Are most Friends with Benefits relationships usually kept secret or not?
Q. Hi everyone just a quick question about Friends With Benefits (fwbs) I am currently in one with a guy I really like I was just wondering if all fwbs are usually kept secret or do people tell each other they are in one? I have asked this question...
A. 29 April 2012: Try to remember that FWB's are just friends and it is never likely to be anything more and if you really like him then you are going to end up with a broken heart. You are not IN fwb's to use this term makes it sound like you are in a relationship ... (read in full...)
I'm engaged. But should I act on my powerful crush I have with my co-worker?
Q. I have been working with this married woman for about two years. I'm engaged. There was an instant attraction. She is this sexy hipster with a really cute face and a hot body. We started texting and the texts became heated. We decided to pull bac...
A. 29 April 2012: You are actually trying to find someone who will give you permission to cheat and if anyone does then they are not the people who should be giving advice on here. If you feel so strongly about this other woman and want to have sex with her the... (read in full...)
He sent dirty texts to my bestfriend,should I give him another chance?
Q. Me and my boyfriend of 3 months split up 2days ago. The other day which was my 3yr old sisters bday my friend (used to be best friends but kinds drifted apart because shes been seeing married men). Was calling me sayin she has somthing to tell...
A. 29 April 2012: You did nothing wrong and to have these kinds of problems after being together just 3 months means this really wasn't a relationship. He sounds like lying cheating scum in the making and you are better off without. Its not your fault at all... (read in full...)
Ladies, aged less than 30, would you date a guy even if he isn't ''FUN''?
Q. Would you consider a relatively young male to be dateable even if he is a 180 degrees from the hard party bad boy persona? I am not saying that I am weak, nor that I can't stick up for myself and who I care about. I simply have no interest in ...
A. 28 August 2011: I am 27 and this would not put me off at all, your not boring like you seem to think you are simply into different things. I dont drink much , i dont smoke, i dont do drugs and i hate having a man come up to me and start grinding lol. I do ho... (read in full...)
My boss and I text each other, now his wife is furious at me. Did I do something wrong?
Q. This is a strange one I'm having mixed opinions about. Basically my boss is 20 years older than me, and married... and male also! However we text back and forth just silly jokes, general day to day stuff, and sometimes just to see how each other are ...
A. 28 August 2011: It is ok to have a little friendly office banter from time to time it is not ok to move it outside the office and with your boss.
His wife is perfectly within her right to be angry at you and I think you are being very naive if you think what you... (read in full...)
Three questions for men!
Q. Three Questions to guys : 1.)Do men go out their way to make an ex/ or current girlfriend jealous? And if so, how? 2.)Why would a man in a 3 year relationship make an online Dating profile? 3.)What are the signs that a man is no longer ...
A. 28 August 2011: I may be female but I would still like to answer because the majority of my friends are male. 1) yes they do do this because some of them want to make the ex realise they have moved on or make current girlfriend "appreciate" what she has or feel ... (read in full...)
He says they're only text messages, but they're about trying to meet up for sex with another woman!
Q. I seen some text messages on my partners phone which indicate he trying to meet someone for sex but she turns him down when I confront him he pleads with me and begs me to stay saying its only messages and he regrets it. Now we been together 5 yrs ...
A. 28 August 2011: What he is doing is wrong and his actions would have destroyed your trust in him, has he ever cheated in the past? Has he sent texts flirting or like these in the past? If the answer is yes then this is a serial cheater and i would say it is ... (read in full...)
Made my boyfriend cum by lying on top of him?
Q. I made my boyfriend cum, and he said it was because i was on top of him, (we were just kissing) and i didnt think a boy could cum from just being on top of him. Or is there something else to it? ...
A. 28 August 2011: If he is also the same age as you then yes this can happen, he is young and little things can set them off. Young boys can ejeculate from the slightest touch or vibration.
Yu might like to watch the movie American Pie.... (read in full...)
I know he truly wants us both!!!
Q. hello, I'm not sure what to do about a situation I've been involved with for two years and need other peoples advice! i met a man by accident two years ago. from the moment we started talking we couldn't leave each other alone. texts run into at ...
A. 28 August 2011: you are correct, this man wants you both but probably not in the way you hope. He loves his girlfriend and wants to be with her but he also wants a bit on the side for a bit of excitement.
What you are doing is wrong and you need to stop it now, ... (read in full...)
How long will a woman chase a man by phone only?
Q. How long will a woman chase a man if the chasing can only be done by phone? How can I shorten the chase and how can I drag it out if needed? Please at least let me know if you are male or female....
A. 13 January 2011: Female,
tis is a really strange question and why would you want to shorten or lengthen a chase.
it may flatter your ego but its really cruel to play a woman like this.
the chase is only exciting if it might actually go somewhere no... (read in full...)
Do I follow through with my fantasy?
Q. I have been married to my wife for over 15 years now and can't stop thinking of watching her with well endowed men, especially black men. Do I follow through with this fantasy?...
A. 13 January 2011: These things will always end in disaster and I think to even suggest such a thing to your wife would show a lack of respect for her or your marriage.
keep this a fantasy and enjoy a little alone time watching this fantasy courtesy of the internet... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is great but I can't have an orgasm!
Q. Okay,me and my boyfriend have been dating for nearly three years now.hes a great guy.the problem is me.everytime we had sex,i couldnt stay hot til the end,and i rarely orgasm when im with him. We tried everything.forep...
A. 13 January 2011: its the way us women are built i'm afraid.
Only 30% of woman orgasm during sex, its not your fault or your boyfriends fault.
We enjoy whats happening and get into it but we dont necesarily climax.
It is not like in the movies or in porn, t... (read in full...)
In a very emotional "Love Triangle." It is driving me crazy at times...MEN PLEASE HELP!
Q. The man I have been dating, he is 30 years old has been going back and fourth between this other woman. Currently he is with her but is confused about if he wants to be with me instead. He says he cares about me a lot and likes me. He feels like ...
A. 13 January 2011: This guy says he cant be with you because he doesn't believe you would be with him 100% but at the same time he is with another woman therefore giving you only 50%.
He says you cant break up with him because he will never take you back again bu... (read in full...)
Why does my husband want me now after all these years?
Q. I have been with my husband for 12 years and been married 7 years we got together and our sex life was not good at all i found magazines with just naked women in i confronted him he told me that it was his brothers i just laughed i am a open women ...
A. 13 January 2011: Bare with me on this one:
Firstly its ok for a man to have a wank, its completely normal and natural, along with watching porn and looking at dirty magazines.
Men will always have a sneeky look at whats out there but if he is making it obviou... (read in full...)
Do I send him a break up message?
Q. I broke up wit my bf coz he cheated after we hv been seeing each other 4 3weeks.so we broked up 4 a month then we started calling each other But now the problem that I hve is that we jst started again after a break up but now he is not taking...
A. 13 January 2011: i'm guesiing that you are not 30 - 35 as your profile indicates because this sound like a very young person. especially by the way that you text talk.
dating for 3 weeks isn't a serious relationship and it sounds to me like you are trying t... (read in full...)
He's in an open relationship, does this mean he can date me too?
Q. there is this boy i realy like and i told him but he said he has a girlfriend but now on facebook his relationship status says in an open relationship does that mean he could stay with his girlfriend and go out with me?...
A. 17 December 2010: Ok lets address the real problem here, this boy has a girlfriend and that is not you so why are you trying to date him when you know he is seeing someone else.
even if he wants to be in an open relationship it doesn't mean his girlfriend does and... (read in full...)
I'm not clear about sex!
Q. Hello Dear Cupid, I am 24 years old, normally i came from an orthodox family from India. So i dont have clear about sex. Last week i had a chance to sex with my would-be. When i touch his penis, his penis erect but at the same time his penis w...
A. 17 December 2010: This doesn't really make any sense, did you think it went hard because of water???
he got an erection because he was excited, this will always happen because this is the only way you can have sex.
Bloody rushes to the penis making it hard a... (read in full...)
I don't feel that this is grounds for divorce!
Q. My wife and I have been married for 4yrs. There have been several times when we argue about how things are not equal in the relationship. I work and stays at home. Naturally, I would expect things to be done when I get home from work and they ...
A. 17 December 2010: first things first, stop looking at other women. You have a wife and the two of you could easily work through this.
Your wife does sound like she may be suffering from mild depression, probably best not to go home and say "your depressed thats wh... (read in full...)
In the hospital and my boyfriend was watching porn
Q. I am in hospital (pregnancy loss related) and had an overnight stay, whilst I was in overnight,I found out my partner masturbated to porn. I feel angry and emotional over this, am I over reacting? ...
A. 17 December 2010: This is tricky, in the one hand I think he shouldn't have been doing this, he should have been upset about your loss but o the other hand it was just a quick masterbation which isn't anything important.
is it that he was masturbating thats ma... (read in full...)
Should I wait to see if he'll leave his girlfriend
Q. I know this 30 year old guy for a few years he used to come in my shop. Had not seen him for a few months when he started coming in my shop again. after a few times coming in my shop, I told him I had divorced from my husband. The next thing he did ...
A. 25 October 2010: you shouldn't be encouraging this, at the end of the day he has a girlfriend and a child and by the sounds of it he wants his cake and eat it. all he has to do is spin you a few lies and your putty in his hand, he gets no strings sex with you and a ... (read in full...)
I want to have a baby in a LDR
Q. I have recently got involved in a LDR, and have fallen in love with my man. I met him while on vacation in the US Virgin Islands, and Im from the states. I am 25 and I am ready to start a family, and he wants to as well. Unfortunately he is on ...
A. 25 August 2010: Very bad idea, your unemployed and he is on probation in another country. You barely know eachother so you may as well wait until he is able to move and be with you and then start thinking about a baby.
I know this probably isn't what you want to ... (read in full...)
I found a message on her cell phone from a guy getting straight to the point...cheating!
Q. I am a father of a one year old, and I think my girlfriend, the mother of my child, is cheating on me. Why? Because I found a text message on her phone, from some guy I've never met, that went as follows: "Do you want to f*ck?". Seems pretty ...
A. 2 August 2010: if you are in a relationship then you shouldn't have secrets anyway so why would it matter if you looked at her phone unless she had things on there she didnt want you to see.
She might not have done anythign and this might be someone who has a cr... (read in full...)
I feel like a bad wife and mother, I'm seeing an ex because I just want some affection
Q. I feel so down about my home life. I got pregnant after being with my partner for a year. My little boy is now 2 and I love him to peices, but if I am honest I wasnt ready to be a mum and I felt a bit forced into the situation. My partner was very ...
A. 2 August 2010: Firstly you sound depressed and I would suggest speaking with your doctor.
Secondly you can not blame your partner for falling pregnant because this is your responsibility too, if you didn't want a child you would have been more careful.... (read in full...)
Do I respond to an email from a 14 year old when I'm 30?
Q. I got to work this morning to find an email that I don't know what to do with, so I'm looking for some help here. It's from a girl who I'm pretty sure has a crush on me. I'll give you a little backstory. I work for a local bank. I used to manag...
A. 2 August 2010: Please ignore A Reader annonymous, this is insane, you need to ignore this email. she is 13 yrs old and she is no longer your customer, in fact it was her mother that was your customer and this young girls behaviour is in appropriate.
If you resp... (read in full...)
Is he getting too close for comfort... just for a viza???
Q. I'm 13 years old and i went on holiday to turkey and met a nice man over there.He liked my family and my family liked him. On the last day of the holiday he wanted to take me to the beach but parents wouldnt let me for obvious reasons such as we had ...
A. 2 August 2010: This whole situation is wrong, he is 21 and is from turkey, he knows you are only 13 yet he still wanted to take you to the beach alone.....he is no different and your nan is correct.
This sounds more like infatuation with an older man who is s... (read in full...)
How can I make our first time special?
Q. Hey, I'm a virgin and my boyfriend isn't and i know that it will hurt my 1st time but i want it to be special i dont want him to remember it as me just laying there doing nothing! I want to give him a lot of pleasure! and why do guys say virg...
A. 28 July 2010: sex for the first time will hurt unless you have already broken you hymen naturally or by foreplay (do not intentionally go and break it now)
sex with a virgin in better because you are tighter but you must must must make sure you relax because ... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend and her past worth turning into a serious relationship?
Q. I have been dating this girl for a few months. She is 23 I am 24 She is first real girlfriend Ive had since I was 19 which was a relationship that ended badly. She also has not a boy friend since high school. We love each other, and I dont think I ...
A. 28 July 2010: This girl has done nothing wrong, she was single when she did all of this ad I am sure if you had two girls throw theselves at you one night when you were single then you wouldn't turn it down.
she was living her life a little while she is young... (read in full...)
Who do I choose, my boyfriend or my cousin?
Q. i'm 16 and my boyfriend is 18 and we been together nearly 6 months. i was talking to my cousin who is 28 on a social networking site and my boyfriend wears glasses and my cousin basically said something really nasty to me about my boyfriend wearing ...
A. 28 July 2010: well your boyfriend shouldn't be asking you to choose but if your cousin upset you anyway the simply cut the ties to your cousin.
You only talk to him online, he isn't important in your life whereas your boyfriend is and if your cousin is nasty... (read in full...)
I cant trust my sister and my boyfriend to be alone together anymore, what should I do?
Q. My boyfriend cheated on me with my older sister, but then I took him back. He somehow convinced me that it will never happen again and that I should work on my trust. I was really convinced that he would never hurt me again. But, then I found out my ...
A. 28 July 2010: firstly i am shocked your boyfriend told you to work on your trust issues after he cheated on you with your own sister.
You need to end this relationship because you will never be able to trust this man, you said yourself that he is an exce... (read in full...)
How can I make her say 'I love you' first?
Q. I told my gf i loved her about a month ago and she said it back to me right away, but she will never say it to me unless i say it to her first. She will reply with "I love you too" but will never say it unless i say it first. I've talked to her ...
A. 28 July 2010: The "I love you's" are a tricky thing for us women because if we say it first or if we say it to often men can sometimes get scared off or feel like we are rushing things so we tend to let the men lead the way.
maybe she simply finds it hard to ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for wanting to know??
Q. OP's own title: Ok so to it keep short...my husband has never really trusted me due to me cheating on him before we got married. We've been married 9yrs now and I have been faithful. Recently he told me that a source of his told him that I have ...
A. 28 July 2010: yes it may be your word against this annonymous person but he has been married to you for 9 years so he should believe you.
You have every right to know because whoever it is is simply trying to cause trouble and come between you and if that is ... (read in full...)
I want to live with him, but I feel so negative, am I right to feel this way?
Q. I have a problem, my partner of 6 months has a daughter from previous relationship, the child is nearly 3,he has his little one 2 nights a week, we have kept this completly seprate from our relationship, he has now asked me to move in with him, also ...
A. 28 July 2010: you have only been dating for 6 months so why not take things slow, you dont need to rush into living together.
maybe trying introducing yourself to the daughter by just beeing there one night when she is round, watch a dvd just the three of you, ... (read in full...)
I've not had sex, so why don't I have my period?
Q. hello , I am 13 and im worried because my period has not come on at all this whole month. I havent had sex so I know im not pregnant. Someone please help im worried .!...
A. 28 July 2010: please dont be worried, you haven't had sex so you cant be pregnant and at your age the dont always come every month but if you find it has maybe been 2 months then I would suggest going to the doctor to see what they say.
when i was your age i wo... (read in full...)
I was so wrong, How can I get him back?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend last week over something that I thought happened when I was drunk but didn't actually happen. Now I wish I could undo it, but he doesn't believe in getting back together. He thinks it never works out. He thinks that ...
A. 28 July 2010: i'm assuming you thought you had cheated and now you have found out you didnt?
I am a little suprised that you split up with your boyfriend over something you didn't know if it happened or not and to be honest if you put yourself in the position... (read in full...)
Is it normal to want to know the relationship history of the person you are dating?
Q. Mod Note: OP's own title: I would think that it is normal to want to know about the relationship history of the person you are dating. Especially as you are getting closer to them and more committed. Some folks seem to disagree with me...but I c...
A. 28 July 2010: I always want to know the history of the person I am dating, I think this is general date talk to be honest.
It is important to me and I often feel that if they dont want to talk about it then they are hiding something.
To me the history is i... (read in full...)
He used me, how do I get over it?
Q. how do i get over a guy a who lied to me saying that once he sleeps with me i would be the only girl he sleeps with cos he dont sleep around, few months later i asked him if he is having sex with someone else he turned away and said no then got up ...
A. 28 July 2010: I'm sorry but men use lines, its a simple thing in life and unfortunately you have learnt it the hard way.
men like sex and they use lines to get sex. you need to have be more carfeul who you sleep with if you dont like have casual relation... (read in full...)
What kind of things are important to know about your fiance before getting married?
Q. MOD NOTE: OP's own title: What kind of things are important to know about your fiance before getting married? I'm not looking for the obvious things here...Wondering what other engaged/married couples come to discover is important to know be...
A. 28 July 2010: if you are thinking about proposing then I would have thought you have been with this girl for a long time and know her well enough to think you want to spend the rest of you life with her.
the things you should know are the things which are impo... (read in full...)
His secret email address is attached to porn site, what should I do?
Q. I was fiddling around the net and I googled my bf secret email address: I found out he commwnted an erotic pic on an amateur porn website stating how beautiful that woman was and telling her to email him, if she wanted to. I don't even know ...
A. 28 July 2010: Firstly there is nothing wrong with him going to a porn site however the fact that he has a secret email address and has tried to get a ammature porn start to email him is a little worrying.
I would like to know who long you have been together... (read in full...)
I feel like I may not reach being 18
Q. well i have been feeling very depressed for a good 8 months now. my hair started falling out,i would get terrible migraines an throw up, wouldnt enjoy things that i once used to enjoy everything was like a task, i would cry every single night, co...
A. 22 July 2010: unfortnately i had to watch my mum go through this same torment and she ended up in a mental hospital because originally she wouldn't go on anti depressants.
Thankfully after she went into the hospital they got her on the right medication ad she n... (read in full...)
Sex day after period equals pregnancy?
Q. hi l sleep with my bf just after a day l finished my period l wanna know if there is any chances dat l could be pregnant....
A. 22 July 2010: I am sorry to tell all of you this but this is actually when you are at your height of fertility.
I was naive to this until I ended up at the doctors being told I was pregnant. He asked me if i was using contraception and when did it happen. ... (read in full...)
I like this boy but he don't like to be in relationships
Q. Hi!I am 15 And there is a guy who likes me and i like him a lot he is the most beautiful guy in the school everyone wants to have him he says that he likes me but he still hasn't proposed nothing oficially to me,what shall i really like ...
A. 22 July 2010: You are 15 yrs old and you have a crush, at 15 you dont really have relationships and i'm sorry to say it take a lot more before he would propose.
live your life and enjoy it, dont get so hung up on this boy who hasn't actually asked you out on a... (read in full...)
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