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Is it right for me to forgive him and take it to myself that I become his mistress forever for the sake of our son?
Q. i have 3yrs. live-in partner but he is married in his first wife. he make me believe that they are no longer connected to each other. We have 1 son now and for 3yrs. i believe in all his dreams and promises for us. but now i found out that he fooled ...
A. 29 May 2010: Dear Sis,
I understand your situation as you love him very much. But you need to let go of him, you can't sit and wait for him till his wife will leave him, right? You still have a life, you can still find someone who can be with you and stand by... (read in full...)
What should I do?? did I get the job or not?? should I ring him?
Q. I went to a job interview on wednesday afternoon. the manager basically told me what the job involves and what I would be doing at the shop. he said he called me for an interview cos I have experience in retail.(C.V) he also said he's inte...
A. 28 May 2010: Try to call/email and follow up the manager and ask if they have come up for finalization results. Perhaps there are ongoing interviews for shortlistings as you were telling there were 10 who were interviewed last wednesday. Call/email the manager ... (read in full...)
Cheating with a married man for 4 years, does he love me?
Q. hi!4 years now i had realationship with a married man.we always have good sex good realation but her wife find out.but even if his wife knows about this.we still together.so many things happend so many fight but yet we have each other.is he really ...
A. 26 May 2010: Sis, you wouldn't be asking questions here in DC if you feel he loves you? Why do you have to stay in the relationship if you have the doubts?
I feel he is giving you the emotional satisfaction to keep you but doesn't really love you. You will... (read in full...)
I am almost 15 and may be pregnant, what advice can you give me, totally confused??
Q. hello im 14 years old about to be 15 next week, and i think im pregnant i havent told anyone but my boyfriend and if i tell my parents they'd kill me,im just so scared and dont know what to do, i havent took a test yet but when i do and it comes out ...
A. 26 May 2010: Have a pregnancy test to be sure if you are pregnant or not.
I am against in abortion so I cannot give you an advice to do so. If you are pregnant I would suggest you need to speak to your parents. Have the courage to open up with them with hon... (read in full...)
Is it right for me to forgive him and take it to myself that I become his mistress forever for the sake of our son?
Q. i have 3yrs. live-in partner but he is married in his first wife. he make me believe that they are no longer connected to each other. We have 1 son now and for 3yrs. i believe in all his dreams and promises for us. but now i found out that he fooled ...
A. 22 May 2010: Don't cause any trouble, just leave. When you met him you knew well he is married but you took everything for granted and did not check out how true he is separated...and now, the truth comes out and it hurt you so bad. You are not in a win... (read in full...)
He wants to keep both of us...
Q. My husband left me with 2kids for his mistress. He still contacting me for the kids and every time he visited us, he left me broken hearted. I am mentally and emotionally tortured thinking he will see his mistress again after he saw me. I am ...
A. 22 May 2010: I know how hurt and devastated you are now, an excruciating pain. I don't want to assume on anything for you have not shared much to understand the full story of your problem. I feel you both need some space as of the moment to think clearly, a... (read in full...)
Looks at other women while talking to me. Haven't confronted him yet.
Q. Hi I have been dating this guy for 18 months and I really thought it was my imagination, but whenever we go out to a pub for a drink, I see that when he is talking to me, he isnt actually looking at me, he is eyeing up the barmaid or passing femal...
A. 8 May 2010: Sometimes men tend to do this to get some reaction from their GF. But men are men and are visionary. If they looked at other women, it doesn't mean they like them or whatsoever. They just look and has no meaning to it.
Learn to have trust with you... (read in full...)
Unloved with no affection in my marriage...
Q. I been married for ten years now but my relationship with my husband is "rocky". I honestly love him... but later.. I get bored and fell out of love. He cheated on me a couple of times and he even hurt me physically... I longed for his affection and ...
A. 19 April 2010: Hello, Sis. You have stayed 10 long years with him feeling emotionally abused and unloved. There are no reasons for you to stay with him anymore. I think it is time for you to move on with your life and think about your happiness. Get o... (read in full...)
Is it right to fall in-love to a guy friend even if you're in a relationship right now?
Q. I have this question that keeps bugging my mind..I am in a relationship right now but we're on a long distance relationship..It seems like our relationship right now is kinda shaky or I may not healthy anymore..We're almost 2 years and 10 months ...
A. 16 April 2010: You have to weigh things about your relationship with your LDR BF and with this new guy.
There is nothing really wrong with your feelings, you are looking for something that can fill the gap that your LDR Bf couldn't give. I suggest you talk ope... (read in full...)
Will my married former lover contact me sometime down the road? I never even got to say goodbye!
Q. I've been dating a guy for almost a year. Things started to get more serious the past few months, but then we had to stop seeing each other. Apparently, he was married this whole time and I never knew about it. She just recently found out about us, ...
A. 16 April 2010: I understand your feelings as I was and am in love with a married man too for almost 4 yrs.
Letting go is very hard, there are times in our solitude we think so much of him, but we need to learn to let go and accept the truth, that he will nev... (read in full...)
Does he really love me or does he have another woman back in his country?
Q. hello! i have a boyfriend i meet him in internet he visited me twice last year(2009),when he get back back from canada he left me his loptop and i found out he was chatted a lot of girls from febuary(when he get back from his first vacation...
A. 10 April 2010: Hello Sister, Men will always be men, I believe. They always tend to have something on the side. And don't crack your head on these kind of issues about men it will just drive you insane and you will never get satisfied with the answers and will... (read in full...)
Is he just using me for a game or does he see a future even it is just with me as the "other woman"?
Q. I am falling for a male colleague 20 years my senior. We are both married and I know he loves his wife and she is pretty stunning. We have started texting and it is becoming quite sexual. He tells me things like he is feeling randy etc. We have als...
A. 31 March 2010: I am separated for 4 yrs and I was into a relationship before with a married man who was older than me, I know too he loves his wife and family, and never I ever even think he'd leave them for me. I fell deeply in love with him but at the end of the ... (read in full...)
Am I being old fashioned? Is sex is necessary when it comes to relationship?
Q. i had a bf,a very first bf. he asked for sex.when i refused immediately he cursed me and said i'm boring and old fashion. i talked to my friend.they said it's my fault for reject his offer. she said it's normal to have sex when they're in relat...
A. 27 March 2010: You are not boring and you did the right thing for yourself, having self-respect and placing high value on yourself. If your boyfriend loves you, he will wait.
If he leaves just because you were not able to give what he wants and needs, then, he... (read in full...)
He treats me like crap, so how do I get over being obsessed with him?
Q. i am completely obsessed about this guy who has the worst history, treats women like sh*t. i just want to forget him, but the more i try the more i fall for him. he has treated me awfully, (no physical damage) but has lead me on, completely used ...
A. 27 March 2010: I understand how you feel and the love you have for him but don't you think it is time for you to love yourself?
You are still young and you have a brighter future ahead of you, you will someday forget him but you need to help yourself first, y... (read in full...)
Is it OK to let my LDR girlfriend go to the prom with another guy?
Q. My LDR gf just told me today that there were 3 guys who ask her to the prom. i ask her if she going and she said i dont know. Is it really okay to let my gf go to the prom with another guy. ...
A. 19 March 2010: You sounded like you don't trust your GF, and this is not a healthy relationship. Jealousy, doubts and mistrust are relationship killers.
Love transcends even from a distance if you have the trust, honesty and respect with each other. Your GF ... (read in full...)
Is it me that has issues with men?
Q. Im 40, My parents got divorced when I was 5years old. And I havent really been close to them my whole life, don't get me wrong, I still talk with them and see them but its just not a close nit family. Ive been married twice, my first marriage ended ...
A. 19 March 2010: It is difficult to trust again, this is the issue. You were hurt, humiliated, betrayed from the previous relationships you had.
What your BF did by pushing you away and tried to retrieve his wife was not good anyways; it was just sending you a me... (read in full...)
A real weird relationship... please help!
Q. Hello guys, a big hiii to all of you. myself am an Indian engineer working in Dubai. 5 months ago something changed my life... I had to visit Abu Dhabi which is 200 kms apart from Dubai just for a business purpose.. i visited an office in Abu Dhabi ...
A. 13 March 2010: Hello. I think it is very obvious she is avoiding you and she doesn't want to be rude reasons she sometimes talk to you on the phone.
Move on with your life, forget about her, she is not into you. I know you like her a lot but if you insist y... (read in full...)
What relatives are my boyfriend and I on the family tree?
Q. if my grandmother and my boyfriends grandmother are first cousins, what relation are we?...
A. 12 March 2010: Your grandmother and his grandmother are first degree cousins, so that means with your BF you are 3rd degree cousins.... (read in full...)
We talk all the time but she makes excuses not to see me.
Q. I started a relationship with a girl going through divorce back in November. Things were going great, she was coming over every night, we had sex for a week straight, she said I turned her on. After 3 months she suddenly stopped coming over, still ...
A. 12 March 2010: Give her a little more time, she might be in a state of not knowing what she wants or need for her life. She just had a divorce and most likely she is not ready for a serious relationship right now. She likes you, yes. But I feel she is afraid or ... (read in full...)
How do I get out of this? He is a serial cheater.
Q. I have been in this relationship for far too long. However, it has turned into a game with me feeling jealous for valid reasons but never being able to prove it, so I am always told I am controlling, jealous etc. To make a long story short, I d...
A. 11 March 2010: I was in a relationship too with a womanizer, and the attitude you describe about him were also so true with my BF.
It was a devastating feeling on my part for I tried to stay in the relationship for I thought I could handle and understa... (read in full...)
I'm over the fact that she left me, but not the resentment.
Q. To cut a long story short, my partner who I loved very much left me for another guy. This was 3 months ago. I have gotten over the jealousy and the feeling of sickness when I think about 'them' but I can't seem to shift the anger. I've tried to tell ...
A. 10 March 2010: Try to communicate deeper with your feelings, is it not you felt the resentment because of your expectations?
Most often when a relationship fails, we feel the anger for we did not get what we want or where we want the relationship to be. The ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has another girlfriend
Q. I'm really in a very confusing situation I have been seeing this guy for almost two years off and on we were dating, we broke up, he met someone else moved in with her, things didn't work out and came back to my town! the whole time I waited ...
A. 9 March 2010: I can relate to mine the emotional situation you are into now and I know it is very hurting, a devastating feeling.
Your BF doesn't really love you, he's just with you for he can get what he wants from you. He tells you things you wanted to hear ... (read in full...)
How do I get over someone who only wants me for sex?
Q. i found out he only wants me for sex ...i had always hoped that this wasn't the case and that he would want a relationship with me (like when we first started...we had a few fights in between and hadn't talked for a few months until he recently ...
A. 6 March 2010: If he's with you for sexual reasons, don't be afraid of losing him. Do the right thing for yourself. There are lots of men out there who can give you the respect and love you deserve. You are still young, move on. ... (read in full...)
Is three years too long not to be committed?
Q. Is three years too long to be in a friendship/relationship with a man, without committing to an real relationship?...
A. 3 March 2010: You need to elaborate more to have better understanding about your problem. But I can say few lines, perhaps your BF is not financially stable yet reasons he couldn't make any commitment with you. But if he is, then I think you need to set a time ... (read in full...)
How can I make them pay for what they did to me?
Q. i recently broke up with ma guy because he cheated on me with my best friend.they both denied it and it hurt me so much because he took our love for granted and she also took our friendship for granted. what can i do 2 make them pay and see the pain ...
A. 1 March 2010: Caring Guy is right. Silence is more dignified, do nothing. With your silence they know already that you are hurt and caused you pain. Just move on with your life. Becoming vengeful is not a comforting feeling...I've been there and it was not at all ... (read in full...)
He's got someone else, but I'm in love with him
Q. Hi, I've been good friends with this guy, he's so sweet and charming. But the problem is, he's already committed. I know all his secrets because he told me that he "love" me, but when I confessed that I love him, he told me to just let my feeli...
A. 28 February 2010: Hello.
The posters here are right, let him go, he is not really into you. He is already committed to someone else and you must accept the truth. Go out with friends and meet new friends, there are lots of men out there who can give you the kind... (read in full...)
My husband has cheated on me, how do I get over this and forgive him?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles, I have been married over 30 years and recently found that my husband has had at least 2 'emotional' affairs (which he admits to and swears they were no more than that???). This has DEVASTATED me. Question is what do I do...
A. 27 February 2010: You both stayed together this long because you love each other. yes, it is very hurtful and devastating to feel as he emotionally cheated you or perhaps physically cheated but you can both talk it over with honesty about this matter, an open com... (read in full...)
What was his mindset when he wrote this???
Q. Recently I found out that my now ex boyfriend had been having an affair for what looks to be two years or possibly more. I found out about this just a few weeks ago and it's shattered my world. I'm trying to pick up the peices of my life and I am...
A. 26 February 2010: Aileen, after reading the email your BF sent you, I strongly believe he loves you and I believe he truly meant every word telling you how much he cares and love you.
Your BF is in a confusion and frustration state. He wants to do somethin... (read in full...)
Is this love... for a priest?
Q. hi, Please don't angry with me, I know that this is wrong, but actually i just want to share my feelings. You know I have a friend of mine who is a PRIEST, he is not handsome actually, but he is Good. We became closed, I realized one day that I a...
A. 25 February 2010: Hello. I understand your feelings as I had few priest friends and some were close to our family. It is okay to fall in love even with a priest but set limitations to what you feel, you need to know it is not right and you will end up in pain if you ... (read in full...)
I am going insane and finding it very difficult to move on after the break up, please help?
Q. I have just recently come out of a 1 and half year relationship.I am having problems dealing with this pain and I have done so much to try and forget this, but its clear that I am affected quiet a bit. My ex was a best friend of 2 years before we ...
A. 23 February 2010: Hi, you were given I believe with so many advices from your family,friends and relatives, and you know and feel they are right...Do you love yourself? Try to love yourself this time please and think what is best for you. Don't wait for the time you ... (read in full...)
I have just discovered my husband is cheating with escorts
Q. Just found out my husband has been cheating on me with escorts. I still love him and want to work things out. Am I wrong for feeling this way?...
A. 20 February 2010: Talk openly with your husband and resolve your sexual life issues. If you both love each other, you will surpass every trial. ... (read in full...)
At first he seemed interested, and now he only chats for sex. What happened?
Q. i met this really amazing guy on a social site and we would talk for hours everyday then it moved to sending naught pictures then it moved to the webcam.then he started disappearing and getting offline when i would get online.and giving short ...
A. 13 February 2010: Get out of this kind of situation right away, he is using you for his pleasure. I hate to say this but I had same experience like this sharing through webcam and it really really devastated me for I thought he loved me but he was just using me...GET ... (read in full...)
I get jealous of the special way he treats his wife but I am very dependent on him! What should I do?
Q. i have a lover who is married for over 20 years. We've been together for almost 3 yrs now. I am 32, he is 50 now. i love him so much and he loves me also but he loves his wife and children. most of the time, i get jealous and hurt because of the ...
A. 13 February 2010: Kabayan, I know how you feel as I had an affair too with a married man older than me for almost 4 yrs and it was a devastating feeling that I even came to a point of berating myself.
He will never leave his wife and kids for you and the posters on t... (read in full...)
What to do with a three-year online relationship punctuated by a handful of real-life meetings
Q. There's a part of me that's just shaking my head at the fact that I'm posting a question like this. I am very, very aware of the whole wishful thinking element involved. By the same token, I'm also aware of the fact that people that I click with are ...
A. 31 December 2009: I know your feelings as I experienced the same with an online affair for 4 yrs and recently just a month ago, I ended up our relationship as I feel it is very hurting. He could not give more to what he can just give and he is married and worse a ... (read in full...)
Sweet 16 and in love with Dad's 61 yo boss
Q. hey wat up, well i'm 16 and i'm in love with my dad boss. we lived close by so we knew each other well i mean very well he would tell me about his life. We started talking more deeper and deeper and only time he told me he doesn't love his...
A. 6 December 2009: Don't do things you will regret later. We have a related story as I was in love too with a man half more my age. But I was misled and used and manipulated...listen to your instincts, you are still young. Your feelings you may have for him is not ... (read in full...)
I had an affair with a womanizer then gave his wife my email and password to show her the proof
Q. Hello, This is just a follow up of what I have written earlier. I got involved with a 68 yrs old man thru internet online and he is married. He is a womanizer, but still I loved him and even learned to love his imperfections. Up front I told him...
A. 1 December 2009: I would like to thank the advisers who somehow gave upliftment to my soul and opened up my eyes in my predicament. I use my heart instead of doing the right thing for me. I hunger for someone to love me and I put so much effort to get that love from ... (read in full...)
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