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Why is my boyfriend bad mouthing me? I feel so betrayed!

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Question - (13 October 2009) 5 Answers - (Newest, 13 October 2009)
A female Netherlands age 26-29, anonymous writes:

My boyfriend is always looking for validation and sympathy from his friends and family. I found out that he makes me sound like a bully to everyone around him!? I am not a bully!? I notice his friends and family ignoring me and giving me bad attitudes and I have only met them twice!

He always seems caring and loving around me.. He just talks bad about me behind my back all the time without any good reason. He even says mean things about his own sister!

I give him my best. He knows that I love him. I am a good person. Why is he like this? I felt betrayed when I found out that he was bad mouthing me.. Thinking about how he smiled in my face.. and told me he loves me.. WHY?

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A female reader, sunnycomet Canada +, writes (13 October 2009):

sunnycomet agony auntI know it's not easy but you need to talk to him about this. If you let it go it will continue to eat you up inside and ruin your relationship with him.

Good Luck!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2009):

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I would like to thanks everyone for replying! I don't still don't really know what to do.. I can't look him in the face without thinking about all those bad things he says about me. I don't know how to bring it up because he is always sweet and nice around me?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2009):

I wish I could answer this for you. I am going through the same thing. My fiance had done awful things in our relationship but I have forgiven him and tried to work past it. I recently found out that he was telling family members that I was the one doing the things he was doing he totally put me down and I have done nothing but been loving and supportive and respectful. ANd if that isnt enough I read a text he wrote to a friend bad mouthing me and letting his friend do so as well. I am totally baffeled by this. I treat him with the utmost respect. I feel for you I really do, being in this situation sucks.

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A female reader, sunnycomet Canada +, writes (13 October 2009):

sunnycomet agony auntTalk to him about how you feel. Ask him to stop bad mouthing you. If he doesn't apologize and stop then you should reconsider your relationship with him.

Good Luck!

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A female reader, DESTINY 23 United States +, writes (13 October 2009):

DESTINY 23 agony auntHes insecure and needs attention.

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