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writes:hi i am a 19 old guy who has a lot of love to give but hard to find someone. looking back on my life i had many crushes but they all had someone.i have tried everything from putting myself out there to lowering my standards and i don't like that.All my friends have someone, even my guy best friend. i don't know what to do any more my life is starting to fall apart and i really need some advice on what i should do
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2012): Sorry, man... but you've got yourself a Romeo Complex. Most likely, you won't find "the one" right away, but practice only makes perfect! There's no sure-fire way to find your soul mate, but maybe dating advice in general is what you need. Try getting out, going to social events. Or, in this day and age, there are social networking sites. One I always liked, even just to find friends was OKCupid.com. Literally more than two-thirds of my friends prior to making the account had profiles, and everyone I'd come into contact with after making the account I had established friendships with. The fun in dating at this age is that you don't have to take it seriously, but I can understand your yearning for something more meaningful. Don't try too hard, and as someone said before, it will fall into your lap when you least expect it... it really does. Good luck!
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reader, Staceily  +, writes (22 October 2012):
 Desperation is highly unattractive to anyone. And by lowering your standards you are essentially saying "I'll date anyone!" which is desperation. Don't be so desperate to find someone. You are young, go out with friends and enjoy time out. Someone will come along. When speaking to a girl have confidence. I'd like to know how you do approach girls and see if there is a problem with what you are saying. You could try online dating if you want to, it opens up your dating options. Other than that I'd say to go with the flow as they say and see what happens. Oh and don't lower your standards! It takes confidence being alone. Settling for less than what you want isn't confidence, and it takes confidence to get a girl. Not having a boyfriend or girlfriend isn't the end of the world.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (22 October 2012):
 Sadly the best thing to do is STOP LOOKING.
it's hard to believe this but when "the one" or "the one for now" falls into your lap it will be when you least expect it.
people are able to sense desperation and that's what you exude when you are so lonely and trying so hard to find someone.
Best thing to do, live your life open to making new friends and meeting new people... and the right one for however long you need her will fall in your lap....
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2012): You're 19, OP. A lot of people will go a lot longer than that before finding THE ONE. In fact, most of your friends will probably dump the person they are with now and go through a few more someones before finding someone they want to be with for years and years and years.Come back here when you're 29 and not been with anyone, then we might be able to give you some helpful pointers. At the moment, you're just starting out.
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