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writes:Hey everyone,Well I am 23 years old now,but since I was 16 when I knew what 'love' was. I always believed that I would find true love and no I haven't till date..I am a hopeless romantic,like literally 'hopeless'..I love reading nicholos sparks romantic novels because it takes me to that romantic world,that world of love..I really believe that my prince charming would kneel on one knee and and ask me to marry him,ok not that dramatic lol but would do something very unique and express his love to me and want me to be his forever!!I think when I was young it was fine but now that I'm growing older I don't know if all this exists!if I'l ever find a man who would love me like that,because I know if I love someone I'l give my heart and soul..does true love exist?if yes can you share your personal experience with me?or probably knock some sense into me to wake up from this dream and get back into reality!will I ever find this guy for me!!:( I'm turning 24 soon and still see noo signn!!and don't me to be conceited or praise myself even but I don't have any problem in the 'looks' department I get praised a lot by 'girlfriends,and the 'guys'..but never really met the one!!?help!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2012): If true love exists it only is so because of the love others have recieved from you. You will never find true love outside yourself. People will find it in you. Therefore, true love is the love that is given.
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reader, Staceily  +, writes (25 October 2012):
 True love does exist, but it isn't at all like the novels you are reading. No one will come to your window playing the guitar and singing a song he made especially for you. No one will see you and know instantly you are the one, approach you and tell you that you they are in love and music plays. You won't die arm in arm. And most won't even spill their hearts out in gut wrenching fashion and display how much they love you. In essence, romance novels and movies are crap. They are for entertainment because they know it is secretly what women want. And to be honest a guy who is really good at things like this usually turns out to be a charmer/cheater, he knows what a girl wants to hear and says it.
What love really is is being comfortable with the other person, trusting the other person completely, caring for someone more than yourself.... there's much more but you get the point. It isn't all about fancy words. Some men can barely say I love you because intimacy is difficult. I am a hopeless romantic myself but I did learn after years of wanting the stuff I see in movies that it isn't there, it's not real. I used to wish I would be listening to the radio and a song would be dedicated to me by a mysterious stranger who saw me and I took his breath away. Not realistic or fathomable.
23 is still very young. I do wonder if you are expecting to be swept off your feet and since it hasn't happened you have given good guys up. You need to accept romance as fantasy and instead look for someone who makes you happy, then go from there. You can definitely be in love and happy with someone, you just won't have all that stuff you find in a Nicholas Spark's book. That doesn't mean it isn't true love.
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reader, psychic fiona +, writes (25 October 2012):
 You ask if true love still exists, yes it does. For one you're a young person and you need not to worry because you have time for all that good stuff in your life. When the time is right you will find it, as a matter of fact it will come to you, it always does. If you stop looking for it, it will start looking for you. Be patient and have some fun but dont go over board, and try to understand how important love really is. It's worth waiting for.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (25 October 2012):
 People are still getting married every day. Reality is different from novels in the way that the happily ever after really means contentment, rather than butterfly feelings of infatuation every single day. In the novels, the story stops once the guy and the maid finally got together despite many obstacles. They got married, the end. It doesn't show how one of them taking each other for granted, it doesn't show how the guy stops wooing the woman or the woman feeling too tired to have sex. It doesn't show how the man is secretly abhorring his wife's snorring. It's human nature to desire love at the same time be complacent after they found it, or to want what they can't have. Having ideals is all good, but we are far from attaining it. I think true love starts from within. It radiates, and people love your energy and are drawn to you. It doesn't work when you demand it. You reap what you sow. True love still exists, but it is more boring and mundane than the novels. Actually the more you embrace the simple life and not expect too much, the more you can enjoy your relationship. For some people, real love means feelings, as long as they can last. For some, it means doing what it takes to maintain a relationship, in the form of compromise, adjusting your attitude or being in tune with reality.
Your question implies that the world has become shallow and that everyone else is losing the meaning of it. To believe that is dangerous and it only isolates you. As to how to find a date. Get yourself out there and get interested in people as they are, and not necessarily asking any man, "Is he the one?" You can also try online dating and find only people with serious relationship intent. With technology, finding people is much easier than in the novels where people live in mountains or villages.
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