Should I remain with my current boyfriend, or start a new relationship?
Q. Advice please? I've been with my current b/f for an extremely long time. He was my first back when I was in my teens. Well our relationship took a turn for the worst shortly after we started and I've been feeling bad about myself. Fights have been...
A. 2 February 2012: Why dont you just end your current relationship, in which you are far from happy being in? You dont have to go straight to another or seek out a fast replacement. Why are you so afraid of being single? You need to feel good about yourself without ... (read in full...)
Had a row, he went to ex's flat, stayed the night, do I believe that nothing happened?
Q. Had a row with my boyfriend he went to the ex flat stayed the night says nothing happened should i believe him ? ...
A. 31 January 2012: There is nothing anyone can say to make you believe or not believe him. That is something your own mind will do for you based on his account of it. I don`t think you will ever really know unless he owned up. It seems you don`t really believe him and ... (read in full...)
I can't get past his cheating ways..what should I do?
Q. Hi am miss caribbean. I am in a relationship over eight Years and I hate the way my boyfriend treats me. he cheat on me for two years and I stayed with him but I can't get over it. it hurts what should I do it makes me cry in the nite his family ...
A. 30 January 2012: You need to think long term. Moving on will hurt, but it will be temporary. If you stay with this man, then it`s possibly a lifetime of being hurt. ... (read in full...)
G/f dumped me after she lost weight saying we aren't equals!
Q. I really need help. my girlfriend of 4 years dumped me about a week back. this girl meant everything to me, I thought she was my soulmate. I've travelled around the country for this girl because of her job, disregarding my ambitions for hers. when ...
A. 28 January 2012: Whether or not the weight loss has contributed to her change, I dont know? She has said there is no chance of you getting back right? If so, then meeting her will make it worse for you. Judging from what you have mentioned, then personally you would ... (read in full...)
Is it alright to invite my friend's ex boyfriend to a dance?
Q. Okay so i wanna ask my guy friend to a dance and i also like him... but my friend used to go out with him but not really since it only lasted a day but she broke up with him cause she didn't see him that way. Now recently she decided she liked hi...
A. 28 January 2012: Edgardo is right in theory, but the principle is different. I would ask her how she would feel about it first. Tell her not to put a brave face on and be honest with you when she answers.... (read in full...)
What's wrong with sexting someone else while in a committed relationship?
Q. why is sexting (sending racy/sexually suggestive texts and FB messages) wrong? I can't see a problem with it and have been sexting an ex-colleague who i have no intention of seeing in reality. My gf of 6 months (who i love and am serious about) ...
A. 25 January 2012: Why not fix your sexual thoughts to your girlfriend? I think in most cases of flirting, there is an attraction there otherwise you would not waste your time. If you carry it on, you will lose your girlfriend. ... (read in full...)
What happens after the honeymoon phase?
Q. I'm confused-when the honeymoon phase of a relationship ends, and the passion and sex dies down a little, what happens to those lustful feelings? Do they get directed towards other people? It worries me! Because I'd want to keep those feelings ...
A. 22 January 2012: If those lustful feelings are directed to other people then that is the character of the person that`s directing them, not a phase of the relationship. It means you are with an unfaithful partner.... (read in full...)
Before we dated she revealed that she used to meet up with strangers for sex. I'm disgusted. Am I being too judgemental?
Q. I have been dating a girl for the last 6 months. Last week she told me that she has used internet sites to meet guys for sex. This was before we dated and has not done it since. I am having a problem accepting it. It was not my business, I ...
A. 21 January 2012: If your standards are higher then end it before it gets more involved. I dont think a lot of people would want to know their partner had that kind of history.... (read in full...)
Online fling caused my guy to walk out of a 3 year relationship?
Q. Is a stupid online fling what i had a good reason for my guy of 3 years to walk out on me and our 2 kids? I never even went meeting the guy. The worst i did was a bit of naughty chat. Would you agony aunts think he was looking for an excuse to bail ...
A. 19 January 2012: To him (and probably everyone else), you betrayed him. He wont trust you now. You seem unwilling to accept you did anything wrong.... (read in full...)
How to keep my new girlfriend from cheating, without seeming over-bearing?
Q. I am a girl, with a girlfriend and we have been together for a month and a few days. I looked at her facebook the other day and a girl she used to have a thing with has been messaging her, and she's been texting her phone also. To keep my girlf...
A. 19 January 2012: If someone wants to cheat, they will. It does not matter what you do, give, or how good or bad you treat them.... (read in full...)
He wants to propose in front of everyone!
Q. So me and my boyfriend are 3 and a half years apart. he asked me if he proposed to me what would i say? (he is older) so i said of course i would say yes. and he said he can't wait till he can do it infront of everyone! im really nervous. i dont ...
A. 17 January 2012: Of course you should be happy. He wants everyone to know how wonderful he thinks you are.... (read in full...)
Why do guys lie?
Q. A guy asked me out, he is 6 years older than me and very attractive. We went on a first date. He said he was looking for a relationship. But when I didn't want to have sex on the first date, he laughed his head off and dumped me. Why are guys so ...
A. 15 January 2012: All guys dont lie. You had a lucky escape with him. Just think how many may have had sex on the first date with him, and how they must have felt after. You stood by your morals, well done there. He was the loser. You still have your self respect.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend won't stop seeing this male friend of hers!
Q. My girlfriend won't stop seeing this male friend of her no matter what I tell her. I meet my girlfriend two years and six months ago and we have been officially together for two years and three months. She had a couple of male friend and I was...
A. 14 January 2012: He and her were (or still are) FWB. They were not together in a relationship so have never broken up. She did not choose you over him. It is likely he refused to give her a full on relationship. I do not think for a moment she would want to tolerate ... (read in full...)
Should I move on and date other guys after my break up and risk losing my ex for good or hang around and wait for a reconciliation and risk being bitterly disappointed?
Q. Hi Aunts, I've just come out of a 6 year relationship. My ex broke it off because he said he needed some space to think about where his life is headed and for some independence. I accept this and understand as we were together for a long time and...
A. 14 January 2012: If the reason you broke up is because he needs space, then yes. Needing space generally means trying without you, and if it does`nt work out, then he wants you to be there to fall back on.... (read in full...)
He has cheated before and now it seems he is doing the same again, what should I do?
Q. Well compliments of the new year to every one, my problem is i have been dating a guy for four months and things has been goin pretty well until he started breaking off the communication between us recently.. During the time we were on good terms he ...
A. 13 January 2012: He is a cheat, end your relationship and tell him why. Find someone better. He will probably cheat on everyone.... (read in full...)
I don't see what she gets out of this 'friendship' with this other guy and it is ruining our relationship...what should I do?
Q. Here it is, been with my girlfriend for coming up to five years now, she has recently started talking to an old guy friend of hers, they never had a relationship but he liked her. I aren't usually too bad with my jealousy but this time feels ...
A. 13 January 2012: I think if you developed this kind of "special" friendship with a female, she would`nt like it. Even still, I think she would still carry on with hers because being fair does`nt seem to be part of her character. Do you really want to continue with ... (read in full...)
FWB - I am tired of being the girl he can have when he wants but doesn't want to be with. Please give me advice?
Q. i have a male friend, we've known each other since we were 7 or 8, and when we were around 15 we dated briefly for about a week, before he decided we should just be friends. ever since then we've both seen other people, but as soon as we were sin...
A. 12 January 2012: You wont be able to stop feeling that way unless you break it off altogether and mend over time. You could refuse him sex, but you may have to accept losing him. You value him far more than he does you. The only way of getting out of this situation ... (read in full...)
Attached man, but on a dating website. Really?
Q. I have been dating a man for eight months. We live together and I feel we know each other quite well. He says he is very much in love with me. He's been divorced for more than 15 years and says he hasn't felt this way about another woman, since ...
A. 11 January 2012: He has told you he wants to be with you and no one else. Has he mentioned that on those sites? You can look for reasons and excuses forever. You don`t need proof to show him, he knows already. Of course he will lie, but there is no jury, you don`t ... (read in full...)
She gave her number to another man while we were out on a date! Now she hasn't spoken to me since, has she traded me in for him?
Q. Ok so iv just split with my girlfriend of 2 and a half years,as we no longer got on. I can't believe my luck when i meet a stunning girl who show's an interest in me straight away. We've seen each other now a few time,though its been at her house. L...
A. 10 January 2012: If this is what she does then why would you want to be with her? Double check you have got all this right and if you have, then you have met someone who will bring a lot of unhappiness to your life. You need to make an exit.... (read in full...)
Should I cook for a girl on Valentine's if we're not officially Bf/Gf?
Q. Hey guys, Basically I know it's still quite a way from Valentine's day but i'm going to try and be organised for this :P I've been meeting up/dating(if you like) a girl for about 5 months now and we're basically going out together just without ...
A. 8 January 2012: Any girl would have to be extremely ungrateful not to appreciate your idea. It makes us feel spoiled for a day and pampered.... (read in full...)
Break up, get back together, but this time, for two months, he ignores me, why?
Q. Ive been broken up with my ex for 3 months now. We are always splitting up and getting back together. We are usually trading insults through texts. For 2 months he has ignored me and not replied to anything or even argued. I have sent insults only ...
A. 7 January 2012: It looks like he has had enough. I see your point about trying to get a reaction, but because he has not reacted shows he he does not wish to be in a toxic relationship any longer. Whether or not he`s met someone is not important.... (read in full...)
I cheated and not sure if she can/will take me back! Adivce?
Q. I cheated twice with hookers she found it on my laptop i admitted it she stayed with me but now 3 months later she says its over. I love her more than anything and cant believe wat a fool i have been she is beautiful and really loved me i know i ...
A. 5 January 2012: People who actively cheat know what they are risking. You have destroyed her trust, so the relationship you had, wont ever be the same again. If she took you back it would only turn into a toxic relationship. Cheating causes irreparable damage.... (read in full...)
My ex will only talk to me about our kids, after I started dating a friend of hers. I miss her company!
Q. my ex and i split up a while ago......we did sleep together for sometime afterwards. whilst we were sleeping together i was messaging a friend of hers and now we have become a couple. my ex and i have kids together and we always got along well. ...
A. 4 January 2012: You can hardly blame her can you? She was still sleeping with you, which spells out her feelings were still very much there for you, or was really hoping you were getting back together. Fair enough, you could look two ways at you getting with her ... (read in full...)
Does he want more than a FWB relationship with me?
Q. Hi everyone me and this guy have been seeing one another since march last year well I think were more fwbs than a proper couple even though I do want to be with him properly the last week he came round mine drunk n I heard him whisper he loved me ...
A. 3 January 2012: Some say a drunk mans words are a sober mans thoughts. I am not convinced it is true myself. No one here can answer you really, only he can tell you (when he is sober). Personally I believe if you give a man sex without being in a relationship with ... (read in full...)
I've been offered a year job in Asia but after a horrible experience there, I'm not sure if I should go back!
Q. Nearly a decade ago when I was still in my late teens, I was travelling in Thailand and I had an incident that has left me reeling ever since. I had been drinking so no excuses there but a Thai girl approached and started talking to me. I can't re...
A. 2 January 2012: If this had happened in your own city would you have left? You would probably have learned from it and not let it happen again. It has affected you enough to make you more cautious. There is a chance of bad things happening anywhere if you end up in ... (read in full...)
After everything that has happened, I'm sad for days on end, but don't want to get medicated!
Q. Hiya, I'm 31 and married with 2 children an 8year old and one about to turn 1. I would consider myself a happy go lucky person that takes everything in my stride normally. recently I have found everyday things harder and herder to cope with, and I ...
A. 2 January 2012: No your doctor should not just put you on anti depressants. Make a point of not wanting to if he suggests it. If he does he should explain the pro`s and con`s. He will refer you to someone who can help you and helps people just like you everyday of ... (read in full...)
Why do people go out of their way to do things for you or give you things, only to keep reminding you of how good they have been?
Q. Why do people go out of their way to do things for you or give you things, only to keep reminding you of how good they have been? My friend has been good to me in many ways and I acknowledge that. Every time I disagree with anything, she tells me ...
A. 2 January 2012: She will be trying to make you feel in debt to her. She is probably used to losing people, but wont have figured out why. Kind people forget what they do and give, but she does`nt. She forgets what you have done.... (read in full...)
Why has my brother shut me out?
Q. I'm really upset. I used to be really close with my younger brother when we lived together with my dad, but now he is holding a grudge because of an argument i had with my mum and Grandmother last week. My brother lives with my mum now, and i live ...
A. 2 January 2012: You only mention it was an argument. Whatever it was has cut very deep and he is not agreeing with your side of it. Whatever it was has upset him. Only he can tell you just what that is. Your information is too vague. Life is too short and it does ... (read in full...)
I stood by this girl when no one else would but as soon as things were fine she dropped me!
Q. Dear Cupid, Recently, a new girl moved to my school and has felt very homesick and has been kind of bullied by some of the people in our class. I was the only person who stuck with her through all of this, the only person who made her feel better ...
A. 1 January 2012: I see and understand what is upsetting you. You feel used. The truth is, no matter what you do or give, it does not put her under any obligation to you. I would still tell her how you are feeling.... (read in full...)
What really hurts a guy aside from breakups?
Q. This question is mainly directed to Men but feel free anyone to answer every little helps :) After a friend got dumped we went to her house to comfort her. She said she wanted to hurt her ex emotionally. I told her not to stoop to his level but my...
A. 29 December 2011: There was a reason her ex dumped her. It is very bad to go trying to revenge someone because they no longer wish to be in a relationship. What if he reacts in a way you don`t like? Not all people will sit back and allow people like you to make their ... (read in full...)
He can't have loved me like I thought! Is he a loser?
Q. Me an my x broke up 3 months ago. I have never heard off him since. I did cheat on him, but i was drunk and it meant nothing. He changed his number. He cannot love me like i thought because he would have wanted to sort our problems out. Is it time ...
A. 27 December 2011: I think at the moment any honest answer given to you may either fall on deaf ears or provoke anger. As for now just call him a loser,jerk,a waste of sperm,dick head, etc.... (read in full...)
Why does she want to get in touch with me after calling it off? Does she regret what she has done and does she still love me deep down?
Q. Hi There, I need some advice as I'm not sure what to do, I have used this site in the past and it has helped me a lot so I have come back for some more help :) I was engaged to get married and 3 weeks ago my partner told me out of the blue she doe...
A. 24 December 2011: She may not mean to, but she is playing games with your feelings. The best thing for you is to cut contact otherwise you are going to get knocked down again. I agree, if she had something better (which she probably wishes), you wouldnt even be in ... (read in full...)
I am due to fly out to see my bf but he has just dumped me! I am distraught!
Q. Ok so its less than a week before Xmas. I am due to fly out to be with my boyfriend tomorrow (6 year relationship) and he has just told me, out the blue, that he doesn't feel the same way about me any more... and he told me by email. I am totally ...
A. 20 December 2011: He has ended it in a very cruel way. He could have picked a better time too. If you do fly out have you got anywhere to stay if he denies you access? If not I would think carefully. It may be he has got someone else and he wont say it. You need to ... (read in full...)
He thinks I want a boyfriend, but I just want a FWB!
Q. Hi there, I really need blunt advise on this, the last thing I want is to appear as an idiot. This year has been very difficult for me and after breaking up with my ex-bf three months ago, i do not feel like dating for a while. He broke my ...
A. 18 December 2011: Your reply about your breakup with your x is very contradictory and confusing and I think you may have unresolved issues prior to everything mentioned. I would not enter any fwb set ups for now.... (read in full...)
My ex didn't wish me a happy birthday and it really hurts me!
Q. Why do I feel so upset about this? am I overreacting? So is my birthday today and my ex boyfriend didn't even wish me a happy birthday. He dumped me saying he didn't want a relationship. But I found out he lied and cheated on me. On ...
A. 17 December 2011: You are upset because he is still in your heart and you are nowhere near over him yet. It is still phase one (unless you get back). It will eventually get better, however impossible it feels for you right now.... (read in full...)
Why am I checking up on my ex when he cheated and hurt me?
Q. Why do I keep doing this to myself. how can I stop? My ex boyfriend cheated on me, lied to me and broke up with and said he didn't want a relationship. He wanted us to be friends but I told him we can't cos he doesn't deserve me or my friends...
A. 17 December 2011: You should listen to aunt honesty. You are stopping yourself progressing, and it does seem like he never cared as much as you. He cheated on you, and lets say you got back together, he will probably do it again.... (read in full...)
She wouldn't give me her phone number but someone else gave it to me. Should I call her?
Q. i met this girl at school,she is 16,while I'm 19,i asked her to be my friend,which she agreed to,but,she have refused giving me her phone number,although, i got the number from a guy she gave it,please,help me,should i call her,since she wasn't the ...
A. 17 December 2011: If she refused to give you her number and you call her, then she may not be very happy about it. You may have to accept she isnt into you.... (read in full...)
Let's just be friends....
Q. Hello lovely people :) I am having a little rant here, because I truely do not understand the thinking behind this statement "Let's just be friends". Say you have been on a number of dates over a month or longer, you feel things are goin...
A. 16 December 2011: It sounds to me like he may want a relationship (or sex) without being tied down. If that is what you want fair enough, but in that situation,I myself would feel used. The best thing you can do is ask him what he is suggesting.... (read in full...)
Just when I realize how great the guy is he says he's getting back with his ex!
Q. Hi, I'm really stupid, I met a perfect man, he is 32, funny, good career, sweet, good looking, from same background. We met 3 months ago in a club, I am 31 female And we got on great. Problem was in always felt a bit awkward in bed! He wa...
A. 16 December 2011: He was obviously missing his ex. At this moment you are panicking over being left on the shelf. It`s hardly heartbreak is it? You wont find love, it will find you.... (read in full...)
I don't feel the attraction to my new b/f like I felt with my old boyfriend
Q. Hi I have been dating a guy for 2 months, he is a really good guy, he is outgoing, positive and caring. But i still think of my ex. My ex was the only guy that I felt so attracted to in my life. This happened only once in my life, thats why ...
A. 15 December 2011: You need to take a break. I think you are still in love with your ex but the current guy seemed a safer option. It has not worked. It may be too late in reuniting with your ex now, but you need to get over him before anything else. You cannot make ... (read in full...)
What should I do? My bf is avoiding me after I found his profile on a dating site!
Q. Hi My friend saw my bf's profile in dating site few days back and she told me about this yesterday. and i went and checked and saw his profile there, when i asked him about it, he said he's just checking what's out there. Now he has blocked...
A. 14 December 2011: He is avoiding you because he is guilty of cheating or attempting to. He has been caught. You "HAVE" been insulted and cheated on. If you want to carry on in the relationship, its your choice, but I would think very carefully.... (read in full...)
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