make me orgasm everytime manually. Now we're finally starting to have intercourse so how can he do it now? I know he has to find my spot, but how and when he does, how does he keep hitting it? He's ...
A. 30 December 2005: Well, Firstly well done to your man for getting it right manually all the time, i wish mine could do that.
But like mommy0fthree says, every women is different and like the saying goes, different strokes for different folks!
The only way he will ... (read in full...)
My married lover feels sorry for his wife and won't leave because of the kids. How do I break off this affair?
Q. I have been having an affair with a married man for ten years. I was twenty four then, and a student in his torts class. He says he loves his wife, but he loves me more. Because of their two children, he has to stay with her (he also feels sorry ...
A. 30 December 2005: Sweety,
Just tell him! "Buddy this body isn't going to be like this forever, so you take it or you leave it"
Ten years is a long time, i'm surprised you haven't given him the boot years ago!
He has no intention on leaving his wife, but i think ... (read in full...)
Bored with my boyfriend. Time to pack it in?
Q. iv been with my boyfriend for over two years,the trouble is,i think im getting bored with him.When we go out together its alright and we have a good chat but when i havent seen him for a week or so,i dont seem to miss him,where he seems more ...
A. 29 December 2005: I know EXACTLY how you feel, and i felt like that after my 2 year relationship! If you don't feel the same anymore, it's not fair on you or him. It's not normal for you to feel that way, you either love them or you don't. I will always love my ex, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is insanely jealous... Is there a solution?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for just over two years. For the first year we lived near each other and now he lives three hours away. We are both in our thirties. Our problem is this: we argue constantly often times blowing up into huge ...
A. 29 December 2005: I have one sentence for you! Get rid of him!
If he doesn't want to work on his attitude then why should you try to save your relationship.
You sound like a prisoner in your relationship, do you really want that?
I know it's going to be hard, but... (read in full...)
Love or friendship?
Q. dear cupid i have been seeing my best mate of 9 years' girlfriend and she told me she loves me and i think i love her... what should i do friendship or love...
A. 29 December 2005: Love is about friendship, its a special bond between 2. Frienship is the basic foundation of a relationship. 9 years is a long time which gives it even more reason for your friendship and your love to survive.
Go for it and heck, if it doesn't ... (read in full...)
I really like her but how do I convince her not to worry about the age gap?
Q. ok so im an 18 year old male and I really really like an older girl. In fact shes 23.....I can't seem to think that there is this chemistry between us but this age thing seems a "taboo" to her. WE get along great we are the best of friends and I ...
A. 29 December 2005: Unfortunately thats something you have no control of, her decision not to get with you is something she has decided.
What you can do however is show her how mature you are, talk about your future plans, what you have in mind for YOURSELF! Don'... (read in full...)
I showed her how I felt and now what do I do?
Q. my girl told me she needs a breakup after which u told me to forget her due to the way she behaves knowing that i loved her much. then she never think by relenting, avoiding and harrassing me just because of the way i begged her to be back. ...
A. 29 December 2005: Sweetpea
There is nothing wrong with the way you reacted, it's a perfectly normal reaction especially if you have such intense feelings for her.
And the christmas card just showed that you are a better person, for thinking of her on a special da... (read in full...)
I started it and I finished it with the guy. Can I start it again?
Q. Ok..here's a quick recap of what happend. I used to have a crush on the paperboy. I talked to him and went after him but he didn't seem like he got the signals so I backed off. I didn't talk to him for a month because I got busy. Then one day ...
A. 29 December 2005: Angel,
If you really like him, tell him!
Tell him you were caught of guard, and that you made a mistake!
Whats the worst that could happen?
If you don't you could be letting go of a perfect love and that doesn't come round to often... (read in full...)
Told my boyfriend I love him... But all I got is silence in return
Q. I am in a similar situation as one of the other readers. I too told my boyfriend I loved him with him not saying that in return. I am so scared now that I will have scared him away. That night he was extra sweet and I have to say that I kinda ...
A. 29 December 2005: llqueen
After a year I would have assumed he would have said it first, but men are weird!
There may be a reason for him not calling, have you tried to call him?
You did say that he was being extra sweet that night, so maybe when you shunned him,... (read in full...)
Got a boyfriend so I dumped all my friends. Now I miss them!
Q. hello, i am just writing because i feel like an absolute loser and i have since my long distance boyfriend moved to where he is now. i guess it is the classic case of girl dumping her friends once she gets a boyfriend. i sort of did that. now that...
A. 29 December 2005: Angel,
You are far from a loser, it happens when you have someone in your life, your friends do seem to get neglected, and it's not only you that does it, I did it and for a year and a half.
If they are real friends, then they would understa... (read in full...)
He cheated on me and I got pregnant by someone else...but does he really love me?
Q. i`ve been dating this guy for about a year until he cheated on me,when i called to confronthim about it he said i should believe what i want,and so i left him.try to get over him i had a fling with my ex(the one befor him).we then made-up and thats ...
A. 28 December 2005: Angel,
If he is willing to accept the fact that you are carrying another mans child then that must tell you that he loves you more than you think.
He didn't have to take you back after finding out about the pregnancy but he did, and as for ... (read in full...)
I've tried to leave him but he always has a reason for me to stay!
Q. i have been dating my boyfriend for 4.5 years. for the last year and a half i've been trying to leave him for various reasons (unfaithfulness,backstabbing,lying,etc). every time i tell him this, he has a better reason why we should try and work it ...
A. 28 December 2005: Love has made you blind already.
If you know in your heart that he is cheating then you most likely right. You mentioned you have been going out for almost 5 years, you should know him inside out by now and his attitude.
Let him go, there are so m... (read in full...)
I had sex with him the first time we dated...now, he hasn't answered my message. What's happening?
Q. Hi I met up with a guy from an online dating site on Sunday. I'm 32, and haven't been in a relationship or had sex for a year (yes - a year!!). The dating site is a good one - doesn't seem to have many of the usual players on it. Anyway - ...
A. 28 December 2005: There is nothing wrong with sending him a message, if he replies gr8 if not then there is no harm done. Not unless you have deep feeling for him, which i don't think you do concidering you only met him once.
Dating sites are like shopping... (read in full...)
I like this guy..I have urges for him what should i do ?
Q. i like this guy and i have urges for him what should i do ? ...
A. 28 December 2005: Trust your animal instinct and go for it, cause if you don't you'll never know.
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Am I just another girl for her date or does my lover really care about me?
Q. I have been dating my girlfriend for 2 months now. This is my first lesbian relationship whereas she has been dating women for many yrs (she's 9 yrs older than me) and last year ended a 5 yr relationship. I am really happy in the relationship and ...
A. 28 December 2005: Mommyofthree is right, in most relationships there will be one that is more affectionate than the other some mind some do, but if you want her to know how you feel tell her! If she really cares about you she will listen to what you have to say and ... (read in full...)
Desperately need help after my first girlfriend dumped me, then I found my best mate making out with her! (long)
Q. Hi there. I am a 17 year old male living in the UK. This summer (start of August 2005 to be exact) i started going out with a girl who is 15. Now i have knew her family (mainly Auntie and Uncle) for a couple of years. And i get on with (and still ...
A. 28 December 2005: You sound like a remarkable man and the next women to come into your like is going to be really lucky, to have such a strong and compassionate man in there lives.
You deserve so much, the best and personally your ex and your friend they don't de... (read in full...)
I feel like my life is over without him...
Q. Please Help me............After eight years of dating the same guy he told me he needed a breal just to figure out his stuff. With no other explination I am so devistated. It has been 2 weeks and I find myself so emotional and torn. I have called ...
A. 28 December 2005: Angel,
First let me just say how sorry i am, this is definately not the easiest thing to go through.
8 years is a long time and for him to just throw it away without an explanation was just cold and uncalled for.
Be we as women have the preci... (read in full...)
Do I try to date him now even though he is with my friend?
Q. I met this guy a few years ago that I thought was totally annoying and I blew him off. Two years later he started dating my friend and we've started talking again but on a hi/bye basis. Until last week when we started talking on line and bumping ...
A. 28 December 2005: Don't ruin your friendship because at the end of the day when the relationship doesn't work out it's your friend that you going to want to turn to, and if you steal her boyfriend, which is what you going to do if you do persue this guy, you will ... (read in full...)
Would it be better for me to have sex with another virgin, or with the girl who I'm in love with?
Q. Hi, I am 16 years old and just met this wonderful girl who I am in love with. However she does not seem to feel the same way. I am still a virgin and she rather prefers a sexual relationship. I know she slept with other men before and I w...
A. 28 December 2005: Viere,
It's not about virginity, it about the love, trust and respect behind a sexual relationship.
Your first time should be with someone that you care deeply for, it's a special moment shared between 2.
But what i gather from this gir... (read in full...)
Should I ignore the fact that he's racist?
Q. Hello There is this guy I know and I am beginning to really like him. We talk all the time and he's intelligent, funny and has shown interest in me. He has even made hints that he would want to go out with me. Well, here is the problem. The oth...
A. 28 December 2005: It's not easy being in that situation,
Racists lack character, unless they have directly been hurt by another race and has been given reason to be resentful, but then they need to be educated and councelled that it's not the entire enthnic grou... (read in full...)
My mate's brother is 24 and I'm 17. Is it too much for us to overcome?
Q. I have a problem. I fancy my best mate's brother loads... He's all I can think about, day and night. Problem is he's 24, and I'm 17. Am I too young for him? Thing is, we share similar interests and when I sleep over my mate's house I fantasise about ...
A. 28 December 2005: If he feels the same way then there is nothing wrong.
You are of legal age to date guys over 21 and it's been said that women mature 3 times faster than men.
If he feels the same share your fantasy with him, who knows, he might just make it come... (read in full...)
I was over my ex, until his sister told me everything he'd confided to her!
Q. I don't really know where to start! My life is the worst it has been in a long time, and I feel as though there is no-one out there to help me! A few weeks before Xmas I started to get funny phone calls, anonymous/no speaking etc. Once in hal...
A. 28 December 2005: Shame sweety,
This defineatly isn't easy on you.
The two of you share something really special and irreplaceable, your children. And seeing as this is having an affect on them, send them to your mother for a weekend, and during this weekend, get... (read in full...)
Cheating and lying is out of my character... But it keeps happening!
Q. Well where do i start, my best friend (lets call him James) has been in love with me since we met. I have realised over the past two months that i love him and it's not friendship love its deep love, i have been with my bf Alex for three months. ...
A. 28 December 2005: Shame angel you really are in a predicament, and i know how you feel, i've been through the same thing, so i know what i'm talking about.
It's not easy making that decisions, so this is what I did,
Get a piece of paper and divide it into 4 colum... (read in full...)
I get an orgasm each time I get intimate with my boy... Normal or lucky?
Q. I've read some of the questions about what an orgasm is and some replies said that they're not even sure it they've had one. It took him a while (about 4 mo., it was both our first times having any kind of sexual pleasure by another person), but now ...
A. 28 December 2005: Angel,
Why are you worried? If you orgasm all the time consider yourself lucky. Lucky that you have a man in your life that you like and that he can pleasure you all the time.
There is nothing wrong or abnormal about having an orgasm all th... (read in full...)
How do I make things go back to the way they were?
Q. Hey...i just want people to tell me what they honestly think... I love my boyfriend so much (we're 26/25) and we have been together for 18 months. However over the last 2 months he hasn't made an effort to contact me...i am always the instigat...
A. 28 December 2005: I know this is going to hurt, but chances are he is cheating.
Why men do it i don't know.
But in your best interest walk out the pride and dignity, yes it's going to hurt like hell and you may cry for a long long time, but the hurt will heal. I... (read in full...)
How do I tell him that I love him?
Q. Quite simply... i have been with my boyfriend for 8 months... how do i phrase to tell him i love him and in what way do i do it. I know he cares for me greatly. However in the past with guys when i've told them i love them its as if i've asked ...
A. 28 December 2005: There is no other way of saying then just letting him have it.
It's scary not nowing how he is going to react. Men can be full of s**t, but i guess thats why we love em.
But do it in during a romantic moment.
Or if you sexually active, tel... (read in full...)
I've been dumped but the texts from my ex keep coming!
Q. My ex boyfriend dumped me four weeks ago. We texted each other every day for the next three weeks because he agreed to stay in touch. Then one day I did not reply to a text he sent me. I left it three days. Then I textd him back. He replied but I ...
A. 28 December 2005: Well Lush
It's apprent that he still has deep feelings for you, otherwise he wouldn't text you so often, but don't run back to him just yet. He isn't going anywhere anytime soon cause if he had someone else he wouldn't reply to your mess... (read in full...)
If I get pregnant, can we get married at 16 without our parent's permission?
Q. I am 16 years old and I will be 17 in July of 2006. I live at home with my mom and my brother and I am just so tired of being treated like crap. My boyfriend is 16 also and he will turn 17 two days before me. We have been talking about getting ...
A. 28 December 2005: My sweety, don't be foolish, you still a baby yourself.
it's not just about getting married. You need to think about this, can you afford a child to start of with, because babies don't come cheap any more.
Your hospital bills wills cost about R2... (read in full...)
My ex just wants to be friends, but I really want to win her back!
Q. Dear Cupid I was in a relationship for 6 years since high school with a smart and beautiful girl. About 4 months ago, I felt like things were going downhill. The sex wasn’t like it used to be, and I found myself interested in other women, so ...
A. 28 December 2005: Breaking a heart is not an easy thing to undo.
She's probably afraid you will hurt her again, but can you blame her? 6 Years is a long time to just give up without even trying to see where the problem was.
Your sexual relatioship shows that t... (read in full...)
I've never really had a boyfriend, and I don't understand it... I think I'm friendly and have a lot to offer!
Q. I am a 23 year old female who hasn't had a proper boyfriend. I hear things like 'people can't love you until you learn to love yourself' and similar things, but I do love myself and feel I have a lot to offer and a lot of love to give. I go to cl...
A. 28 December 2005: Sweetpea
Firstly clubs aren't really the place to meet people and hope to make real friends simply because men go there to pick up one night stands, relationships formed in a club never last. And it's so loud you can hardly hear people speak.
... (read in full...)
I want her back...so how do I show her how much I love her?
Q. my girlfriend has just ended our relationship because she says she dosn't love me like she should. how can i show her how much i love her and that we belong together. i want her back but dont know what to do. ...
A. 28 December 2005: Angel,
There is a reason she broke it off with you, chances are she is seeing someone else. I know you love her but a relationship is a two way contribution and if she does not want the relationship, don't pressure her into one.
You said she ... (read in full...)
Bitchy girls alway seem to get what they want..do I stop being nice and be like them? Help
Q. i really need some help lol ive always been a good daughter and gotlike straight A's at school. I've never really been unhappy. And my friends always rely on me to take care of them and cheer them up. I get called "mum" and "happy" at schoo...
A. 27 December 2005: Sweety Pie
Don't ever let anyone make you feel that you need to change the person you are to suit them. You the one who has to look in the mirror each day and be able to respect the person you are, but there is nothing wrong in standing up for y... (read in full...)
What questions would you ask your date?
Q. I would like some input from men and women on this issue. When dating someone, it is customary that you ask questions to get to know the person? Some common questions might be: What drugs have you used, do you drink, do you want children, etc. Is ...
A. 27 December 2005: There are certain things you ask on certain dates, but the one question you don't ask on the first date is how many people have you slept with? Or How many girls/guys have you gone out with.
Some may find it intruding and try and shut you out and ... (read in full...)
I felt like my boyfriend went too far. He stopped when I asked, but now what do I say about it?
Q. I'm a teen and I've been dating this great guy for a few months. We are so right for each other and I thought we were on the same page but I was at his place watching a movie like I have many times before and he caught me off guard with something. ...
A. 27 December 2005: Angel,
There is nothing wrong with saying no if you not ready.
And the fact that he stopped with no hassles shows he has a lot of respect for you and to find that in a man isn't very easy to come by now a days.
But then again there is nothi... (read in full...)
If I ask my female friend out, will it ruin our friendship?
Q. Hello. I'm really not sure about something. Well there's a girl I'm like really friendly with at school and I think I've fallen in love with her (she knows) but I don't know whether she feels the same about me and the one thing I am paranoid...
A. 27 December 2005: Angel
It doesn't have to ruin the friendship if you don't allow it.
I started dating one of my friends, we dated for 2 years and I loved him more than anything, but when i broke it off we remained friends, infact he is my best friend at the momen... (read in full...)
I was dumped over the phone because my independance reminded him too much of his mum!
Q. Dear All, I need some feedback and help moving in the right direction. I was dating a wonderful guy for 8 months or so I thought. In that time I feel in love with him. We had our problems like most couples but I never thought that these issue...
A. 27 December 2005: Sweetpea!
There is absolutely nothing wrong with being independant.
As far as you should be concerned is that you need a man with his own independance which he obviously lacks.
You should be relieved cause you don't need a jerk like that in ... (read in full...)
Found out my boyfriend is dating someone else, too. Do I say something or not?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have a really big problem. I've been dating this guy for a couple of months. Recently I found out he has been going out with another girl. I should have expected that it would happen since we go to different schools. I'm scared to ...
A. 27 December 2005: Angel,
If he is dating someone else then toss him, cause he obviously doesn't respect you enough and he isn't trustworthy, and why do you want to be with a guy that you don't trust.
You will only get hurt if you allow him to do it.
Tell him ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried that my boyfriend would go out with someone else for a week, with a plan to drop her after that week?
Q. I have this boyfriend and he loves me so much and I love him also. One day he called me up and told me that this other girl was after him and he said that he would go out with her for a week then dump her. I asked him if he still likes her and he ...
A. 27 December 2005: What are you thinking or should i ask what are you thinking with.
It's clear you not thinking with your head.
You allowing him to cheat on you for a week. If the tables were turned, do you honestly think he would let you do the same, HELL NO!
He ... (read in full...)
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