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writes:Hi,My boyfriend and I were speaking about sex when he said "I can't compare my performance to anything? When I asked what he meant he changed the subject?So peeps my question is what are your thoughts on this? I automatically thought he meant he was a virgin before me, even though he told me otherwise. He's in his late twenties and I'm his first proper girlfriend.Thank you Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2012): I think your boyfriend is looking for compliments about his performance or isn't getting enough reassurance from you about it. I seriously doubt he's a virgin...he's just like any other man who wants to hear he's THE BEST. a guy could have hundreds of previous partners and will still want feedback on his performance!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi thanks for your replies. No I didn't ask him about his history I never would, it just kinda come up. He said he slept with others and wondered why I enjoyed sex so much with him then when I replied he got a bit defensive and replied with that. His past doesn't bother me at all, I was only wondering what others thought before I asked him. I'm not shallow I love him dearly and couldn't care less if he was a virgin, guess I'm more upset he couldn't be honest and say but I understand why if it is the case.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (23 October 2012):
 I bet he was a virgin, but too embarassed to tell you.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (23 October 2012):
 When a girl asks me if I am a virgin, I, too, change the subject.....
It's not because I'm concerned that she'll find that I am inexperienced (because, I'm NOT.... by a LONG shot!!!).... but it's because she might bear down and learn about the oooooodles of girls who I've been with....
Do you suppose that THAT is what is troubling your B/F?????
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reader, Htsn47 +, writes (23 October 2012):
 Hmm, interesting. That's what I would have assumed from that comment too. It's possible he is was virgin and just embarrassed about it.
I guess the other question is "does it matter?" I think people spent way too much time worrying about the sexual histories of their partners.
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reader, Staceily +, writes (23 October 2012):
 I don't think that statement alone means he is a virgin. He told you he isn't so I would believe him. Truthfully I don't even understand the statement or question. You asked him to compare how he has sex to something else? I wouldn't be able to answer that either because I don't get it.
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