What should I do? My bf is avoiding me after I found his profile on a dating site!
Q. Hi My friend saw my bf's profile in dating site few days back and she told me about this yesterday. and i went and checked and saw his profile there, when i asked him about it, he said he's just checking what's out there. Now he has blocked...
A. 14 December 2011: He is avoiding you because he is guilty of cheating or attempting to. He has been caught. You "HAVE" been insulted and cheated on. If you want to carry on in the relationship, its your choice, but I would think very carefully.... (read in full...)
Caught her having sex with 2 of my friends at our housewarming.....I'm so hurt she cheated but turned on at the same time!
Q. Hi. my girlfriend and i met a year and a half ago and weve just recently moved in together. Its both our first place on our own. A month after we moved in we had a house warming party. after a night of drinking i woke up to find my girlfrie...
A. 14 December 2011: I believe this is not serious. If it is you need to tell her what you now know about her. If that is her character then I dont think its the last time she does it.... (read in full...)
My single friend resents my boyfriend?
Q. I am best friends with this girl for about 5 years and we're both 19. She and I used to be very alike, we're both shy and not very good with guys (she has never shown any interest in one), we have a lot of things in common (we usually like the same ...
A. 13 December 2011: Only she knows what is going on in her mind. The biggest thing standing out is she does not want you and your boyfriend together in a relationship. Her reasons at the moment can only be built on assumptions. Why not ask her?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend arrived for a 2 week stay with me without any money! What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend has just arrived for a 2 week stay (we're long distance) without any money! He says he's taking a month long break unpaid and has just enough to meet child maintenance payments during this time so I'm going to have to cover for him. He ...
A. 13 December 2011: I think you call it taking advantage of your kindness. I would send him back.... (read in full...)
Discovered his secret phone and dating site registrations...but he has managed to turn it around on me for violating his privacy!
Q. I discovered that my boyfriend of 4 years has been registered on several dating sites and texting off a secret cell phone. I asked him what he thought he was doing and he went very serious and asked me why I have violated his privacy. He has offered ...
A. 12 December 2011: His reaction to you finding out is a kick in the teeth, just another way of saying... so what!!! If he was sorry then there would have been maybe just a small chance. It looks very much like you need to end it. Dating sites do not creep up on people ... (read in full...)
Do you think I just need to give him time to realise what he's missing or have I blown it?
Q. I've been seeing my b/f for 7months. We have been having a very serious relationship and I thought we were both madly in love. My bf works a hell of a lot and recently we have hardly seen each other or spent any time together and I've missed him ...
A. 12 December 2011: It seems you love him a lot more than he loves you. The truth is that he would somehow make time for you if that`s what he wanted. I think you also need time to think, and that is to think about whether you need to distance your feelings for this ... (read in full...)
Is it possible that our marriage could be cursed?
Q. Can you imagine,that a marrige could be cursed? Ever since I meet my husband,my life,and now ours is a complete tragedy. THere was someone at the begining who said this marriage is doomed, you better get out. But, I did not think , any ...
A. 10 December 2011: I believe you are having a bad time in life. It`s nothing to do with anything supernatural, it is not possible.... (read in full...)
Do I tell my b/f about a random text I received from a guy who means nothing to me?
Q. hey I'm 26 and been with my boyfriend for 16 months. basically I received a really random text from a guy I know but not seen in years and we weren't close....just general at first...( I don't have his number so dsaid idnt know who it was at ...
A. 10 December 2011: If you dont show him, then he found out later, it will look suspicious. I would tell him.... (read in full...)
My gf cheated on me. Should I spoil things with her new guy or just let her go?
Q. ok i'm in a dilema should I be a total git and ruin things for her or should I let it go tell her I dont want to hear from her again and explain how much she's hurt me. my gf and i split about a week ago. The relationship had been hard for ab...
A. 9 December 2011: I would`nt say anything. You will come across as a jealous bitch. You should be counting your blessings that you have got rid sooner rather than later. Go and find someone better. She`s not really worth that much.... (read in full...)
He has cut me out of his life but he was the liar!
Q. im sure theres something wrong with me because this keeps playing on my mind and i cant shake it off. i was very good friends with a guy until i discovered he had been lying to me since day 1 -found out through various means and i was very hurt as i ...
A. 8 December 2011: There`s only one thing you can do (unless you`re hoping for more), and that is delete him out of your life. Forget him, learn and move on. He`s not been very grateful.... (read in full...)
Dating online and he was dishonest. What should I do?
Q. hi, so im having a hard time in know what to do in my relationship.. I met this guy on a credible website that he had been on for a few years before i ever joined. lets just say it was a military website...three years later we had taken our ...
A. 8 December 2011: He has lied to you from the very start. Why are you having to resort to dating sites? You should be out enjoying your life. He could be absolutely anybody. ... (read in full...)
Is this how cheats normally behave?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend almost 5 years. She is 10 years younger than me. We go out,and without fail she chooses out a girl in the crowd and when we get home she has accused me of looking at her chosen girl all night or says we couldnt take ...
A. 7 December 2011: Yes, its easier to turn it around on you than face the fact that they are no good.... (read in full...)
Aske me home for a drink - What are his intentions?
Q. If a guy asks you to go to his place for a drink, is he only after one thing ?. He doesn't live comepletely on his own. He has housemates, but he does have his own room. He did ask me when i was going to be out around town again at first, but i said ...
A. 6 December 2011: I would feel unsafe under those circumstances. I would also find it too difficult if I had feelings for someone else, but we`re all different. It is your decision that counts.... (read in full...)
I was cheated on, how can I get my confidence back to date again?
Q. hey all. I need your help again. As many of you May know that answered my questions many months ago i was having problems with a cheating girlfriend. well after much sole searching i finally managed to make her my ex though it has taken a lot to get ...
A. 3 December 2011: You get hurt and then someone who`s innocent feels the after affect. Its true that the new person should not be judged or compared to the previous bad one. If there`s not full trust then do your best to hide it. I can guarantee not every woman will ... (read in full...)
Would it be better to not get married and disappoint our families?
Q. I am due to get married in three months. For the past two years I have been catching my soon to be wife in darting chat rooms. She has been clumsy and left things around,including guys phone numbers. I have never been able to get past this as she ...
A. 1 December 2011: Do not even think about marrying her. She has not an inch of respect for you and must see you as an idiot. I agree,if she is like that now,she will be far worse after you are married. She is under the belief that she can do just what the hell she ... (read in full...)
What's more important; being loved unconditionally by a good man, or being single but popular earning a good salary?
Q. I would consider myself to be a social outcast. I have a very few select number of friends, people reject me and I'm just not all that popular. I'm not part of the clique at work, and recently missed out on a promotion because of this. The girl that ...
A. 29 November 2011: There is no better feeling than being loved by someone you love. I would rather live in poverty than be powerful and go home and have no one and nothing to think about but who you can be a bitch to at work tomorrow.... (read in full...)
So if he does not want to see me why not just say "I am busy" without saying he wants to go out?
Q. Hi, I am a bit confused and i am not sure if this guy is blowing me off. We went out a couple of times and last week he kept saying that we have to meet up this week and he would love to see me BUT .. this never happens ! So if he does not w...
A. 29 November 2011: I don`t get what you mean by giving him the benefit of the doubt. Men let you know when they are interested and nothing will stop them. He knows you want to meet him again and that is enough. If all he keeps doing is delaying,then there is no doubt ... (read in full...)
Not attracted to the guy I'm dating....am I shallow? Will this change as I get to know him better?
Q. Hey all! I don't wanna sound shallow or anything, but I've recently been on a few dates with this guy. Nothing happened, but he is clearluy interested in me. I have a good time with him and all, but... I think he's really ugly and I don't feel any ...
A. 28 November 2011: If you dont find anything attractive about him,its not your fault. Nothing shallow about that. Let him go if he wants a relationship.... (read in full...)
Totally and Utterly Love him. But, how do I get over someone I love if it wont work?
Q. Hi there just a quick question which i hope you all can help me with. I am totally and utterly in love with this guy, he may or may not like me but i know deep down it would never work as we just dont match. so my question is how do i get over som...
A. 27 November 2011: Have you ever had a relationship with him to know that? You need to mention the circumstances,otherwise its impossible to answer. To generalise,there is no such thing as dont match. There is no guarantee love will work even if you do match 100%. It ... (read in full...)
Colourblind test
Q. Hi guys need help-not romantic stuff but please help me as your advice is really cool and appreciated. Hey guys sorry to disturb but i need help-very worried got an opportunity to apply for a highly paid job but need to do a colourblind test. I...
A. 26 November 2011: If you need to do the test again, wont they be going off that result and not the one that`s 7 years ago?... (read in full...)
What is wrong? I feel I'm closing myself off from others. I can not understand why this is happening.
Q. I just don't know what's wrong with me.For a while now,I've felt so down,tired and so very,very sad.There's no reason for it,nothing's happened to me.I'm just so sad. I feel like closing myself off to everyone and just disappearing into my own worl...
A. 26 November 2011: You need to see someone asap. You sound depressed and act now before it gets deeper.... (read in full...)
I have hero worshipped him for years.Shall I just give up before making a fool of myself?
Q. I have always been friendly with a man 10 years older than me. I really wish he would see me as more than a friend. He is a single parent with a mixed race son. That is not be a problem to me. When I first got to talk proper with him, he did say ...
A. 26 November 2011: He wont be interested,he`s a man and you would have known by now if he was. His opinion is arguably right,but his racial preference doesn`t matter as he only seems to see you as a friend. If you cannot manage just being a friend to him you would be ... (read in full...)
Should a girl ever truly trust a man 100 per cent?
Q. I was wondering should you ever trust a man 100% or give your love 100%. I am 25 good looking and have two degrees but recently I find it hard to be in a relationship or even wonder if a man is ever worth giving your all. I was in a five year rela...
A. 25 November 2011: You cannot trust ANYONE 100 per cent. You can know someone all your life and they go and shock you.... (read in full...)
I know I won't go back so why I am so upset that my ex has moved on?
Q. i av been on and off for four years with my ex boyfriend. he cheated on me and was foreva on dating sites. this time he has met someone off a dating site and simply moved on. he treated me terrible,but now he has someone i feel angry. i know i wont ...
A. 24 November 2011: You gotta let this self destructing feeling go. The best way to get back at him,is to let him see your life is much better without him.... (read in full...)
His exes call him all the time, when I try to talk to him about it he calls me controlling.
Q. I am 45 and recently married for the second time. My husband is a very friendly person but seems unable to draw the line at what is friendly and what is unacceptable behaviour. He has a lot of female friends and ex girlfriends and even though we are ...
A. 19 November 2011: Its too much. I could understand if there was children or some real reason to call or visit,but talking about when they were an item sounds weird at the stage of life he`s in now. He and the ex`s have no respect for your feelings. I find this hard ... (read in full...)
My ex wants back a gift he gave me when we were together. Should I give it back/
Q. Hello everyone, just a quick question. My friends and I are split on the subject, so need a few opinions off you fabulous lot. My ex boyfriend text me saying he hated me. No problem for me. I didn't fly off the handle, may have ranted a bit to...
A. 19 November 2011: If someone gives you a gift it becomes yours. People who ask for things back are not real givers. It is given as a means of control. In your situation,I would give it back as a means of getting him out of my life.... (read in full...)
She has a boyfriend but I don't want to lose her
Q. I had fallen in love with a girl.i love her so much but when i proposed her i came to knw he had a bf whom she loved very much my heart got breaked after listening it bt frnds i dnt want to lose her.wat should i do plz help...
A. 19 November 2011: You cannot lose something you never had. You are causing your life and any opportunity to stand still. You only have one option and that is to move on. It will pass.... (read in full...)
Can a guy's car make him more (or less) attractive?
Q. Here’s a bit of a strange question. Does the type of car a guy has make him more attractive or less attractive? Does it have an influence on women? The reason I am asking this question is because of this, I used to have a classic BMW, one with ch...
A. 19 November 2011: A successful woman will have a nice car of her own.... (read in full...)
New boyfriend's female friends.....
Q. Hi hi.. My boyfriend and I have been going out for about 5 months. Its all going well, we have been taking it slowly, not rushing anything, and were both really happy. The thing I am wondering about it, is the fact that he has so many female ...
A. 18 November 2011: I would be worried if he kept them secret,but he doesnt. You are lucky to be dating such a popular guy.... (read in full...)
Online dating etiquette...
Q. I am trying my hand at online dating after being newly single and out of an 8 year relationship. I keep getting bombarded with messages from men I am not interested in. If I ignore then they keep messaging me and plus I feel it is better to be ...
A. 18 November 2011: Try your local cafe,nightclub,bar or library.... (read in full...)
He left me for harmless online flirting. Why?
Q. I have been with my chap going on 4 years. I have flirted online which was harmless and meant nothing. Just a bit of a joke and no more. I understand i hid it from him,but only so he wouldnt get the wrong idea as we had a break up over it once. ...
A. 15 November 2011: It wasnt just online flirting he left you for. There`s also doing it behind is back knowingly,cheating,deceiving,hurting him,betraying his trust(again),making a fool out of him,making a fool of yourself,and the biggest one of them all.....CHEATING.... (read in full...)
Is my ex only using me while he tries and gets back with his ex wife? Should I get rid of him now or wait and see?
Q. My ex partner to whom I have a child has recently broken up with his wife and has come running back to me in order to reinstate a relationship that was never completely finished because he left to marry her. However, during his marriage of about 4 ...
A. 15 November 2011: You need to ask him to leave asap. He is using you for convenience. He married her and he will go back to her as soon as he gets that chance.... (read in full...)
Internet cheating -- harder to get caught, addictive, what?
Q. I am suprised to read so much lately about internet date sites being used to cheat on partners. I am interested to know what goes through the mind of the one using the site and the opinions of those who have caught their partner doing it. Does ...
A. 10 November 2011: If somebody goes online dating with your knowledge and you don`t mind,then that is not cheating. They wont tell you they do it because they know its a deal breaker. Not knowing what they have done wrong is probably an act. They do it and know what ... (read in full...)
After he walked out, I joined a dating site and when he found out, he dumped me!
Q. Me and my boyfriend (ex now) had an argument,and as normal he walked out. The day after I joined a dating site. Only a day I know, but we was not together. He has found out and now dumped me. Its the longest we have ever broke up. He says he does ...
A. 2 November 2011: Everyone has got a standard. If my boyfriend went on a dating site the day after we broke up,I too would never want to go back. You say it has nothing to do with him,but that is not really the point of it. The point is,he knows where he stands now. ... (read in full...)
I want to be the girl he fell in love with. What to do now, after messing things up completely?
Q. I am looking for some advice from all of you. So far I have used this forum quite a few times and got very sound advice. Thank you! My LD boy friend and I had a massive fall out last night. So much so that he said if I carried on it was over. ...
A. 2 November 2011: You may be just a little fed up at the moment. You or no one can just suddenly change or change someone. If he comes back,the same will soon follow. Yes I do have experience of this,and whatever you think at this low moment,the truth is that people ... (read in full...)
Is it a good idea to tell someone you think they have narcissism?
Q. I have been reading some information on narcissism and am pretty sure this is what my husband has. He thinks he's better than everyone else and will only talk to people he deems good enough so can be rude to other people. He thinks only about ...
A. 1 November 2011: I dont think so much a narcissist,just a horrible obnoxious person would be more fitting.... (read in full...)
Why is my G/f behaving like this?
Q. The first time discovered my girlfriend on the internet asking for quickies and affairs she became angry when I tried to discuss it and she just told me I`m paranoid and was being mentally abusive by making allegations through my own guilt, and I ...
A. 27 October 2011: Tell her why you are leaving. If she lies,cries or denies,just repeat the reason why you are leaving. Do not say anything other than the reason you are leaving. Stay out of her way,if she finds you tell her again and again why you have left and dont ... (read in full...)
Should I meet up with my ex? She has asked for a 'catch up chat'....
Q. My ex wants to meet for coffee and a "catch up chat". Do i meet up or stay away ?....We broke up at xmas last year after a 7 month relationship. I did not see her after i found she was cheating with her best friends husband. I truly was in love wit...
A. 26 October 2011: "but i know that i could never trust her and i could never love her in the way that i did. I do still love her very much but i know that our relationship is ruined beyond redemption. " You have answered that one yourself. ... (read in full...)
I need advice! Someone I thought was a dear friend has scammed me for 2.5years!
Q. can anyone advise me plaease. its taken me 2.5 years to realise the guy i thought was a dear friend has been using me and scamming me for money. i saved him from getting sacked and believed all his sob stories about being in financial trouble when ...
A. 25 October 2011: It must really hurt. The best thing is to cut this man out of your life forever. Change your number and remove his. People like that are the reason people live in fear of each other.... (read in full...)
Am I blowing it out of proportion?
Q. What to do. My second Husband has issues accepting my kids for a long time. He has kids I give 100% to his. We have been all going out together and things have been better to the point I may be ready for us all to move in together. Last Sunday I had ...
A. 25 October 2011: Honestly,having read this I think you are with the wrong man. He or most men wont love step kids as if they was their own,but most do manage to treat them the same and eventually can bond,but he doesnt want to. I feel sorry for you.... (read in full...)
He won't let me see his facebook page because I snooped when we were broken up!
Q. I snooped in my boyfriends facebook account months ago when we were broken up.we're back together now but he wont add me back on his friend list.he said i dont deserve it because of when i snooped.he said he will put that he is in a relationship as ...
A. 23 October 2011: So after 5 years,this guy simply goes to the internet for a replacement, after you break up? Why dont you go one better and keep away?... (read in full...)
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