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My ex keeps texting me and it's jerking my chain every time!

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Question - (30 June 2006) 7 Answers - (Newest, 29 April 2008)
A male , anonymous writes:

Hello, I have a prob and I'm not sure what to do about it. I've written in before about the suprise breakup, and that after a month of not talking nor texting which was really very hard I kept my distance, then one day in the early hours of the morning 3am he sent a text saying that he is sorry and hoping that I'll forgive him someday. I never replied although I was very tempted to.

Now he sent another a week later saying that he is just checking up on me and to see how i was, said he knows the way things turned out were not ideal, but that he does care for me, and to let him know how i'm coping.

That made me very angry he broke my heart in million and one pieces and its still hard that if i could erase this pain i would.

He once told me he loved me, and now he care for me, as if i was nothing.

I don't think he wants to get together but if he were to see me i think he'd want to. Luckily he is overseas, but i feel that he wants to make peace so that there are no bad vibes btwn us, or that he doesn't have a guilty feeling or thought of what he did which i really do not care about after what he did to me, and saying that his choices changed.

What should i do? please help.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008):

i think that you'll just have to use your own judgement,you just have to go with your instincts and discuss it with him let him no that you did not appreciate what he did and forgive him .its the only way you can truly move on ,just dont forget so you can get strong .prayer always help me it will get easier by the day plus you need to do a little dating ,you will meet someone else eventually that will ease your pain and before long you will look up and you will be all over it. good luck just no that life brings forth a lot of challenges.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2007):

i have a prob! eu(I) não(don't) sei(know) falar(speak) inglês(english)!

se alguem puder me ensinar..

My name Lucas and i love Belo Horizaonte radicaly!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2006):

In my opinion he texted you at 3am which is what I call the piss tariff. He'd probably been out on the lash and was feeling sorry for himself. Ignore his texts, you have been through hell these last few weeks, trying to get over the breakup.Forget about him, he broke your heart.

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A female reader, amelia +, writes (30 June 2006):

I think he wants to make peace with you and feels bad - noone can say why feelings change in love its really hard to say. From what I can see I woudl imagine he still cares and loves you but is not in love with you - good luck x

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A female reader, amelia +, writes (30 June 2006):

I think he wants to make peace with you and feels bad - noone can say why feelings change in love its really hard to say. From what I can see I woudl imagine he still cares and loves you but is not in love with you - good luck x

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A female reader, snowbird Canada +, writes (30 June 2006):

snowbird agony auntIs he really that bad, or are you just feeling hurt and rejected? That can really cloud your judgement..you know him better than any of the agony aunts, and are in a better position to guage whether he is sincere, or just curious and pampering his ego

If you think he is just doing that, I would not reply at all. He has hurt you and wants to ease his conscience. He should have thought about that before, and given you some closure on the relationship to make it easier on you. He has no right to ask, when he must know full well how he made you feel.

If you are confused as to what his motive are, then why should you reply either way? Leave HIM wondering - it will do him good to be the one waking him in the small hours wondering...

Meanwhile, get out there, heal the wounds - and ENJOY life. Find the man who deserves you. Above all, be happy, that's the best medicine for a broken heart! Good luck.

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A female reader, Tinkz South Africa +, writes (30 June 2006):

Tinkz agony auntHi Sweety

Breaking up is never easy and if it is, it means the relationship didn't mean anything!

But it meant alot to you if you still hurting!

Women can be people at times, my guess is that she wants to see if you still hung up on her and my advise is build up all the courage you have, put on a brave and strong face and tell that you have never been happier. Tell her you have met amzing new people don't say what gender keep her guessing!

Forgive her, it makes the pain go away abit, not entirely but a bit! and just keep on doing what you doing take it one day at a time and believe you me, some who will appreciate you will come along oneday, sweep her off her feet and never let go!

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