Why is my boyfriend bad mouthing me? I feel so betrayed!
Q. My boyfriend is always looking for validation and sympathy from his friends and family. I found out that he makes me sound like a bully to everyone around him!? I am not a bully!? I notice his friends and family ignoring me and giving me bad ...
A. 13 October 2009: I know it's not easy but you need to talk to him about this. If you let it go it will continue to eat you up inside and ruin your relationship with him.
Good Luck!... (read in full...)
Any ideas on how I can slow things down here?
Q. I've been single for about a year now and suddenly everyone I know wants to set me up with someone! My brother keeps hinting at his dream that me and his best friend will get together and my best friend wants me to be with one of her close friends, ...
A. 13 October 2009: Explain to your friend how you feel. If she is a true friend and understands she will back off. I don't see why you can't go on dates with the guy. This will give you a way to get to know him. Just don't get into a relationship with him until you ... (read in full...)
Why is my boyfriend bad mouthing me? I feel so betrayed!
Q. My boyfriend is always looking for validation and sympathy from his friends and family. I found out that he makes me sound like a bully to everyone around him!? I am not a bully!? I notice his friends and family ignoring me and giving me bad ...
A. 13 October 2009: Talk to him about how you feel. Ask him to stop bad mouthing you. If he doesn't apologize and stop then you should reconsider your relationship with him.
Good Luck!... (read in full...)
How do I dump him?
Q. I've been with this guy since October 28th, 2007. Our 2 year anniversary is coming up here shortly, but I find myself not being in love with him anymore. I'll try to make this as short as I can. He was in the Army when I met him, but he hadn...
A. 13 October 2009: Good Luck and let us know how it went!... (read in full...)
Love problems, I love her but she don't love me
Q. Hi! I'm a guy from Texas and there is this girl I really like. I know she doesnt like me, but I still want her to. I know nearly everything about her. She's got the looks and the kind heart. She's strong brave and courageous. I love her soo much. Bu...
A. 13 October 2009: Try being creative that will catch her interest.
First find out her interests and then use that to show you are interested.
Good Luck!... (read in full...)
He broke it off with me and went back to his wife. Now he is trying to get back with me again!
Q. My fellow left his wife x 2 months, then he went back to her didn't call me for 9 days then started calling with the excuse he wanted to check on me see if I was all right - when he left it was clear he was letting me go sat at my table and said so ...
A. 11 October 2009: I am sorry that you love him but am glad you realize you would only be wasting your time on him. I am sure that you already guessed that if he was allowed he would switch between you and his wife when it suits him.
Move on and keep your head hel... (read in full...)
How do I dump him?
Q. I've been with this guy since October 28th, 2007. Our 2 year anniversary is coming up here shortly, but I find myself not being in love with him anymore. I'll try to make this as short as I can. He was in the Army when I met him, but he hadn...
A. 11 October 2009: How to break up with a Jerk:
Step One: Arrange to meet him at a public place where you can have some privacy. For example a restaurant.
Step Two: Tell him that he has cheating on you and that is unacceptable. You dislike his lack of care and... (read in full...)
Has a friend messed it up for me?
Q. I'm so confused! I told a boy in year 9 (Im in year 8) that I had a crush on him and he replied back as 'I fancy you a bit too' We were talking and he seemed really sweet, so I put him as a shoutout on my MSN name with a love heart, messages ...
A. 11 October 2009: It sounds like he was hurt when you told him that you were just friends with him. He probably had a crush on you.
You could try talking to him and explain how you feel about him. It might patch things up between you but it might not.
Good Lu... (read in full...)
He took something very special to me. Should I confront him?
Q. okayy so theres this guy ive liked for quite some time, we were all at this party and i was drinking a little to much, i poured my heart out to him and told him how i felt, we stated talking alot, than he took me off into this room, and we started ...
A. 10 October 2009: I'm so sorry this happened to you. In the future be more careful when drinking and it would be a good idea to have a trustworthy friend to help you when you are in this type of situations. I don't recommend getting drunk and it would be a wise idea ... (read in full...)
Can someone help me break this pattern in relationships?
Q. Hi every body i have something abnormal when it comes to the matter of heart. Every time when i feel that a guy loves me and i find some emothional feeling in my heart this guy treats me like his lover but they never speak about it. every time it ...
A. 10 October 2009: Do you go after the younger men or do the younger men come after you? Why are you not dating the guys your age?
It might be because they are using you. You are older, more financially secure, and are more stable in life. Stop dating for a while ... (read in full...)
I have a girlfriend but I really like this older girl!
Q. i have a girlfriend but i really like this older girl in my band and we flirt alot but she has boyfriend. should i try to ask her out and if so how?...
A. 10 October 2009: If you are thinking of dating another girl then you need to break up with your girlfriend.
No you shouldn't ask her out because she has a boyfriend and you should stop flirting with her. How would you feel if she was your girlfriend and a guy fl... (read in full...)
My boyfriend insults me and punched me in the back!
Q. My boyfriend of almost two years has a huge insecurity about how he compares to other men. I have reassured him (for these two years) that he is the man I want and who I want to be with - oh, and I am 26, he is 30. Last night we were out to...
A. 10 October 2009: You need to get out of this relationship. He is being very abusive mentally and physically. And it will only get worst with time.
I'm glad you realized this isn't healthy and the next step is to say goodbye and heal. I advise that you get some cou... (read in full...)
Love problems, I love her but she don't love me
Q. Hi! I'm a guy from Texas and there is this girl I really like. I know she doesnt like me, but I still want her to. I know nearly everything about her. She's got the looks and the kind heart. She's strong brave and courageous. I love her soo much. Bu...
A. 10 October 2009: Try sending her a card or flowers!
Good Luck!... (read in full...)
What is happening when a man can leave his family?
Q. My husband of 18 years has moved to another state "to pursue" employment. He has been depressed, unemployed and did not like the town in which we were living. He hated that we were able to live for free in my childhood home. I have a job that i ...
A. 9 October 2009: He either has issues or is seeing someone else.
I would talk to him and tell him he is needed with his family. If he wants to move then you and your children would have to go with him or it would be considered abandoning you. I hope you are able... (read in full...)
At what age can a girl get pregnant?
Q. at what age a girl can get pregnant?...
A. 9 October 2009: A girl can get pregnant after her first period. ... (read in full...)
Do all these excuses mean he's not into me?
Q. ive been dating my guy for 8 months now, we are in a long distance relationship, for the first few months everything was great he was so passionate, it was Hot and heavy, now all of it has slowed down. he says that he is just stressed out, and ...
A. 9 October 2009: He is stressed out by life and is going through a tough time. I know you feel left out but he needs your support. I don't think these are excuses. Show him that you care and try to help him to relax.
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He thinks if we continue the relationship I'll end up cheating?
Q. My boyfriend and i just broke up yesterday. He says that he cant so the things that a boyfriend should do to make me happy right now. He rants about how he hates his job and how he wants to quit, and stresses about school constantly. He says he ...
A. 9 October 2009: I'm sorry hon but he broke up with you because of his insecurities. I wouldn't be shocked if after a while he came back to you saying he made a mistake and wants you back. Of course then he would break up with you again when his insecurities made ... (read in full...)
Is this a sign of possessiveness?
Q. Hi, I've been out with this guy about 10 times. However, I wouldn't consider us to be "in a relationship" yet. Well, I just recently got out of a physically mentally and emotionally abusive relationship, so I'm really sensitive about things. Wh...
A. 9 October 2009: I don't think he was being possessive but I would explain to him you were in an abusive relationship before and things need to slow down. Explain how you feel.
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How can she accuse me of being clingy when we rarely see one another?
Q. Ive been going out with a girl for about 1 and a half months, not that long, but we have been friends before this and it seems recently that she just doesn't take me seriously at all. This started about the time we hit 1 month, she acts as if m...
A. 9 October 2009: Maybe she means too clingy by calling/e-mailing her a lot?
Regardless this isn't a healthy relationship. She is not giving you the time or attention you deserve. To make matters worst she doesn't believe you when you tell her she loves you, whi... (read in full...)
How do I find a girlfriend without having to go out?
Q. I'm at university and hate "going out". I seriously hate it, but I do it anyway so that people don't think I'm a hermit. I was at a big party, and our group split up all around the club. I felt retarded since I hate clubs and paid to get in, so I ...
A. 9 October 2009: There is a reason she is avoiding you. My guess is that it is because she already has a boyfriend and feels guilty about kissing you. (I could be completely wrong.)
Why are you so uncomfortable with going out? If you don't know then you should h... (read in full...)
Love problems, I love her but she don't love me
Q. Hi! I'm a guy from Texas and there is this girl I really like. I know she doesnt like me, but I still want her to. I know nearly everything about her. She's got the looks and the kind heart. She's strong brave and courageous. I love her soo much. Bu...
A. 9 October 2009: I think you should give being her secret admirer a try!
Good Luck!... (read in full...)
She told me to get porn then changed her mind, what gives?
Q. My wife and I were talking recently about porn, just in general. We don't watch it or anything. During the conversation I brought the fact that one of our favourite TV shows was used as a basis for a pornographic film. She said that it sounded ...
A. 8 October 2009: There was a misunderstanding and you need to explain that to your wife. Return the copy of porn if you haven't already. Next time ask her to be more clear on what she wants because you are confused on her behavior.
Good Luck!... (read in full...)
Met on the net should we date
Q. Hey, I just came across this site and I thought I just put my question out there. Oh and this is a Long Distance Relationship Question. I live in the US and she lives in Canada (555 mile[996 km] separation) I'm going to tell the story and then a...
A. 8 October 2009: 1) Yes and Yes
2) If you want to but make sure people know where you and what you are doing. Always have contact with someone who could help you and it would be better to bring a friend along.
3) How you met is fine, it's not a crime to meet on... (read in full...)
Where do I go now? He wont commit
Q. I am 32 years old, divorced with three children. I start dating a divorced man with one child over a year age. For the most part the relationship is great except I have always wanted more of a commitment than him. We are faithful to each other ...
A. 8 October 2009: After having a divorce I can understand him not wanting to commit yet. But to do things that only benefits you is selfish. I think he is using you and you should "walk." You should not have to go begging for attention.
Yes I think calling ... (read in full...)
Why does she dress that way when I'm not around
Q. hey wats going on i tried talking with my girlfriend about why she dresses better and more revealing when im not around and she got realy defensive and didnt let me finish she always does that when i try and talk to her about something we nead to ...
A. 8 October 2009: Try explaining to her you are worried about the imagine she is showing to the world. Tell her you care about her. If this doesn't work and she continues to dress this way I would reconsider your relationship with her.
Good Luck!... (read in full...)
Love problems, I love her but she don't love me
Q. Hi! I'm a guy from Texas and there is this girl I really like. I know she doesnt like me, but I still want her to. I know nearly everything about her. She's got the looks and the kind heart. She's strong brave and courageous. I love her soo much. Bu...
A. 8 October 2009: I'm sorry but since she thinks of you only as a friend nothing is going to happen. My advice is to move on and find someone who is interested in you.
Good Luck!... (read in full...)
Do I trust him or trust me
Q. my boyfriend of 5 months lives about 35 minutes away from me and i only see him once every 2 sometimes 3 weeks. we have managed to make it work so far. he says he loves me and i love him too. the only thing is that he's cheated on me about 2 months ...
A. 8 October 2009: Glad I could help and thank you for writing that. :)... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend to propose?
Q. I am 22 years old and i have been in a relationship with my 25 boyfriend for almost 5years what can i do to try and get him to propose. we always talk about the future, but i dont think that he is going to propose at least no tome in the near ...
A. 7 October 2009: He will propose when he is ready. But you can try to give hints. For example
this will be a beautiful place to be proposed to etc.
Good Luck!... (read in full...)
Do I trust him or trust me
Q. my boyfriend of 5 months lives about 35 minutes away from me and i only see him once every 2 sometimes 3 weeks. we have managed to make it work so far. he says he loves me and i love him too. the only thing is that he's cheated on me about 2 months ...
A. 7 October 2009: You don't need to trust him right away. Work on trusting him and if you feel like you can't trust him again then you need to let him go.
Good Luck!... (read in full...)
Ex keeps running through my mind
Q. It's silly but I can't stop thinking bout my ex. I miss hanging out w/ him and talking to him. We had a brief relationship that ended a cpl months ago.I've never felt so comfortable and happy w/ someone until him *he said the same bout me*.We ...
A. 7 October 2009: Stop dating until you are over him.
My advice is to get over him. It will be hard but in time you will be happy and you will be able to focus on the next guy you date.
Good Luck!... (read in full...)
I think he uses me for oral sex
Q. i have been dating this guy for 6months now. and i really like him. I dont feel tho that he feels the same way. it some times feels like he only meets up wit me for oral sex. how do i stop this and make him actually love me? should i stop all ...
A. 7 October 2009: You can't make someone love you.
You need to stop giving him oral or anything else sexual into you are in a relationship with him.
Explain to him how you feel about him and take it from there.
Good Luck!... (read in full...)
Should I tell the truth about my shady past
Q. 5yrs ago I was at a very bad place in my life I was addicted to crack and pills and in an abusive relationship. I lost my job because of drugs and to support my and my bf;s addiction I beganing doing things I am very ashamed of. I slpet with dealers ...
A. 7 October 2009: I think you should keep it in the past. If he wants to know about your past explain you did things you are ashamed of and want to forget about it.
If he really wants to know and you two get serious then tell him the truth.
Good Luck and... (read in full...)
I need help about sex
Q. im seeing this lad and i told him im not a virgin, and we both want to have sex i dont want him to kno that im a virgin will he find out after having sex with me?? i cant tell him im a virgin either but i use tampons and ive been fingerd a few times ...
A. 7 October 2009: You should always tell the truth but since you didn't you have a problem.
I think it would be better to tell him you are a virgin beforehand because he would probably be able to tell when having sex.
Good Luck! ... (read in full...)
How do I clean up
Q. Not so much a question about a problem, just looking for some opinions and advice on something sex related from other couples. Always after having sex and my bf comes inside me, it always seeps out. We don't use condoms because I'm on the pill ...
A. 7 October 2009: I also wash the sheets, pillowcases, and the blanket too. :)... (read in full...)
How do I clean up
Q. Not so much a question about a problem, just looking for some opinions and advice on something sex related from other couples. Always after having sex and my bf comes inside me, it always seeps out. We don't use condoms because I'm on the pill ...
A. 7 October 2009: I just clean up with Kleenex that is always kept by the side of the bed.
Hope this helps :)... (read in full...)
Will he know if I'm a virgin
Q. im seeing this lad and i told him im not a virgin, and we both want to have sex i dont want him to kno that im a virgin will he find out after having sex with me?? i cant tell him im a virgin either but i use tampons and ive been fingerd a few times ...
A. 7 October 2009: You are very young to be having sex. Regardless though you should tell him that you are a virgin. If you can't do that then you are not ready to have sex.
Good Luck!... (read in full...)
Love problems
Q. Some one please help! See theres this girl I like in my classes but I cant tell if she likes me or not. I keep having the feeling she does, but then one part of me is saying "no she doesnt" I'm so confused right now!! I think she likes me because...
A. 7 October 2009: It sounds to me like she is interested. Why not ask her to see a movie and see how that goes.
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I'm not sure if he really is into me.
Q. I am 21yrs an hav a 7mth old baby, my baby's daddy an i are not the best of friends now, but presently i occasionally see my ex beginning since over a year ago, i havent seen him since i was pregnant though but we do hav plans to see each other ...
A. 7 October 2009: Stop having sex with him until you are in a relationship with him.
It could be that he is just using you for sex.
Next time you see him explain how you feel and depending on his answer take it from there.
But do NOT have sex until you a... (read in full...)
Should I listen to my heart or my head?
Q. Hello, I'd like some advice on how to get my heart to listen to my head, or whether I should carry on as I am. A month ago, I split up with my bf of 9 years. We were happy for 7 years, lived together for 5 years, but then split up in May 2008 when ...
A. 7 October 2009: He cheated on you twice and broke up with you twice.
My advice is to tell him you want no contact from him. Do not contact him, get over him, and move on.
It will be hard but it will be better then your heart being broken again....and aga... (read in full...)
The love of my life adds pornstars to his facebook!
Q. My boyfriend is the love of my life, an utterly lovely man, but also a very naughty, horny man. He likes his porno films and has tons. I've never minded this as I do like it to, but recently he's started adding the pornstar girls on his facebook.. ...
A. 7 October 2009: You need to talk to him and explain how you feel. This porn stars are not his friends and there is no need to have them on facebook. It is making you feel inferior and uncomfortable.
If he loves you back then there should be no problem in getti... (read in full...)
How can I get over being so controlling? Is it justified?
Q. This woman was my first real relationship. Real as In a person I could see myself marrying. I grew up with no father and my mom a abused me and ditched me. My best friend who was also a chick ditched me. And my first real girlfriend used me cheated ...
A. 6 October 2009: You need to talk to her and explain how you feel. Try and work something out.
Good Luck!... (read in full...)
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