Caught my boyfriend on dating sites, after calling me a slut and a stalker he then claims it was a virus!
Q. I have found out my boyfriend has been going on dating sites. When I asked him about it he went mad at me and started calling me a stalker, said I dont trust him because I myself am not to be trusted, called me a slut and then turned it around to ...
A. 11 November 2012: Look how it will now look to him now. You caught him, he then gave you bull shit. You are still with him. He will now think he can walk all over you. He will think he can mistreat you again and again. I will repeat what Cerberus said to you "Pretty ... (read in full...)
Caught my boyfriend on dating sites, after calling me a slut and a stalker he then claims it was a virus!
Q. I have found out my boyfriend has been going on dating sites. When I asked him about it he went mad at me and started calling me a stalker, said I dont trust him because I myself am not to be trusted, called me a slut and then turned it around to ...
A. 9 November 2012: I would not waste another minute of your life with him. His behavior has been appalling. ... (read in full...)
I was dating a guy who wanted to date other women so I finished it. Did I do the right thing or overreact?
Q. Hello aunties and uncles. I'm a bit confused and bewildered about a recent dating experience and I'd like some opinions or advice. I met a guy via online dating. We had several (4) really enjoyable dates over a few weeks. We chatted freely and...
A. 7 November 2012: Daft timing, but at least he didnt have sex with you first. He does not sound ready for a full on relationship and maybe cannot get what he wants, so is using dating sites to hoping to get it. Move past him, you lost nothing.... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend getting on line and chatting because she is at home and bored?
Q. While I am out at work my girlfriend does nothing all day except chat to guys and flirt on the internet. I have found out about this now for the fourth time in a year. We almost broke up for good, and now I find she is doing it yet again. It is hard ...
A. 1 November 2012: If you are in a committed relationship then there are no reasons or excuses to be flirting online or registering on dating sites. I, and a lot others, would class this as a form of cheating. You almost broke up once and she is still doing it. I ... (read in full...)
Did I ruin things before they could even begin?
Q. Dear aunts and uncles. Please help me. I have totally muucked things up with a guy who I really like and who I think was perfect for more. I feel sick at what I have done, or more importantly how stupid I have acted. I am 31 and can't beleive...
A. 30 October 2012: I think somewhere_between may have a valid point. I would check out these guys well before going to bed with any of them. I would not be confident about anyone off a dating site to be honest with you.... (read in full...)
Why does my husband keep going on dating sites looking for women? he knows I know. So why does he keep on hurting me like this?
Q. For at least the past 6 months I was coming across my boyfriend going on dating sites to chat to different women. Of course, he has always denied it and called me weird and neurotic. He knows that I know, so why won`t he tell me if there is somet...
A. 23 October 2012: It`s unbelievable the amount of break ups that are happening because of attached people doing dating sites. I personally know someone who`s getting ready to divorce her husband because of them right now. There is not much to advise you, as his ... (read in full...)
She tells me she's happy so why is she on dating sites?
Q. I have been dating for just over 3 years. For the past 9 months I have been finding bits about her being on dating sites again. I caught her out on one last year and her aggression after being unable to carry on denying it when I asked her, caused a ...
A. 17 October 2012: Overall, it is not looking good. Whether or not she is looking to cheat or has cheated physically is not known. Personally, I think it`s all fun for her, but if someone came along who she considers a better catch, then who knows? Whatever her real ... (read in full...)
Do some people throw away their real relationship for the sake of online affairs?
Q. I am wondering after ending a relationship due to his compulsive cyber cheating, whether it can be seen as something addictive. I have noticed a lot of questions on here about it. Do some people throw away their real relationship for the sake of ...
A. 13 October 2012: Don`t make any mistakes. He was cheating on you. He probably thought he wouldn't get caught.... (read in full...)
She said she just felt like talking to a guy on line! Your thoughts please? But why would she start talking to a stranger online?
Q. I've been with my GF for almost 3 years. When I first met her she was always online chatting and I know she has done a lot of stuff she regrets while she was chatting.. She had promissed me to stop that because I said I would leave her and her 2 ki...
A. 9 October 2012: She is making a fool of you. If you don`t walk then you will have to accept what and who she is. ... (read in full...)
How do you make someone fall back in love with you? There has to be a way!
Q. Lots of people say once the love has gone it can never come back. Yet so many people get back together and even remarry each other after a divorce. So people obviously can fall back in love. My question though, is how? I'm desperate for my husband ...
A. 20 September 2012: I dont think you can control anyones feelings of being in love. They either do or they dont.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend of 4 years won't stop going on dating sites. Is it worth trying to sort this out?
Q. Hi, I am new on here and would really like some advice on what to do. I have been with my boyfriend 4 years. He wont stop going on dating sites. I have caught him doing it and seen it with my own eyes 3 times, I have also got to the point where I ...
A. 10 September 2012: It sounds very much like he is only with you because he cannot find anyone else. I am sorry to have to put it that way. I think you really need to consider getting away from him for good.... (read in full...)
B/f on dating site saying he was single, we've been dating for 3 years!
Q. Hiya, I'm in a bit of a pickle. My boyfriend and I have started sharing his email account and he left his laptop here for me to use as mines broke. Basically I went to send a email and I found that he had dating matches so I had a look. It said ...
A. 10 September 2012: Considering what you have found out, I think you snooping is minor. Do not allow him to turn it into a you have been snooping argument. He is the one who`s in the wrong, not you.... (read in full...)
I met my soul mate online but he just broke up with me via text because his mom told him to!
Q. Dear Cupids I am at my lowest point ever I hope you can understand everything I have to say , and would really like your opinions of how to go about this. I met this guy online ( i know I was also one of the ones that said never ...
A. 26 August 2012: It is not about his mother. Its about his reluctance to take on a ready made family. I think you have no choice but to move on from this.... (read in full...)
Aftermath of a threesome.
Q. I'm kind of in a bind here and I need your take on this situation because it's not a black or white scenario. Several years back, my friend decided that he thought it would be fun if we all had a threesome with his then girlfriend. We d...
A. 15 August 2012: I bet he feels bad enough as it is. You are all responsible for what has been happening. I think it may have gone a lot further than he wishes it had. She calls you on her own volition, you entertain it. No he does not deserve 100% of the blame.... (read in full...)
After many difficulties we broke up. Would I be right in suspecting he had this girl waiting in the wings all along?
Q. hi readers. so my boyfriend of three years and i have split up again. we went through this circle of breaking up and getting back. he was a bit too possessive over my internet life and would not stop spying on me blah blah blah. now he has met s...
A. 15 August 2012: It does sound a bit like this mentioned "internet life he was spying on" was a bigger issue than you want to mention. Nothing says that he had another girl waiting in the wings. It may have been that he was tired of the same things happening and met ... (read in full...)
I've been lied to again but don't know how to confront her...
Q. I've just found out from my girlfriend's brother in-law that she deceived me again. To cut a long story short, she's lied to me a few times on about where she's been and other different things. I met up with my girlfriends brother in-law to ta...
A. 14 July 2012: The anonymous males detailed reply is the whole truth of it. You will be playing "happy families" yet you will be stewing beneath the surface. It is not a good idea to be going on vacation with her, it`s not a good idea to be going anywhere with ... (read in full...)
I've fallen in love with my friends with benefits guy!
Q. hi everyone I could really use some opinions I was just wondering what you think this means I have been in a fwb for a while now he comes to mine I go to his for a coffee or a movie or something he somtimes just wants to cuddle me and kiss me I have ...
A. 26 April 2012: Perhaps Not has hit the nail on the head. Unfortunately, fwb style relationships tend to end up with someone getting hurt and you can bet that 99 out of 100 times, it will be the female.... (read in full...)
I'm in a happy relationship now, so why wont my ex move on like I have done?
Q. hi everyone i need to understand why my ex is still tracking my movements on the internet? we were together 7 years, its been over between us for 2 yrs but only stopped sexual contact 10 months ago. we have had zero contact except on 3 occasions via ...
A. 25 February 2012: He moved on from you but he is wrong to move on from his son too. You had contacted him about your son so why did it stop? Maybe he wants to resume contact, but not via you? You asked why he is tracking you then came back later saying you both know ... (read in full...)
He claims his chatting with his ex was harmless, but it really hurts me. Who is in the right here?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 18 months, and I love him dearly. A few months ago I found messages on his Facebook between him and an ex. The contents upset me as they were flirting, although nothing too major. I told him how I felt, and he ...
A. 23 February 2012: Nothing that causes hurt can be classed as harmless. I would give it a chance but still watch him within reason.... (read in full...)
Will asking about his past open a can of worms?
Q. Hi there, I've been in a relationship for 6+ months, and all is going well. We are happy. We never talk about past relationships, we are both quite guarded people and are slowly opening up more over time. He has a lot of female friends. Which h...
A. 22 February 2012: Hi, I have read through. I don`t think you may like my answer. Honesty is important at all times. It may seem minor to you, but if you are unsettled about his friends and fail to mention things that "you" believe are not important (others may not ... (read in full...)
How can I make him see how right we are for each other?
Q. I have been seeing someone for the best part of 5 years, although it has been on-off for the last 2 years. Yes we sometimes argue and its obviously not going to be like the honeymoon period 24/7, but we have so much fun together and so much love ...
A. 21 February 2012: However much you love him, arguments that build up to you being on and off for two years does`nt look like you are as right for each other as you think you are.... (read in full...)
My G/f screamed at me publicly because I was looking at this gorgeous redhead on the train!
Q. Hi guys and girls im a bit of a chump - thats how i feel right now atleast... i made my girlfriend a beautiful silver necklace for valentines, took her away to a hotel/spa for the weekend, she absolutley loved it, as a treat for me she took m...
A. 20 February 2012: It`s a bit naughty to be looking at other girls, but how she`s reacted is showing signs of insecurity that will require a lot of hard work from you. Too much hard work really.... (read in full...)
Lies stacked upon lies and now my ex doesn't trust me
Q. I have been with this girl for 2 years and we have been very much in love. The problem is, when we first met I told her some lies about my past and as time went on I didn't know how to take them back. so I told more lies and things are in a very bad ...
A. 19 February 2012: If you would state what your lies were about it would be helpful. An honest question will get more honest answers.... (read in full...)
Does anyone deserve a second chance?
Q. when someone has cheated, should you give them a second chance?...
A. 18 February 2012: Cheating kills trust. If there is no trust, the relationship/marriage becomes unpleasant. It`s never the same afterwards. I am a believer that some people cheat and some people don`t. If someone cheats then I could never trust them not to do it ... (read in full...)
He said, "when you've finished with your boyfriend, I'll take you out." Did he mean that?
Q. A man i know said " where have you been hiding? " , because he hadnt seen me for a long time.I saw him when i was out with my new boyfriend in a bar.This man asked me if he was my boyfriend,as it was the first time he had seen me with him,and i said ...
A. 17 February 2012: On the face of it, it was very disrespectful to the man you was with. Why does he assume you would go out with him anyway? Do you actually want to? If he felt bad when you laughed, it would`nt have been anywhere near as bad as your new man would ... (read in full...)
She's cheated on me, hardly hangs out with me, and she's happy, I'm not, even though I love her.What do I do?
Q. I have been dating this girl for almost 9 months weve been off and on several times. In October she cheated on me at her birthday party and then lied about it till christmas. she says she loves me and that she wants to spend the rest of her life...
A. 17 February 2012: Of course your`e not happy, you never will be happy with her, so that is not an option.... (read in full...)
His texting to me is unpredictable. If he texts me again shall I just ignore him?
Q. I have been texting a guy for several months now. We have met 3 times. Anyway his texts are not consistent. He will text me every few weeks and will only ask to meet when he is out drinking. I text him back the other day, got one text back to which...
A. 16 February 2012: Yes ignore him. He is not behaving like someone who`s genuinely interested in you is he?... (read in full...)
I lost my fiance because of online dating sites! Why do I do this to myself and how do I get out of this hole I've dug for myself?
Q. I have been on and off dating sites now for over 4 years. almost 2 years ago my fiance walked out on me after catching me on them again after giving me several chances. Since that, I have met guys off the sites but nothing ever came of them, I was ...
A. 15 February 2012: Well it seems the grass wasnt greener for you. The news of your fiance has woke you up to your reality, but as it ended the way it did, I`m kinda sure he wouldnt have been the right man for you otherwise you would not have been looking on dating ... (read in full...)
Does she fancy me?
Q. I like this woman at work who works in the coffee shop while I'm the stores janitor. One day I was collecting the rubbish we accidently touched fingers which made her smile, just before New Year's she asked what I was doing on on New Year's Eve then...
A. 14 February 2012: Ask her out, dont be soft lol... (read in full...)
Love him or leave him? Or would FWB work?
Q. What should I do about my new lover? I met him at Christmas time through my sisters boyfriend and although I wasn't sure at first, we ended up being lovers. As he lives in my home town (he has a four year old son who he sees as much as possible...
A. 14 February 2012: If you are getting attached (like most females do in fwb arrangements), then you would be better cutting your losses. The best thing would be to have a heart to heart discussion with him, but its rare for a guy to go from fwb into a real ... (read in full...)
My sister-in-law is a cougar and I think it's unwise
Q. My sister-in-law is a 43 year old single mom to an autistic son. He is now 15 years old. Now that he is getting older she is getting back into the dating scene. She has been divorced for more than 10 years now. Good for her, I think. The p...
A. 12 February 2012: Yes you are right, it is unwise. She still should be allowed to live by her own choices, whatever happens.... (read in full...)
I know he is taking me for a fool, so I want to cut contact for a few days to see if he realises what he's missing. Will this work?
Q. me and my boyfriend of nearly 2 years are LDR, everything was great for the first few months, then early last year he ran off for another girl, that didn't work out, so me - with mug written on my forehead - took him back with open arms. things...
A. 10 February 2012: The only thing that will work for you is to move on and cut him out of your life completely.... (read in full...)
I don't want to get back with my ex, but I need help understanding his behaviour. Why couldnt he stop going onto online dating sites? Why did he lie so much?
Q. I write in a midst of confusion. I have ended a 5 year relationship with my boyfriend due to his do or die determination in dating site memberships. It has been a constant cycle of him getting caught, lying, convincing me I am seeing things, then ...
A. 10 February 2012: Looking for an answer is not the best way forward. The most important thing is moving past it permanently. I think the real reason will point to cheating or at least that intention. Put your energy into the better life that`s in front of you.... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he contact me if he loves me?
Q. my ex left 2 month ago. he said he loved me and that would never change. he has not been in contact for 5 weeks now, no phone call or text message. why does he do this if he says he loves me....
A. 9 February 2012: Because he wants to move on and contacting you would only set him (and you) back.... (read in full...)
I'm scared to start a new relationship because I don't want to hurt my ex!
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend of 20months 3 weeks ago, the relationship had started to go downhill at around the beginning of november, he still felt the same about me but I was starting to notice the spark disappear. In the beginning of December I ...
A. 9 February 2012: If you know it is over permanently then it is time to move on. You have stated you had feelings for someone else, then that should tell you. Three weeks is not a long time, yes he will be hurt, but it will also answer his questions. If you think ... (read in full...)
I lied to my boyfriend but now that I have come clean and am telling the truth he doesn't trust me
Q. I lied to my boyfriend about my online- activities prior to us moving in together. When he found out, I denied it, then I changed my story and told him what I was doing (emblishing the facts as I thought it was what he wanted to hear), I then took ...
A. 7 February 2012: This should be about you behaving like a real girlfriend and not putting yourself in situations like this. Instead your only concern is making him trust you. You just dont get it do you?... (read in full...)
Boyfriend kept all photos/numbers of his ex girlfriends but lied to me about it
Q. hi im in a new relationship but had problems already my boyfriend kept all hes exes letters photos and numnbers after telling me he had got rid of them .its only been over a month and i dont want to lose trust ....
A. 6 February 2012: This is a new relationship and maybe a bit too early to be setting boundaries.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend doesn't tell everyone we are dating and has some flirtations with male friends.
Q. My girlfriend stays out regularly and sometimes comes back as late as 4am. Sometimes she goes to see a friend who has a flat a few miles away. I work full time so I generally feel tired as I don't sleep so well when I don't know where she is or ...
A. 5 February 2012: You are alone, even though you are in a relationship. I would like to advise you to try and talk to her, but as it`s been explained, she probably wont hear. I cannot think of anything to say other than end it with her. ... (read in full...)
My partner slept with her ex-boyfriend and now I feel bad when I'm near her.
Q. I would be grateful of your thoughts. My partner walked out last April without saying a word. In July she took the lease on a rented flat and said that she had realised she still wanted to be with me. In the same month she had sex with her ...
A. 4 February 2012: There will be no way you can get rid of that feeling, just like there is no way you know how long it will be until she does it again. She walks out without saying a word, so instead of trying to deal with the problem she simply goes off and sleeps ... (read in full...)
I found my boyfriend's logged in on multiple sex sites but he swears it wasnt him, just a hacker using his details. Is that even possible?
Q. ok so here it goes, last year i found something on my bf laptop by accident he was sitting next to me and i asked wat it was,i logged into it coz his face was strange and it brought me to a profile with all his details on a fuck buddie site, logged ...
A. 3 February 2012: Don`t let him carry on abusing you like this. It`s useless trying to sort things out with liars. There`s only one thing you can do and if you don`t then he will see you as being more stupid than he seems to believe you are now. Best of luck. ... (read in full...)
My husband supports everyone else but me. Why does he do this to me?
Q. My husband of three years will not take my feelings into consideration. Whenever there is a disagreement he will always take the others persons side against me. He will never defend me or stand up for me in any way. His sister and I do not get alon...
A. 3 February 2012: Is your husband deliberately antagonizing you? Sometimes we don`t always agree with the people closest to us. If he is siding with other people then would it not be better to step back and look at the argument from both sides of it. You say if you ... (read in full...)
Should I remain with my current boyfriend, or start a new relationship?
Q. Advice please? I've been with my current b/f for an extremely long time. He was my first back when I was in my teens. Well our relationship took a turn for the worst shortly after we started and I've been feeling bad about myself. Fights have been...
A. 2 February 2012: Why dont you just end your current relationship, in which you are far from happy being in? You dont have to go straight to another or seek out a fast replacement. Why are you so afraid of being single? You need to feel good about yourself without ... (read in full...)
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