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No replies yet... 14 December 2012: My ordeals and mistakes in life will be my strength When I was 24 years old, I thought of marriage as an escape from my father who was very strict with me. I married the man who was working with us as lead guitarist in our restaurant bar b...
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My husband hates me
Q. My husband and I have been married for less then a year. I love my husband very much, but lately I feel as tho he hates me. It hurts so bad the way he treats me. He calls me names, threatens divorce all the time and tells me he doesn't care about us ...
A. 21 January 2011: I am a Filipino, I don't know how it is in USA in a situation like this, but as a woman I can share you my opinion.
You have tried your best to stay with your husband even he was and is disrespectful to you but don't you think it is time now to t... (read in full...)
How long can a FWB situation last?
Q. I have been in a fwb situation for more than two years on and off. i was wondering how long can this situation last? ...
A. 21 January 2011: Hello. There is nothing you can expect on this kind of relationship. It is all up to you. Stop, if you feel it leads to nowhere and causing you pain.
You are young and you can still find someone you can call your own. Someone who will put you firs... (read in full...)
Broken family, broken spirit
Q. I'm nearly 16, am British but live in an Arabian country. Looking back, I remember my childhood as happy and stable, but behind the scenes my dad would cheat repeatedly. The final straw came for my mum when he slept with our in-house cleaner who was ...
A. 19 January 2011: Camping-gal,
Your age is too young to handle this, I live in Dubai and I know how hard it is as expats.
Do you have any relatives around who can help and assist you? IF there is none, yes, you can go directly to your UK consulate or emb... (read in full...)
Broken family, broken spirit
Q. I'm nearly 16, am British but live in an Arabian country. Looking back, I remember my childhood as happy and stable, but behind the scenes my dad would cheat repeatedly. The final straw came for my mum when he slept with our in-house cleaner who was ...
A. 17 January 2011: Are you in UAE? I live in UAE and I can picture well your description about your Mom's pakistani husband. Most likely, in a low level of society I feel they are...non-educated and some don't respect women and violent when intimidated.
I think yo... (read in full...)
I cheated, should I let my wife cheat now?
Q. i have cheated on my wife now iam wondering if i should let her be with another man so she can feel even ...
A. 17 January 2011: Cerberus Raphael is right. What you feel right now is your guilt, you made a mistake.
Why don't you talk to your wife and resolve some emotional issues you have with her instead of looking elsewhere...trust is very important in a relation... (read in full...)
How do you get to a woman's heart?
Q. I've not been real big in the dating world here recently so I need some advice. How to you get to a womans heart?...
A. 15 January 2011: For me, its honesty...understanding and moral support...the rest will come out naturally as you go along with her.... (read in full...)
Why is my mum like this?!
Q. help i really don't know what to do, i don't feel like i can let my mum be so controling all the time. Everyone in my house tip toes around her, she is self employed but never puts in effort to get work so we live off my dads wage. She has ruined e...
A. 11 January 2011: I understand how you feel as I had same experience like you. I was even at age 22 and they were so strict and over protective.
I felt no freedom at all to do things my own so I became rebellious...as years passed by I realized they were right an... (read in full...)
My new bf flirts with all my friends - WHY?
Q. My new bf keeps flirting with MY friends. My Facebook page is pretty popular and heaps of guys flirt with me on a daily basis. I find it really hard to police and am still trying to clean up my profile of these people. Mafia Wars killed my profile ...
A. 10 January 2011: I feel your boyfriend is trying to make you jealous and if you get upset that is a sign you care.
If he does that to you again, just speak up and tell him you don't like it in a calm manner like you have the self-control.
If he continues sti... (read in full...)
Why are men players?
Q. Why are men Players??? Why do they have a daytime girl and a nite time girl?? ...
A. 10 January 2011: I am a woman but most friends of mine are males and I feel comfy with them than female friends (blame it to my Dad, lol. He always bring me along with him) but not all men are player. Maybe having fun and enjoy flirting with women but if there are ... (read in full...)
How can I make friends with benefits more?
Q. I have this on and off again sexual relationship with a guy who recently became my friend on Facebook. His actions are really confusing. Sometimes he shows he wants to see me again and then doesn't follow through. When we are around each other ...
A. 9 January 2011: Why would you settle yourself for just a friend with benefit? Why do you have this belief that you feel so true that by giving sex he will fall for you and be his girlfriend? I am sorry I am not trying to annoy you but I guess it is time for you to ... (read in full...)
What is this respect thing about?
Q. I have been dating a guy for a while now. We sat down to have a talk because things are not going so hot. I have always been supportive and warm towards him. During the conversation he said that I would have to earn his respect and he did not trust ...
A. 9 January 2011: You are right don't give him sex and set your standards and requirements. You can continue to get to know him more but this time have self-control and an independent mind, knowing what is best and good for you.
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Is he bored of our relationship?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 8 months, but recently I feel like he can't really be bothered to see me any more. I always feel second best, and it's always me starting the conversation or making plans. Whenever he (rarely) ...
A. 9 January 2011: What you share with us now you can share it with your boyfriend and let him know how he makes you feel.
Your boyfriend am sure will appreciate and respect you for voicing out what you like and you don't like. I know you feel hurt why you feel he ... (read in full...)
Is Karma punishing me?
Q. I want to know if anyone has ever broke someone's heart the wrong way then later on it happened to you? My girlfriend broke up with me this morning and I'm sick as a dog. Did you get feel like you couldn't make it fron one minute to the next?...
A. 8 January 2011: It is part of life, it has ups and downs.
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I'm having trouble finding a female that wants me and not cheat on me what do I do?
Q. im having trouble finding a girl that wants to be with me for me and not want to cheat on me all the time every girl but one has cheated on me . . . i need hints and tips on relationships from females and males! please help me...
A. 8 January 2011: You have to keep on dating till you find the girl for you, don't be too emotional and don't expect too much. just enjoy your company with some ladies and slowly get to know them...someday you will find the girl where you feel comfy with. ... (read in full...)
Why is sex so easy and emotionless for some guys??
Q. I started to fall for my fwb, and when I told him, he said ok we should stop. I cried a bit and he said sorry but he just doesn't see us as anything more than friends. I have begrudgingly accepted this...it is very hard to get over him, because we ...
A. 7 January 2011: I don't think it is a good idea to continue your friendship with him while you still have feelings for him. You will feel weak when you will be with him again and if he ask you again for some sexual benefits you may give in for you have feeling... (read in full...)
Was this advice, or a warning?
Q. Hello, I am posting on this site because well I need help and I havent found any other websites to post to so maybe you all can give me some answers. My girlfriend and I have been toghether for a year and a half and we have always been very happy, ...
A. 7 January 2011: tennisstar is right.
Be who you are and what you are...just be honest and just be yourself
She has sensed you are acting differently.... (read in full...)
Was this emotional abuse by my bf?
Q. Was I in an emotionally abusive relationship? We dated for five years but in order for him to accept me, he wanted me to loose weight i am 124lbs 5'3 and he would sometimes be like, 'oh why arent you wearing makeup?'. or like, 'I dont want to hav...
A. 25 December 2010: Not just emotionally abuse you but he doesn't respect you at all.
Get out of the relationship and learn to respect and love yourself. I know it won't be easy to let go and it will take time but think always what is best for you and what makes yo... (read in full...)
Why do I get mad at my boyfriend so much?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years now but I always get mad at him like every day!! He tells me you need to stop tripping before I leave you I trip because he always prefers other people than to see me and it gets me soo mad! I love ...
A. 15 December 2010: It seems to me like you are needy and clingy, DON'T. If you are you will lose him.
Have your own pleasure and passion for yourself, try to focus like know what you want to do with your life and not just think why your boyfriend is not with you... (read in full...)
Women: Actions Speak Louder Than Words
Q. Warning:(The following contains broad generalizations to illustrate a point, there are no rules nor concrete all encompassing truths in what I write, there are always exceptions. This applies to men too) I've been on this site for a while now and ...
A. 8 December 2010: This is a very nice article. I like it and even shared with my friends who somehow encountered such problems in the relationship. I agree your post is an eye opener.
I hope you will post an article too about womanizers.
God Bless You!
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Please interpret his words??
Q. Dear Cupid, I just want to ask about my boss.He told me I am special and He like me..I am still thinking about those words what He said.What is the real feeling of a guy if He said that words to a girl? ...
A. 20 November 2010: Aunt Honesty has good points and is right.
As a woman, I would like to assume you like your boss but be cautious too, he may just be flirting with you and tell you things you want to hear.
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Do you have any insights or thoughts on how to improve my life?
Q. How I feel: Honestly its no one fault, its just mine, people tell me what I should do rather when I should be telling myself what I should be doing. I sometimes even go as far as not thinking the situation through, or even go as far as over thin...
A. 22 October 2010: You don't feel you are happy for you don't know what you want in your life. Try to ask yourself, what makes you happy? You need to communicate with your feelings but do not resist. What I mean of resistance is from the reality to your inner ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend was a prostitute and slept with over 350 men before I paid for her to get out of that scene, but I'm struggling to deal with her past!
Q. Dear All, I am 38 years old and left my wife after 16years of a less than satisfying marriage a year ago - we are currently going thru Divorce - we do however have a beautiful young son who is just the best thing in my life - he is 6years old. ...
A. 18 October 2010: I have read your posts just today and it prompts me to write you.
I am a filipina and I know generally what we are with regards to our emotions. You have written so much about your insecurities just because she slept with so many men. Yes, I g... (read in full...)
Should I go out with him even though he used me?
Q. This Wisconsin guy who i had sex with for 2 nights, use me, left me with lots of questions in my mind and made me feel soo confuse will go back here in Philippines' my friend K who was his close friend too told me that he is still asking about me ...
A. 26 June 2010: If I were you I prefer not to see him again. Listen to your gut feelings. You felt you were used and deleted you in his facebook, do you think he is giving you respect? Stand up for yourself, learn to say NO. What he did to you was a form of ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 14 June 2010: Go, slow. Let time tell. You did the best you can to save your marriage and your wife is aware of it. What I can just share with you is, live what is happening today without resistance. Take Care and Goodluck. ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 13 June 2010: Hi. I hope all things will be well. It is a good sign she is making efforts to communicate with you...
GOODLUCK AND MAY GOD BE WITH YOU BOTH.... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 10 June 2010: May I share something 170DLW? Yes, q1605 has some points, she doesn't know what she wants and by backing off sometimes would make our mind wonder, and we, women would initiate moves. But this is a case to case basis.
I feel this is not about yo... (read in full...)
I feel like a failure as a parent!
Q. I feel like a failure as a parent. I am a successful business man, volunteer firfighter and little league coach. I have been open with my kids (20 yr old son and 17 yr old twins a son and a daughter). My wife passed away when my twins were 3yr old. ...
A. 7 June 2010: Hi. I don't know if I can be of help to you considering our culture, I am an asian and I am brought up differently but I just would like to share some common grounds that may help.
I, too, am a parent, separated, a breadwinner and away from my ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's phone has been broken for two weeks and he's made no other effort to contact me
Q. Hi all...I need your opinion guys,since my boyfriend phone was broken i don't hear news from him again almost two weeks even just a text messages i wonder why what's happening to him if he don't miss me or not coz why he don't even bother to see ...
A. 7 June 2010: you are welcome simplyme.
Take care of you!
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I feel like I've missed out on so much life and all the experiences in college I could've had!
Q. My husband and I met when we were two years old; became inseparable best friends after that. We started dating when we were 14. We got married under our parents' permissions at 17. We had our first child that same year and both doing college an...
A. 7 June 2010: SillyB is right. Go out and spark your relationship again.
You are lucky to have a loving and supportive husband with you...... (read in full...)
Should I find someone less complicated?
Q. My ex of almost 4 years and I broke up over a month ago. The thing is, it's been really hard for both of us to let go. We still love each other a lot. However, prior to breaking up, I'd been feeling drained in the relationship. It was because he ...
A. 7 June 2010: Listen to your friends they are the mirror of your relationship, they see what is going on and they feel how much you are hurt in this relationship and your BF doesn't even care about your feelings, your friends do.
You know your friends are righ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 6 June 2010: I feel happy for you. Keep on going, give her the comfort she needs and the emotional support...these are our weaknesses. We want to feel we are needed and wanted.
I hope everthing will work out...don't give up!... (read in full...)
FWB relationship has had a meltdown
Q. Ive fallen for my Friend with benefits but dont know where I stand. for 3 months we have been sleeping together and it is like nothing i have ever known before. Until a week ago everything was ok until he had some kind of 'meltdown'. I should ...
A. 6 June 2010: Dear, please don't hurt yourself more. You need to face and accept the truth and learn to let go. It is not easy but you will find peace within and a peaceful mind.
Men don't like women who has no self-worth and self-respect. If you love yourself... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's phone has been broken for two weeks and he's made no other effort to contact me
Q. Hi all...I need your opinion guys,since my boyfriend phone was broken i don't hear news from him again almost two weeks even just a text messages i wonder why what's happening to him if he don't miss me or not coz why he don't even bother to see ...
A. 6 June 2010: This is unusual. If your boyfriend cares about you and your feelings, he will initiate contact everyday or every other day or 3 times a week to know how you are doing...Two weeks! something is wrong. There are lots of ways of communication if he ... (read in full...)
Because he chatted to girls excessively at the beginning of the relationship, I feel our relationship has been based on a lie....?
Q. Hello, I am having real problems trusting my boyfriend... At the beginning of our relationship for 8 months my boyfriend was messaging a lot of other girls on a well known networking site. the messages were flirty and provocative...he stopped...
A. 6 June 2010: The first eight months of your relationship, he was flirty with other women in net but when both your love became stronger, he stopped communicating with these women and deleted them from his list...when did you find out the messages? was this ... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 5 June 2010: You have a tormenting situation. You cannot find answers to your questions. Worst thing, she won't open up with you. I think the best for you to do is give her space. I don't know if this is the right thing to do, but I guess so. Perhaps she needs ... (read in full...)
Why is my family so cold to me?
Q. Dearest Cupid and Everyone here, I don't exactly know what i need here. All i know is, im looking for a chance that somebody here can tell me why life is always like this. I have a lovely and understanding children, not living together with me...
A. 5 June 2010: Dear Sis,
I know what you are feeling for we are on the same boat. I, too, felt abandoned, unwanted, unloved by my family especially my Dad and I tried to be reunited with them but they are aloof and the more I push myself to them the more I g... (read in full...)
How can I change her mind? My wife has unexpectedly said she wants a divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for four years. I thought these were happy times for her, because we had just recently purchased a house together. I am attending school again, and working. We both are making good money and everything is was good. ...
A. 5 June 2010: I feel sad with your post, I don't know if I am worthy to give you one but there is just one thing that prompts me to write...don't give up your work.
I have experienced the same, giving up my work to save my marriage and followed him but it did n... (read in full...)
FWB relationship has had a meltdown
Q. Ive fallen for my Friend with benefits but dont know where I stand. for 3 months we have been sleeping together and it is like nothing i have ever known before. Until a week ago everything was ok until he had some kind of 'meltdown'. I should ...
A. 4 June 2010: This statement of yours made me ask myself, why you told him this when it is not what you want to be: "we met up to talk to each other and i told him i wasnt ready to be just friends with him and that if he wanted we could carry on sleeping toge... (read in full...)
How do I get him back when he does not want to communicate with me
Q. Broke up with my boyfriend 3 months ago,but I still love him. I was honest with him about everything going on in my life, especially finances. He gave me advice which I was not able to follow at that moment and time. He was upset that I did not ...
A. 29 May 2010: Give him space for the moment, he is hurt and needs time to commune with his feelings. You can occasionally send short messages to make him feel you are still there for him. ... (read in full...)
Is it right for me to forgive him and take it to myself that I become his mistress forever for the sake of our son?
Q. i have 3yrs. live-in partner but he is married in his first wife. he make me believe that they are no longer connected to each other. We have 1 son now and for 3yrs. i believe in all his dreams and promises for us. but now i found out that he fooled ...
A. 29 May 2010: Dear Sis,
I understand your situation as you love him very much. But you need to let go of him, you can't sit and wait for him till his wife will leave him, right? You still have a life, you can still find someone who can be with you and stand by... (read in full...)
What should I do?? did I get the job or not?? should I ring him?
Q. I went to a job interview on wednesday afternoon. the manager basically told me what the job involves and what I would be doing at the shop. he said he called me for an interview cos I have experience in retail.(C.V) he also said he's inte...
A. 28 May 2010: Try to call/email and follow up the manager and ask if they have come up for finalization results. Perhaps there are ongoing interviews for shortlistings as you were telling there were 10 who were interviewed last wednesday. Call/email the manager ... (read in full...)
Is it right for me to forgive him and take it to myself that I become his mistress forever for the sake of our son?
Q. i have 3yrs. live-in partner but he is married in his first wife. he make me believe that they are no longer connected to each other. We have 1 son now and for 3yrs. i believe in all his dreams and promises for us. but now i found out that he fooled ...
A. 22 May 2010: Don't cause any trouble, just leave. When you met him you knew well he is married but you took everything for granted and did not check out how true he is separated...and now, the truth comes out and it hurt you so bad. You are not in a win... (read in full...)
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