Trying to come to terms with being 3 months pregnant and getting hate texts from the father and his wife.
Q. i started meetin a fellow which i taught to be very nice. was seeing him for about two months when he told my sister that he would like to get me pregnant but for as i have 3 kids myself i felt like i had my lot and was in no way interested in havin ...
A. 14 June 2011: What cruel and calculating stupid bastards they are. You are going through hell right now and this has been an awful shock for you. I know the circumstances weren't great to begin with and this baby wasn't planned, so it is not your fault - he led ... (read in full...)
Should I believe him when he says he loves me?
Q. I really believe my boyfriend doesn't love me anymore. We have been together almost three years, have a child together, and I am about two seconds away from walking out the door. We are at our last straw with couseling and because he picked a sex ...
A. 27 May 2011: Your words are so full of pain ... it sounds so terribly bleak and lonely where you are right now. I think it is arrogantly insensitive of him to assume you are the one with all of the problems and to book a sex abuse counsellor instead of a ... (read in full...)
My aunt has been rude to me ever since I didn't have any bridesmaids for my wedding.
Q. Hi. I got married 7 months ago and because between my husband and I have lots of nieces and cousins we decided not to have bridesmaids as I would have ended up with 11! Which we couldn't afford to do. We didn't want to choose just a few of th...
A. 27 May 2011: What a vindictive, stupid, thoughtless and immature woman! She sounds like a real piece of work! I know you want to be nice to her, but I wouldn't have the patience to tolerate her attitude...
I thought this might make you feel better in pretendi... (read in full...)
How do I let go of the anger at the woman who was responsible for my leaving my last job?
Q. I left my management job paying over £40,000 a year due to institutional bullying and due to one very insecure member of staff I was managing nearly a year ago. After nearly a year I have only JUST got another job at 1/3 of what I was earning ...
A. 27 May 2011: Did you keep a copy of any records, emails or correspondence that you can back up in a claim for harrassment and personal damages by any chance? I do feel your pain! I left a job working for a premier skyscraper in Sydney which now houses the G... (read in full...)
Boyfriend looks at friend's facebook profiles when I am sleeping!
Q. my bf of almost 14 months gets on my facebook while im sleeping to look at other girls profiles. he also watches porn while im sleeping and even mutes the laptop so i cant hear. what is going on??...
A. 27 May 2011: Oh no sweetheart... please don't lose your self confidence because of HIM... he doesn't deserve to take that from you! You have done everything to be exciting and open minded in bed, including viewing the porn together, and I know that you mu... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can do to have my g/f want anal?
Q. My girlfriend since one year ago has had very many sexual partners and she is only 19 years old. (i am 20) People always say that it is a good thing because she is very sexual if she has been sleeping around, but she isnt. She only did it because ...
A. 27 May 2011: Tisha-1 has answered your question absolutely BRILLIANTLY.
And so to have the other posters. Please LISTEN to what the other Aunts have said, as they are speaking completely on behalf of how most women feel in regards to anal sex.
I had a... (read in full...)
My ex cheated on my with his sister's ex girlfriend. Why does he keep in contact with her if he has no feelings for her?
Q. my ex bf cheated on me with hius sisters ex gf, he saids he has no feelings for her, but he keeps calling her and visiting her. why does he keep lying to me about seeing her? what should i do? i still love him....
A. 27 May 2011: Bastard... Your poor woman, I feel so sorry for you having this happen to you and so close to home. I don't like to think of the negative, but it does sound as if he doesn't want to break the contact with her. If he felt true remorse, there i... (read in full...)
My husband's female co-worker seems to be stepping out of bounds in texting non-work related things at all hours. Help!
Q. My husband works with mostly females in an office including his boss. That sort of bothered me at first but not that much until his boss began sending emails to his phone on the weekends that had nothing to do with work. Sometimes the emails were ...
A. 27 May 2011: His boss sounds like a nightmare! A really awful one that is going to be hard to turn off it seems... Can your husband have a talk with his boss at work and say that texting and calls in the middle of the night is getting him into a lot of tr... (read in full...)
I'm paranoid because he turns round suddenly at a short skirt!
Q. I nudged my boyfriend for looking round quickly at a very pretty woman in a short skirt. I notice he looks round at blonde women in short skirts a lot and its embarrassing. I'm slim.and attractive and not insecure but every time I gently nudge him ...
A. 27 May 2011: Caring Guy is completely correct on this one! I had this problem with my partner, and I used to get so angry and it made me doubt how attractive I myself was. I got so mad that I ended up doing something which I shouldn't have, but, I don't reg... (read in full...)
Boyfriend looks at friend's facebook profiles when I am sleeping!
Q. my bf of almost 14 months gets on my facebook while im sleeping to look at other girls profiles. he also watches porn while im sleeping and even mutes the laptop so i cant hear. what is going on??...
A. 27 May 2011: Wow, he sounds incredibly selfish, self focussed -and addicted to porn! How dare he be so disrespectful as to look at porn when you are sleeping right next to him? By the way, this is one of my pet hates - porn, unless you are BOTH into it and... (read in full...)
He won't get a divorce till the property settlement. Am I being used?
Q. I have been dating a guy for 18 months. We dated over 25 years ago and have re-connected after he split from his wife. He is going through a property settlement with her (they are not divorced) and it will be long and protracted as it is worth a ...
A. 26 May 2011: Hello Sallybowles, I just read your follow up and it moved me so much I had to write another reply. I don't like you being in tears... x But I really feel for you so much right now... Talk to him on the weekend, and hopefully he will see thin... (read in full...)
If you give good help does it feel horrible if no one likes your answers? This is for the people who answer a questions here ever please
Q. This is a question especially for people who like answering questions here. About their relationship on screen between the people they try to help and the people who get answers. The people who answer here have so many things they know and sometime...
A. 26 May 2011: What a Gem of a question - and one that I have wondered about also! I know that personally, sometimes I can't help but want to answer the questions, as I really find some of the questions really move me into answering. When I have the time to... (read in full...)
Should I leave my marriage or tough it out?
Q. Hello, This is gonna be long. So if you don't have the time, you might want to click through this one, lol. My wife and I have been married for 12 years and together for 14 years or so. To start from the beginning, initially we got along...
A. 26 May 2011: Sorry my previous post didn't get posted... so you probably think what I wrote before was coming from an idiot! What I said before was something like this(!): I think you're wife is not putting her children first and is behaving irresponsi... (read in full...)
He won't get a divorce till the property settlement. Am I being used?
Q. I have been dating a guy for 18 months. We dated over 25 years ago and have re-connected after he split from his wife. He is going through a property settlement with her (they are not divorced) and it will be long and protracted as it is worth a ...
A. 26 May 2011: It sounds so very, very tough and unfair right now for you. I went through a similar situation as yours back in 1995 and the divorce was pretty nasty, but the property settlement did come first I seem to recall, but it was all managed within 2... (read in full...)
Should I leave my marriage or tough it out?
Q. Hello, This is gonna be long. So if you don't have the time, you might want to click through this one, lol. My wife and I have been married for 12 years and together for 14 years or so. To start from the beginning, initially we got along...
A. 26 May 2011: Sorry I thought you meant drinking a big bottle a day not a week. Not as bad as I thought - but still NOT good...... (read in full...)
Should I leave my marriage or tough it out?
Q. Hello, This is gonna be long. So if you don't have the time, you might want to click through this one, lol. My wife and I have been married for 12 years and together for 14 years or so. To start from the beginning, initially we got along...
A. 26 May 2011: Hmm, this does not sound good and if you choose to leave this 'marriage', I completely understand why. She is not just 'borderline-alcoholic' by the way, she is Full-Blown. A LARGE bottle of Vodka a DAY is way over the top, it's a HUGE alcoholic ... (read in full...)
She refused to shave after eveything I do for her...
Q. Dear fellow readers, I have found myself stuck in a very fragile situation and I am in need of some serious, thought out advice. I am 16 and have been with my girlfriend for about a year now, and I have hit a brick wall. A few weeks ago I ask her to ...
A. 19 May 2011: I truly hope she dumps you!... (read in full...)
It physically hurts when my boyfriend and I have sex, and I don't like his reactions to this. What should I do?
Q. when my boyfriend and i have sex, he is really big and it hurts. it hurts so much that i often scream quite loud during sex. its painful and worrying but its what he does which is also worrying. when i am screaming he either puts his hand over my ...
A. 12 May 2011: I've just logged in after some time and checked your follow up. I think myself and some of the other Aunt's read your post literally and were seriously worried about you. You said he was hurting you? Sorry if the responses upset you... I guess ... (read in full...)
Newly wed and my husband is disappointed with my breasts. Do I have to be perfect for him to love me?
Q. Ahh, where to begin. My husband and I are newly weds, and we both waited til marriage to have sex. Anyhow, when I took my clothes off for him for the first time, he was disappointed. Reason being my boobs are smaller than he thought they would be ...
A. 3 May 2011: I think because your husband and you are new to intimacy, he has shown real stupidity in his naivite? I am hoping that he just blurted out the first thing on his mind, as opposed to saying something that he actually meant. What is the relationship ... (read in full...)
It physically hurts when my boyfriend and I have sex, and I don't like his reactions to this. What should I do?
Q. when my boyfriend and i have sex, he is really big and it hurts. it hurts so much that i often scream quite loud during sex. its painful and worrying but its what he does which is also worrying. when i am screaming he either puts his hand over my ...
A. 22 April 2011: Please be very worried about his actions, this is not normal, it is bondage and discipline. He knows that this is hurting you, and this is SICK. I had problems from sleeping with a guy ONCE, and still have problems from what he did to me, because ... (read in full...)
I'm scared that I've lost it all in my marriage!
Q. Hi Everybody I am in a delima, I am married and have two beautiful chidren. I am financially sucessful and give my family all they need and want (may even spoil them too much). My relationship with my wife for 8 years has always been up and dow...
A. 22 April 2011: Hmm, she is starting to get too manipulative... This is really horrible for you, and you are really coping with a lot of abuse right now. But try to remember, you are fighting for your family. However, if she is going to continue this, c... (read in full...)
Confused after threesome!
Q. I had my first threesome two nights ago and now I'm very confused and slightly embarrassed and annoyed. My best male friend who is bi-sexual,J.B. and I have been flirting innocently for a very long time. We went on holidays along with some other ...
A. 22 April 2011: Could it be that JB likes and respects you more than wanting to have a sexual 'quick-fling'? Maybe he wanted to hold it back for a more special intimate moment when it was just the 2 of you? I do agree that KJ didn't have to come along and interf... (read in full...)
My dad is having an affair, how should I handle this?
Q. Hi all, Sorry 4 the length. I had to explain in detail. I am so confused. I got an anonymous call with a hidden i.d a woman informed me that my father has a mistress and is willing to marry her. He is 58 years n has been married to my mum for 3...
A. 20 April 2011: Oh no! So you're Aunt isn't a great help- and would SUPPORT this woman who's destroying your family... This is not good...
Is there anyone older than you who is a family friend that you can REALLY trust and is on your MOTHERS side and who woul... (read in full...)
I'm scared that I've lost it all in my marriage!
Q. Hi Everybody I am in a delima, I am married and have two beautiful chidren. I am financially sucessful and give my family all they need and want (may even spoil them too much). My relationship with my wife for 8 years has always been up and dow...
A. 19 April 2011: Hello David70!
You are doing it really tough... I can feel your vibes! Please hang in there and steady on, relationships are so tough because they are so emotional - and it's the not knowing that is the worst!(And believe me I've been through ... (read in full...)
I'm scared that I've lost it all in my marriage!
Q. Hi Everybody I am in a delima, I am married and have two beautiful chidren. I am financially sucessful and give my family all they need and want (may even spoil them too much). My relationship with my wife for 8 years has always been up and dow...
A. 19 April 2011: Please don't despair. From what you have written, it sounds like the situation is not as bad as you think. You are still living in the marital home, which is a good thing. You have realised where you can improve things on your behalf and where ... (read in full...)
How can I break up and afford to live on my own? he wants a threesome. He's over protective.
Q. Recently my partner and I broke up, but we still live together, he goes through my phone and expects me to have a threesome with him and one of my friends (who's a girl) He has been treating me a little child lately...xo. Here's more info I ...
A. 19 April 2011: Please get an AVO, I am worried about you. They take domestic violence very seriously in Australia - especially in the courts. He is stalking you, harassing you, abusing you and manipulating you. I know it is very hard to get out, but please try ... (read in full...)
Why does he continue to pay for ex's child meanwhile we can't have a family?
Q. My husband was previously married and has been divorced for 4 years. He was married to a woman who had 2 children of her own and they had 1 child together. The children’s father also lives nearby and they see him or go to stay with him, although...
A. 19 April 2011: I agree with the other posters that if it is part of the divorce settlement, he will have to pay. However, I do know that in Australia, if you have more children, though you still have to pay for the children you are 'maintaining', the calculation ... (read in full...)
My dad is having an affair, how should I handle this?
Q. Hi all, Sorry 4 the length. I had to explain in detail. I am so confused. I got an anonymous call with a hidden i.d a woman informed me that my father has a mistress and is willing to marry her. He is 58 years n has been married to my mum for 3...
A. 19 April 2011: Oh I feel for you, caught between a decision like this which involves the 2 people who brought you into this world... I would tell others in the family about this. Are there any of your brothers or sisters mature enough to cope with this and th... (read in full...)
I cheated on my wife...shoud I tell her or not?
Q. I really need some help. Especially from people that have been in my situation. It was my birthday last week. My wife and I went out with a couple of co-workers. We had a good time. She had to go home early, because she had to work the next da...
A. 2 April 2011: My god, this is a hard one...
I really believe that it is going to be impossible to keep this a secret as 4 other people know about it, and it will be worse for you if she hears it from another source apart from you. But, as I can tell that you... (read in full...)
My boyfriend masturbates while I'm sleeping!
Q. Recently i have been waking up to my boyfriend masturbating beside me in bed, he obviously thinks im asleep, and if i move he quickly stops and waits, checks to see if im still sleeping then carries on, and at the end im not sure if he is completely ...
A. 31 March 2011: He's behaving like a selfish pig. He would rather wank than have sex with you? He's a WANKER and you deserve better. Someone who lies, as in waiting for you to be asleep and then stopping when you move, how sneaky is that? Sounds like a moron. ... (read in full...)
He was having sex with another girl while I was pregnant, I know he has done me wrong but he has my heart.....what should I do?
Q. Need help please!.... I have known this guy since 2006 we dated for almost 3yrs.. We broke up for good 10 months ago.... We started to go back out in 09 of October im now pregnant by him I will have the baby in 5 days .... im so in love with him I ...
A. 25 March 2011: Oh Sweetheart... and you are so young and understandably emotional due to your pregnancy hormones and you have also been abandoned. Of course you love him and miss him, because that has been the only thing on your brain the past year, because his ... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever heard of a solution to help fix my embarassing issue?
Q. I have begun dating a really great guy and I don't want to screw things up. Problem is I know I have bad vaginal odor, I know I've probably lost guys because of this in the past and every guy I've been with has never given me oral. I've seen my ...
A. 19 March 2011: Do not use soap anywhere near your vagina, as that will give you thrush, which would make you smell horrible. Using anything soapy changes your ph balance and that is not good at all. Just use water, as your body cleanses itself perfectly, keeping ... (read in full...)
Do I keep the box of momentos from my son's bio father's funeral, or get rid of it because it will hurt my fiance?
Q. I was going through my son's closet today and I found a box that has mementos from my son's biological father's funeral in it, we will call him "Cord" I don't know if I should show it to my fiance, we will call him "Michael" or if I should just hi...
A. 18 March 2011: Sorry OP, I completely misunderstood the context of the question as I was reading through all the previous posts and when you said Michael "is a very good man, understanding and loving, just not when it comes to my son's bio father" I presumed ... (read in full...)
Should I contact my father? My mom has fiercely protected me from him all these yrs, because he had sexually abused my older half brother and half sister...
Q. When i was 6 years old my biological father was put in prison for sexually abusing my older half brother and half sister. After this my mum took out an injunction preventing him from coming anywhere near me until i was 18 years old. After this he ...
A. 18 March 2011: You poor, poor darling. Your siblings and you have been treated awfully by father figures, if only your mother had been able to step in sooner before all of the abuse started from your own dad and your next 2 step fathers. Do what you feel is... (read in full...)
In-law can't seem to understand to get out of our house
Q. The problem is that my fiancee and I plan on getting married next year,but I don't want to marry the guy if I'm going to live with his dad till death do us part. I love him,he's a great guy but I can't deal with his family situation anymore I want ...
A. 18 March 2011: I'm gobsmacked - I have never freeloaded like you in my entire life! It was ok for you to splurge off the parents for 5 years? You're a real role model for your children, you know that? You've taught them how to use people and then dump them, ... (read in full...)
Do I keep the box of momentos from my son's bio father's funeral, or get rid of it because it will hurt my fiance?
Q. I was going through my son's closet today and I found a box that has mementos from my son's biological father's funeral in it, we will call him "Cord" I don't know if I should show it to my fiance, we will call him "Michael" or if I should just hi...
A. 18 March 2011: I think throwing out any little keepsake from that box would be practically evil.... Sounds harsh. My father died the night before my 9th birthday and I had to go and live with my mother full time, she left my dad, sister and I when I was 5. My ... (read in full...)
Female input needed!
Q. For women only. How would you feel if a guy that you are interested in had 9 inch long penis?...
A. 15 March 2011: Big penises are PAINFUL and horrible.
In 2007 I was a normal women. Then I had a one night stand as I had been single for 1 year and thought it was time to move on. I wish I had asked him his size first. The man had a penis the same length o... (read in full...)
I didn't tell my abusive ex that we now have a daughter because I'm afraid what he might do
Q. I left my very abusive husband 2009 while I was three months pregnant. I had been living in a safe house to escape his verbal abuse which was making me ill to the point of not being able to eat. I had lost so much weight I couldn't stand up at one ...
A. 7 February 2011: I just wanted to add one more point. Was you daughter born in the UK or the US? If your ex-husband finds out that you have a child with him, he has the right to start legal proceedings for custody. If your baby was born in the US, you will have ... (read in full...)
I didn't tell my abusive ex that we now have a daughter because I'm afraid what he might do
Q. I left my very abusive husband 2009 while I was three months pregnant. I had been living in a safe house to escape his verbal abuse which was making me ill to the point of not being able to eat. I had lost so much weight I couldn't stand up at one ...
A. 7 February 2011: PLEASE be very careful here!! I am the organiser of a campaign to change the legislation of the Child Protection Act in NSW, Australia, and believe me, we have modelled our Child Protection Services on that of the UK's. The highest 'Risk of... (read in full...)
My boyfriend calls me the most beautiful girl in the world, yet flirts with other girls!!
Q. I have no idea why my boyfriend does this but it is driving me insane. I am not very jealous, but my boyfriend purposely does things that are disrespectful because he knows I don't like it. For example, last night we went to dinner and were waiting ...
A. 7 February 2011: I think that he's behaving like a lowlife jerk! He knows that this will upset you, yet not only is he staring at other women - he is manoeuvring situations so that he can actually go up and speak to them! What a Jerk! I know everyone say's 'al... (read in full...)
My husband's child and the mother from a past relationship are back in our lives...the child stays with us every weekend, and my life is pretty much over!
Q. Two years ago I got married for the second time. My husband has a child from a previous relationship and all the time we have been married and for all the time the child has been born the mother and the child have lived in the US. The child who is ...
A. 7 February 2011: I think it's pretty sad that you are putting your marriage through such an ultimatum. However, if you must, can you now suggest to your husband that you have the child every 2nd weekend and see your step-son through the weekdays on the other week? ... (read in full...)
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